Lost Cards

[2MOB]

Well, my daughter's wedding went off beautifully Saturday. My question to all you just married brides is we had some gifts without cards on them & there were a couple of close friends & a brother who said they left a card & we can't find it. Is this a common problem & if so, what do we do about it when it comes to writing the thank you cards? I did have my close friend cancel her check & she is writing a new one, but what about the people we don't know about? Help!

[Kfancii]

So glad to hear that your daughter's wedding was wonderful! I hope you are planning to share some pictures soon!

Unfortunately, cards do sometimes disappear from weddings. That is why I encourage all brides to have a large card box that they place on their gift table so that it makes it much harder for someone to take the cards. Another trick that I have used to be sure that the bride and groom get my card if I leave it with a gift, is to place the card inside the gift box instead of on top of it.

As to how to handle the thank you cards, are you able to review the guest list and compare it to the list of gifts received? If so, you might be able to figure out if a card is missing that way. I know it is uncomfortable, but that way you could ask the person if a card was left and advise them that your daughter never received it and you wanted to be sure to get the proper thank you out. If I had left a card, I would rather know that the couple didn't get my gift than wonder why I never heard anything from them.

Good luck!

[gwenshack]

Hello and congrats to your daughter! :)

I think if there's no card attached to a gift you have to just sort of awkwardly ask around so the appropriate thank you can be sent. As for gifts that are missing, if you didn't know they were there then there's nothing you can do, unfortunately.