Bad Idea?

[Ashleyerin2]

We ordered our invitations beore we had our reception site. Mostly because we are getting married in 3 months, and well, I wasn't taking the chance of having our invitations not be ready by the time we had our reception site.

So, now that we have the reception site, I'm trying to think of a way to put a card or information in with the invitations, with the information to the reception.

So far I have business cards from Vista Print that pretty much match our invitations perfectly (color and design) with the wording "please join us in celebration of the joining of Ashley and David with a light lunch reception at <insert reception site here>"

Now, I have a wedding website, that gives all the details of the wedding, and has on specific page for the reception site. With a map, directions to the site, and who is in charge of handling the reception and any questions regarding the reception.

But because the registry is on that same website, would it be bad to put the website on the cards with the reception information?

I mentioned this to Davids mother and she about had a baby horse. She flipped out... so now i'm wondering.

[SkippyNXC]

while i'm not an etiquette expert... i think it's fine to put ur wedding website on the cards. how else will your guests know about your website? ;)

[Katiegirl]

I printed out a whole sheet of paper front and back with directions to both ceremony and reception location, lodging info, registry info, wedding website, and a map on the back and stuck it in the envelope with the invites. I don't see anything wrong with it.

[tk93]

while i'm not an etiquette expert... i think it's fine to put ur wedding website on the cards. how else will your guests know about your website? ;)

I agree. I don't see anything wrong with including your website on your reception card. Will your guests be able to RSVP online as well? If so, then why wouldn't you include it?

[Brian's Bride]

I had two inserts: The reception information and a second that had lodging and the website information for additional details.

[doris27]

I think that sounds like a good idea. Just because your registry info is also on your website, doesn't mean there's anything wrong with putting the website info with the invitations for another reason. Actually, I don't really see anything wrong with just sending the registry info, but I no it's considering a breach of etiquette to do so. However, I am fairly certain that what you are doing is not. I'm not sure why your FMIL is freaking out. Some people are just worriers, I think.

[Ashleyerin2]

Doris27
She freaks out about everything.

Like she wont decided what she wants to wear until my mom does (btw we dont even know if my mom will be there) because etiquette says that what she wears is supposed to be close to what my mom wears <insert rolling eyes>.

And no, people will not be able to RSVP online. They will *HAVE* to send the cards back in order to be considered RSVPed.

[sandy03]

I think it's fine if you include the website info on your insert. You may want to specifically say "for directions and more information, please see our website" and include it.

If you really want to keep the peace, you could always just include the address and trust people to mapquest it and then print the directions on your programs or have little handouts at the ceremony with directions. Sometimes it's just easier to let stuff like that go if she's really freaking out that much.

[KristinGriffin]

She may just be freaking out because wedding websites are such a new thing - I'm sure she never had one! :)

Has she seen your site? Have you walked her through it? I think if you show her that it's tasteful, and has lots of useful information (not just where you are registered, which she probably thinks is tacky and may be what she's opposed to), she may change her tune... Wedding websites can be a great way for guests to get to know the area, learn a little more about the couple (especially about the person they don't know - bride or groom), and find directions and things to do if they are coming in from out of town.

But it may not be a fight you want to pick... I'd start by politely asking why she doesn't want the site on there and what she objects to - perhaps you can come to a compromise if you alter the site or just show it all to her...

Good luck with your planning!

[savepaws]

Putting your website on the card is just fine. As long as you don't mention the registries on the invitation or inserts, you're fine.

We originally made up cards out of white cardstock that had our reception info and website address. I cut them the same size as the invitations would have been. They would have worked just fine & were inexpensive, but we ended up not DIY'ing the invites.

[Ashleyerin2]

She may just be freaking out because wedding websites are such a new thing - I'm sure she never had one! :)

Has she seen your site? Have you walked her through it? I think if you show her that it's tasteful, and has lots of useful information (not just where you are registered, which she probably thinks is tacky and may be what she's opposed to), she may change her tune... Wedding websites can be a great way for guests to get to know the area, learn a little more about the couple (especially about the person they don't know - bride or groom), and find directions and things to do if they are coming in from out of town.

But it may not be a fight you want to pick... I'd start by politely asking why she doesn't want the site on there and what she objects to - perhaps you can come to a compromise if you alter the site or just show it all to her...

Good luck with your planning!

To be honest, I'm not to worried about her reasonins why she doesnt like the idea or not. I was just wondering if it was in fact an etiquette issue. We are paying for the wedding/hosting the wedding and his parents have nothing to do with the planning whatsoever, I just was wondering if I didnt think of something was getting ready for a disaster of tacky.

I just re read my response, and apologize if it seems rude. I didn't realize it came off that way...

[mj512]

It's perfectly fine. In fact where we got married it is expected that you put the registry info right in with the invites. If you don't people get annoyed with having to call and ask. (in fact when we didn't put ALL of the places were were registered at in the invite people DID complain about why we didn't tell them everywhere we were registered. Some places it is a serious taboo, other places it is expected. I think it is perfectly fine to put your website--- like someone else said, how else will they know your website if you don't tell them.