Guest bringing a guest?

[Katiegirl]

Ok, have a question about a guest. One of FH's female friends was invited to our wedding along with her BF. Since the invitations went out, she broke up with her BF. Now she wants to bring a female friend as a guest. I am not very close to FH's friend anyways, and I've never met her female guest. I really would rather not have her guest come along, but I'm not sure there's an option. FH said he told her not to bring her guest, but obviously she's not listening b/c she RSVP'd with a guest. Should I just let it slide?

[WebLady]

If the invitation had "and guest" on it then technically she can bring whomever she wants.

If your FH asked her to not bring anyone and she wrote in her "and guest" then that is pretty cr@ppy and he should be the one to say something to her.

:goodluck:

[Katiegirl]

If the invitation had "and guest" on it then technically she can bring whomever she wants.

If your FH asked her to not bring anyone and she wrote in her "and guest" then that is pretty cr@ppy and he should be the one to say something to her.

:goodluck:

Hmm..I can't remember if the invite had her BF's name or just "and guest." I guess we'll just have to deal with it.

[mj512]

Have you already planned on paying for a meal for her BF? If so then it isn't really adding any cost to you, or adding an extra seat. I'd personally just let it slide. She may not come if she can't have someone there with her. If it is important to your FH that she comes, I'd just let it slide. I wouldn't ever go to a wedding alone -- unless I was going to know several other people who were there.

But it was also rude of her to RSVP with a guest if she was told that she could no longer bring a guest.

I'd maybe let your FH make the call since it is his friend.

[Mrs.Goff]

If it helps any you won't even notice the friend. You'll be SO busy with your new husband, the wedding activities and visiting with your other guest you may not even see the guest.

I'm still apologising to my guest because I wasn't able to spend a lot of time with any of them. Everyone says they completely understand I just feel bad.

[gwenshack]

We had a similar scenario - one of DH's friends contemplated bringing DH's former fraternity brother (who DH hadn't spoken to in like ten years), because the invited guest decided that the frat guy would be fun to party with in Vegas. We felt a little put out at the notion, and, fortunately, it didn't end up happening, but we gave the guy an "and guest" and had to just let it slide.

I will say, I agree with Threesia though - there were several odd people at our wedding who we'd never met before, but we were so busy with what we were doing that we barely noticed they were there. :)

[Katiegirl]

Thanks everyone. You're probably right, I probably won't even notice her. I just feel like we invited her bf, and now that he's not in the picture, I kinda got put off that she would just bring another random (random to me) person to the wedding. I honestly don't even care if she comes or not, because I have nothing in common with her and we haven't seen her in over a year. I guess it'll make her feel more comfortable though, so it's alright I guess.

[Brian's Bride]

I had a similar situation and can tell you that you definitely won't notice that person there! My DH invited an ex-gf (yes, disgustingly enough he's friends with most of his exes...) and SHE wanted to bring her parents! DH thought that was a great idea and we fought about it. But in the end, I gave up and said fine. It turned out okay because there were soo many people there I didn't even run into the girl in question, and her parents came up and introduced themselves to me and that was the only time I saw them. I didn't want them there because I'd never even met them. But some things you should let slide.

[EarlyBird]

Truthfully, it stinks, but its not even the bride and grooms choice who a guest "and guests" if thats what they were given. I took great consideration in my and guesting... my best friend has no gf, makes horrible "hook UP' and date choices and told him he got NO guest... cuz i was afraid of who he would bring...hahah

[bichonlvr]

Let it go...in the long run, it might make her feel better about being there! You wont even notice!