Mr.& Mrs.Goff April 4, 2009

[Mrs.Goff]

I'm not sure what exactly I will use this for but I thought I'd start one anyway. ;)

So we've been married 10 days, and as I predicted I'm mourning the planning process. It's even worst then I thought. I believe it's because it ended so suddenly. I was completely wrapped up in the wedding for 9 months. Then the week of the wedding it was total madness, and stayed that way until the wedding night. Now the tuxedos have been returned along with the "cake lady's" stuff. The license are here. The mess is almost gone. The thank yous are written and most addressed. It's nearly over and it's all a bit sad.

There was a unforeseen issue, when DH went back to work it was hard. I don't know why I just was overwhelmed by fears and sadness. I guess and DH agrees that I just wasn't ready to let that "Just us" time go. It's getting better and I'm sure in time it'll be back to normal. I kept telling DH that I didn't see how being married could make me feel any different. There wasn't the BIG change, but it's the little things. Like when he comes home, I'm SO happy to see him. When I see him from a distance, I think WOW that's my husband! Or when his ring catches the light, that gives me butterflies.

How you all, does it feel different?

Next week we're going to do all the name change stuff. I'm really excited, but as I said in another thread a little sad.

[DanDanNoodleBowl]

Im also very sad. :( I know how you feel.
Today is my first day back to work, and I miss DH alot. And, honestly, I have been soending all day on OW instead of doing my work!

[gwenshack]

It's funny - I was not sad one bit that the wedding stuff was over! I can totally understand why you would be though. :) I think I was just ready to get back to normal life.

I think it's sweet that you miss him when he goes to work!

[Mrs.Goff]

DH and I were talking before he went to bed and he suggested that we find some craft projects for me to do. He said that I seemed happiest during the planning when I was doing the DIY stuff. He's right that was my favorite part. I have always been a crafty person and just the thought of having some new craft thing to do really excites me. Not sure yet what that project might be. But I'm looking forward to visiting Micheal's and searching for something to do.

I do miss him when he's gone. I also want him right next to me on the sofa. He told me he feels like we just started dating again. Because I always wanted to be within touching distance when we first started dating. I just can't help myself. haha


On a side note. I found out today that my father put my ceremony video on myspace. I watched it and started crying. haha I couldn't remember exactly how everything went because the officiant changed so many things in the ceremony to lighten the mood. (because he thought I was going to pass out) Hearing DH say his vows and really listening to him made me cry. Then when I watched it the second time I noticed that I made WAY too many faces. haha DH told me that I'm ALWAYS making faces. OY, I really have to stop that. LOL He says I don't that he loves my faces, the nice ones anyway. He said I can stop the one that means he's in trouble any time. lol

[Mrs.Goff]

I just read an email that has steam coming out of my ears.The email is from my aunt (my fathers sister) her daughter was my flower girl.

Anyway here's a little history, we are only 10 years apart and have always been kind of close. Well, as most of you know I met DH online and ever since I've told her that she was the reason I met him. I had NO interest in the Internet until she introduced me to chat rooms. In fact the room that I met DH in was the chat room she showed me. Since DH and I started dating she's always said that she HAD to be our MOH because we met because of her. We've all had lots of laughs about it. Well fast forward 2 years. She met her DH online (different room .. haha) they got engaged really quickly. She called me and invited me to come for a visit. She then asked me to be her MOH and I gladly excepted. Knowing full well that a lot of her wedding responsibilities would fall on me. We spent 7 months planning her wedding, I also planned her shower. Back then DIY invitation kits weren't everywhere like they are now. So I spent weeks with some crappy program designing a invitation that she said she loved, printed them and hand address all 90 of them. Only to have her put them in her truck and only hand out about 15 of them.:irked: Then with her shower a week away the invitations were out RSVP had been returned and I was well on my way to completing things, she calls me and says that she doesn't want a shower to CANCLE it. So after trying to talk her out of it I cancel it.:irked: Her wedding comes it was beautiful only problem is there are less then 15 people there and 6 of them are kids. Totally HER fault!

So fast forward to June when I made our engagement announcement. She was excited when I told her and asked me "So what as I going to be wearing?" I told her whatever she wanted because we weren't having a wedding party, at that time that was true. She wasn't happy but she excepted it. Then DH decide he wanted his brother be his BM (His parents convinced him it was the right thing to do), so that left me needing and wanting a MOH. I had 4 people that I always thought would stand with me but I could only choose 1. So I choose my very best friend, we've been friends for 18 years. Well, throughout the entire planning process my aunt kept complaining that she wasn't my MOH and I kept apologising. She threatened more than once to not come to the wedding at all. Every single time I spoke with her, she would go on and on about how she's now doing a vow renewal. yada yada. I was always nice about listening to her plans but I totally think it's stupid.

Fast forward again to OUR wedding day ...
We had been married less then 30 minutes when she approaches me and starts telling me about how I had exactly what she wanted and that she NEEDED my help to plan her NEW wedding and will I help her. I was POed but I calmly told her that I had to FINISH mine first before I could even think about hers.

Then the day after the wedding I get a call for her. She starts going on and on about how NO one talked to her at my wedding and how she felt left out. She tells me how she went crying to my dad, because no one had even offered to take pictures with her and she just felt like she didn't belong. I had NO idea about this tantrum (that's totally what it was) and had I known I would have told her to suck it up. IT WASN'T HER WEDDING! People were busy. Anyway, then she starts going on about how seeing my MOH walk down the aisle broke her heart, how she just couldn't help but think that it should have been her walking. blah blah blah. I again trying to be a good niece told her I understood and apologised AGAIN, that I couldn't have everyone I wanted and that I didn't have a chance to spend a lot of time with MOST of my guest. She seemed to be OK with it and started talking about her renewal again.

So now on to today's email. She right back at it. She's now upset about seeing my wedding ceremony on video, she's heart broken by seeing my MOH walking ... seeing m handing my e-ring (forgot to take it off before hand) to my MOH ... blah blah blah! A bunch of other stuff. Then she starts YELLING at me! Saying that I promised (I didn't) to help her plan her renewal and that she's only got 5 months to get it all together and that I'm dragging my feet. That I should have already been there helping and showing her inspiration pics!

I'm just at a loss the ink isn't even dry on my marriage license yet! As I said in Gwen's journal I still have wedding stuff piled in my dinning room! I enjoy planning weddings but I don't want to forget about mine just yet. I want to be the newlywed for a while. Will I help her probably, do I want to do it now, NO!

Why do some people insist that the spot light be on them no matter what the occasion?!?!?! That's what this is, she wasn't the center of attention FOR ONCE and it's killing her.

Right now I just feel like telling her to BITE ME! hahahaha

Thanks for letting me vent.

[DanDanNoodleBowl]

I know how you feel about people not being the center of attention and taking it off of you. My sister in law started being really rude to me when I got engaged because she had just gotten married a year before and still wanted the spotlight.
But, I would tell her no. If it's not something you want to do, then dont.
But as you said you are sad about not planning wedding things anymore, and need a project, so maybe this can be your new project?
Its up to you, if you truly dont want to help her then you shouldnt. Dont let her boss you into it, but if you choose to maybe it could be fun.
and you like scrapbooking! Maybe you can make some wedding scrapbooks as a craft project


:)

[Mrs.Goff]

Honestly, I wouldn't mind helping her but with the attitude it makes me not even want to go. I've called her today about the email. I told her that if she didn't have anything nice to say then do bother emailing me. Instead of apologising she just said that she was REALLY upset. That this renewal is important to her. I told her that I get it, but that my wedding was/is important to me too and she didn't lift a finger to help me. Then I told her about the stress she added because of her numerous fits, and threats not to come and not to let the flower girl come. Again she just made excuses.:bbrolleyes:

I'm over it. I told her that I'll help her but I refuse to do everything. This time she is doing the leg work, and I'm doing it when I'M ready.


As for scrapbooking I'm interested in it and plan on looking into it.

[DanDanNoodleBowl]

Good! Maybe she will learn to appreciate you a little more when she sees she cant take advantage of you.
good luck!

[gwenshack]

Wow. I know you are close to her, but that doesn't mean that she gets to dump on you and your day. It's your wedding and you had every right to choose who you wanted to stand up for you.
You've been so patient and gracious with her - I can't believe that she can't take a step back and reflect on what you just did for yourself without thinking about ME ME ME. That's horrible.
I know she's your aunt and you care about her and want to help her, but it sounds like you put a lot of work into her first wedding and now she's expecting you to repeat those actions since she didn't fully take advantage of them the first time.
I know you said you were looking for a new craft project...but...? :)

I hope things calm down and I hope you can enjoy your honeymoon period without any drama! :)

[Mrs.Goff]

I know you said you were looking for a new craft project...but...? :)

I hope things calm down and I hope you can enjoy your honeymoon period without any drama! :)

She's quite the project. LOL

and

Thank you.

[Docsgirl]

Awe. That really stinks that she's acting like that! Grrrr. I wouldn't feel like helping her either! :snide:

[Mrs.Goff]

The best part of the AUNT story happened tonight around 9pm. My mom called me ... Yep that's right she called my MOMMY on me!:rofl: She told her about how she over heard me at the wedding telling DH that I was so glad that we had the wedding party we did, that I wouldn't have wanted it any other way and that the people that stood there with us meant the world to me. (This is totally true, but I didn't know someone was ease dropping on a private conversation between me and my NEW husband ... good thing we weren't being naughty. :rofl:) Anyway she told my mom about how that hurt her SO bad. Blah blah blah ...

I told mom at this point I really don't care and that I'm no longer sorry that she wasn't a part of my wedding party. If she's this much trouble now I could only imagine the trouble she would have caused during the planning. UGG.

Then I called her and told her that I wasn't going to keep listening to her whine. That it was MY !%^%$* wedding and I was NOT going to keep apologising for having the wedding of my dreams. (minus the little things that she doesn't need to know about.;)) I then told her that I would help her but it was up to her to do ALL the leg work. I'm will to help with the DIY projects because I know she isn't crafty at all and I would help her with ideas. But I AM NOT DOING WHAT I DID LAST TIME.

All she said was OK I can understand that. :bbeek: I told her that I would call her within the next couple of weeks to meet to exchange ideas.

I feel SOOO much better. I swear I feel like a elephant just fell off my shoulders. hahaha

Thank you all for your support.

[Mrs.Goff]

In other news.

I got my credit card in the mail today with ... MY NEW NAME! I am so excited. Of course until I'm able to get my new drivers license I can't us it. :(

[Mrs.Goff]

So DH and I got up at 9am (that's way early for a Saturday morning ... lol) to go to get my new license and change my bank information. I was SO excited. :D

I was praying that there wouldn't be a long line as we were also planning to go on a fishing trip today.

I walk in and there are only 2 other people in there and they are both being helped. So I'm next. YaY!

They call my number I almost skip to the window. I tell the lady that I just got married (:D) and want to change my last name. I had the biggest smile on my face ... UNTIL ... she sits back in her chair and says "Have you changed your Social security card yet?" (with a smirk on her face.) I said not yet. Then she procreed to burst my bubble. She told me that I have to go do that first THEN wait at least 24 hours after to come back. :irked: Ugg. She said they would give me a print out and that I have to bring that, my marriage license and my drivers license back to her. I asked why I needed to take her my marriage license again IF I have to take it and show it to the social sercurity office to change that. I mean if they have to see the marriage license to change my name on my SS card, and I have to bring her something from them, WHY OH WHY does she need to see the marriage license again?!? :bbrolleyes:

I am really disappointed.:ooh:

[gwenshack]

Oh I'm so sorry! Yes, unfortunately the SS card does come first. :( The process of changing a name is so drawn out and complicated that I just can't bring myself to even start! I can't even begin to make a list of everything that has my name on it. I'm so overwhelmed by the mere idea that I will probably procrastinate on it until DH threatens me with divorce if I don't change it! haha :)

It's not that I wouldn't be jazzed to have his name - it's just that I'm so freaking lazy!

Hope you get your new name license soon! :)

[Mrs.Goff]

After thinking about it, it makes sense that the SS card would come first. Doesn't mean it doesn't suck. haha

My credit card company didn't have a problem changing it without proof. But now that I think about that, I'm not sure that's a good thing.:bbeek:

[Mrs.Goff]

I'm going to the social security office in just a few hours. If all goes well I should have everything I need to finish changing my name. YAY!

Pray that there isn't a long line (like that's going to happen.) and wish me luck. haha

[Mrs.Goff]

Just got home from the SS office. DH and I put enough money for 2 hours in the parking meter. We walked in and wasn't in there 5 minutes. Just long enough to print a ticket and sit. Then not even a minute later we were called to the window she asked for my SS# and our marriage license. Then ask what I wanted my new name to be and for our address. Then she printed 3 papers I signed 1 and was done! I'm so excited!

Now I have to wait 24 hours to go change my drivers license and bank information.

Who knew it would be so easy. haha

[gwenshack]

Outstanding! Congrats to you, Mrs. Goff! (How does it feel??) I'm glad it wasn't too tedious of a task. Hopefully the rest of the transition will be as smooth! :)

[Mrs.Goff]

Strangely, it did make me feel different. Right now I feel like a school girl. haha I'm so excited. I got to sign my new name and doing so made it official.

[Mrs.Goff]

I went today and was able to get my new license and change my back account information. I'm Super excited.

I was so depressed because when we got to the license place there were people lined outside. I couldn't believe that there were that many people there. We had a couple other things we had to do so I decided to leave. After we finished the other things DH took me back to license place and said it didn't matter how long it took, to just go in and wait. He sat in the truck with the dog (who cries for me when I'm out of sight. She's a beagle and if you know anything about beagles you know their cry can be quite deafening.) while I went in. Much to my surprise the line gods smiled on me again, because I walked right to the window there was NO line at all. I was in and out in 10 minutes tops. :bbeek:

Then we went to the bank, again I was expecting a line. Nope, I walked in and was immediately helped and was done in less then 10 minutes. The guy and I even had a conversation about fishing. haha

I honestly thought that these task would take forever and in all they took less then 30 minutes. :D

[FutureKelley]

Whohoo, congrats on getting that all changed!

That reminds me, I need to go talk to the bank tomorrow because I used my last check in my maiden name today. :bbeek:

[Docsgirl]

Yay! So now you're legally and officially Mrs. Goff! :D

[Mrs.Goff]

Whohoo, congrats on getting that all changed!

That reminds me, I need to go talk to the bank tomorrow because I used my last check in my maiden name today. :bbeek:

:bbeek: ... I wonder what they are going to have you do? Maybe they'll give you some temporary checks until you get everything changed.

I hope you get that taken care of.

Yay! So now you're legally and officially Mrs. Goff! :D

Yep, and I'm loving it! :) I was a little sad about giving up my maiden name but I'm so glad I did. DH keeps calling me Mrs. Goff and it makes me giggle like a school girl. haha:bbredface:

[FutureKelley]

:bbeek: ... I wonder what they are going to have you do? Maybe they'll give you some temporary checks until you get everything changed.

I hope you get that taken care of.


I hope they do too, cause I wasn't smart enough to put DH's name on them, lol.

[Docsgirl]

Yep, and I'm loving it! :) I was a little sad about giving up my maiden name but I'm so glad I did. DH keeps calling me Mrs. Goff and it makes me giggle like a school girl. haha:bbredface:

Awww! That's so cute. I remember the first time the guy in the military id office called me Mrs. Montoya....I was like "huh? who?" lol

[Mrs.Goff]

Awww! That's so cute. I remember the first time the guy in the military id office called me Mrs. Montoya....I was like "huh? who?" lol

LOL. While changing my name I had to sign it 4 times and all 4 times I nearly signed the wrong name.:bbeek:

I'm ordering new checks, but deciding on the design is harder then it should be. haha Maybe I'll post my favorites and get everyone's opinion.:winktongue:

[Mrs.Goff]

These are my favorite check designs. I'm having a hard time choosing. Opinions?

I like this one but it only has 1 scene...
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Lorris%20war/check3.jpg

This one I really like the roses but I'm not sure about the other flowers...
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Lorris%20war/check2.jpg

I think of the 3 I'm lean toward this one most. I like the simplicity of them ...
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Lorris%20war/check1.jpg

[Docsgirl]

I like the last ones. :)

[Chubear]

i love the last one!
gorgeous:cloppy:

[Chubear]

or if you like them all, you can rotate - get one then the next etc.
or can you get all three at once?
( i dont have a cheque book so i dont know):o

[gwenshack]

They're all really pretty!

[Mrs.Goff]

or if you like them all, you can rotate - get one then the next etc.
or can you get all three at once?
( i dont have a cheque book so i dont know):o

Well I could get them all, but that would mean I would have 750 checks. We live in an apartment and I'm praying that we don't live here long enough for me to use 750 checks. haha

Thanks for the help. I think I'm gonna go ahead an get the last ones. I'll post my choice when I order them.

[FutureKelley]

I like the last ones best too! :)

[Mrs.Goff]

DH and I had a movie night tonight so this is the first chance I've had to get on. I just wanted to tell you all that I ordered the last one. I loved them to begin with and seeing that all of you liked them, I had to get them. They'll be here May 5th. I'm so excited to see my new name on something so official!


As for our movie night, we watched the following ...

Bride wars ...I give it :star::star::star:, it would have been better if there was more actual planning. haha

The Uninvited ... I give it :star::star::star:, it was a good movie.

While she was out ... I give it :star::star:, it was just OK, watchable once but I don't care to watch it again.

[Mrs.Goff]

I'm SOOO excited right now!

When we registered at Target they sent us a $20 gift card from Shutterfly.com. Well, I went on shutterfly and they had their photo books 20% off, plus Shutterfly gave me 25 4x6 prints free for signing up. So I was able to get a personalised, full color, 26 page, leather backed book with all (of my favorite pictures over 200) pictures, the 25 free prints, and a 16x20 print of my favorite group picture for the grand total of ... $22.68!! I'M SOOO EXCITED!!!:jphappy:

Here's the link if you would like to see the book ...

OUR WEDDING BOOK (http://share.shutterfly.com/share/received/welcome.sfly?fid=f85234e4c13be02b&sid=0AcuG7Fi5btmTiQ)

[Mrs.Goff]

Just thought I'd report on the weekend. ;)

Saturday, DH and I spent the day at home watching horse racing. Living in Kentucky the first Saturday in May is always consumed by the Kentucky Derby. Honestly, I could go the rest of my life without seeing it again (I'm very animal sensitive and it bothers me to see the horses racing. Seems every time I watch one of them gets hurt and has to be put down. :() but DH likes to watch.

I was also tracking my new checks and the tracking number said that my shipment was accepted/picked up at 12:26pm on Saturday!:bbeek: I was home on the sofa with DH they weren't dropped off and I didn't pick them up!:irked: So I ran (walked quickly :)) to the mailbox to see if the mail man just put them in the box. NOPE! They weren't in there. I freaked out. We live in an apartment and I'm always afraid that our mail is going to the wrong box. We get other peoples mail ALL the time. Even after explaining to the mail man that we are the only 2 people living in this apartment we STILL get everyone else's mail!:irked: DH assured me that there's nothing to worry about. But I'm calling the post office first thing in the morning!

Anyway, once I looked at the mail that was in the mail box I noticed that I had something for the social security office. Then I got excited. Sure enough it was my new SS card! I must have showed DH 10 times. haha

My book and photo prints are still in production. I can't wait for them to get here.

Then today (Sunday) we went to the ILs house. They gave me the rest of our wedding pictures (Not our disposable cameras they are lost never to be seen again). The ones that we're taken on a film camera. I swear I have never seen film picture look so rough. I'm not sure what went wrong. The photographer has very expensive cameras and I've seen her other work and it was fantastic. I just can't understand what happened with ours. As part of our gift she had each of our film pictures printed 5x7 and those cost .75 cents a print and there were over 70, that's better than $50. I have to believe that she thought they would be better as well. Why else would she pay so much for them? Plus she mailed them off to a place in Maryland to have them developed. Either way there were some in there that I didn't already have and some that was basically the same as I already had but better. So I'm very glad that I have them. I will always treasure them.

YOU CAN SEE THE FILM PICTURES HERE! (http://s402.photobucket.com/albums/pp109/Goffs/From%20Tracy/?albumview=slideshow)

[Mrs.Goff]

I got my checks today! YaY! They're really cute. :D But then I started thinking, I've got new checks but not a new debit card? So I called the bank to ask when I would get the new debit card. The lady tells me that just because I changed my name doesn't mean they ordered me a new card?!? WTF?!?:irked: She then asks me if I want to order a new one. Seriously?!?:bbeek: OF COURSE I DO! Why wouldn't I? I just can't understand why they would ship a new one when I changed my name. I mean how am I going to use a card with the wrong name?!? Well, I probably could because people at the checkout never check the names on the card! Even though I Have C.I.D on the back. Oh well I ordered the new card and it'll be here in 3-7 days.

In other news my shutterfly order shipped today.

[Mrs.Goff]

I got my 4x6 prints and 16x20 print from shutterfly today! The 16x20 made me cry. haha It's so much better then I thought it would be. Shutterfly is fantastic! I can't wait for my book to get here.

[Mrs.Goff]

Just an update ...


DH and I spent Saturday fishing (his favorite pass time). It was really nice to be out alone just us chit chatting about nothing important.

We spent Sunday with our mothers. Man that was a busy day. haha

We've ordered the rest of our pictures. I can't wait for them to get here.

I also got the Thank yous stamped and mailed. YaY!

Now that everything is finished/ordered we have the total cost of the wedding ...

We started with a budget of $5000 but was hoping to spend less. Well that didn't happen. lmao

The Grand total (not counting cleaning of the dress) is : $6895

Not bad and totally worth it to have my dream wedding and the time of my life.:D

[PGDesigns]

Isn't Shutterfly great?!?! I made our guestbook on there using our engagement pics and then made two albums with wedding pics. One for us, one for MIL... I got 60 free 4x6 prints the other day with wedding pics and 4 free 8x10 prints. I LOVE them!

[Mrs.Goff]

Wow you got a nice deal too. I'm in love with Shutterfly. DH says he's going to regret me finding it. haha I love taking pictures I take an average of 500 pictures a week.:bbeek: Of course I wouldn't want prints of them all but there are some that I would love to have.

I told DH that I was looking for a new hobby but now I think I'm just going to expand my photography into something more exciting.

[Mrs.Goff]

When I went and changed my drivers license the lady asked me if I wanted to register to vote. I told her NO. I didn't tell her but the reason I didn't want to was because the last time I did, I got called for Jury duty. I can't afford to be called for jury duty again. We only have 1 vehicle and getting all the way down town will be a nightmare for me.

Anyway, I told her no. She handed me a little card with a bunch of numbers to sign. I asked her what it was. She said "I need you to sign it saying that I asked you to register to vote and you declined." I thought it was funny and told her I'd never had to do this before. She said "It's something new they just started." I was in a hurry as DH and our pup was waiting outside, so I just signed.

WELL today I got a post card in the mail saying that my application to register to vote as been received and accepted!!!!!!

I'm SOOOOO angry! It's my right not to register she has no **** right to do that! Where does she get off registering me even though I told her I didn't want to. Now no matter what my name's in the system and I bet you within the next year I'll be called for jury duty. I'm calling the Voter registration office Monday and complaining. If nothing else I'm hoping that her name is also on file and she gets FIRED! Voting is something very personal and NO ONE should mess that process at all.


On another note I got the larger of my 2 picture deliveries today(Friday). They are fantastic and totally worth the money. Having them digital is nice but having the prints is even better.

[FutureKelley]

When I went and changed my drivers license the lady asked me if I wanted to register to vote. I told her NO. I didn't tell her but the reason I didn't want to was because the last time I did, I got called for Jury duty. I can't afford to be called for jury duty again. We only have 1 vehicle and getting all the way down town will be a nightmare for me.

Anyway, I told her no. She handed me a little card with a bunch of numbers to sign. I asked her what it was. She said "I need you to sign it saying that I asked you to register to vote and you declined." I thought it was funny and told her I'd never had to do this before. She said "It's something new they just started." I was in a hurry as DH and our pup was waiting outside, so I just signed.

WELL today I got a post card in the mail saying that my application to register to vote as been received and accepted!!!!!!

I'm SOOOOO angry! It's my right not to register she has no **** right to do that! Where does she get off registering me even though I told her I didn't want to. Now no matter what my name's in the system and I bet you within the next year I'll be called for jury duty. I'm calling the Voter registration office Monday and complaining. If nothing else I'm hoping that her name is also on file and she gets FIRED! Voting is something very personal and NO ONE should mess that process at all.


On another note I got the larger of my 2 picture deliveries today(Friday). They are fantastic and totally worth the money. Having them digital is nice but having the prints is even better.


I was actually told that they are no longer doing jury duty by those registered to vote, they are doing it by drivers license now. I don't know if that is just my state though?

[Mrs.Goff]

It's by drivers license, voter registration and state taxes.

[gwenshack]

Jury duty stinks. When I lived in Virginia I got called four times before I turned 22. I couldn't believe it. So when I moved to California I didn't register to vote because I'd had it! Three months later I get called for jury duty since I had a license with the DMV - so I had not registered for nothing. :(
PS DH has to try to get out of jury duty this week!

[Mrs.Goff]

I had jury duty back in January of 2007. It was a special session they call 240 of us for 2 death penalty cases. YaY, lucky me. NOT! I prayed that I wouldn't be seated, but I was the first junior seated.

I just hope that if they call me it isn't anytime soon.

PS: I hope your DH is able to get out of it. ;)

[Mrs.Goff]

I just got a call from my best friend (MOH) she in the hospital in preterm labor. She's only 32 weeks 3 days. When she got to the hospital she was contracting every 2 minutes. They gave her something to stop her labor but it didn't work but it slow them down to every 10 minutes. They're given her something to try and make sure his lungs are mature. They done an ultrasound and said he's about 5lbs 9oz and is measuring at 35 weeks 3 days. But her first 2 sons were big babies. Her oldest was 2 weeks early and was 9lbs 10oz, her second was 4 weeks early and was 6lbs 10oz. So they're ignoring his measurements. They have one more med that they're going to try to stop her labor, it if doesn't work then they're going to go ahead with a c-section. We all knew that she would have a c-section all along.

I'm praying that he hangs on for a little while longer. I know that he'll mostly likely be fine but I can't help but to worry.

[gwenshack]

Wow. I hope everything turns out ok! I'm sure he'll be a healthy and happy baby! :)

[Mrs.Goff]

Sorry that this update is so late it's been a crazy day. I got a call from my friend(Angie) this morning and the contractions has slowed enough that they are no longer worry about him coming right now. She had been on bed rest for a week before this and that will continue until he's born. She's still at the hospital waiting on yet another steroid shot to help with his lungs. She'll get that around 8pm and they are expecting after that she'll be able to go home.

[PGDesigns]

Good thoughts for both mom and baby!

[Mrs.Goff]

Thank you.

[gwenshack]

Sorry that this update is so late it's been a crazy day. I got a call from my friend(Angie) this morning and the contractions has slowed enough that they are no longer worry about him coming right now. She had been on bed rest for a week before this and that will continue until he's born. She's still at the hospital waiting on yet another steroid shot to help with his lungs. She'll get that around 8pm and they are expecting after that she'll be able to go home.

Outstanding news! Please keep us updated.

[Mrs.Goff]

Wow, I just relaised that we have been married 2 months! I can't believe how fast time is passing.:bbeek: I hope it slows down soon because my 30th b-day is just about 6 months away and honestly I'm not taking to the idea of being 30 very well.:irked: I didn't think it would be a big deal, but the closer it gets the worse it feels.

[f77g4]

Just read through your journal - I had started once before and never had a chance to comment then. Yay for the 2 month mark!

[gwenshack]

Wow, I just relaised that we have been married 2 months! I can't believe how fast time is passing.:bbeek: I hope it slows down soon because my 30th b-day is just about 6 months away and honestly I'm not taking to the idea of being 30 very well.:irked: I didn't think it would be a big deal, but the closer it gets the worse it feels.

Oh, 30's no big deal! It's just a number, I swear. Age is a state of mind and you're a young newlywed so you get to shave several years off that number...haha :)
I try to think of it this way - I don't really have wrinkles yet but when I get them I'm gonna feel like I EARNED them because I live a full life. :innocent:

[Mrs.Goff]

So they sent my friend home today. She is on complete bed rest and they stressed complete. haha They to told her that when her contractions reach 10 minutes apart (Right now they are still coming about every 40 minutes) to come back to the hospital. They won't attempt to stop them next time. The next time she goes in she's leaving with a bouncing baby boy! YaY!


I guess I better go shopping this weekend. :) I still don't know what his coming home gift will be. Hmm?

[Mrs.Goff]

DH made my heart stop and not in a good way.:snide:

So this after noon DH came in from work and the first works out of his mouth were "I lost me ring today." WHAT?!?!?!?!:bbeek: He said "Well, I found it but it was really lost.:irked: I told him he shouldn't have paused between those two statements. He went on to explain that he had grease on his hands so he washed them and while drying them his ring came of and all he heard was it hit the ground and roll away. He said that he panicked and spent an hour crawling around on the floor searching for it. He said he gave up and started telling everyone if they found it to please, please, please give it back. (His words) Then as he went back to his station he noticed something out of the corner of his eye. It was his ring still standing, just under the edge of a toolbox, up against the wheel. He said he was so excited and relieved to have found it that he nearly cried. He told me all he could think was how upset and disappointed I was gonna be.

I'm so glad that he found it. But I could kill him for not wording it differently. haha

[gwenshack]

I'm glad your DH was able to find his ring! Mine lost his about a month after the wedding and we've never been able to find it! :( But, as I've said before, I'd rather him lose the ring than the wife...:)

[Mrs.Goff]

I was just wondering if your DH ever found his ring or got another.

[Docsgirl]

So glad he found it! I'm waiting for the day DH loses his ring as well. He always takes it off and plays with it. It's been dropped probably about 100 times already. :irked: Haha.

[Mrs.Goff]

My friend just called me, her contractions started again and her blood pressure is too high for them to do anything. SO, they are preparing her for a c-section as we speak. He's 35 days early.:bbeek: I'm so nervous right now, and am praying that everything goes well.

[f77g4]

My friend just called me, her contractions started again and her blood pressure is too high for them to do anything. SO, they are preparing her for a c-section as we speak. He's 35 days early.:bbeek: I'm so nervous right now, and am praying that everything goes well.

I hope everything goes well!

[Mrs.Goff]

Owen James was born at 8:30pm est. He is 6lbs 5oz and 19.5" long. Momma is doing well. Owen is in the NICU because he's having problems breathing, but it's kind of expected because he's so early. As soon as I have some pictures I'll post them.

[gwenshack]

Congrats on the birth! :) I'm sure he'll be fine! Can't wait to see pics! :)

[Mrs.Goff]

I love my friend so much. Bless her heart she emailed me pictures at 2:30am, because I couldn't come see him right away.

So whatcha think, adorable right? *hehe* ;)

http://c1.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images02/109/l_13f284aa73564b3fb2bd6882b96efcd0.jpg

http://c4.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images02/65/l_cb550bbfb9ef43098dc02f961fee49a3.jpg

http://c1.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images02/102/l_ad4ce2086ef944ebaf649f571b515a28.jpg

http://c1.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images02/92/l_2ecaa8ff249c4afeb85faaa8c8e599f8.jpg

[EarlyBird]

oh god bless him and his family!! they were in my prayers last night when i read this!!! i was 2 months early - its more and more common these days. he will pull through just fine :) momma and baby are beautiful!

[gwenshack]

Oh how cute! Congrats to all! :)

[Mrs.Goff]

Thanks, I'll pass these messages along to the proud momma and poppa.

[f77g4]

Aww he's so cute!

[Docsgirl]

Awww. What an adorable family! :D

[Mrs.Goff]

Well, I said before the wedding that as soon as it was over I was cutting off my hair. It took me nearly 3 months but it's done. I went today and had them cut it off. It's a little shorter than I wanted but it was all donated to LOCKS OF LOVE (http://www.locksoflove.org/), so it's OK. I'm still getting use to it, but I think it like it. haha I'll post a picture later.:)

[Mrs.Goff]

My Hair ...

Before ... No it wasn't normally this poofy, I was heading to get it cut so I didn't bother doing anything to it. haha

http://i709.photobucket.com/albums/ww98/Mydailyphotojournal/TG266602.jpg

After ... It's a little shorter than I wanted to it went to LOCKS OF LOVE (http://www.locksoflove.org/) so I'm OK with it.

http://i709.photobucket.com/albums/ww98/Mydailyphotojournal/TG276607copy.jpg

[f77g4]

Oh wow I guess you did cut it off. It looks great and such a great cause!

[Mrs.Goff]

Just finished copying the ceremony word for word from the video, then typing it up. It's funny to listen so closely to every word and see how many little things the JOP changed. Oh well I accomplished my goal.

I just couldn't let it go. I needed to have a hard copy of the ceremony. It went by so quickly that I couldn't remember exactly what was said.

I have to say I still cry the moment that video starts. I can't help myself, it was such an incredible moment for me. Aww, I'm so happy. haha

[Mrs.Goff]

I just wanted to share that DH and I just (Yesterday Thursday 7/30) got another wedding gift. I was surprised, I wasn't expecting anything else. It's 3 nice picture frames from DHs aunt that didn't attend the wedding. One of them is a album with a frame stand on the back that you don't have to use if you don't want. Now I just have to decide what pictures I want to put in them. hehe:winktongue:

[f77g4]

I just wanted to share that DH and I just (Yesterday Thursday 7/30) got another wedding gift. I was surprised, I wasn't expecting anything else. It's 3 nice picture frames from DHs aunt that didn't attend the wedding. One of them is a album with a frame stand on the back that you don't have to use if you don't want. Now I just have to decide what pictures I want to put in them. hehe:winktongue:

Awesome - congrats!

[Docsgirl]

Oooh! Surprise gifts are always fun! :D

[Mrs.Goff]

I'm SO tired but I can't sleep! So I thought I'd post here.

I spent the day cleaning out our closets and dresser drawers. I throw out everything that I can't remember us wearing since January. Isn't it funny how you don't realise how much cr*p you have until you drag it all out into the middle of the floor. lol I was shocked about how much cr*p we had. I normally would allow myself to keep things because I still like them and promise to wear them. Then they go back into the closet were they stay until the next cleaning. Well not this time, I bagged it all up and am donating it. (Well, everything that I've deemed go enough for others to use.) You wouldn't believe some of the cr*p people donate. I've made up my mind I'm/we're purging everything that we haven't use since January unless it's priceless. DH joked that I picked January so that the wedding stuff wouldn't be included. I told him that wasn't the case at all, because I never plan on purging the wedding stuff. ;)

Anyway tomorrow between laundry and nursing my sick husband (Sorry honey) I plan on cleaning out the bathroom closet, that could take a day alone. We have so many colognes and perfumes we could start a second hand smell good store. haha Then I'm tackling the kitchen pantry which should be interesting. DH bet me that I'll find at least 15 cans of corn in there. I guess we'll see. haha If there is 15 cans I have to go to Bass pro shop with him. Man I hate that place. If there isn't then he's has to take me to the restaurant of my choice. I have no idea where I want to go yet. Of course will have to find someone to watch our pooch for either, so we'll probably do both anyway.:D

OK, thanks for reading my ramble.:D

[jamt]

hope your clear out went well i am terrible for not ever throwing stuff out but like you i have an urge to go do some cleaning today maybe i will get less needy an chuck out some of my junk that i have not used in the last year i dont know why i keep it when i have not worn it in years i live in my jeans an T shirts so 1 more ciggie an then i am off to do my windows befor the rain appears
hope you win the corn deal more fun going out to eat than shopping
happy cleaning mrs goff

[Mrs.Goff]

Oh windows! I hate doing windows. Mostly because of the streaks! I can't stand them and no matter what I do I always seem to battle them for days after.:irked: But I guess seeing out is important too. haha

I have a terrible time throwing things out. I always find myself making excuses as to why I should keep stuff. I totally get it from my grandma. She's a hoarder and a bad one at that. Seeing what she goes through is the reason I can force myself to purge.

[jamt]

me to the streaks are a bit of a pain but its got to be done or i wont see out them still half ways threw them now so that i can move on to the cooker an oven next only to mess it up again by doing dinner but spag sauce is so yummy i kind of dont mind that one hope your getting all you planned done an dusted today i just thought i would have a little break think i will leave the throwing out for a later date told you i like to hold on to stuff me an your gran would get on well

[Mrs.Goff]

My MOHs little one had his 2 month check up. He's up to 11lbs 10oz, from 6lbs 5ozs at birth. :D He's doing great.



http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Owen/6531_1081918140708_1608982217_19444.jpg
http://photos-e.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc1/hs174.snc1/6531_1081918300712_1608982217_194452_6533384_n.jpg

[gwenshack]

Aaaaaaawww, how cute! :bbmrgreen:

[Docsgirl]

What a little cutie!!

[Mrs.Goff]

Well, I have posted here in some time. Bad I know. We just celebrated 6 months and things are great. We're happier then ever. Things are stressful at times but hey that's life right?

We've been talking about TTC a lot lately. DH hasn't agreed to officially TTC but he agree not to TTA either. He said right now we're at the if it happens it happens stage. I'm OK with that, because that's one step closer then we were. But my cycles are so wonky that I've been temping in preparation for when we are really TTC and man can it drive you bonkers. I'm always reading way too much into every little sign.

In other news yesterday was my parents 28th wedding anniversary! (Yes, I was nearly 2 when they married.:boggle:) I've watched them struggle and fight throughout the years but they've made it.

DH is what we hope and pray is his last layoff. They've been rotating 2 week layoffs through all the employees to keep the permanent layoffs to a minimum. They haven't announce a new round yet and we're praying that they don't. This time DH manage to get called for jury duty the same weeks as his layoff. :eek2: Here in Kentucky that means that he couldn't get unemployment as he wouldn't be eligible to work each and every day. But thank the lord that he was granted a postponement.

That's about it, we have a pretty boring life.;)

[Mrs.Goff]

I thought I'd share an updated picture of Owen.
October 15th he'll be 4 months.

http://photos-a.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc1/hs245.snc1/9218_1106741881286_1608982217_252856_2804691_n.jpg

[gwenshack]

Cutie pie! :heart:

[Mrs.Goff]

Thank you. :D