when are you planning to start "trying?"

[June2009Bride]

we are getting married in june and wanted to start trying for a baby (I am 29 and his is 33) in may but I'm worried that I could have pregnancy sickness for the wedding and honeymoon. as excited as we are, I think we will probably wait until after the wedding. :)

what about you???

[gwenshack]

We're both 31 and plan on enjoying each other for a while before even discussing the idea of kids. DH is in law school still and has another year to go, then he has to take the bar and pass and then the first few years are very time consuming. Kids are a big financial and time commitment and I'm not willing to have kids to then just raise them alone while DH spends 15 hours a day in the office. So I'm not sure we'll try at all, and, if we do, it won't be for at least 5 years.

I think waiting until after the wedding is a good idea though...you don't want to feel sick at your wedding...and you might want to have that glass of champagne to celebrate! :)

[Docsgirl]

We're waiting awhile. At least 5-7 years. We're both 22 now and DH is still active duty in the military. We both want to wait until he is out and we've both finished school and have stable jobs before we even think about having kids. If it happens somehow through the BC, we'll suck it up and be the best parents we can be. But for now, we're going to enjoy being young and doing the things we've always wanted to do before settling down with little ones. :D

[ChristineLS]

We're both 23, and graduate students. We're thinking of trying for a cat first. ;)

[Nekochanpurr]

I'm only 25, and DH is 26.. We'll probably start trying closer to 30. Hopefully Steve has a job by then.. haha

[BarceloMayaPalaceBride]

In November I had a "pre-conception" appt. Started taking pre-natals in December, got married in January, and started trying in March ;) This is our 2nd cycle trying!!!! Good Luck to you!

[SkippyNXC]

if it were up to FH we'd be trying right now... he's got a lil bit of baby fever...

we're talking about when now but as i'm in school we'll have to plan around the school year so unless we conceive in certain months it'll have to be put off til the next year

i've thought about waiting until I'm out of school but i'm in my first of 4 years then have an internship year, then will be starting a career... i've decided they'll always be "reasons" to wait. I'm 27 now and want to have my 1st child b4 i'm 30... so I'm thinking maybe we'll start after we get married next year... but it's so far away at this point who knows that could change.

[VickiLynn84]

If it were up to me I'd try right away. I had a miscarraiage in October that just about really killed me emotionally for a long time.

But I think I want to get a savings (maybe 10k or so for emergencies) together first. Right now, the only savings I have is for the wedding. and I'd like a house possibly before that happens...or i'll never be able to save for a downpayment with a baby in tow. so we'll see.

[NurseLau84]

If we do at all, it would probably be sometime in the next 5 to 6 years. We are thoroughly enjoying being young (24 and almost 25) and free. :)
I also want to be at least part of the way into my master's degree, and have this condo sold. There are many reasons why we're waiting to (maybe) have a child when we're older. Hey, you can always wait....but when they're here you can't give them back! No rush for us.

[FFC]

We're planning to start trying in September. My hubby is 33 and I'm 23. He's kinda afraid to wait too much longer - he thinks he's old :rofl:

[SkippyNXC]

lol my FH is 34 and feels the same way!

[Katie-ryn]

I'm 22 and FH is 24. We're going to start trying after the wedding, when we'll be 24 and 26.

[Moon.Dust.]

because we're getting married in Cali and are squeezing tons of activities into one short week, I'd rather NOT be PG during that time. I mean. If it happens -cool!
Currently, we are not trying to STOP it from happening. But we won't start actually trying until after the wedding.

[Moon.Dust.]

We're planning to start trying in September. My hubby is 33 and I'm 23. He's kinda afraid to wait too much longer - he thinks he's old :rofl:
dude! I'm going to turn 29 on my wedding day and FH will be 38! :tongue:

[FFC]

I didn't want to be the one to tell him he's wrong - I want kids ASAP so I ain't gonna deter him!

[firespirit]

We're going to start trying after our vacation to Europe this summer (I don't want to miss out on all the drinking I can do in first class, hahahahahaha!).

So basically we'll start trying a year after our wedding. I'm almost 32 (like next week) and he's 29. I'm the one that's probably in more of a hurry but only because I feel like I'm getting up there in years and all. Plus, I already have a 14 year old son, and I don't want to have grandkids that are older than anyother kids we have...

[savepaws]

If it were up to me, I'd start trying sometime soon after the wedding. I'm 30 and I worry a lot about my age. FH wants to enjoy being married at least a year before we start trying. So we are going to wait. Realistically, its a good idea to wait a little while. We do have to get some things in order before we start trying, but I can't help but want to start a family.


I sure wouldn't want to be pregnant during the wedding or honeymoon though, in case I got really bad morning sickness. So if it was me, I'd wait! June isn't that far off. :) Good luck in whatever you decide to do though!

[Jacklynn]

We would like to start trying September/October. I'll be 22, and DH just shy of 24. We've had plenty of 'alone' time, since we have been together for almost 8 years now, and almost married for 2. My mom had my sister and I young (she had her tubes tied at 21) and now she is 41, with both of her kids out of the house and will be a young grandmother. I love that my mom had me young, I (hopefully) get to have more of my adult life with her. I hope to give that to my children too. That's just part of my reasoning for wanting kids early in life. I totally understand why some people want to wait until they are a little older though, and I bet there are so many benefits to that as well (such as having more time alone together and being more secure, things like that)

[flyerso6]

We can finally start trying again and im excited. Im 24 and Dh is 25, almost 26. Id rather not be having kids in my 30's. Dh only has one grandparent left and she is 86 and he would like to have a kid while she is still around..

[himandi62709]

Getting married in June also and we will start trying on the honeymoon!

[NurseLau84]

We would like to start trying September/October. I'll be 22, and DH just shy of 24. We've had plenty of 'alone' time, since we have been together for almost 8 years now, and almost married for 2. My mom had my sister and I young (she had her tubes tied at 21) and now she is 41, with both of her kids out of the house and will be a young grandmother. I love that my mom had me young, I (hopefully) get to have more of my adult life with her. I hope to give that to my children too. That's just part of my reasoning for wanting kids early in life. I totally understand why some people want to wait until they are a little older though, and I bet there are so many benefits to that as well (such as having more time alone together and being more secure, things like that)

I see what you're saying here. DH and I have been together for over 7 years now, so I guess technically we've had plenty of us time also.....but, IDK, maybe I'm just selfish, LOL. :)
I do see the benefits of having kids a bit younger; though that is definitely not a route I am comfortable with.

[ikkin510]

We got married in Oct of 06 and started trying that december (we were 24 and 27.) Our first was born in Feb 08. We are planning to start trying for number 2 next month.

[dizy1j62881]

see for me I'm torn...because of recent events i would love to have another one now...because I miss being a full time stay home mommy. and I miss my baby. :( but i also think we're going to wait til this time next year to talk about it. But I'm also a firm believer it'll happen when "big man upstairs" thinks we're ready for it...not when we think we are....trust me its a very true saying!! but we love "practicing"!!!!! LOL

[Danielle9608]

Jon and I have started now. I am 26 and he is 31. I want to be a young mom and hopefully be finished with having kids before 30. Both of us have been in our established careers for some time now, are financial well off, have a house, and a stable lifestyle. So this is the next step for us.

[FutureMrsDM]

I'm 20 right now, will be 21 in June. FH is 22 (won't be 23 until December). based on our ages, I really have no rush in having kids. FH would like them sooner than me, but I don't want them until at least 23/24. I mean, quite honestly, its not that I don't think we are ready yet, we are young yet and have a ton of time ahead of us for kids. We've been together for 6 years come time for the wedding, have a new house that we are fixing up and will be baby ready some day!