MrsFuchs09
04-05-2009, 03:40 PM
As most people know, Rick & I are 18 and 20. We are doing it the old fashion way and living with our parents before we get married, well we were, until all these problems arose.
Two days before Christmas, Ricky's mother thought it'd be best to take one of Rick's checks, sign his name, and write it out to herself. She wrote it out for a little over one hundred dollars. She then thought it'd be okay for her to cash this check, then go to Alantic City and gamble with this money. She confessed a day later, Christmas Eve, because "she felt bad." She said she was depressed about not having the money to buy us real gifts, so she went to a casino to win more money. Of course she lost all of it, and a little of what money she did have herself. Rick was furious but decided to go on with the holidays like nothing happened. He told me on the way to my father's house that night. I was pissed too. But she said she would never do it again and if she slipped, Rick had every right to not talk to her anymore.
Rick took her spare key to his car away and locked his checks in the car.
One month later...
The bank called Rick because of suspicious activity on his debit card. He looked at his statement and found an online casino. He freaked, I freaked, and we all fought. She used his debit card and took out 30 dollars for this site, where, of course, she lost all this money.
This time, she wasn't so sorry, blaming him for not caring about her anymore, and THAT'S why she did it. She called me a slut, then later apologized to me because she loves me so much. Pft.
A few weeks later, Rick got kicked out. She said he was distant and cold towards her. How could you BLAME him!? Rick slept at his dad's house for a night, going back home the next day all because I spoke to his mom, saying we did the math and with the wedding, my college tuition and our cars, etc bills, we couldn't afford him living on his own right now, because we're putting away money for our apartment, for September. They spoke, had an aggreement and it was happily ever after.
Not.
She stole more money, gambled, even asked Rick for money here and there, once up to 400 dollars, telling him his father would pay him back. (His father only gave Rick 300...saying 50 was for a WWE Pay-per-view Rick bought. And the other 50 was never mentioned. Don't know why.) then told Rick he had to give her rent because it costs money for him to live there. I pointed out, she doesn't have a job, his father pays for the house and bills....blah blah blah. Rick said he knew that but 50 dollars a week was cheaper than moving out. She decided to kick him out again, for the same reasons. He was cold, distant and this time...he didn't care about her anymore. He slept at his father's house for two nights, then my parents house for one, before forcing himself back into the house. They fought, I sat in the car on the phone, being invisible. When he came back, angry, to the car, I heard him yell, "I'd rather live on the streets, then live with a psycho like you." He sped off, I was pissed, told him to turn around. I heard my name and "slut," "selfish *****" and other not so nice names come up during there yelling match.
I ran out of the car and dared her to come out. I said, "I guess this is more about you and me then it is about Rick." She said, "You bet it is." I screamed at her, told her she was crazy. Called her a gambler addict and told her to stop stealing from us. Told her Rick and I wanted to elope, so she couldn't see us marry. (We did talk about this, we couldn't take her bull**** and everyone else's bull**** anymore. We just want to be together and not have any problems around us.)
Somehow, our fighting turned into talking. And everything was solved...
A week later (yesterday).
She said it wasn't working out. He should leave. Blah Blah Blah. She ended up yelling at him, calling him disrespectful and not caring about her. He's about to loose it. His father gave him a key to the front door, because they always use the garage. So Rick slept at home last night, saying she's not gonna pull that **** on him again. She woke him up at five and screamed at him to get the **** out. He said no and if she tried to do anything stupid, he'll file fraud on her.
He said he'll have a "business relationship" and just live there, take out the trash, work 60 hours a week (like always) and that's that. She said she wanted 75 a week for living there. He said whatever. He said he's too tired mentally to fight with her anymore.
75 a week? Are you f**king kidding me? Honestly, I'd have no problem with it, if this lady worked, didn't steal from him to begin with, and didn't have a gambling addiction. And if the 300 a month he's going to give wasn't going into gambling. Which we both know it will, because most of the checks his father give her go to Atlantic City.
But that's not the case. She's done and has all those things. This lady gambled over a million away, and that's why her husband left him.
And Rick doesn't cost a dime for him living there. He does his own grocery shopping (We do it together every Wednesday, this is the food we eat. Our mommy's don't buy it for us.), he buys his own clothes and he doesn't even eat dinner at that house. He works ten to twelve hours a day. He's worked 14 hours days. He makes great money for a 20 year old "kid." He's a salesmen. We're both very independent. I don't see how that's a bad thing.
But I know, she's afraid of loosing her only child, her baby. I know that's why she's doing these things. I've told that to her, yelling and talking rationally.
Rick says he's just going to use her for the roof, be nice to her even though he "hates" her. I think "hate" is extreme but he has every right to be angry with her.
But now, we're putting more money away then ever into our savings. We want to move in together before the wedding. We have to get away from her. That's his only motivation now, dealing with her for now because we'll be together soon, that's what he says.
What do you guys think?
(P.S. This probably why I haven't logged in months. Too many problems, stress.)
Two days before Christmas, Ricky's mother thought it'd be best to take one of Rick's checks, sign his name, and write it out to herself. She wrote it out for a little over one hundred dollars. She then thought it'd be okay for her to cash this check, then go to Alantic City and gamble with this money. She confessed a day later, Christmas Eve, because "she felt bad." She said she was depressed about not having the money to buy us real gifts, so she went to a casino to win more money. Of course she lost all of it, and a little of what money she did have herself. Rick was furious but decided to go on with the holidays like nothing happened. He told me on the way to my father's house that night. I was pissed too. But she said she would never do it again and if she slipped, Rick had every right to not talk to her anymore.
Rick took her spare key to his car away and locked his checks in the car.
One month later...
The bank called Rick because of suspicious activity on his debit card. He looked at his statement and found an online casino. He freaked, I freaked, and we all fought. She used his debit card and took out 30 dollars for this site, where, of course, she lost all this money.
This time, she wasn't so sorry, blaming him for not caring about her anymore, and THAT'S why she did it. She called me a slut, then later apologized to me because she loves me so much. Pft.
A few weeks later, Rick got kicked out. She said he was distant and cold towards her. How could you BLAME him!? Rick slept at his dad's house for a night, going back home the next day all because I spoke to his mom, saying we did the math and with the wedding, my college tuition and our cars, etc bills, we couldn't afford him living on his own right now, because we're putting away money for our apartment, for September. They spoke, had an aggreement and it was happily ever after.
Not.
She stole more money, gambled, even asked Rick for money here and there, once up to 400 dollars, telling him his father would pay him back. (His father only gave Rick 300...saying 50 was for a WWE Pay-per-view Rick bought. And the other 50 was never mentioned. Don't know why.) then told Rick he had to give her rent because it costs money for him to live there. I pointed out, she doesn't have a job, his father pays for the house and bills....blah blah blah. Rick said he knew that but 50 dollars a week was cheaper than moving out. She decided to kick him out again, for the same reasons. He was cold, distant and this time...he didn't care about her anymore. He slept at his father's house for two nights, then my parents house for one, before forcing himself back into the house. They fought, I sat in the car on the phone, being invisible. When he came back, angry, to the car, I heard him yell, "I'd rather live on the streets, then live with a psycho like you." He sped off, I was pissed, told him to turn around. I heard my name and "slut," "selfish *****" and other not so nice names come up during there yelling match.
I ran out of the car and dared her to come out. I said, "I guess this is more about you and me then it is about Rick." She said, "You bet it is." I screamed at her, told her she was crazy. Called her a gambler addict and told her to stop stealing from us. Told her Rick and I wanted to elope, so she couldn't see us marry. (We did talk about this, we couldn't take her bull**** and everyone else's bull**** anymore. We just want to be together and not have any problems around us.)
Somehow, our fighting turned into talking. And everything was solved...
A week later (yesterday).
She said it wasn't working out. He should leave. Blah Blah Blah. She ended up yelling at him, calling him disrespectful and not caring about her. He's about to loose it. His father gave him a key to the front door, because they always use the garage. So Rick slept at home last night, saying she's not gonna pull that **** on him again. She woke him up at five and screamed at him to get the **** out. He said no and if she tried to do anything stupid, he'll file fraud on her.
He said he'll have a "business relationship" and just live there, take out the trash, work 60 hours a week (like always) and that's that. She said she wanted 75 a week for living there. He said whatever. He said he's too tired mentally to fight with her anymore.
75 a week? Are you f**king kidding me? Honestly, I'd have no problem with it, if this lady worked, didn't steal from him to begin with, and didn't have a gambling addiction. And if the 300 a month he's going to give wasn't going into gambling. Which we both know it will, because most of the checks his father give her go to Atlantic City.
But that's not the case. She's done and has all those things. This lady gambled over a million away, and that's why her husband left him.
And Rick doesn't cost a dime for him living there. He does his own grocery shopping (We do it together every Wednesday, this is the food we eat. Our mommy's don't buy it for us.), he buys his own clothes and he doesn't even eat dinner at that house. He works ten to twelve hours a day. He's worked 14 hours days. He makes great money for a 20 year old "kid." He's a salesmen. We're both very independent. I don't see how that's a bad thing.
But I know, she's afraid of loosing her only child, her baby. I know that's why she's doing these things. I've told that to her, yelling and talking rationally.
Rick says he's just going to use her for the roof, be nice to her even though he "hates" her. I think "hate" is extreme but he has every right to be angry with her.
But now, we're putting more money away then ever into our savings. We want to move in together before the wedding. We have to get away from her. That's his only motivation now, dealing with her for now because we'll be together soon, that's what he says.
What do you guys think?
(P.S. This probably why I haven't logged in months. Too many problems, stress.)