need help

[dshardw]

Hi everyone. My name is Scott. My fiance and I are getting married in September. We have decided to go with a very non tradtional wedding. She will be wearing the tux and I the gown. I have searched the net but it's all too confusing i don't know where to begin or what to do. Any advice or help would be greatly apprieciated

[lilmsjess]

that is just way too cool!

well, here's what i suggest.....assuming this is not going to be a full formal event i'd go for what is called a "sheath" dress or one with a lace up back and is strapless.....you have no "chest" and you can have the gown altered to fit correctly *wink*!

here's a few suggestions on dress styles.....and cheap ones at that, that would require minimal alterations....now, just an FYI, because i'm "assuming" you're tall, and broad shouldered/chested, i chose "plus" sized dresses.....
hehe, this is crazy but awesome! here's some suggestions, but idk what kind of formality you're having.....

something like this would be good for you...it has what is called a "corset bodice" and the neat thing, is they are virtually made for everyone from the smallest to the largest chest! the halter strap is your decision, but alterations would need it to be moved to accomodate your body. and it's very close to a wedding dress
http://1koo.com/shop/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=9_11&products_id=200

this could work also!
http://1koo.com/shop/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=9_11&products_id=235

i think this could be fantastic also, and is what i consider a "sheath" dress
http://1koo.com/shop/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=1_3&products_id=120

avoid dresses like this....supremely rarely could a man have the figure to pull this off, in fact not alot of women have the bodily configurement to wear it! because of the hem, and the severe tightness throughout, unless you are thin, and i mean a men's size 32 or less, i don't see it looking good on a man and you'd also have the issue of maybe having issues with moving around!
http://1koo.com/shop/index.php?main_page=product_info&cPath=1_3&products_id=117

well i do hope maybe i was able to give some kind of insight hehe.....the website i browsed 1koo.com, apparently has very very reputable service!

[scarymary48]

Lilmsjess summed it up quite nicely, I think! My only other suggestion would be to simply go to bridal stores and just try some dresses on, to get a feel for what is going to look best on you. Don't be embarrassed, trust me- I work in fashion and have seen it all. I can assure you that the sales assistants probably wont even bat an eyelid at your request.
I'm really curious though, as to why you guys decided to go this way? I can imagine that you guys must be a really fun couple, but I am incredibly nosey, and would love to hear your story!

[lilmsjess]

i was going to suggest bridal stores, buti've had very unfortunate experiences with places like davids, and even 2 alfred stores.....i can honestly imagine a few DB's being downright rude!

hey scott-another idea could be, if you or your girl have any girl friends around your size, see if they have dresses you can try on first. i don't know how comfy you'd be doing it in a shop(jeez, i hate doing it haha)....but best of luck!

if you try department stores, like penny's and dillards, etc they don't follow you into the dressing room(which i absolutely love when buying formal gowns!).....alot of bridal boutiques, refuse to allow brides to dress themselves, for some fear we will rip the gown.....(as if some of the samples aren't tore up to begin with).....

[dshardw]

thank you mary and jess... i've got more questions but first to answer scarymary's question... my fiance and i love to have fun. we laugh and joke and do silly things all the time. this actually started off as sorta a joke with my extremely traditional parents. they wanted the big huge church wedding. you know as straight laced as possible. we're not traditional so we'd thought it would be different to be different. we thought of many things, but this seemed to fit right in with different. everyone will remember our wedding.

as far as more questions.... would everyone really be "ok" with a guy trying on weddinng dresses in an actually bridal salon? i mean you ladies might not want a dude interupting your moment. that is sorta a privatr "girl" thing as far as i know. i did casually e-mail a local shop and they didn't seem interested in helping me anyway. the guy said that i wouldn't fit any any gown. and that i'd do better with sewing one. so once again would that be a good idea? as for dress styles how would i hold up a strapless one anyway?

[lilmsjess]

ok this may sound stupid....but if any shop actually comes right out and tells you they will not allow you to try on dresses, tell them you'll sue for sexual discrimination! at some point, you're going to have to try to get a place to let you "in"!

where do you love, i'll go with you ;)
i'm crazy sometimes and i've gotten advance auto to take back brakes that my neighbor ordered for her car in person, but they were wrong(but since the counter guy was an a-hole, i was able to convince the manager that the kid ordered the wrong ****, and how could my friend not know what she drives :rolleyes: -actually she is stupid lol, she drives an accord and got brakes for a civic, thinking they were interchangeable :rolleyeys: once more!)

[lilmsjess]

since your chest muscles are actually larger around than ours, if you were to get a dress with a corset bodice, it practically holds itself up do to the wiring inside the dress...then you just have it altered to be tighter....please shave/wax your chest ;P !

omg, dude, your parents are going to absolutely flip OUT!!!!!

hahahahahahaha.....good for you guys!!!!!!

if you'd like more help aside from your post, just pm me....i'm currently a stay at home, so google is my friend :)

i tried a "mens wedding gown" search, and got Indian wedding costumes(the long duster-style tunics they were, with the matching linen pants)

[ChristineLS]

You may have some serious sizing problems, since a lot of gowns are designed for a feminine physique... but good luck :)

[dshardw]

i'm not exactly a body builder. i'm 5'10'' 185 lbs. i got a 36 in waist

[dshardw]

how do i pm here?

[WebLady]

how do i pm here?
New members do not have access to use the PM system ;)
http://forums.onewed.com/showthread.php?t=22825

[dshardw]

thanks for the info weblady

[dshardw]

i have a new found respect for you ladies. Keeping track of all of this is hard. I actually called the place I e-mailed. I talked to a lady. She said that they only stocked sample gowns up to a size 10. She said that she didn't think that would help me any. She was nice and wanted to help but without any dresses to fit she couldn't. She also said that I needed to think about what i was putting under the dress as well as the dress before going anywhere. Man I got a headache I need to lay down!!!

[WebLady]

I would probably look into having a dress made for you, or order something maybe a little bigger than you need online and have it alterned.

:goodluck:

[nutfry]

Do you have any consignment shops near you? I found my dress at one that specializes in bridal and formal dresses and it was one of the few places I tried where they actually had dresses in my size to try on (I'm large enough that the usual sample sizes are almost useless to me).

As for how to hold up a strapless dress, it really depends on the bodice. If it's more structured with boning and everything, those usually hold themselves up at the waist. If it doesn't have boning or other support, double-sided tape may be your friend. :) Good luck!

[lilmsjess]

you click on a posters name, and a drop menu comes up...then just choose send private message!

[dshardw]

not enough privileges yet:(

[dshardw]

i went to a couple of thrift stores at lunch. they had 2 really ugly ones. i was trying to descreetly look at them. how do you know what size they are? i'm gonna have to go to a shop aren't i?

[lilmsjess]

lol if you have issues, just tell them you are buying the gown as a gift for your sister or such...tell them you just want to browse(at least then, you can get a feel for the gowns, even if you can't try them on!)

[ChristineLS]

Or you could tell them you are looking for a gown for a costume party. I mean, it's almost true :)

The Salvation Army thrift store in my town has like 20 dresses, no exaggeration. They aren't all pretty, but they are there. Do you have other shops around?

There are also ebay dresses too.

[dshardw]

yeah i can see that i'm buying mt sister a wedding dress. would be better than saying it's for me i guess lol. christine we got 2 thrift shops and that's about it execept the few antique stores might get clothes every once and awhile. e bay would be cool but can i send it back if it doesn't fit? i might call david's bridal tomorrow and see if they are willing to help.

[TwoPeasinAPod]

When's your wedding?

I'd love to see pictures of the two of you . . . and your parents reaction!

Yeah, I agree just say it's for a costume party.

[dshardw]

i will share some pics. do i need to photogragh my fitting?

[doris27]

A lot of people do photograph their fittings so they can post pics and such. Also, there is an episode of "Say Yes To The Dress" coming up on Friday and one of the clients trying on dresses at Kleinfelds is a man. You could check that out to get ideas.

I hope it's okay for me to say this, but how much of a problem will this cause in your relationship with your parents? I am particularly unfond of parents who force their lifestyles and such onto their kids, so I can definitely appreciate not wanting to be pushed into something you don't want for your wedding. However, this is going quite far in the other direction and that might make things strained with them. Just a thought. I hope I didn't offend.

[lilmsjess]

[quote=doris27;392786] Also, there is an episode of "Say Yes To The Dress" coming up on Friday and one of the clients trying on dresses at Kleinfelds is a man. You could check that out to get ideas.



haha....i watched it! he was trying it on to show the bride(his friend) the style he thought she needed to try on! and crazily, it actually looked pretty fabulous on him!!! ;)

[dshardw]

friday the 24th? i'll keep an eye out for it. what channel?

[lilmsjess]

hey? i just got an email saying there was a response here..but there's not! did one of ya'll already delete it? was it spam? i'm so LOST, especially since it said something 'bout bathin suits :rofl: