Stressed out Hubby!!!!

[CindySue]

Last night Brian and I got into a HUGE fight over......well......nothing. My mom got in yesterday from spending almost 3 months in Florida. She wanted my 3 boys for a few days.....yipee!!!!, but called right when i was getting ready to leave work and asked if I could bring them to her and she would order pizza. Um.....ok.....not what I had planned, BUT she had been on the road for 3 days and I was getting rid of my "caos crew" for the rest of the week. Doesnt take a rocket scientist to know what I was going to do.
Brian had to go to the airport this morning to pick his daughter up. She is flying in from Virginia to visit for a month. The house was clean but needed to be dusted, vacuumed, etc. Just minor stuff thats hard to do with little kids around. Wasnt going to take me an hour to do tops, and I was going to get it done as soon as I got back. (Brian didnt go because he had other things he needed to get done before today.) Anyway, he took it upon himself to start cleaning and then started b*tching at me when I walked in like hes had to come home EVERYDAY after work and clean the house. Hello???? I dont think so. That p*ssed me off. The were some chores that the kids hadnt done, and he tore into me over that. I asked him before we left if they had done what he asked. He didnt get up and check. Oh well.......he should have made sure they had done this stuff before we left. Now he has to wait until they get home to punish them. I dont even know what all he asked them to do, so I wasnt able to do the follow up.
He had me soooo mad that I slept on the couch. Ok...I didnt mean to, I was just laying there thinking and next think I know I hear the sprinklers come on at 6am.
I was at a loss because I really didnt know what exactly was going on. He finally admitted this morning that he is anxious about seeing his daughter. There had been some stuff happen with her back at home and for some reason, thats been thrown on Brian to handle. We dont agree with this of course, because we dont know what her home enviroment is like. I stay out of it for the most part because its not my daughter and I dont know the whole story on everything. When he asks for my advice I give it to him.
I dont like that he was sooo stressed out that he took it out on me. I guess me not being there, he had too much time to think and no one there to listen to him talk about it.
He has apologized to me several times already, but Im still so pissed I cant see straight. I know I will get over it, because it wasnt anything serious, just my husband venting AT me instead of TO me. Ive had a few of those moments myself.
I just needed to vent to someone myself......Thanks yall for listening.

[cowboysbride]

Oh for crying out loud..... Hell you do that stuff everyday...deal with things, clean, cook, and pick up after the kids. You vent away darling, in the immortal words of Mindy McCready (not the best example LOL) "When the shoes on the other foot, you know it's when it hits the fan"!

Sorry you had a bad night, don't be too pissed, he's a man...he can't help it!

Hope this cheers you up....

God was standing in the gardens after he made woman marvelling at the wonder and beauty he had just created. Woman asked God why she had 3 breasts...two would be to nurture her children but what should she do with the other one? God pondered that question then removed the useless boob and made man!

[CindySue]

Oh for crying out loud..... Hell you do that stuff everyday...deal with things, clean, cook, and pick up after the kids. You vent away darling, in the immortal words of Mindy McCready (not the best example LOL) "When the shoes on the other foot, you know it's when it hits the fan"!

Sorry you had a bad night, don't be too pissed, he's a man...he can't help it!

Hope this cheers you up....

God was standing in the gardens after he made woman marvelling at the wonder and beauty he had just created. Woman asked God why she had 3 breasts...two would be to nurture her children but what should she do with the other one? God pondered that question then removed the useless boob and made man!
I know.....have him do something, and OMG :bbeek: . He siad he was just trying to help so that I wouldnt have so much to do when I got home. I told him not to try and help anymore :bbconfused: .......... Actually I think he didnt like the house being empty and doesnt want to admit he misses the brats as much as I do.
Useless boob....I like that!!!!!
Thanks Ellen. Hey, who was it that sings the song "I just want to be mad for a while"? I think thats me right now. Im not ready to kiss and make up.

[brewsells]

FH and I have had the same fight before. I guess it is too much for them to clean every now and then. As if I don't do it everyday. The one that urks me is when he gets his 2 days off in the middle of the week, nothing is done. Still waiting for me when I get home from work.
At least Brian understood why he was edgy though. Gotta give him credit for that.

[cowboysbride]

I know.....have him do something, and OMG :bbeek: . He siad he was just trying to help so that I wouldnt have so much to do when I got home. I told him not to try and help anymore :bbconfused: .......... Actually I think he didnt like the house being empty and doesnt want to admit he misses the brats as much as I do.
Useless boob....I like that!!!!!
Thanks Ellen. Hey, who was it that sings the song "I just want to be mad for a while"? I think thats me right now. Im not ready to kiss and make up.

That's Terry Clark...awesome song, pissed off at you but I still love you now go away!

Gretchen Wilson sings a similiar song and the Dixie Chicks (don't ask me what I think of them), have one "Not Ready to Make Nice"...I hated the song at first but then I took the meaning of it and molded it to my ex! LMAO

[CindySue]

Dont care for the Dixie Chicks either.....
Holly, I know where your coming from there. Brian will say something at 10pm about not having socks, undies, etc.....and Im wondering if he forgot how to use the **** washer........
Brian will cook out on the grill a lot and hes made the comment before about having to cook.....I have to remind him that it was HIS idea to cook out on the grill in the first place, and he wont let me touch it.........
But yeah, Ellen, thats it......I love ya, still pissed at ya, dont know if I wanna choke ya or kiss ya, you might wanna just go away till Im ready to make nice.........

[WhiskeyGirl]

Sorry Brian got into a pissy mood...so not the time, but then when is the right time right?? lol. I'm sorry you guys had a fight like that. A few months ago, Matt and I were at each other's throats for a week straight. We couldn't look at each other without screaming at each other for something. Then when we got to the bottom of the whole pile, we realized it was his family stressing us out and we stepped back and re-evaluated. We finally even talked to his dad about things, and ya know, everything got better. I hate stress it makes us all monsters!! lol. It'll get better but I know that you know that already!!

Love Ellen's joke about man being that useless boob!!

Take care Cindy!!! :)

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Michael has done that **** before. (He was pissed off about him and his father arguing and tried taking his stress out on me and I let him have it!) That whole day I didn't feel like talking to him but we got over it around dinner time finally! LOL! :) Hopefully you guys can resolve things before bed time! I hate going to bed angry!





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[CindySue]

Well I asked Brian yesterday if we were going to talk about the fight or were we going to just let it go. We talked on and off all evening. Things are ok....and Im not mad at him anymore. Hes a great husband and it never crossed my mind that our marriage wasnt going to work, but he thought I was going to tell him I wanted a divorce.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Isn't it kind of funny that men will almost always jump to the worst conclusion ever? Silly guys!! Glad you worked things out! :)

[AngelinLove]

I can honestly say that Joel very rarely atkes hsi stress and frustration or anxiety out on me. He suually doesn't vent at me or to me. He just deals with his stuff on his own. I try to get him to talk to me, but he usually doesn't, becuase it just makes him madder and makes him rehash whatever has pissed him off in the first place. As for the helping out and cleaning thing...well he really does more than I do. He gets hoem everyday before me...so he usually does the grocery shopping (which I hate doing, by the way), cooks dinner and keeps on top of the laundry. He is not one for cleaning up his messes though, so I usually sweep, wipe down the counters, and all teh little cleaning stuff. I love him...but sometimes I do vent at him, which happens more than I would like...so maybe I need to put myself into check here...lol!!!

[rainbowtreat]

Its seems I dont have the time these days to keep updated on what is going on with you all.

Cindy I am glad thigns got worked out between you two. It is funny how guys think sometimes.

I married Nicholas right....... well wejust emptied the storge unit I had ebcause the other place was too small. Well going through my hope chest I came across everything from my fist wedding. It felt weird and I dont hate my ex by any means so I was unsure what I was going to do with it all.

Nicholas just asked if I was ok. And later asked if I was still sure he was the one I wanted to be with. I was like HELLO I married you didnt I. I said yes Jason and I were together a long time but he is not fo rme. You are. It took me my whole life and a few wrongs turns to find you but here we are.

I wonder how guys get through the days sometimes with the way the think.

[WhiskeyGirl]

I wonder how guys get through the days sometimes with the way the think.

Don't we all!! lol

[SueMartin]

men.. who'd have them? oh well at least you talked about it..

[CindySue]

men.. who'd have them? oh well at least you talked about it..
Well I guess we will because they are great for sex and lifting heavy objects.....

[MOB Karen]

Well I guess we will because they are great for sex and lifting heavy objects.....

LOL!! Good one, Cindy!:bblol:

[CindySue]

LOL!! Good one, Cindy!:bblol:
Well H3LL. I love my husband but hes not good for much else.......:D
Nah, hes a good guy and he does a whole lot more around the house since we got married than he did before. Its never really been an issue because we have the cheap child labor so its not like I have to do everything.

[MOB Karen]

Well H3LL. I love my husband but hes not good for much else.......:D
Nah, hes a good guy and he does a whole lot more around the house since we got married than he did before. Its never really been an issue because we have the cheap child labor so its not like I have to do everything.

LOL!!....cheap child labor... LOL!!

[CindySue]

LOL!!....cheap child labor... LOL!!
Yeah, but apparently they are Union, because I think they may have gone on strike!!

[MOB Karen]

Yeah, but apparently they are Union, because I think they may have gone on strike!!


This diet has sharpened your wit this morning!! Maybe fattening foods bog the brain down. lol You're firing on all pistons this morning, Cindy!!! LOL!! I love it!! Keep them coming!!! :bblol:

[CindySue]

This diet has sharpened your wit this morning!! Maybe fattening foods bog the brain down. lol You're firing on all pistons this morning, Cindy!!! LOL!! I love it!! Keep them coming!!! :bblol:
Well Brian and I discussed it and we arent sure which we are giving away 1st....the kids or the animals.......
We did watch the movie "Yours, mine and ours" last night and Brian has to admit that we dont have that much caos!!!!! At least mine have never thrown a watermelon down the stairs.....of course we dont have stairs...........

[MOB Karen]

Well Brian and I discussed it and we arent sure which we are giving away 1st....the kids or the animals.......
We did watch the movie "Yours, mine and ours" last night and Brian has to admit that we dont have that much caos!!!!! At least mine have never thrown a watermelon down the stairs.....of course we dont have stairs...........


LOL!! You're too good this morning!! Save some for this afternoon, Cindy!!!! :D

[CindySue]

LOL!! You're too good this morning!! Save some for this afternoon, Cindy!!!! :D
Have you seen that movie Karen? We were rolling!!! 18 kids in one house is just asking for disaster!!!

[MOB Karen]

Have you seen that movie Karen? We were rolling!!! 18 kids in one house is just asking for disaster!!!

I saw the original with Lucille Ball and I saw the remake. Both were hilarious!! There was a lot of love in those houses though. :)

[CindySue]

I know.....I really liked it. I didnt see the original.

[rainbowtreat]

I loved the original. I want to find it and watch it again. I did see the newer one as well and loved it But I realy want to see the orifinal again. When they remake a movie that I loved as an older movie I am hesitent to watch it but they always seems to be ok. Like Double Trouble ( not sure that is the name of it ) Where the twins were seperated one with mom and oen with dad and they meet at a summer camp and switch places. I loved the arignal. The newer one was ok. Sorry Cindy didnt mean to take over you thread.

[SueMartin]

that movie was originally called the Parent trap with Hayley Mills. Hell, how old am I?? that i remember that?/