Is it normal to have more than one Godmother?

[Jettadear]

FH's best friend and one of my old coworkers (FH and I met through the Father) just had a baby boy. Fh was made the god father. Nether the father or mother said anything about me so I just assumed that the mother would pick one of her close friends to be the godmother. No biggie. During the labor. I was in the waiting area with FH and the fathers parents. One of the grandmothers mentioned that she felt that the father couldn't have picked better people to be baby Rowans godparents. So I asked who the god mother was. They all laughed at me and said that I was. The father had walked in when I asked and laughed and said that I couldn't be the godfather. So I had to be the godmother.

I was perfectly happy with being the stepgodmother. lol Now that I got throughly excited about being the godmother and filling every roll of the position I find out that I am not the only god mother. The mother did name one of her friends as the godmother. Ive never heard of having more than one godmother. Is that possible? Or do I need to just accept that I am the stepgod mother?

[Brian's Bride]

Is this their first child? I've only heard of one set of godparents. But then their spouses would maybe be step-godparents? I had my brother and aunt chosen for Godparents for my son, and I don't consider their spouses to be anything. Hmmm...

[Jettadear]

Its their first child. Both parents told me that if anything happened to them that they didn't want Rowan to go to their parents. They are writing FH and I into their will as the legal godparents. Mothers parents aren't around and Fathers parents have health issues. I just found it rather strange when the other girl was bragging that she was the godmother to me and her friends. I was raised catholic and you only get one godmother and godfather. I don't mind being the stepgodmother. I love Rowan and he is welcome in my home anyday no question. We wouldn't even think twice if something happened to his parents. I know its no biggie if Im the technical godmother or not, I know that if anything happened Rowan would always have a place with FH and I.

[Brian's Bride]

I really like the name Rowan. I think Brooke Shields named her daughter that, didn't she? It must a new unisex name!

[amisteratwisterandme]

I have heard of people having more than one. There are also different conotations to it. Some people ask that the Godparents help guide their child through their spiritual journey and others ask that they raise the baby if something should happen to the parents. One of my friends has two godmothers.

I have never heard of "step godparent" but I suppose you could call yourself whatever you want to.

I don't see any problem sharing the title.

[Jettadear]

It isn't exactly a term. I started using it to try to explain that I was ok with not being the godmother if they didn't want me to be. Some people say it and are truley upset but I really am fine with it. Whether or not I have the title, I will have a role in Rowans life Ive just never heard of having more than one godmother. The stepgodmother is kind of a running joke now.

[amisteratwisterandme]

It isn't exactly a term. I started using it to try to explain that I was ok with not being the godmother if they didn't want me to be. Some people say it and are truley upset but I really am fine with it. Whether or not I have the title, I will have a role in Rowans life Ive just never heard of having more than one godmother. The step godmother is kind of a running joke now.

Hmmm... I don't know. Did the father say you are the godmother? I am perplexed. It could very well be that they want all of you as God Parents. My bf made me Godmother to her oldest child, but it was as part of a religous ceremony and not to raise him if something happened.

[SunnyAB]

I have seen more than one godmother, and actually my grand-niece (great-niece?) will have me as the godmother and two godfathers - we are Catholic. I think 'technically' if there are two, one is more prominent - or 'legal' for lack of better word, they are the one whose name is on the baptismal certificate (one godmother, one godfather) :)

As for raising the child - you have to appointed as the guardian, not the godparent. As someone said, godparent is the spiritual influence, guardian is the legal 'just in case' parent.

[mitch]

Usually if the Child is a Boy there is One Godmother and Two Godfathers.

If the Childs a Girl then it's Two Godmothers and One Godfather.

I don't think nowadays there is any real rule to it all.

When i was Married to the Ex-Husband. His Sister had Three Children. Twin Boys and One Girl. They were all Christened the same time. (Infact their Parents got Married the same day and then had the Christening at the same Church)

If memory serves Me right there were about 25 Godparents in total for the Three Kids. :bbeek:
The Ex, Myself and the Kids other Aunt were Godparents to all Three. The rest were Friends of the Parents. Some had the Sons, some had the Daughter as Godchild.

It was crowded at the Font. And the Vicar wasn't best pleased when My Mobile (Cell) Phone went off.

It plays "Highway To Hell" by AC/DC. :rofl:

[Jettadear]

Fh and myself are both the god parents and guardians if anything happens to the parents. We are going to their lawyer Tuesday to set it up. Turns out that the other god mother only got the title because she kept deemed it herself. She was never asked. Strange. I have a bridesmaid that thinks shes a maid of honor for the same reason. I don't have the heart to tell her no. So it turns out I am both the god mother and the guardian if anything should happen.

[amisteratwisterandme]

Fh and myself are both the god parents and guardians if anything happens to the parents. We are going to their lawyer Tuesday to set it up. Turns out that the other god mother only got the title because she kept deemed it herself. She was never asked. Strange. I have a bridesmaid that thinks shes a maid of honor for the same reason. I don't have the heart to tell her no. So it turns out I am both the god mother and the guardian if anything should happen.

Isn't is wierd how people need a title to feel validated? My friend that has 2 godmother's does call them by different "special" names, but since it is in Spanish I can't remember what they are. They are also catholic so maybe that's why he has 2? I don't know for sure.

Are you going to do anything special with the religous aspect of it? On the date of my Godson's blessing I try to get him something that reflects my acknowledgement of the fact that I was selected. I have gotten him a children's bible, christian games (age appropriate) then we he got older I got him an adult bible.

[SunnyAB]

I have always gotten something for my godchildren as well. This one is kind of tough though - I was going to give her a beautiful (if I do say so myself - it's SO soft!) blanket I had crocheted (before 'arthir' took custody of my fingers and hands) *sigh* I had actually made it for my own children (but that never did happen :( - sorry don't want to get into a long sobby story) but my godchild's grandma - my sister - bought her a blanket. Then I was going to buy the christening dress, but she might wear her mommy's - so I might pay the officiant a thank you stipend (although for us, the godfather usually does that) - and get just a little something memorable. Maybe a little statue or picture frame or something. Everything depends on something else, so I guess I will just have to be patient. :)

[Jettadear]

Well, Rowans parents aren't very religious so there may or may not be a religious ceremony. Basically, FH and I will be a support network. I finally got to hold Rowan for a decent length of time and I don't think I could love him more if he were my own.

[SunnyAB]

Awww.. thats wonderful Jetta! You sound like a very loving and caring person, and I think little Rowan is a very lucky little one to have you in his life! Congratulations and best of luck!!

[lilmsjess]

we have a few sets, actually and kind of for good reason.....

our "lives" are set like this. now, i have never asked who the godparents to my FSD and FSS are...
but for alex it is like this.
i have a $75k life insurance policy. alex's godfather is FH's friend(who i've spoken about on here-and ONLY he was chosen)...my life insurance goes 1st to my mom, who will divy as needed. if something happens to her, it goes to my best girlfriend.

alex's godmother is my best girlfriend. my life insurance would then go to my best guy friend, who will divy as needed.

in the extremely slight possibility all 5 of us parish, then my sister (now 14) who is a 2nd god mother, will have my son, with my brother(aged 22) divying out as needed. in the event my sister is not 18 should we perish, alex goes to my brother, and then to my sister.....at first we thought that possibly unstable, but since alex would know them both very well, it wouldn't be strange to him.....

i know to some it may sound crazy, but i do not want the person taking alex to have immediate and ready availability of such an amount of money...in fact, the reason that my life insurance would go to my girlfriend in the event of fh's friend getting alex, is because i fear that somehow his SO would convince him to spend it on irrelevant costs...to me, if i were to die tomorrow, it costs about $800/mo to raise alex(that's with daycare-which we don't have now)...so $75k, would go ooooohhhh, for about 20 years. if friends girl managed to get hands on it, it'd last less than 10 years