Adult Wedding only-But MOH is having a baby 2 months before

[Maid of Honor]

:cry: Hi I'm the MOH in a wedding that the bride asked me, my husband and my 2 year old to be in about 5 months ago (she knew I was prego)..I'm the MOH, my husband is BM and my 2 yr old is RB....The wedding is 6 hours away and she just informed us that it is an adult wedding only and my newborn whom will breastfeed cannot come....so with that said...We will need to now bring a babysitter which is fine but I asked her to make an exception for us given the circumstances of it being so far away and our entire family is in except our new baby. I feel like our whole family is in it and she is asking alot of us financially, etc that she can at least make this exception for me.....to have my new baby there too. She said she cannot make exceptions for one person and not others, but my whole aurgument is WE all are in the wedding, other guests are not. So I am being unreasaonable by requesting this even though it her "day" or should she let me bring the baby??? I am at the point of stepping down unless she allows the newborn. Am I wrong or have a valid reason for feeeling the way I do.

Thanks :cry:

[WhiskeyGirl]

I have strong opinions about "adult only" weddings and that I think that they are wrong, but to each their own and I will keep it to myself. As far as this person goes, obviously you are good friends with her otherwise she would not have chosen you to be the Matron of Honor. I don't think that you are being unfair, if they allow your son to be the ring bearer and since you WILL be breastfeeding I think she should allow you to have your NEW born baby there. That said, yes although she is the bride and it is her wedding, well if it were me personally, I would say yes for you and your whole family being there. Maybe you may have to step down, that would in my opinion be the last resort. I would just tell her that you are honored that she has picked you, but that you and the baby are a package deal. Some might say that you could do the whole pump thing, but I think two months old is quite young to do that to, I would simply talk to her and if talking doesn't get you far then stepping down maybe the answer. Also, have you talked with your husband about this? Since he is the Best Man perhaps he could talk with the groom who could in turn talk to the bride. (? Just a suggestion.) Or all four of you could sit down and discuss this...I'm sure other people who are not allowed to bring their children to the wedding will understand when they realize that it is a new born baby there, that needs to be breast fed! I hope it all turns out for the best for you. Good luck, and I guess thing to do is keep talking.

~CanadianBride~

[totalia]

I agree. I think adult only weddings are wrong.

In your case though, I think its even worse to ask a new mother to leave her newborn behind just for a party.

[ndsimm]

I agree as well, how can you have an adults only reception and have children in the wedding who are probably expecting to go to the "party" afterwards. I know it's her day, but your request is valid.

[WhiskeyGirl]

So....what was the verdict? Have you talked to the bride? If so what did she say? I've been wondering what happened there? Let us know,

~CanadianBride~

[mrs.Rodriguez_to_b]

I don't think that it is fair for those people from your family and friends that have kids to have to choose between their children and a party! Expecially in my family when all my friends and sisters have kids! I don't agree with that adult Wedding. It is just not fair for other people. :cry:

[LaceyinPgh]

People have adult receptions for lots of different reasons. I am having one to keep costs down and to give our friends a nice night out which they all seem to appreciate. By chance is the reception in a hotel that you and your family could stay at? If so maybe the bride to be could help you find a reliable and trustworthy sitter to be with the baby in your room, that way you could just slip out to check on them and nurse the little one.

[neeni13]

I would suggests that she help pay half for the sitter if not all. Other guest would not be upset by a 2 month old being there. If you would consider stepping down, I hope this doesn't effect your friendships. What does she think the spotlight will be off of her because of a baby?

[grace_smith03]

I'm having adult-only wedding, but would NEVER dream of requesting that you leave your newborn. You have the option to politely decline being a MOH.

GL!