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[Karyanne20]

So I found out I am pregnant yesterday. Not planned. My fiancé is not happy. I don't know how I feel. My family is very happy though. I'm scared because my fiancé didn't come home last night. Any helpful advice?

[L.J.Aguirre]

So I found out I am pregnant yesterday. Not planned. My fiancé is not happy. I don't know how I feel. My family is very happy though. I'm scared because my fiancé didn't come home last night. Any helpful advice?

I found out I was prego in december. I was unhappy because it was unplanned too but now I'm so happy. you know what made me feel better though??? A good old congratulations. And good luck with whatever decision you make! *ehugs*

[RosieAngel]

So I found out I am pregnant yesterday. Not planned. My fiancé is not happy. I don't know how I feel. My family is very happy though. I'm scared because my fiancé didn't come home last night. Any helpful advice?

I know it's scary right now, but everything will be okay! I'm sure your FH will come home once he's calmed down a little. He loves you!

I don't have any advice regarding whether or not to have/keep the baby, since that is a very personal decision that only you can figure out the answer to. But your friends in the computer will support you no matter what. :hug:

[WebLady]

I am sorry you are going through this :hug:

I would guess your FH is just scared and freaked out ... were you guys planning kids at some point?

All the best :flower:

[Karyanne20]

Sorry for the misconception, I was talking about being scared of doing it on my own, not whether or not to keep it. We actually have talked about it in a year or two, but right now we just bought a business, so money is very short! I know he is just freaking out, but it is very stressful to wait by the phone!

[WebLady]

Well, if your FH leaves you because of this then he is a pretty cr@ppy guy.

Hope the best for you :hug:

[flyerso6]

I agree if he leaves you that is pretty cr@ppy of him. Its not like you did this to yourself. But I just wanted to say congrats! and good luck with FH.

[bichonlvr]

Bummer he is freaked out! It will all work out the way it is supposed to!

When was the wedding planned for?

[ally20o7]

That really stinks, I'm sorry that things aren't happening when you want them to. Hopefully the fiance will turn around and realize this is something to be happy about, even if money is tight.

[Karyanne20]

Thanks everybody. So our wedding is scheduled for 4/24 and there is still no word from him tonight. I've called and texted so many times!

[savepaws]

I'm sorry you are going through this. And I'm especially sorry that your fiance is making you go through this alone. :( You two should be dealing with this together. With less than a month til your wedding, it sounds like he's freaking out. Maybe it's just cold feet or maybe he's looking for an excuse to bail?

Either way I hope he grows up and comes to his senses soon!

[Goin2thechapel]

He doesn't sound like a good man for walking out on you...Maybe this was a small blessing in disguise :) Best of Luck hun, and we're all here for ya if you wanna chat/vent!

[Danielle9608]

I am so sorry he walked out on you. I really feel for you! Like the other ladies said though, if he leaves you over this he is not a very good man! I do hope he comes to his senses soon!

[Brian's Bride]

Best wishes on everything! Maybe your FH is needing time to absorb everything, but that sucks he's not around. And to not even text you back to let you know he's okay? That's cr@ppy.

[bichonlvr]

Any word? I guess I never understand when the dudes freak...he had a MAJOR part in making the baby! His little swimmer got to your egg...not like YOU put it there!

Hope it all works out and he pulls his head out of his bum!

Sounds like you have a lot of talking to do...

[Nekochanpurr]

Good luck hun, and congrats on your baby!

[BnB]

Well, if your FH leaves you because of this then he is a pretty cr@ppy guy.

Hope the best for you :hug:


I totally agree with this

[Qtpie]

Oh honey, I am so sorry your FH freaked out and ran. I hope you have heard something. I will be thinking of you and hopefully your FH comes to his senses and comes home to you with a good reason for being such a jerk at this time in need.

[Hope75]

He doesn't sound like a good man for walking out on you...Maybe this was a small blessing in disguise :) Best of Luck hun, and we're all here for ya if you wanna chat/vent!

I agree with this. I hope he came to his senses and came back to support you in this.

What ended up happening?

[Karyanne20]

Ok, so he came home 2 days ago, but didn't want to talk to me about it. After that, he left for another night. I'm so confused and scared because I have had cramping and I don't know if this is normal or not. He should be home tonight and hopefully we will have a nice talk and see how we can work this out. I'm terrified of being a single mom.

[FFC]

Ok, so he came home 2 days ago, but didn't want to talk to me about it. After that, he left for another night. I'm so confused and scared because I have had cramping and I don't know if this is normal or not. He should be home tonight and hopefully we will have a nice talk and see how we can work this out. I'm terrified of being a single mom.

I'm sorry that he's not cooperating :irked: I hope that you two can sit and talk this through like grown ups. I mean, you were planning on getting married, and you were planning on kids - down the road, right? So it happened a little sooner than planned. He played just as much a role in planting that seed as you did - he needs to buck it up and take responsibility.

I understand that you're scared of being a single mom. However, if it were to come down to that (not saying it will), please keep in mind that if he doesn't want that baby, then that baby is better off without him. Think about what's best for your child. I'll be praying for you and your FH in hopes that you can work things out for the better.

[amisteratwisterandme]

I agree. Don't let fear guide you. You have the ability to be an awesome parent, with or without him. Of course it's scary, but you have your families support. You aren't alone.

[dizy1j62881]

Oh sweetie, I'm sorry I'm just now catching this thread...I know exactly how your feeling...Little history to give you an idea how things do always work out. When I found out I was preggers with my angel the "sperm donor" decided til i was 4 1/2 months pregger and living with him to tell me "I wasn't marrying material". And it was the day after Thanksgiving too...Long story short..moved home, met my FH when I was 6 months along and we've been together since. My son only knew my FH as his daddy and the other person never saw him and I haven't talked to him since the day Nicholas was born. I was terrifed of being a single mother...but we are given everything for a reason. Never more than we can handle...trust me on this. If he is being like this already, then what happens when the baby gets sick... Its not just you at this point...you have this little person growing inside you and its a happy occasion. Sit him down and figure out whats going on his head. If you feel like there is any caution or 2nd thoughts then hold off on the wedding. I can't even tell you how many times we've changed dates!!! But everything works out in the end. feel free to PM me please, its always nice to know someone has been there before you. We are women and hear us "ROAR"!!!!!!

[JJsWifey08]

My story is similar. Ive been a single mother with all of my children since the guys didnt want anything to do with me or the kis. My last childs father didnt want to work and I was 5 months pregnant. After our breakup I spent 4 more months getting to know me. A couple of months after the birth is when I met my DH and weve been together and he accept my 3 children. Like she said everything happens for a reason.

[Chele&Chris]

First.. Congratualtions on the bundle of joy on the way... I'm sorry you have to go through this right now but please remember to take care of yourself and try not too get too stressed over it I know it's better said than done but many of us have been where you are now... my ex-husband left when our son was 2 months old in the middle of the night like a coward. I raised him on my own until FH came along and fell head over heels for both of us and now in 31 days we will be a complete family!