What was the one thing about your wedding that you weren't willing to compromise on?

[MOB Karen]

Tell us what was most important to you that you wouldn't change no matter what, and why.

[LaceyinPgh]

I can't pick just one. I wasn't willing to compromise on anything. That is why I kept total control. I knew exactly what I wanted and if I couldn't have it my way then I saw no reason to do it all.

[WhiskeyGirl]

For us, it was venue! And a lot of people wanted us to change it but we said NO WAY!! My mom even had the nerve to tell me it was too rich for her family, so I told her to tell them, not to come!! Unfortunately they still showed up!! lmao, can you tell we don't get along??

[darkangel090260]

for me its photo's

[Kacie_bride]

This was hard for me to answer, but I picked theme. My theme is Winter Wonderland. Of course I would change it if I was not getting married in the winter. I am having a lot of fun with my theme.

[Amber818]

Definitley my dress...it is a must!!

[MOB Karen]

for me its photo's

I realized after I posted this, I forgot to put a photographer! Sorry, dark angel!

[katieandalex]

It was really 2 of the options. I voted for food though. Mine were food and flowers. I said I wanted to have fresh flowers (at least for the bouquets and such) which I got. And then I also said I wanted this specific caterer for my wedding....which I got but it was kind of difficult to find a reception site that allowed outside caterers in....but we got it! Woo hoo!

[cowboysbride]

Theme definetly!

Eric is 100% cowboy, I am very westerny myself and there's just something about a man in boots, and a black stetson that gets my motor running! We met a western event, we live a western life and to me it was hands down gonna be WESTERN!

[MOB Karen]

Theme definetly!

Eric is 100% cowboy, I am very westerny myself and there's just something about a man in boots, and a black stetson that gets my motor running! We met a western event, we live a western life and to me it was hands down gonna be WESTERN!

Ok, my next poll is definitely going to be themes. It will be interesting to see what theme we are all going with. Give me a minute to create that one. :)

[cowboysbride]

Ok, my next poll is definitely going to be themes. It will be interesting to see what theme we are all going with. Give me a minute to create that one. :)

I am LOVING these polls, thanks for doing so much for all our YOUR brides Karen! I know your Amber's mommy but you really are the

MOOWB! Mother of One Wed Brides!

[MOB Karen]

I am LOVING these polls, thanks for doing so much for all our YOUR brides Karen! I know your Amber's mommy but you really are the


MOOWB! Mother of One Wed Brides!


Thanks for saying that, Ellen!! I really am trying!!!

[cowboysbride]

I know you are, and it shows! Thanks again!

[EarlyBird]

the band we are using is making my mom and dad so happy- it is expensive and i would have loved to have a cheaper one, but the look on my parents face as we dance to the same singer on our first dance as they did 25 years before will be soooo rewarding, and thats why i couldnt compromise on that

[ME&HIM]

a few things really..
like the color black
and roses for flowers
and my rock music
and my dress
and my vows
and the time
and the reception
and what my bridal party will be doing (walking wise)

yeah i dont comprimise

[MrsDM]

Yeah, I'm not willing to compromise on anything either. I have this vision and everything has to be perfect, no exceptions. A little bridezilla-ish? I suppose. Our families and us just want to throw the party of a lifetime!

[caligal85]

I'm unwilling to compromise about my dress because it's the one thing that's completely mine. I know I'm going to be such a pain when I go this weekend to start trying dresses on.

[RosieAngel]

I was willing to compromise on just about everything. FH actually had more say in the planning and overall look of the event than I did, and I'm glad! I'm not an interior decorator and I don't know anything about cake.

The one exception was the venue. It was so beautiful! We just had to get married there! I wouldn't change our location for the world!

[mitch]

Ours was none of those listed. But i did insist on Marrying FH on a "Special" date. As it turned out, it's Six Years to the day since i first met Him.

I was flexible on most things.
Blimey, i changed My Dress, My Bouquet, FH's Tie, What to wear in My hair, The Guest List, The Food, The Drink, The Honeymoon.

But FH insisted on Our Witnesses. He wasn't going to budge on that for anyone. And i was behind His decision 100%.

[vicky_vicky]

CEREMONY SITE

The one thing I wont negotiate about my wedding is the church. I want a specific church and I wont change this even if I have to arrange my wedding two or three months later from what I plan.

[Nekochanpurr]

My dress... Cuz i'm wearing it! Heh. Other than that, i was super easy going..

[candars]

My dress, my next choice would be the venue we chose.

[Tadswife]

The music was the only thing we had a problem with. I was not compriminsing on that. My and dh have totally differant taste in music. But no way was I listening to 70's or 80's music all night! I would have pounded my head into the wall after dinner with that music:chair:

Everything else was easy flow!

[WebLady]

Other - I just wanted to get married and have our parents there; that is all that really mattered to me :grinhappy: Sure if we had more money we might have done more, but that isn't what it was really about.

[bad1500]

OTHER: My man :)

[WBandMe]

Definitely the venue. Our chapel is beautiful and even if everything else fell through I'd be okay if we were still there.

[He_calls_me_Angel]

Dress and the church, everything else I ended up compromising to make MIL happy, but we are married and happy, that is all that matters!

[MBS353]

Definitely Dress - positively no princess seams or polyester - and it took me months of searching.

[MrsBacon_092708]

I would not have changed themes for anything. We had a wester/cowboy theme. Everything else was negotiable.

[Jacobs_Girl]

Nothing! If I paid for it, its going my way! I believe in getting your moneys worth. After all I worked hard to earn it why should I let someone else have it for no reason?

The thing about it was I was getting so many opinions on what I should change and what is right TO THEM! From people who A. Never been married, B. DID NOT PAY ANYTHING FOR THE WEDDING and C. Has a big mouth and wont keep it shut!

[southern*belle*]

My DJ. My husband wanted a live band, since he's a musician, but I adamently wanted a DJ. It was one of the only things we fought about regarding our wedding. In the end, we comprimised and had a DJ inside the reception hall, and a live band outside, so everyone could wander in and out listening to a little of both!

[Danielle9608]

I guess our was ambiance/venue. We wanted to get married on a beach in sand, didn't really matter where though. Although in the end we really did like the venue we pick out of all the other "beach" venues.

[BarceloMayaPalaceBride]

I would never give up our Destination Wedding. Some people have given us **** about it, but they don't realize we would have had a HUGE wedding here in Colorado (and we didn't want a huge wedding, we wanted a small family/close friend wedding. :)

[Whitewater]

We are compromising and changing just about everything (mostly to make it fit into our small budget!), typically sort of organically as things come up. Like, 'Oh, ok, the original plan won't work, so . . . .let's try this instead! That looks nice and it does the job, so . . .cool!"

F'rinstance, the original plan was for a unity candle ceremony. Well, we're outside, there's probably not going to be any way to shield the candles from the wind (we may get an arch or something, but maybe not) so now the plan is to get sand for the Unity ceremony and then give the sand, after it's mixed, to our immediate family members, reserving some for ourselves to put on the mantle at home.

There is one thing Fiance and I aren't willing to compromise on and that's our photographer. We both want the best pictures we can afford and our photographer will do that for us! Our photographer really knows what he's doing, he's very talented and has a phenomenal eye for color and composition -- and he's extremely professional too. We won't compromise about him one little bit!

I don't have any pictures from my 1st wedding (long story) and Fiance's pictures from his 1st wedding are all with his ex, except 1 or 2, which aren't really very good. We both want to move forward from the past and have wedding pictures we can look at again and again and be proud of!


Whitewater