Our honeymoon is gone.

[Jettadear]

FH and I always knew that there were going to be obsticales to our honeymoon to orlando. Im graduating college and the position I am dying to get has a problem with vacation time. With the company, you have to accrue time off which means if I am hired in May I wont have accrued anywhere near enough time off to take a week off to do an orlando honeymoon in June. Due to the chance that we wouldnt be able to actually take the honeymoon, we held off on paying for anything other than the hotel. That actually was god send because it wasnt my hopeful job that stopped our honeymoon it was actually FH.

FH has a manditory meeting to become certified to teach in the state of Arkansas on June 25. That hits right in the middle of our honeymoon. He came home yesterday and told me that we would have to cut our honeymoon short. It would take one day to travel to and from Orlando which would only give us two days in Orlando. I feel like I officially lost a battle that I knew I was going to lose the whole time. We were going to see disney, harry potter world (that is until they delayed the opening date.), scuba off the beaches, discovery cove. All gone.

We may be able to salvage the scuba diving part by just spending a couple days and head into Missouri. Hell be close enough to the place the manditory meeting is that he can head to the meeting and when its over jump back into his honeymoon. But I doubt that will be an option because when I asked him about it, he didn't seem excited by the idea. I asked him this morning what he wanted to do on his honeymoon that would be close to home for him to be able to be at the manditory meeting. He told me he didnt know and gave me the impression that he doesnt even want a honeymoon at all.

I feel like fate is telling me to give it up, that a honeymoon just isn't going to happen for us. I offically give up. If FH finally decides that he wants a honeymoon afterall than he can plan it. Im tired of planning and replanning and it all not working out in the end no matter what I do. Im done with the honeymoon. At this point I am perfectly happy if we don't have one at all. Im tired of it all.

[MrsDM]

I'm sorry you are having a hard time with your honeymoon! Your right, maybe now isn't the right timing to take a long vacation. What about on your one year anniversary?

For us, we are waiting too. For two reasons, first, I wanted tp be able to enjoy our honeymoon without feeling like I have a million things to do at home and second, being that we live in Wisconsin, I wanted to escape the winter!

[Sugarzero]

We're postponing ours until our one year anni too since we can't afford a honeymoon :( I feel for ya

[Whitewater]

Nowhere does it say that you have to have a honeymoon right away! If your FH has to have this class on the 25th (which is only 5 days after your wedding, yikes!) and that would cut into your honeymoon that badly, then I think the best thing to do would be to cancel it and try again later.

You have made the right decision.

However, even though I know you're sick of planning and replanning and so on, I wouldn't give up on the idea entirely. It sounds to me that FH is just as frustrated and tired and irritated as you are, and so he's decided that the easiest and most helpful thing for his psyche and emotions right now is to write the whole thing off as a mistake. Give yourselves some time to get over this, and don't start planning again right away. You don't need that fuss right now!

In a few months, after you're married and after he's taken his class and life has settled down a little, then you may find yourselves thinking about honeymooning again -- and be excited about doing it.

You can go for your first anniversary, or for spring break, or for no reason at all, just to get away!

But for now, I'd put the honeymoon idea in mothballs. Obviously, it's not going to work out right now -- and that's ok. Doesn't mean it will never happen, just that right now isn't the right time.


Whitewater

[doris27]

I think in your shoes, I'd try to plan it for a week later than you had originally planned, if you can work out your work situations. Maybe spend the night in a nice honeymoon suite somewhere locally, have a normal week, and then have the honeymoon you've been planning after his meeting is over. Whatever you decide, I hope it works out, and things get better.

[RosieAngel]

Aww, I'm so sorry about your honeymoon! We had to postpone ours as well, and will be leaving for ours on out dating anniversary, next Saturday! :o It was really disappointing at the time, though. :hug:

Just... focus on accruing enough vacation time to have an anniversary-moon! I'm sure it will be just as special! :heart: Good luck and hang in there!

[savepaws]

Awww that is too bad. :( I agree with the others, you should plan it for another time. Maybe for your 1 year anniversary. That way if you do get the job, you'll hopefully have accrued some time off. We wanted to go somewhere really nice for our honeymoon but we decided to save our money (good thing too because now we are having to pay more for the wedding than originally planned). And now we're just headed to the Black Hills. Nothing fancy...we just want to get away and be alone together.

[f77g4]

I feel for you - we're not getting a honeymoon either since we are paying for the wedding ourselves - there just isn't the extra money. FH thought for sure we'd be getting one - I finally convinced him to take a look online and check out some prices - he soon wasn't long coming to the same conclusion I've said since the day after choosing our date - we're not geting one.

My only concern with not taking one right away and being like we'll take it next year is that money will always get reallocated elsewhere and it will never happen - my parents have been saying for about 10 years they are going to Cuba but it's yet to happen or even remotely happen - something always comes up.

So make yourself that promise that if you can't get it right after the wedding that you will no matter what take one on x date.

Your FH is probably just disappointed too hence his lack of excitment.

Good luck!

[Jettadear]

Thats a good point. We may be able to move it back by a week but I still have a couple weeks left til I know if I got the job. FH and I are holding off on making the decision of what to do until we find out. If I get this job, Ill hold off asking about it for a couple of weeks and then pop the question to my boss. Ive always been a planner and holding off on making decisions is just driving me crazy.

[ladybug8351]

Wow, I really hope you get everything for your honeymoon worked out. Me and FH have decided to wait till a year later to take our honeymoon. 1. we want to take a cruise in the summer, 2. it will be easier on the checkbook (FH wants to take me on a cruise that hits around Greece or somewhere around Europe, he's not into seeing the bahama's, lol), 3. it makes it easier on my job so I can take the week of the wedding vacation then take vaction time for the cruise as well, & 4. my 15 year old son will be going on the cruise with us, hence part of the reason for a summer cruise. I know it sounds funny taking the kid on a honeymoon, but him and FH get along like best buds and we 3 are always together doing things. Neither I nor FH could imagine going anywhere outside the U.S. without letting the kid experience it as well. We are getting a hotel for our wedding night though with a no kids allowed status :)

[WebLady]

Sorry to hear about this snag in your plans; I would be frustrated too, but it is not the end of the world :)

I am sure your FH is frustrated about it and that is probably why he doesn't seem excited about it now. Maybe you guys can discuss planning your trip for the next week or if that won't work then you can come up with a shorter/closer alternative trip.

As others have said, you don't "have" to have a honeymoon right away. Heck, you don't really "have" to have one at all ... it is nice to get away and spend some quality time together and relax, but you don't have to spend a lot of time or money to do that.

Maybe a weekend at a BnB would be an alternative idea ... maybe a couple nights at a local hotel, or maybe a nice quiet weekend at home. You can always plan a bigger vacation later when your schedules better permit.

All the best :frogg:

[Jettadear]

We made a twist in our plans for the honeymoon. FH and I decided that we are going to save our honeymoon. We both recently learned how to scuba dive and have itching to dive the lakes in our area. If we get to go to orlando, we are going to leave on the 21 and spend the day in tampa. On the 22nd and 23rd we will be at disney and head home on the 24th. His meeting will be on the 25th. Then on the 26-28th we will go scuba diving in the lakes close to home. My dad used to scuba dive in his years before he met my mother and FH and I convinced him to come with us when we go. Im loving this new idea of a honeymoon and I am so excited that my we are pulling my dad back into a hobby that he loved so much.

[Nekochanpurr]

Yay!! I'm excited for you. That sounds like fun. *^^*

[spuls5]

That sounds like fun. We aren't going on a honeymoon right away either. We will go next winter and escape the cold weather.