Venting!!

[lizloveskar]

I have been looking at wedding stuff for awhile and finally we are engaged. Now that we are i'm trying to figure budgets and ideas for exactly what i want. Since there is still almost a year till we get married my FH is getting annoyed that i am picking things out now. Its irritating i just want to pick what i want so i have time to change things and make arrangements.


*VENTING*

[Whitewater]

Just tell him that (depending on the popularity of the vendor and whether or not you have plenty of options in your town) you may already have run out of time to book vendors.

Just under a year is not too early to start planning. We had to book our photographer almost two years in advance, in October of 2007, to ensure that he'd be free.

Our florist too, was about to tell us that they were already committed, when I told her that we were getting married on a Wed and were they free that day? She said yes. We went to our florist about 8 months prior, maybe a little longer. 10 months? Something like that.

Depending on your home town, some things can get booked VERY quickly, particularly if you are getting married at a popular time.

Lots of guys haven't got the first clue about what goes into planning a wedding, and sometimes they don't know how fast vendors get booked.

But telling him things like this might help him realize that it's not too early at all!


Whitewater

[lizloveskar]

yeah i'm trying and plus i'm a girl. We get excited lol.

[SkippyNXC]

where i'm from u need to start planning 2 years in advance. I started 15 months b4 my date and actually had a reception hall laugh at me when i asked if they were available then he snorted they had been booked on my date for 3 years....

my FH had no interest in starting planning either so i started calling around and getting quotes and availability... when i realized we were under time constraints... i explained the situation and he eased up about the planning process... he still gets annoyed if i spend huge chunks of time talking wedding tho so I just give him snippets at a time.

at this point we've had a conversation about what he wants to be involved with and what he could care less about (i.e. photographer, limo, reception location) and what he actually cares about (food and music LOL) so I will update him on progress and involve him where he wants to be involved...

this has backfired tho b/c when i told him the colors he said they were "gay" and told me the colors HE was interested in... so now he's apart of that conversation too...

[lizloveskar]

Yeah. Well my mom and his mom are very excited so i talk to them and my sister about it. He says he is a guy and don't care. I told him what i want and he is just worried about if he gets to wear a tie lol.

[doris27]

I think explaining about how far in advance you have to book certain things is a good idea. And since he's not really into wedding stuff, maybe try to do most of it when he's not around...share the experience with female family members and friends who will be more enthusiastic.

[MyGowns]

Let him know that besides being excited, you want to be sure that you're able to get the things you want.

It's one thing if you can't do something because of price, but it would really be disappointing if you miss out on something only because you didn't book it when you had the chance.

[tk93]

I agree with everyone's seniments so far. A little under a year is NOT too far in advance.

We started planning in the spring of 2008, and most churches and reception venues at the top of our list were already booked through the end of 2009. We booked our photographer and DJ in June 2008 for our June 2009 wedding, and when my friends tried to get the same vendors for their weddings just weeks after mine, both were already booked up through fall 2009.

My FH wasn't all that interested at first in planning and had the same reaction as yours that I was stressing for no reason when we had all the time in the world. I had him call around to find us a church and he quickly came around realizing that 15 months out is not too early to be booking vendors.

[savepaws]

We only gave ourselves 7 months to plan our wedding. We got engaged in Oct. and wanted a June wedding and a lot of vendors were already booked for the whole summer & fall.

On one hand, I'm glad I have had a semi-short engagement just because I didn't want to wait a whole year to get married but planning-wise, it would have been helpful tot start planning a year (or more) ahead because we could have picked whatever date we wanted & could have had all the vendors we wanted.

[lizloveskar]

Yeah its kinda crappy now cause it feels like his mom doesnt want me to plan anything at all.