Am I not just as Important??

[dylansmom011908]

:irked:...seriously I think I'm gonna flip!!

I don't know if any of you girls remember me posting about this a while back, but for the sake of us all.. i'm gonna give a quick version of the issue:

Me and FH are getting married at Noon on 08/22/09, there is a couple getting married right after us at 1:30pm on 08/22/09.... can you start to see where the panic is coming from??

So.. I approached my priest with my concerns and told him that I'm a bit worried about the times being so close together. I'm not trying to be a B***ch or anything, but seriously..the last thing I want is another bride showing up with her wedding party and intruding in on my moment. (and out of respect for her.. i shouldn't be there getting mixed in with her glory either)

So... then I ask "well, what about picture time?" While I don't really care if we get pics done in the church as oppose to outside, FH really wants some at the Alter, so.. when i asked this.. the priest had the nerve tell me that me and FH will just have to go out into the garden and take pictures..."DID YOU NOT HEAR ME..FH WANTS PICS AT THE ALTER!!!"

I'm seriously about to flip! I'm on the verge of calling another parish and begging them to marry us on that day!!

Ugh.. 5 months till the wedding and I have to deal with the stress that my day may be ruined because some other bride's needs are more important than mine! :chair:

ugh! Any advice would be great!

ps..thanks for letting me vent!

[SkippyNXC]

my church has the same rule... my priest told me "our church isn't a photography studio... if you need pics taken here do it before your ceremony and during your ceremony but not after" if you want to take pictures afterwards you can go to our "grotto" (which is not pretty at all)"

i kinda understand that b/c they don't want ppl bogarting the time that the church needs for other activities (in our case we're the last wedding of the day at 2:30, there could possibly be a wedding at 1pm but nothing booked yet.... but they have a 5:30 mass to get ready for)

i know i'd hate to show up and find the previous wedding inside the church taking pics and not be able to set up for my wedding so I kinda understand the purpose of this rule...

[WebLady]

I am sorry this is happening to you; I would never book a place with more than one wedding in a day for this very reason ... they don't care about your wedding being your wedding, they just care about how much money they are making that day :snide:

One of the big reasons people book places is for how it will look in pictures ... Can you take your alter pictures before the ceremony? Of course this means you would have to see each other before the wedding.

Hope you work out something that you and FH can be happy with :flower:

[savepaws]

That sucks! Our church would never book 2 weddings on the same day! And the church is ours to use all day until 5:30 (because church service is at 6pm). I hope you can find something else!

[mitch]

When i got Married in 1992 they held Weddings every hour. :bbeek:

A few photos with the Car, BM's and PB before the cermony. I walked in at 4pm and was declared Man and Wife at 4.15pm. I know this because someone mentioned how quickly it was done. Then it was photos at the Altar, a few taken signing the Register then outside for some more pictures.

I never saw the Bride before or the one afterwards. And it wasn't until the announcement in the newspaper that We realised We knew one of the Grooms.

When i got Married again last October. We drove up and DH was standing outside with all our Guests. There was another Bride and Groom outside taking photos. Who incidently, i knew and so did My Friend who drove Me there.
I walked down and no one even looked round. There was no interuptions from either party and all went smoothly.

Unless You have been Married before there is no real way of knowing how long these things take. But in My experience i wouldn't worry too much about another Bride. They do have ways around these things for that reason.

To get Altar photos wont take too long. So i really can't understand why Your Priest said what He did.

[ChristineLS]

Is your wedding going to be a mass?

I would try to reapproach your priest and tell him this (I'm going to assume you're Catholic since you said priest and it's the religion I'm most familiar with):

I realize that you generally do not allow for pictures to be taken inside the church for scheduling reasons. However, we believe that marriage is an important and holy sacrament, and when we have pictures remembering the day we do not want to just think of the party aspect, but how God and the Church blessed this union. We also want it to be clear to other people who shared in this day and look at the pictures. For us, it means having a picture at the alter (in the house of God) where the blessing occurred, we became married and this is especially important to my future husband. If there is ten minutes free after the ceremony, we would be thrilled if we could do a posed picture before the next wedding begins.

If you're not really religious and he knows that, he may think you insincere... I'm trying to think of speaking the language of the priest, he may feel a bit jaded like he's a wedding factory or something. And that wouldn't be any fault of your own, put the result of over scheduling by the parish IMHO.

[dylansmom011908]

***UPDATE***

So, I get home after work yesterday and as soon as I walk in the door, my priest calls.

He asks me why i'm concerned with our wedding.

I tell him that the issue is with the the other couple possibly interferring with our time. And then there's the issue with pictures.. :irked:

Then he throws a curve ball and changes everything by saying... "what are you talking about.. i'm looking at my book and you and Allen are the only couple I have down for a wedding that day" :bbeek: WTF...??? Are you kidding me?? After 4 meetings on how I don't feel this is going to work and numerous ideas from you...the priest.. you tell me that you only have me and Allen listed?? I swear..he made it sound like I was the one loosing it and had made up this other couple in my mind!

I should feel a sense of relief..but instead I feel panic and fear! Did this guy go senial and forget to put the other couple in the book and now will be surprised when they show up? Or did they change their date because they realized how hard it would be on them? Will he even remember me and Allen are getting married that day??

Oh gosh.. i really don't need this!!! (leave it to me and my childhood dream to get married in a church.. allen was all for just having a pastor marry us at our reception location) *sigh*... wish me luck :whyme:

[WebLady]

How did you hear of the other couple in the first place; did the priest tell you?

Who runs the booking of the place? If it is not the priest, I would ask that person to make sure you (and him) are clear.

All you can do is get in writing the times you have booked and that you will be allowed to use whatever parts of the facility you wish during these times.

:goodluck:

[ChristineLS]

Is your priest generally forgetful?

[HisDelightfulFaerie]

Oh wow....good luck! I mean it's not like you just pulled another couple out of your behind.