Your friends

[WebLady]

Just curious; who do you find you relate more to ... men or women? Do you have more friends your age, younger or older?

Please share ... poll coming ;)

[Dani]

Seems we are both from different states and live in Illinois, mostly our friends are our work friends and it is a big mix of ages.

I still keep in contact with my best friend since grade school via phone/email, but I haven't seen her in 6 years or so.


We have a couple that we go out to dinner with a few times a year that Doug went to college with but other than that, it is usually work people or our neighbors that we do stuff with.

[WebLady]

Although I have a few friends that fall into several of the poll options, I am going to say that "most" of my friends (aside from my sister and DH) are probably my age or older.

Not that I really have a lot of friends, but the ones I talk to regularly are older. One of my fav friends is a lady that is old enough to be my Mom, but she is great to talk to and we have similar dogs, so I guess that is where our friendship started.

I do hang out more with my sister though since I see her about once a week. I will have lunch with a couple other friends (older) every now and then, but don't really hang out with anyone other than DH or my sister on a regular basis.

Phone, email, IM and MySpace is where I keep in touch with most of the people I know ... man, how sad do I sound :fear: I am glad to have all of my online friends too though ;)

[Dani]

Although I have a few friends that fall into several of the poll options, I am going to say that "most" of my friends (aside from my sister and DH) are probably my age or older.

Not that I really have a lot of friends, but the ones I talk to regularly are older. One of my fav friends is a lady that is old enough to be my Mom, but she is great to talk to and we have similar dogs, so I guess that is where our friendship started.

I do hang out more with my sister though since I see her about once a week. I will have lunch with a couple other friends (older) every now and then, but don't really hang out with anyone other than DH or my sister on a regular basis.

Phone, email, IM and MySpace is where I keep in touch with most of the people I know ... man, how sad do I sound :fear: I am glad to have all of my online friends too though ;)

Oh, yeah, I forgot to add, my friend on OW too! Though we haven't met face to face, I feel like we all know one another just like family if not better! :)

[Jacklynn]

hmmm I sadly still relate to my thread a few months ago about not having friends :)

haha... but before moving across (or down I guess) the country I relate better to guys. I HATE girly drama.

[WebLady]

I HATE girly drama.I hear that ;)

[gwenshack]

I, too, hate girly drama. :)

Most of my friends are guys my own age. Somewhere along the line I realized that all of the girls I knew (in face-to-face life at least - my OW ladies are awesome!) were sort of petty and worried about dumb stuff and constantly looked for and thrived on drama. I just wanted to watch basketball and drink beer, so I found people with similar interests. :)

[SerendipityCrafts]

I relate better to guys. I HATE girly drama.

Ditto.

I have four older brothers so I think that has a lot to do with it. Although I not a tom boy by any stretch of the imagination, I have always got on better with the guys.

[Whitewater]

I didn't vote on the poll because I couldn't seem to find something that best suited me.

Most of my friends are females my age, but there's a healthy sprinkling of men my age, and quite a few couples that are older, by quite a bit (retired).

I do not get along well with people younger than I am. In general college-aged kids treat me poorly, calling me names and so on (I recently had a college aged or slightly older guy in his 20's call me a 'dog' at the Target, for no reason other than, apparently, to hurt and humiliate me) and I dislike them immensely because they all seem so superficial and shallow, boys and girls alike. The boys don't seem to value anything other than sports, and the girls, god help them, measure people by totally unrealistic standards, including beauty and wealth. If you're not hot, young, and wealthy, they don't want anything to do with you . . . and that is FINE by me, I don't want to hang around people like that.

The college aged boys that live next door to us threw things at my dogs when I let the dogs out to play -- until I hollered at them to stop it OR ELSE. The unthinking rudeness and self-centered arrogance of that particular age group really bothers me.

So no, I don't get along well with people younger than I am. Never have, and probably never will.


Whitewater (you kids, get off my lawn!)

[WebLady]

I didn't vote on the poll because I couldn't seem to find something that best suited me.

Most of my friends are females my age, but there's a healthy sprinkling of men my age, and quite a few couples that are older, by quite a bit (retired).

I do not get along well with people younger than I am. In general college-aged kids treat me poorly, calling me names and so on (I recently had a college aged or slightly older guy in his 20's call me a 'dog' at the Target, for no reason other than, apparently, to hurt and humiliate me) and I dislike them immensely because they all seem so superficial and shallow, boys and girls alike. The boys don't seem to value anything other than sports, and the girls, god help them, measure people by totally unrealistic standards, including beauty and wealth. If you're not hot, young, and wealthy, they don't want anything to do with you . . . and that is FINE by me, I don't want to hang around people like that.

The college aged boys that live next door to us threw things at my dogs when I let the dogs out to play -- until I hollered at them to stop it OR ELSE. The unthinking rudeness and self-centered arrogance of that particular age group really bothers me.

So no, I don't get along well with people younger than I am. Never have, and probably never will.


Whitewater (you kids, get off my lawn!)
I thoroughly dislike the typical behavior of the younger age group too! I can't say it is everyone in that age group though, that is not fair, but it does seem to be a vast majority of them. And I am always telling the neighborhood kids to get out of my yard too :p

[ChristineLS]

I thoroughly dislike the typical behavior of the younger age group too! I can't say it is everyone in that age group though, that is not fair, but it does seem to be a vast majority of them. And I am always telling the neighborhood kids to get out of my yard too :p

I'm in that age group, and I'd say that sort of behavior does not characterize the people I hang around with... though it does remind me of some acquaintances. Honestly, it's the case of the squeaky wheel getting the grease and attention - those people are such a minority! Or maybe it's just my social circles of friends. I kind of resent those characteristics being applied to everyone my age, so I appreciate the qualifiers that you gave.

My friends tend to be the 20 (but I say that only because it's the approximate age of my FH's brother and my own brother) to about 30. After that, I find we run out of points to relate to - I do not own a house, have kids, and there is enough of an age gap that people (once they realize I'm 23 - people usually overestimate my age) look at me as a cute little thing instead of an intelligent creature. A former supervisor, who was awesome in just about all regards, used to blame her 21 year old step-daughter's irresponsibility on her age, and that used to irritate me. I know a lot of responsible 21 year olds, responsible using my parent's standards. They just get mistaken for older because people have such low expectations for the young, IMHO.

Though as far as co-workers go, I used to get a long with the older ones (especially the ones near retirement) really well.

My friends are pretty gender mixed - I'd say it's fifty fifty. I am just as comfortable with the male friends as I am with the female friends, but that's why they are my friends after all! :)

[WebLady]

I'm in that age group, and I'd say that sort of behavior does not characterize the people I hang around with... though it does remind me of some acquaintances. Honestly, it's the case of the squeaky wheel getting the grease and attention - those people are such a minority! Or maybe it's just my social circles of friends. I kind of resent those characteristics being applied to everyone my age, so I appreciate the qualifiers that you gave.

My friends tend to be the 20 (but I say that only because it's the approximate age of my FH's brother and my own brother) to about 30. After that, I find we run out of points to relate to - I do not own a house, have kids, and there is enough of an age gap that people (once they realize I'm 23 - people usually overestimate my age) look at me as a cute little thing instead of an intelligent creature. A former supervisor, who was awesome in just about all regards, used to blame her 21 year old step-daughter's irresponsibility on her age, and that used to irritate me. I know a lot of responsible 21 year olds, responsible using my parent's standards. They just get mistaken for older because people have such low expectations for the young, IMHO.

Though as far as co-workers go, I used to get a long with the older ones (especially the ones near retirement) really well.

My friends are pretty gender mixed - I'd say it's fifty fifty. I am just as comfortable with the male friends as I am with the female friends, but that's why they are my friends after all! :)
You are right about the "the squeaky wheel" thing; the bad apples often make the whole bunch seem bad when most are probably just fine ;)

[JJsWifey08]

i relate more to men but now Im married so I try to have more female married friends

[KMS]

Most of my friends are women older than me. I still keep in touch and are very close to a few friends from childhood, but most of my new friends are older women that I have met through school and work.

[LovingLife]

Most of my friends are women who are either my age, or older than I am.

[amisteratwisterandme]

I have friends from all age, class, and religion.

I have no problem being friends with younger or older people, I can't stand drama and constant craziness, so whether they are 20 or 70, if they don't have their act together i don't bother.

I tend to want to "fix" everyone, and some people either never learn, or never apply what they learn and grow from it. Drives me batty!

[EarlyBird]

Aside from my cousins, brothers and parents, who will ALWAYS be my best friends b/c they just are an awesome group (and of course fh)

i have had the same 5 best friends since i was very little.

There are two guys, who oddly enough are younger (but by 5 months)
one of the girls is younger by 6 months, and the other two are older within a year of me.

I have other "friends" or i would call acquiantances that could kind of make up the people i typically would like (cuz honestly, all my best friends and i are so different now that we are older, but would never part! esp since ALL OF US 6 are best friends)
mostly older, mostly female, cuz i find the older females esp since most have kids dont brng the drama i always hated..

[PGDesigns]

Most of our friends are guys, though the few girl friends we have are awesome. We try to avoid people with drama, but admittedly, some of our guy friends have more drama than the females.

The majority of our friends are older--anywhere from 1 or 2 years to 15 or 20 years, and we've got quite a bag of mixed nuts. HA!

Our friends are generally mutual friends, so when DH and I hang out with them, we're together. I've always been that girl that will play or watch sports with the guys, and they're generally happy to see a girl who knows her sports. LOL

[mitch]

Most of our friends that we get together with we met online. Some people find that wierd. :bbeek: But to us it's normal. After all, I met DH in the same Forum / Chatroom.
At Our Wedding Three Guests were people we knew from the Forum. They have been there for us through thick and thin over the years. They are all about two years younger than us.

Our friends in the band are all around our age. 38 - 46

A couple we get together with regular are our age and older. (She is 18 years younger than Him) I met Her through the Hotel.

Then there's a very good friend of the family who gave Me away at the Wedding. She is 68 this year.

So Our friends are a mixture of Men and Women ranging from 38 to 68.

Although when we all got together for the Wedding. We all acted, oooh, about 12 :rofl:

[Jacklynn]

I just realized this is very long :) Apparently it is an important topic to me.

I dislike them immensely because they all seem so superficial and shallow, boys and girls alike.

Not ALL people in their early 20's are as evil as some of the people you met. You were in your early 20's before and I'm sure you didn't act like that. I am in my early 20's as is my husband, and we may be the exception but we are just as mature and down to earth as most 30+ year olds we know ---- which is probably why we have such a hard time finding friends. We don't get along well with people our age all of the time, but people in our maturity range take one look at us and assume that because we are young we are immature.

I think it depends A LOT on your life experiences and how you were raised, and of course personality. Just don't write us all off, you might just find a good one here and there :) It is just like Christine said.

People look at me as a cute little thing instead of an intelligent creature. A former supervisor, who was awesome in just about all regards, used to blame her 21 year old step-daughter's irresponsibility on her age, and that used to irritate me. I know a lot of responsible 21 year olds, responsible using my parent's standards.

I get SOOOO annoyed by that. Yes some 21 year olds are still very immature. Heck my sister is living with (and sadly having a baby with) a 26 year old who still lives with his dad and has no job and doesn't care to GET a job--- but they are just a poor representation. I am 21 (22 in a few months), I have a B.S. degree from a 4 year university, I have been married for almost 2 years to someone I have been with for almost 8 years, I live over 1000 miles from my parents, have a full time job -- am looking at buying a home for ourselves and having a kid in the next year or so. Now personally I think that makes me more responsible than half of the 30 year olds out there haha

Though sadly for now, I certainly look my age.... if not younger. So I get the stereotypical looks, and comments when people realize I'm married. Assuming it is because we have a baby or that we are stupid for getting married "so young". SO many times people will see my ring and exclaim to us, "You two are MARRIED?! You are SO young!" and these are grown adult strangers who know nothing about us. How rude is that? Just as rude as those who called Whitewater names. When we do get preg. hopefully in this next year, I just know I am going to get rude comments because I will look like a high school girl who is having a baby. I will hear the "oh poor her, so young and having a baby"... uhh yeah, its on purpose and decided responsibly.

[TwoPeasinAPod]

I'm quite an oddball in that most of my friends are MUCH older than me (from 10-40 years). These are both males and females. However, I do have friends as young as 20 something too.

I tend to relate to people who are significantly older than me and always have. My FH is also a lot older than me! :)

[Lasko@~]

With the exception of FH who is younger than me, I get along best with males my age. It might be because they are who I meet at work and such or because I have a masculant personality. I would much rather talk about the steelers than the show john and kate. I prefer to go outside and play like fishing rather than go to coach. The only problem with my friends is FH is not a fan of so many other males in my life. I guess I don't blame him.

[Docsgirl]

I have a pretty eclectic mix of friends. lol

I've always been considered "one of the guys". I like skateboarding, surfing, rock music, video games(guitar hero, anyone?), art, would go with my guy friends when they'd get tattooed or pierced, and was totally comfortable with wearing the same clothes for days in a row, throwing a beanie on top of my non-brushed hair and going out to skate. Girls looked at me weird and I even had a few scoff at me, eh, I didn't care. Guys liked to hang out with me because I was a "cool" girl. That was me 3 years ago...lots of things have happened in those 3 years that have changed me immensely.

In those 3 years I've become friends with just as many girls as guys. I'm really not one for all girly drama, but it happens, and I've found some amazing girls that will rarely have the girly drama and there has never been any catty spats or anything between any of us. The ages range for guys and girls alike. My closest friend since I've moved is in her 30's and she's taking me under her wing when both of our husbands deploy this summer. It's my first deployment, and it's her 6th. I shower and change regularly now too...LOL! And I don't dress like a little tomboy...well, okay, I have some days when I do, but for the most part, I don't.

I can say though that no matter if I was grungy looking or artsy, or no matter how I looked to other people, I've always been genuinely nice to people, especially if I don't know them. Gotta know someone before you can choose if you like them or not, right? I have my days where I act 30, I have my days where I act 8. It happens, I'm in my early 20's.

[rubysync]

most of my friends are at the same age with me... I can get along with them easily...