WebLady
03-10-2009, 05:36 PM
I am sure I have posted this before, but it has been a while and I thought about it again today.
So here ya go ...
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There are a lot of things to think about while planning your wedding. But some people forget the most important thing. Are you absolutely sure you are ready for this and is this really the right person for you?! Or are you blinded by the idea of marriage and love?
Marriage is suppose to be a lifelong commitment. It is an emotional and spiritual bond; it is about mutual love, respect, trust, and communication. So there are some important questions you and your fiancé should ask yourselves before you go through with all this.
1. How well do we really know each other? (Have you been together long enough to know the important things about each other?)
2. Do we respect and trust each other? (Lasting marriage requires this as well as love)
3. Are we getting married for the right reasons? (It is about more than just being in love or in “love” with the idea of being married … loneliness, pregnancy, financial security or wanting to get out of your parents home or other situations are not good reasons to get married)
4. Do we share the same or compatible beliefs about the major issues of life? (Religion, having and raising children, etc) If not, how are we going to handle our differences?
5. Do we have the same or compatible goals for the future? (Finances, health, home, family etc…)
6. Are we compatible in how we handle conflict in our relationship and in life in general? (is one of you quiet and the other argumentative?) If not, are we willing to work on it?
7. What do we want and expect out of marriage … do we have the same or compatible wants/expectations?
8. Do we agree on how we will live after we are married? (who will cook, clean, work, pay bills, make decisions, etc)
9. Do we communicate well … can we comfortably talk to each other about anything? (everyday things and more ... sex, money, feelings, politics, etc. Communication is the key to any good relationship. Your spouse should be your best friend.)
10. Do we love and accept each other as we are right now without any hidden goals or agendas to change the other person?
Though these questions don’t cover everything, but it should give you some things to discuss. No, you don’t have to agree on everything but you should agree on the things you find to be the most important ... or at least come to a mutually acceptable compromise before you say “I Do“. If not, you could be in for some rough times that could possibly end in the "D" word!
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Many times marriage couselors will want you to discuss these sort of questions.
All the best to you all!
So here ya go ...
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There are a lot of things to think about while planning your wedding. But some people forget the most important thing. Are you absolutely sure you are ready for this and is this really the right person for you?! Or are you blinded by the idea of marriage and love?
Marriage is suppose to be a lifelong commitment. It is an emotional and spiritual bond; it is about mutual love, respect, trust, and communication. So there are some important questions you and your fiancé should ask yourselves before you go through with all this.
1. How well do we really know each other? (Have you been together long enough to know the important things about each other?)
2. Do we respect and trust each other? (Lasting marriage requires this as well as love)
3. Are we getting married for the right reasons? (It is about more than just being in love or in “love” with the idea of being married … loneliness, pregnancy, financial security or wanting to get out of your parents home or other situations are not good reasons to get married)
4. Do we share the same or compatible beliefs about the major issues of life? (Religion, having and raising children, etc) If not, how are we going to handle our differences?
5. Do we have the same or compatible goals for the future? (Finances, health, home, family etc…)
6. Are we compatible in how we handle conflict in our relationship and in life in general? (is one of you quiet and the other argumentative?) If not, are we willing to work on it?
7. What do we want and expect out of marriage … do we have the same or compatible wants/expectations?
8. Do we agree on how we will live after we are married? (who will cook, clean, work, pay bills, make decisions, etc)
9. Do we communicate well … can we comfortably talk to each other about anything? (everyday things and more ... sex, money, feelings, politics, etc. Communication is the key to any good relationship. Your spouse should be your best friend.)
10. Do we love and accept each other as we are right now without any hidden goals or agendas to change the other person?
Though these questions don’t cover everything, but it should give you some things to discuss. No, you don’t have to agree on everything but you should agree on the things you find to be the most important ... or at least come to a mutually acceptable compromise before you say “I Do“. If not, you could be in for some rough times that could possibly end in the "D" word!
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Many times marriage couselors will want you to discuss these sort of questions.
All the best to you all!