What do you think of the tradition of smashing cake in the bride/grooms face? [Archive]

Amber818

06-25-2006, 07:09 PM

I hate this tradition!!! I already told Joel that if he smashes cake in my face he is gonna have my size 8 1/2 shoe smashed up his A$$!!!

LOL....I think i will use that same line and change it to 9 1/2 stilleto's...OUCH!

AngelinLove

06-25-2006, 07:10 PM

LOL....I think i will use that same line and change it to 9 1/2 stilleto's...OUCH!

I think you should do that...lol!!!!

LaceyinPgh

06-25-2006, 09:13 PM

This wasn't even an option. We had a beautiful, formal, elegant wedding. There was no way either of us were going to risk ruining any part of that by smashing cake in each other's faces. To Sean and I it is childish. We are past that point in our lives. Heck, we didn't even use our fingers, we had a dessert plate and dessert forks to "feed" each other.

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StaceyMc

06-25-2006, 09:22 PM

I've already told Joe that there will be no cake smashing-he likes to joke about how he's going to do that anyways - hahahahah - not funny.

We were at my neighbor's wedding a few years ago and her now ex-husband smashed that cake all over her face - she had to go to the restroom to wash it off, along with most of her makeup. It was disgusting.

WhiskeyGirl

06-25-2006, 09:32 PM

For me I can't understand spening lots of money on dress, hair and make up just to ruin it by smashing cake into each other's faces. We used our fingers to feed each other but that is because we quickly cut to the cake cutting because of some technical errors with our slide show. They weren't prepared for us to do the cake at that moment. Matt and I both agreed that that was a tradition that had NO place in OUR wedding.

Jenn060306

06-25-2006, 09:44 PM

If that's what you want to do cool. But not for mar and i. I didn't want to have cake and icing all over me cause i knew i would feel sticky all night and the thought of getting on my dress was scary.

rainbowtreat

06-25-2006, 10:35 PM

I think it is up to the bride and groom. If they want go fo rit. If not then again dont. It was not something planned out for our wedding. I just did it and then fought getting it back. We never talked about doing it or not doing it. We didnt do it so bad that we had cake every where. It was just a little bit and more like shoving it into this mouth. It isjsut the people we are. crazy cooks who want to have fun and I had the chance to get him first. I have to say I started it. He wouldnt have done it if I hadnt. So it is my fault. Again if ya dont want to do it dont. Every one is different.

darkangel090260

06-26-2006, 12:01 AM

it will not be happening at our wedding if Ross trys i will be a widow on my wedding day

Kacie_bride

06-26-2006, 01:11 AM

I guess it is okay, but I defiantely do not want cake in smashed in my face. I want my make-up still nice for all of my pictures.

theweddinghelper

06-26-2006, 05:53 AM

It depends on the people. We did it @ our wedding but I started it! We had alot of fun! (As u can see in the pic. as well as everyone else!) We only aimed for the face and it didn't mess my makeup all up or my hair! LOL. After we smeared it on each other he kissed me then took a napkin and wiped it all off of me, it was so sweet! :) I wouldn't change a thing about it.

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katieandalex

06-26-2006, 08:48 AM

This about sums it up for me: I think it's disrespectful and should be avoided at all costs. I think that it just shows that the bride and groom are immature.

CindySue

06-26-2006, 10:50 AM

Brian and I squashed that notion when we discussed having a wedding cake.

usahgrad

06-26-2006, 10:53 AM

I got a bit of icing on my fingers when I slid the piece off of the knife, and I put that on Jason's nose. He also put a little on mine and then we kissed it off, but that was the extent of the smashing. I just don't see the point in spending all that money on looking nice to smash cake all over it! Plus, Jason's tux was a rental. I think it depends on the couple. Sometimes it fits, sometimes it doesn't. We didn't want to do it (much to my MIL's pleasure) so we didn't, but if other people do want to do it...well, it's their wedding! :)

ikkin510

06-26-2006, 11:02 AM

I don't think we'll do any smashing, but, like kelli, I can see putting a little bit of icing on my FH's nose.

cowboysbride

06-26-2006, 12:14 PM

Eric and I won't be doing it either...but whatever floats your boat!

rainbowtreat

06-26-2006, 05:42 PM

This about sums it up for me: I think it's disrespectful and should be avoided at all costs. I think that it just shows that the bride and groom are immature.

I would not call me and Nicholas IMMATURE. We are far from it. We both have good jobs and are raising 2 great kids. ( I could go one to prove we are not immature but I wont ) Nothing got messed up, as in make up and clothes. It was all in good fun. You have your opinion yes as does every one else. But just because we chose to do this ( and it was not a choice it just happened, no talking about it before hand ) does not make us immature in any way.

LizabethDavis

06-26-2006, 05:43 PM

CindySue

06-26-2006, 05:52 PM

I sincerely hope that it doesn't happen because I think the meaning behind feeding each other the cake is really sweet and I don't want to ruin that, however, I sadly have a feeling that it will happen.
I agree with you Elizabeth. When I read what the cake and toast symbolized, they became very important to my wedding.
No offense Gwen, but Brian and I didnt want it to happen at our wedding, but we both admit that we laugh when we see it happen at someone elses. Ive just been to a couple of weddings though where the groom was being a horses a$$ and smeared cake EVERYWHERE. Once the bride ran out in tears because the cake was in her eyes......why would someone be THAT cruel?

rainbowtreat

06-26-2006, 05:57 PM

I agree with you Elizabeth. When I read what the cake and toast symbolized, they became very important to my wedding.
No offense Gwen, but Brian and I didnt want it to happen at our wedding, but we both admit that we laugh when we see it happen at someone elses. Ive just been to a couple of weddings though where the groom was being a horses a$$ and smeared cake EVERYWHERE. Once the bride ran out in tears because the cake was in her eyes......why would someone be THAT cruel?

None taken Cindy. I just didnt like being called imatture for doing this. As it seems I am about the only one besides theweddingplanner that did this. And I know every one has their own opion so I just stated mine. We did not SMASH it into each others faces. I went to feed him and just happend to push it into his mouth with a little force. But smearing the cake all over the others face is just foolish as you mentioned. We didnt do that. We just had a little fun.

Kacie_bride

06-26-2006, 05:58 PM

I don't think it's immature. I think if it fits the mood of the reception then and they couple knows it would not offend the other, then go for it. I personally do not want the cake smashed in my face though. I wouldn't think it was funny.

CindySue

06-26-2006, 06:02 PM

None taken Cindy. I just didnt like being called imatture for doing this. As it seems I am about the only one besides theweddingplanner that did this. And I know every one has their own opion so I just stated mine. We did not SMASH it into each others faces. I went to feed him and just happend to push it into his mouth with a little force. But smearing the cake all over the others face is just foolish as you mentioned. We didnt do that. We just had a little fun.
Brian had a little on the side of his mouth because the piece of cake was bigger than his mouth.......but i think what everyone is thinking about is where its smeared all over, in the eyes, in the nose, in the hair.....and you spend so much time/money on your wedding make up and hair only to have someone ruin it with wedding cake? That dont seem right.
When you said your makeup wasnt messed up, I kinda figured it wasnt the full fledge smear!!!

LaceyinPgh

06-26-2006, 06:11 PM

Brian had a little on the side of his mouth because the piece of cake was bigger than his mouth.......but i think what everyone is thinking about is where its smeared all over, in the eyes, in the nose, in the hair.....and you spend so much time/money on your wedding make up and hair only to have someone ruin it with wedding cake? That dont seem right.
When you said your makeup wasnt messed up, I kinda figured it wasnt the full fledge smear!!!

I have witnessed the full smear and it wasn't pretty. The groom not only smeared it down his new wife's face and into her hair but also down the front of her gown. The colored icing ruined her dress. Let's face it people food coloring really does its job sometimes. The bride ended up having to almost take a shower at her own reception trying to get it all cleaned up. I felt so bad for her.

Just because Sean and I didn't do it, doesn't mean that you are an awful person because you did. It just isn't in our personalities. We are just more formal people. I don't think it is a level of mental or intellectual maturity at all. I think it just has to do with a more playful or relaxed personality.

countrygirl

06-26-2006, 06:15 PM

I made J promise that he won't get it on my dress. If he does, he is toast!!

Kacie_bride

06-26-2006, 06:33 PM

I have witnessed the full smear and it wasn't pretty. The groom not only smeared it down his new wife's face and into her hair but also down the front of her gown. The colored icing ruined her dress. Let's face it people food coloring really does its job sometimes. The bride ended up having to almost take a shower at her own reception trying to get it all cleaned up. I felt so bad for her.

Just because Sean and I didn't do it, doesn't mean that you are an awful person because you did. It just isn't in our personalities. We are just more formal people. I don't think it is a level of mental or intellectual maturity at all. I think it just has to do with a more playful or relaxed personality.

Well said Lacey!

rainbowtreat

06-26-2006, 07:44 PM

Thank You Lacey. You have a way with words.

theweddinghelper

06-27-2006, 12:43 AM

None taken Cindy. I just didnt like being called imatture for doing this. As it seems I am about the only one besides theweddingplanner that did this. And I know every one has their own opion so I just stated mine. We did not SMASH it into each others faces. I went to feed him and just happend to push it into his mouth with a little force. But smearing the cake all over the others face is just foolish as you mentioned. We didnt do that. We just had a little fun.

I totally agree w/ you! I didn't even have to defend myself bc you said it all for us! LOL! We are def. not immature either, we just know how to be a little playful w/ out going too far! :)

sweet bride

06-27-2006, 07:15 AM

i don't like this tradation maybe we do it when we go home :)

theweddinghelper

06-27-2006, 11:57 AM

i don't like this tradation maybe we do it when we go home :)

That's a new idea!:bbidea: LOL!

SerendipityCrafts

06-27-2006, 01:52 PM

I want to know when the heck it became a tradition anyhow. I don't like to see it done and I would never consider doing it myself.

I cringe when I see the food fights break out in wedding videos .... all that prep for the hair, make-up and the dress and the bride ends up with icing everywhere. Ummmmmm so explain to me how that translates into "I love you!"

CindySue

06-27-2006, 02:22 PM

I cringe when I see the food fights break out in wedding videos .... all that prep for the hair, make-up and the dress and the bride ends up with icing everywhere. Ummmmmm so explain to me how that translates into "I love you!"
See thats what Im talking about. A little on the tip of the nose or on the cheek is one thing but getting so carried away with it that youre cleaning cake out if your nose for a week is totally uncalled for. Sad part is you dont really see the brides doing this much....if they do its because the groom started it!
I understand about the being playful with eachother and having fun. Sometimes though, it just seems really mean.

cowboysbride

06-27-2006, 04:27 PM

That's a new idea!:bbidea: LOL!

Nah that ain't new...it's called fun with food in bed! LOL!

Eric and I have gotten into all kinds of food fights, cow patty fights and he dumps me in the creek (warm weather) whenever he gets the chance but again, no smearing, shoving or smashing of the 'ole wedding cake for us...his tux, my hair, my makeup and the DRESS just make it a NO NO!

theweddinghelper

06-28-2006, 01:29 AM

Nah that ain't new...it's called fun with food in bed! LOL!

Eric and I have gotten into all kinds of food fights, cow patty fights and he dumps me in the creek (warm weather) whenever he gets the chance but again, no smearing, shoving or smashing of the 'ole wedding cake for us...his tux, my hair, my makeup and the DRESS just make it a NO NO!

That was a cute reply about the food in bed! LMAO! I'm a whipped cream kind of girl myself!;)

ladymelissa

07-15-2006, 01:35 PM

I am a "to each their own" type person. Cake smashing was not something we wanted to do so we didn't.

WebLady

07-15-2006, 10:38 PM

I only skimmed the posts here but here are my 2 cents ...

I think it is amusing to see but I wouldn't want it done to me. I also think it is slightly inappropriate for a formal wedding reception. Although, I do see some variation of it quite often at weddings. I've seen more that did it than did not.

I think the act stems from an old tradition of actually crumbling cake over the brides head for luck and fertility, glad we don't do that anymore :bbeek:

Crystal05

07-15-2006, 10:57 PM

Oh I think it's fun! DH and I did it and I didn't get that "dirty". I don't see what the big deal is.

SoontobeMrsClark07

07-16-2006, 10:42 AM

FH wanted to do it but I made him promise that he wouldnt do it.

He did it at his last wedding (against her wishes) and she cried because he ruined her hair and make-up... her family also thought it was disrespectful where his family thought it was hilarious.

I told FH he could smash cake in my face anytime before that and he agreed because I feel strongly about it. I think it would be a little out of place in our reception and something that my guests wouldnt find appropriate for the event (of course some of his family will, but his parents have already said that its too formal for that).

I think if you and your FH/DH want to do it, then its great. It is a matter of personal opinion. I dont think it makes you immature, it just shows you like to have fun. :bblol:

AllyM1

07-16-2006, 10:50 AM

We didn't smash it in eachothers face but when Bryan went to put it in my mouth it kind of slipped and got on my chin... So when I went to put it in his mouth I got a little on his chin as well.

Both of us walked away with clean clothes and my hair and what makeup I had on was still okay!

He knew not to smash it in my face so he didn't but if you are a fun couple and you feel it neccessary, I don't see anything wrong with it. I think it's funny (when it happens to others!) and it is NOT IMMATURE!