So, I just wanted to share.

[DanDanNoodleBowl]

I have been reading this marriage book, which has really done some good in my relationship since I have started reading it. I think anyone about to get married should read it.
It's called Love & respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs.

Just thought I would share in case anyone is interested or really likes to read and who wants to improve their relationship..

[f77g4]

Thanks for sharing!

[Lasko@~]

yes it is a fantastic book, and work book, it is intended to be done as a couple. Are you two doing it together?

[ChristineLS]

I read through the workbook on books.google.com, and bits of the book on the amazon preview. I think that if you subscribe to Christian Biblical teachings it could likely be very helpful. If you are not Christian, not so much. As someone who studies sociology, I personally think he misplaces the "natural" behavior of men and women on some sort of intrinsic biological essentialism, when it is American (and American-Christian) socialization and that other cultures have other, though not necessarily dramatically different, ways of conceiving gender and relating to themselves accordingly. I think he used the Bible to override the scientific literature on that one, but it's his religion and he's writing for a religious audience... it's his prerogative and I respect that. In that way, I think the scope of the book is not terribly inclusive BUT for those who do fit into its audience, probably would resonate nicely.

[DanDanNoodleBowl]

No, we aren't doing it as a couple..I wish we could but i know he is not into reading. :(

And, yes. It's more for a christian audience. I just saw it at walmatrt

[WebLady]

Christian or not; the basic concept of love and respect in a relationship is one I firmly believe in! But it has to go both ways! If you love and respect your partner, but they don't fully love and respect you then you will have problems.

Sure men and women have different emotional needs and different ways of showing love and respect sometimes, but to have a lasting relationship you have to find someone that complements you and shows you love and respect the way you need it. And of course you should be able to do that for them too.

Love is not always enough; you hear all the time about bad relationships where people say "I love him/her but ..." I believe you have to have real love first, and in that real love there comes respect, trust and communication. I think these are key factors in a lasting relationship.

You should be best friends with your partner; you should share hopes and dreams and goals and want to spend your life together making them happen! But if you don't respect each other, don't trust each other and can't talk about things, then you have a recipe for disaster.

Just my thoughts :)

[ChristineLS]

to have a lasting relationship you have to find someone that complements you and shows you love and respect the way you need it. And of course you should be able to do that for them too.


Agreed 100%.