I got hit on today...

[gwenshack]

Ok, this is the dumbest thing ever, but I swear it made me laugh.

I used to work in a coffee place, and I have hung out around coffee shops for pretty much the entirety of my adulthood. I know what it means when the person behind the counter says "It's on me today..." - that means "How you doin'?"

As I accepted my free coffee from random boy I totally laughed and made a little bet with myself about how long it would be before he took his break and randomly decided to sit down and talk to me.

Ten minutes. I laughed so hard (to myself) when he came outside and asked if he could sit down.

Random chit chat ensues and finally I can't help myself - "How old do you think I am?" Him: "I don't know - 22?" Hahahahahahaha...uh, 31. And how old are you? 19.

Despite being engaged, I'm also not Mary Kay Letourneau. Hahahaha.

But the point being...when I was available and dating and looking to meet and greet I was so blind to obvious cues and signs, but now that I'm older and unavailable everything is so transparent. Why wasn't it that easy when I needed it to be? Also, I listen to other people who are dating and I completely know what the guy is thinking in their situation, but had I been in their shoes I would have been walking around in a fog hoping somebody would tell me "He's just not that into you..."

Anybody else feel like the dating fog has lifted now that you don't have to do it anymore?

[Docsgirl]

Haha! Well at least you got free coffee and look like you're 22!


I totally notice a lot more of the "games" that people play when they're dating. I was always a little more in tune with the guy side of the games, because, well......I only had guy friends for the longest time and was always just considered one of the guys, so they wouldn't censor anything that they would be thinking and/or doing to girls. This made me a pretty popular "go-to" girl for advice when I finally did find some friends that were girls that didn't drive me completely bonkers. Now though, it's almost like I'm from the outside looking in. Sometimes I just want to say "Seriously?!" and laugh. But, usually, I have been that "He's just not that into" girl....I've had some of my girlfriends hate me for saying it and apologizing when they get played. Ahhhh....the joys of not having to date....ever again! :D

[SerendipityCrafts]

:rofl:

Honestly - I have always found boys/men to be rather obvious and so, I have always felt sorry for them for having to be the one to make the first move (90% of the time that is).

I was caught off guard once and that was only because I wasn't in a "single frame of mind" A guy called (where I worked) wanting to buy some of the products we had. I chatted with him for a bit (not unusual - I am a chatty Cathy), advising him which was best stuff to buy (inside sales was part of my job). As it turned out, he was local and so he came by.

I was there when he came by so I shook his hand, showed him the product and he bought. He wasn't making any moves to leave .... (which in hindsight was the first sign)

and then he says - It was really nice to meet you today
me - yeah, it was nice meeting you too
him - you really know your stuff
me - thanks
him - no really
me - thanks
him - you seem friendly
me (starting to wonder about this dude) - thanks
him - would you like to go out for a coffee some time?

The guy was nice enough and even though I wasn't engaged to DH yet, I didn't even consider myself to be "available". I was so totally floored that I couldn't think of what to say. The best I could come up with was "I have a boyfriend" (which seemed like SUCH an immature thing to say in my 40's). :rofl:

BTW - have you ever noticed how stunned some guys can be? Girls can be literally hanging off of them and yet, they have no idea the ladies are hitting on them :rofl:

[MrsDM]

Haha!! I agree, at least you got free coffee out of it!!

I know what you are saying. I remember before I met FH, not a lot of guys were interested in me because I was always one of the "guys". Now that I'm engaged and even after we were together, guys would be approaching me and still check me out with out without FH. Its flattering, but I totally know what you are saying!!

[WebLady]

I "see" things in other young couples every now and then too ;)

Dating seemed much harder before and I hope I never have to do it again :p

It is funny; I get so tickled by random little flirts now ... as few and far between they might be :bbredface:

[KMS]

I'm actually just as clueless as I always have been! :bbredface:

[Nekochanpurr]

Haha, i would think i would know.. But i don't get hit on, so.. XD

[mitch]

I've been hit on by a Woman. :bbeek:

I just told Her i'm Very Flattered, Very Straight and Very Married. :rofl:

[candars]

I have always been pretty in tune with what guys are thinking. I don't get along with women too well, so most of my friends are guys. Also, I have never been easily offended, so all the guys just say what they think when I'm around. One of the funniest things that I run into: when I'm at the drive-through or something and the kid at the window is fresh out of high school. It's funny because they have already taken the order and did fine, but once I pull up to the window to pay and get my food, they get all stuttery (if that's a word) and don't know what to say. You have no clue how many times I have not gotten all of my food or didn't get my drink because the boy is in his own little world.

[Tadswife]

I have noticed things since I have gotten married. The men that want to chat and "NOT" go away, I had a man approach me at work the other day and say
" Please excuse me if I offend you, but I am a man in his early 70's I just wanted to mention that I think your a one attractive young lady"
A man in his 70's, I mean really....70 years old:rofl: I was flattered and told him he can tell me that all the time.
I make it pretty clear that I am married so I don't get hit on much at all.But if they do I am very quick to mention my dh, and then it stops..

[wannabeNurse2]

That is too funny! I've heard that when you are in a secure relationship that we are generally happier and have a glow. It's very attractive to other people. That's why you get hit on more once you are taken than when you weren't taken.

At least you're 22 and not 16 like everyone says I am.

[ChibiAiChan]

Though it may be few and far between it has been known to happen to me, lol. The other day I was driving home from work and this guy in a moving truck kept looking at me and waving and finally I put down my window and looked at him and he told me "sorry, I just have to wave at beautiful girls" Yeah, I looked forward the rest of the time driving, lol!
While I was in Japan I was hit on too.. (American, blonde). A business man bought me fresh made crossiants and told me "This is the heart of Japan" XD and than an ANCEINT (not just old, ANCIENT) man rode past me on his bike (in Japan) and blew me a kiss... I seriously don't think he had any teeth. :bbredface:
oh and at a local restraunt I had a man with long hair and lipstick kinda flirt with me... yeah. My mom was with me and couldn't stop laughing. :snide:

...yeah.
I look back and wonder how I couldn't have seen the flirting from back in the day... young and oblivious I guess (other than what I posted lol)
sorry, long =/

[gwenshack]

Though it may be few and far between it has been known to happen to me, lol. The other day I was driving home from work and this guy in a moving truck kept looking at me and waving and finally I put down my window and looked at him and he told me "sorry, I just have to wave at beautiful girls" Yeah, I looked forward the rest of the time driving, lol!
While I was in Japan I was hit on too.. (American, blonde). A business man bought me fresh made crossiants and told me "This is the heart of Japan" XD and than an ANCEINT (not just old, ANCIENT) man rode past me on his bike (in Japan) and blew me a kiss... I seriously don't think he had any teeth. :bbredface:
oh and at a local restraunt I had a man with long hair and lipstick kinda flirt with me... yeah. My mom was with me and couldn't stop laughing. :snide:

...yeah.
I look back and wonder how I couldn't have seen the flirting from back in the day... young and oblivious I guess (other than what I posted lol)
sorry, long =/

No teeth! :) Hahahaha. I love it.

[candars]

While I was in Japan I was hit on too.. (American, blonde). A business man bought me fresh made crossiants and told me "This is the heart of Japan" XD and than an ANCEINT (not just old, ANCIENT) man rode past me on his bike (in Japan) and blew me a kiss... I seriously don't think he had any teeth. :bbredface:
oh and at a local restraunt I had a man with long hair and lipstick kinda flirt with me... yeah. My mom was with me and couldn't stop laughing. :snide:

lol, your stories remind me of my sister...a long time ago she was at the store with my mom and this weird guy with a bicycle came up and started hitting on her asking her old she was...she was like "I'm 16". But, we have NEVER let her forget about this! Another time she had some guy that really liked her and every day he would ride his bicycle over-and he was a grown man! There's absolutely nothing wrong with bikes, but when you are a grown man and have become obsessed with a 16-year old and ride a bike? There's something wrong with that. Eventually, my little brother chased him away with a hockey stick, but we still frequently remind her of this guy, too.

[f77g4]

LOL well at least you got free coffee...take the compliments and have a good chuckle!

[ChibiAiChan]

No teeth! :) Hahahaha. I love it.

yeah after it happened we had to stop and think about it hehe

[ChibiAiChan]

lol, your stories remind me of my sister...a long time ago she was at the store with my mom and this weird guy with a bicycle came up and started hitting on her asking her old she was...she was like "I'm 16". But, we have NEVER let her forget about this! Another time she had some guy that really liked her and every day he would ride his bicycle over-and he was a grown man! There's absolutely nothing wrong with bikes, but when you are a grown man and have become obsessed with a 16-year old and ride a bike? There's something wrong with that. Eventually, my little brother chased him away with a hockey stick, but we still frequently remind her of this guy, too.

wow thats kinda scary!!! good thing your brother chased away that creep!