Having a baby

[tootsie]

So hubby and I have been talking more about having a baby. He said last night, "I'm going to make a monster inside of you." LOL! Sometimes we call it a monster or alien, heheh. Anyways, we are going to wait a while before we try for a baby, but I'm starting to get that feeling of wanting one. It's exciting and scary for me. I'm really small, about the same size as my mom - 5ft3, 100 pounds, small bone structure. My mom had a c-section with me and I think her mom did too. I'm hoping to give birth naturally, but since I am so small, I might have to have a c-section. Chris is terrified of c-sections and I'm just terrified of giving birth. So, do you have "baby" on your mind?

[Danielle9608]

OMG, over the past couple of months we have got a serious case of baby fever! I am off the pill, but my doctor wanted me to wait at least two cycles before starting to conceive since I had been on the pill for a little over 11 years. 2 girls at work at pregnant right now I have have to say I'm totally jealous!

[BnB]

I had a c-section with my second

I was out of bed the same day, and just fine

don't be scared

[Docsgirl]

DH seems to be having a bit of a baby fever, but I think it might be because he found out he's deploying this fall. His exact quote was "If we had a lot of money, I would talk you into having a baby with me right now". :bbeek: And that was completely out of the blue, we weren't even talking about babies!

I'm excited to have his children, but I'm not ready at this point in my life. I told him probably 3-4 years from now will be a good time. He'll be out of the military, I'll hopefully be through school and then we can set up house. And I definitely don't want to be pregnant alone while he is gone! :( Who'd help me with my midnight cravings? Haha.

[FFC]

Oh yes, we've had baby fever for awhile - as does Sierra. We can't wait to get into a home so that we can start trying!

[savepaws]

I have baby fever too but we aren't even married yet and don't plan to start trying for at least a year after we are married. So I'm trying to push it to the back of my mind because no matter how badly I want it, its just something I can't have right now. And I am not a patient person so its hard!

[savepaws]

Oh and I'm terrified of it all too. But everyone says its worth it.

[Micah's bride]

I want one soo badly. My son is 8 already and I feel like the time to have another is slipping away. FH wants to wait, but I told him that after we're married we'll just let God decide when we are going to have one. If it's meant to be, we'll get another baby and if not I'm okay with that too.

[NurseLau84]

Surprisingly, my husband has been talking a lot about babies lately. We both agree, though, that it would have to wait. I don't want to have a nursing school baby, and I certainly don't want to raise one in a condo. I told him we'll talk about it after... (a)I graduate in December 2010, and (b)we sell the condo and buy a larger house. I also think 24/25 is too young to have a baby. I want to travel more, and have more husband/wife time! :)

[BarceloMayaPalaceBride]

YES!!!! We totally have baby fever! I've been off the pill for the past 3 years, but now that the wedding is over we are totally not "being careful" anymore. I've been taking pre-natals for several months and actually this coming week I should be ovulating so we'll try, try try!!!!!! I can't waaiiiiit to get a positive pregnancy test!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[tootsie]

Surprisingly, my husband has been talking a lot about babies lately. We both agree, though, that it would have to wait. I don't want to have a nursing school baby, and I certainly don't want to raise one in a condo. I told him we'll talk about it after... (a)I graduate in December 2010, and (b)we sell the condo and buy a larger house. I also think 24/25 is too young to have a baby. I want to travel more, and have more husband/wife time! :)

Wow, you sound like me! :)

[BarceloMayaPalaceBride]

See, I feel like I TOTALLY got to have my fun in the past and now I'm ready to be a mom! I traveled a TON durring highschool and after highschool, and even lived in the Virgin Islands for 4 months by myself! I lived with my girlfriend for a year and had a BLAST! I think it's important to experience things while you can, because having kids will be completely life-changing. I TOTALLY agree and respect those of you who want to "have your fun" before having kids.

[KristinGriffin]

I was about your size pre-pregnancy (5'3", 105 lbs), and I ended up with a c-section after about a day in labor - my big baby just didn't want to come out! :) My mom was the same size as me and had two natural (no drugs) childbirths with no issues, and I have friends even smaller than me who had labors only 2 hours long! So you never really know what it's going to be like for you. I think if you find an OB you like and trust, have an idea about what you want for your birth (but leave your options open - it all may change once you get to the hospital...), you'll do fine. I think you'd be hard-pressed to find a woman who wasn't at least a little nervous before her first birth, but medicine has come a long way, and while I won't lie to you, recovery was a little longer with the C-section - I got a lot of help from mom and MIL - it's so worth it! Sometimes I just stare in awe at the things my son does or says. Being a parent is the most rewarding job in the world. If you think you're ready, don't let fear of the birth be the thing keeping you from having a child! You won't believe how much you love your child (and your husband) after he/she is born! :)

[ChibiAiChan]

i could so have one right now if sean would let me lol!
he did tell me like a week ago we could have 3 =D
probably wait another 2 years... waiting is so hard!!!!! also doesn't help that i nanny two adorable baby boys =/

[Blusher]

I'm VERY pregnant right now (twins due in April) and am only 5'3 and was about 110lb (before i got preggo) and that was my first thought too (terrified of labour), I can almost garuntee that I will have to have one, but my doctor says that I might not. I'm still nervous about the whole thing but now I think more and more about how little of a 'sacrifice' it (labour and pain) is to have beautiful bouncing bundles! Anyways, when you do start TTC or when you are preggo I'll be happy to share stories with ya
Maggie

[BarceloMayaPalaceBride]

I'm VERY pregnant right now (twins due in April) and am only 5'3 and was about 110lb (before i got preggo) and that was my first thought too (terrified of labour), I can almost garuntee that I will have to have one, but my doctor says that I might not. I'm still nervous about the whole thing but now I think more and more about how little of a 'sacrifice' it (labour and pain) is to have beautiful bouncing bundles! Anyways, when you do start TTC or when you are preggo I'll be happy to share stories with ya
Maggie

Twins!?! How EXCITING!!! Do you know what you're having? April is gonna sneak up!!! Congratulations!!! :D

[NurseLau84]

See, I feel like I TOTALLY got to have my fun in the past and now I'm ready to be a mom! I traveled a TON durring highschool and after highschool, and even lived in the Virgin Islands for 4 months by myself! I lived with my girlfriend for a year and had a BLAST! I think it's important to experience things while you can, because having kids will be completely life-changing. I TOTALLY agree and respect those of you who want to "have your fun" before having kids.

That's awesome that you're feeling completely ready. I fear that I might never be totally ready to make that leap, but we'll see. Sending good luck vibes to you for a positive pee test! :D

[starsthrumysoul]

I do! I've always wanted to have kids... and FH does too. We've always thought that we would wait until I got tenured (3 years of working in a school) before we tried. Then we talked after we got engaged (over a year ago) that when we got married, we would go off birth control right away and not TRY but just see what happened. I don't know how we could POSSIBLY do that now though - We'll have just helped pay for a wedding, will be saving up for a house. FH's job is great but not the most stable (it's a newer company). I don't have a full-time job yet (I graduated with my master's in School Counseling last spring), and will have to start paying back my loans this June (about $300 a month, on top of FH's $800 a month!). We just got a new car.... I know that people just make it work, but I don't know how we possibly would!

But yes, I definitely have babies on the mind!!!!!!

[L.J.Aguirre]

i didn't have baby fever till i found out i was prego. now i'm looking at all these baby things and constantly talking about babies. my husband has it too. when he comes home from work early in the morning, he usually falls asleep with his hand on my belly. i think pregnancy is scary too but like someone said, "it's worth it". i just had the amniocentesis last week and i was scared out of my pants but when i saw my baby in the ultrasound, i knew i had to suck it up for him. so far i gotta say being pregnant is more fun than scary though and if our moms went through it then so can we!

[Nekochanpurr]

Kind of. i know we want kids.. But we are in a one bedroom apartment.. No place to raise them! And since it freaking feels like fates going to keep us here forever.. >.<

[tootsie]

my husband has it too. when he comes home from work early in the morning, he usually falls asleep with his hand on my belly.

That is so sweet!

[ChristineLS]

I want kids "eventually", but right now I don't think we're in any position to try. FH doesn't know if he wants kids, his lack of desire is generally correlated with how busy graduate school is keeping him.

[yam102284]

I've got a serious case of baby fever right now. And I know there's nothing I can do about for at least 2 years. Our wedding isn't until June 2010, plus we're definitely no where near close to financially ready for a baby. I always have baby fever when we go to his parents house and his nieces and nephew are there. I always gravity towards the little one, about a year and a half. Plus, with people telling me how I'm going to be such a good mom because of how I'm always taking care of the kids, doesn't help any either. Even after the wedding, I don't know how close we'll be. He's still in school, and will be going for at least three more years, possibly to become a mortician. So who knows when we'll be close to financially ready.

[caligal85]

FH wants to have a baby a year after the wedding; we'll be having our first one four years later. I think 28 is the perfect age to become a first time mom and after living apart from FH for six years, I need more than just a year to have him to myself.

[tootsie]

One of my colleagues brought his little one in today. She is a cutie, has blonde hair and blonde eyelashes, blue eyes, so adorable. It makes me want a baby so bad. My husband says I'm obsessed about having a baby now. Maybe I am!

[ChibiAiChan]

LOl when I'm sad my husband will look at me and say... "babies!"
...crazp, he knows me so well lol

[Katiegirl]

Ugh. I'm so confused about whether or not I want a baby. I'm 27 (28 in April). FH is 25 and has a 5 year old boy and 3 year old girl. We have 50/50 custody shared with their mother. They are pretty overwhelming at times. It's SO nice to be able to have that break when they're at their mom's so we can have "us" time. I'm not sure if I want to have a baby because then we won't have that "us" time. We won't be able to go anywhere alone for a while. Plus, if we waited a few years before having one (which we'd want to do), the kids would be older and I'm not sure if I want to get back into that doing-everything-for-the-kid again stage. :bbredface: Parts of me really want a baby. I know we'd have beautiful children together. My sister tells me parenting is so much easier when it's your own child. I want to experience my own child....I love his kids but it's just not the same and it never will be because I'm not trying to take the place of their mother.

It's all very confusing, and right now I'm just feeling too selfish to have a baby. Maybe I'll change my mind in a few years. Hopefully by then we'll be in a bigger house and not be so strapped for cash! I'm sure not being stressed by that will help a bunch!

[sandy03]

FH and I definitely want kids, but not for a couple of years at least. I have to do my residency after I finish school, so that will take me about three years. We may start trying near the end of my residency because that would be a convenient time for me to take a leave of absence for a couple of years, but we'll have to wait and see what is going on then.

For now I'm just spoiling my god-daughter, but her tiny clothes and sweet little smile just makes me go all mushy every time I see her!