Pregant Bridesmaid

[usmcbride]

my bridesmaid just found out shes pregnant, and due one week before the wedding. how will she go to fittings, and what if shes late??

[WhiskeyGirl]

If it were me, I wouldn't plan for her to be in the wedding party, I know that she never meant to get pregnant so that she would be due right before the wedding, but I would just relieve her of her duties and find someone else. How do you know that she won't be going into labor on the day or day before your wedding? Is this her first child? I think that having her remain a bridesmaid will put extradorinary pressure on you and stress you out. I know that you picked her for a reason to be in your wedding party and the last thing you want to do is take her out of the wedding party, but I think that it would be easier if you did, on all the people involved! (I'm not trying to sound heartless, I am only voicing my opinion on this realistically.) Because as far as dresses go, its so hard to make a dress fit a pregnant woman when it was supposed to fit a non-pregnant woman, if you follow me. Maybe she could do something else at the wedding for you, like a reading or something? Have you talked to your bridesmaid and found out how she feels about it all? Maybe she wouldn't mind stepping down, because it might stress her out too, and being pregnant thats probably not a good thing. Talk to your bridesmaid about it seriously, I think once you sit down and talk it all out, you will come to a decision and figure out how to work it. Good Luck with this!

~CanadianBride~

[Am3na]

My stepbrothers' wife had a very pregnant maid of honor, but I do not know how they managed the fittings or the exact due date. Although, just looking at her she looked like she was at least 7-8 months, and ready any time.

I would find out how badly she wanted to be in your wedding. If she is a close friend you may still want her to be a bridesmaid, but plan for the worst! My husbands best man broke his leg 1 wk before are wedding and he had to be in a wheelchair, we still wanted him to be the best man and he did too, so we decided we would have the maid of honor push him down the aisle. As in ended up he managed to walk on his crutches.

If this is her first child it is said that the birth will more likely come 2 weeks after the due date. So, the ultimate decision is up to you.

[totalia]

For my first wedding, I had a pregnant bridesmaid. I think people get far too upset about that.

I had planned already to have the dresses made.

I asked her what her regular size was then I talked to the seemstress who made her suggestion on what size pattern to buy for her.

Then MOST of the dress was made. Two days before the wedding, the dress was finished.

Though, in this case I do suggest that you relieve her of her duties.

When my sister had her baby, she was exhausted for weeks after. Its a big thing to have a baby and adjusting takes time.

Your bridesmaid will likely not have the energy or even the desire to deal with a wedding when she just had a baby.

[As You Wish]

Talk to her and see what she wants to do. With all the preparations for the baby she may be glad to support your wedding in a different way. As for the dress, talk to a seamstress, you will most likely want a custom job.

[lacey_8_99]

Talk to her and find out what her feelings are. My cousin was 8 months pregnant in her friends wedding, but there was NO way she was going to miss it. She just waited until the last possible minute to order her dress, and then ordered a size bigger. Always better to go bigger, so much easier to alter.
If she is worried about being late or somehow having to bail at the last minute, give her the option of stepping down with no hard feelings. These things happen.

[iluvweddings]

That's a very common thing in this day and age - there are many dresses that are not form fitting that will adjust to her size, I would recommend that she get her dress a little closer to the actual wedding date, to ensure that she can fit it.
But I do agree with the other ladies, have a chat with her - because if she has the baby early, she may have to miss the wedding altogether. Let her know how important she still is and that you would for her to participate, and that the choice is hers to make.

[LaceyinPgh]

You never know what is going to come up in a pregnancy. She could have the baby early, late, be on bed rest, or anything else. I know women are tough but to be honest I don't think a week before her due date she may feel up to being a bridesmaid. Have a talk with her. If she insists that she is up for the job than she is whole lot tougher that I would be. Like most o here though, I would bet that she would be happy to step down as a bride's maid. We all know that it is a dirty job with long hours of hard work and support to the bride. At 9 months pregnant she just might not have the heart or head for it. Talk to her about filling another role, book attendent, reader, ect. That way if she is unable to make it to the wedding, it is a role that is easily filled by someone else. Remember though if she does want to step down, it isn't against you in any way. She just isn't physically or emotionally up to the job at that moment.

[Sweet_Girl]

Hi everyone I'm new to this so I'm not sure what all I'm doing..but thought this would be a great idea to talk to other people that are going through the same things with me. :) I was just reading that I'm not the only one stressing about having someone in my wedding that is pregnant.. but not only do I have one Bridesmaid that will be due the month before my wedding I have another one due 3 months after my wedding so I'm stressing that somethings going to happen and that they won't be able to be in the wedding. my only thing is everyone has bought their dresses and we can't return any of them. I'm not sure what to do about this.. any ideas??

[morgan]

Within one week is EXTREMELY close. I guess it depends on what kind of priority she is (that sounds bad) for your wedding party. If its your only sister, then maybe she will still want to. If it is a good friend, maybe she would be relieved if you told her she didn't have to.

[SueMartin]

All I can suggest is give her the option.. tell her why you wanted her to stand up with you, and then offer her something else to do. that might not be so exhayusting for her.

[B52s]

I completely agree with you! You do not sound heartless at all! It is nice to see someone that realizes the stress this puts on the bride! I posted a very similar thing on another site and everyone jumped down my throat about how I was not being a true friend!

[Diamend]

My MOH just found out she is pregnant too! But she will only be 5months for the wedding... so we just ordered her dress 2 sizes bigger... and she'll wait til the very last minute possible for her fitting.

[Doglover]

i'd get her a dress sort of last minute. My BM dresses aren't getting here unil 2 weeks before the wedding and they have to be shipped to mass. and florida and they still have to get the altered...but we will have enough time, just cutting it really close.