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shawnsgirl
06-14-2006, 01:00 PM
My best friend is getting married in september! She has been engaged for over a year and a half. I have loved every moment of the dress shopping for her wedding, bridal expos, planning the shower, etc. etc. Well, Us bridesmaids dresses were in and we couldn't get in touch with one of the other bridesmaids who hapens to be a bery close friend of mine and a BM in my wedding too next august. Well, I emailed her called her left tons of messages for over a week. I didn't get one reply. After I did she's like we only have till this saturday? Why didn't anyone call. I explained that all of us had tried and tried with no repsonse. Next, she goes on to explain about the dresses costing $150.00, the cost of the bridal shower, and the cost of what a limo would be for a bachorlette party. All this girl does is complain about how she can't afford anything and shows no excitement whatsoever which is hurts the brides feelings. She's nothing but selfish right now and I think another part of her is jealous becuase we have been best oif friends since high school and now she's the only one not married nor soon to be married. I'm just frustrated cause she's holding the rest of us back, and I frankly don't get the whole I can't afford being in the wedding. She has no real responsibilities, is out at the bars just about every weekend, eats out all the time, and has plenty of money to go different places to see old friends. I just don't get it. I think its a matter that she doesn't want to spend any money. All her ideas that she has contributed about the bridal shower have been geared to her supposed finacial situation. So anyhow, needless to say I'm thinking twice about asking her to be in my wedding!

Kacie_bride
06-14-2006, 03:45 PM
If this is the decision you are going to make, which frankily it seems like a good idea, the earlier you do it, the better.

CindySue
06-14-2006, 04:02 PM
I agree......If shes being this way for this wedding, things probably arent going to change much for yours. If she asks why shes not a BM in yours, tell her you figured it would be more than she could afford.

LaceyinPgh
06-15-2006, 07:53 AM
There is a person like this in every wedding. I had to get rid of a bridesmaid because her behavior was similiar to what you are experiencing. If you just don't as her, you will be saving yourself a lot of heart ache in the long run.

AngelinLove
06-15-2006, 07:59 AM
All I can say is that I agree with the rest of the ladies!!! Getting rid of her is probably the best thing to do...but get it over ASAP!!!

shawnsgirl
06-15-2006, 11:21 AM
Here is a link to the BM dress I am wearing on my best friends wedding this september. It really is a pretty dress. I love it!


http://www.alfredangelo.com/index.cfm/fuseaction/collections.productDetail/categoryID/772F03C9-DE43-4942-BFA0-DA77E21EBD65/productID/ef3c1e6c-e218-46a9-ab74-e759285ca5fe/colorID/2f90fe09-fc5e-4d63-a4a9-42247543b4ca

AngelinLove
06-15-2006, 01:50 PM
It is very pretty!!

Kacie_bride
06-15-2006, 03:40 PM
It is pretty. In what color?