need advice!! HELP!

[usmcbride]

im planning on getting married in september, except my dad is against it. nothing would make me happier to marry my fiance, we've been together for 4 years, but my dad wants me to wait until im 25 (and im pretty far off). im getting so stressed because im dying to start planning, cansidering IT WILL HAPPEN IN SEP. my question is how to break it to him??

[totalia]

I'm just curious... why does he want you to wait till your 25 so badly?

My suggestion is to just tell him and let him deal with it however he does.

[WhiskeyGirl]

I am also curious as to why he should tell you to wait until you are 25? How old are you anyhow? If it were me, I would tell him that I will get married when I want to get married and he can either support your decision and help and be there on the date of you choosing; or he can't support you, at which time, if it were me, I would tell him that he doesn't have to be there than. I am running into a lot of similar griping from family members, and I've been told quite a bit and now I am telling you, that you are the Bride and It is YOUR wedding. Do what makes YOU and your FH happy, don't try and make everyone happy, you will never be able to do so. If you want to get married in September, then go for it!!!!

~CanadianBride~

[Am3na]

I'm with the others, why is 25 the magic number? How old are you currently?

[Lea Register]

Seems like you and your Dad need to sit down and REALLY talk - both of you with OPEN hearts and minds!

Sometime parents can see things in their children that the kids don't. I have five children - ages 36 to 15. Each one of them is very different from each other; each one of them matured in a different way and at different levels of their lives. My 36 year old son isn't as mature as my 15 yeaer old daughter! I still don't want Jeff to get married - yet! (He's already been married once and it didn't work out!)

You conveniently left out YOUR age - and sometimes age isn't the question - the real question is ARE YOU MATURE ENOUGH TO HANDLE marriage??? It certainly isn't like dating someone. It will be the hardest accomplishment of your life...but the most rewarding. Take some time and talk to your parents and try to understand WHY they want you to wait. Besides - if you're still only in late teens - maybe they'll be more receptive if you can settle on a time that's a little closer. Ask them what do they expect you to prove that will instill a sign a maturity and readiness from you? You might be surprised at the answer!!

[As You Wish]

My 6 year old niece has been talking about her wedding for the last three years, we keep telling her she needs to graduate from collage and wait until she is about 30. We will all be happy if she makes it to 16.

The point is, your dad may change his mind once he realizes you are going to do this now and there is no waiting. His ideal may be a mature and experienced daughter who has had some life behind her to walk down the isle. He may be willing to accept that you are ready now and not willing to wait.

[ndsimm]

speaking as a father of an 18 year old, there may be some anxiety on his part. How well does he know the groom to be? sometimes fathers only want what's best for "our little girls" no matter how bad we express it. Talk to him and see exactly why he wants you to wait.
BTW, how old are you? If less than 20, he may have some concerns about your future and your maturity that a good conversation may help, if older than 20, it may be different...