Deanna2112001
01-25-2009, 09:44 AM
I put this in my journal, but I wanted to share it with you guys in here. Because I literally thought the wedding was about to be canceled.
As some of you know, Fh and I are paying for this ourselves. We have put back money for the last 2 years. We were to already be married in 2007! But a promotion with Fh's job had us moving 2 hrs away from everyone we know.. And the wedding was put on hold.
Anyways..we have been counting on our income tax to help complete the wedding details. It was essential to have this money coming in. In the expected amounts.
I started doing a test run on my tax's and trying to see a round about what I would get. Again.. this number was very important. I was a lil worried because I had claimed 3 this year. And my checks were larger than normal.
I had 2 glasses of wine while I was doing this.. I really didn't think I would screw it up. I do this every year. Never have I came out wrong.
I start and think I am finished with an amount that's about 3k off. I assumed that because I claimed 3, was the issue here.
I broke down!!!! Literally blank faced walking into the bedroom not saying a word to fh. ( even though he asked me whats wrong) The last time I cried this much was when my father passed away. All I could think was.. I did SO much for this wedding. And we really only have 1k left to pay the vendors. I cannot explain this enough...
Imagine your entire wedding going poof right before your eyes.. We cant ask our parents for money. ( even though had this happened.. My azz would of been on the phone doing something about it.) There is no way in hell I would let 1000 dollars keep us from getting this. I have put way to much into it!
After my apology to Fh and him being upset too hugging and holding me all night. I came out of the bedroom and Fh is trying to cheer me up. Says here drink the rest of the bottle. lol at that point I didn't want to think about anything.. I was to upset. So I did! lol
I woke up in the morning thinking... Yano.. It was a new program I was using. Different than the other 2 that I use. Maybe for Some awful reason it was wrong.
It was wrong!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:irked::irked::irked::irked:
Or I was impatient. See what happened was.. all the other years that I have done this I have used the full version on Turbo tax. Well this year I didn't have that. So I had to use a cheap/free version of turbo tax. But it was way different than what I was used to. The part where you enter your children's name and social, in the full version it automatically adds the EIC. ( Earned income Credit)
This one.. I added my sons name and info. and kept looking at the amount bar to move up. And it didn't. I kept answering questions as I stared at that amount bar staying put. And by doing that I missed a section that was with 10 other sections where I was to see if I was eligible to even get the EIC.
Stupid jrfjrfhroisslfhjksho[ro[epwiorgv nl; thing! Dayum it. Made me flip put and cry so hard for NOTHING!
Fh laughed at me.. Said I should of been born blond. But yano, we got a lot riding on this.
Now after everything is said and done. I suddenly am not worried about small things. Like One bridesmaid keeps putting off getting her dress. Now it will cost her $180.00 to get it. When had she got it when I asked her.. It would of been $50.00 bucks!
So as I end this thread.. I would like to say..to those who are stressed out. Keep in mind... And image it not happening at all. That worse things could happen. Some one could lose there job..Or imagine if you didn't get the money you got for your wedding. Suddenly things that were huge. Don't matter.
When this happened, All I wanted was Rick and I to walk down a church aisle and have a get together with friends and family.. lol I still wanted the first dance and all that. Because that's already paid for.. as far as vendors go. But things like dresses and shoes.. hair and makeup done by someone else. The tweaking the reception room with extra decorations, buying waterproof paper to use with a template you made.. All of it suddenly didn't matter at all..
I think I needed this to happen says my sister. I needed to have a reality check about what's this wedding is for. I dont think I got carried away. I have not been stressed about anything expect that one bridesmaid not getting her dress. Hopefull within the last 77 days till the wedding. I will remain calm. And not sweat the small stuff, that might of seemed big before all this happend.
As some of you know, Fh and I are paying for this ourselves. We have put back money for the last 2 years. We were to already be married in 2007! But a promotion with Fh's job had us moving 2 hrs away from everyone we know.. And the wedding was put on hold.
Anyways..we have been counting on our income tax to help complete the wedding details. It was essential to have this money coming in. In the expected amounts.
I started doing a test run on my tax's and trying to see a round about what I would get. Again.. this number was very important. I was a lil worried because I had claimed 3 this year. And my checks were larger than normal.
I had 2 glasses of wine while I was doing this.. I really didn't think I would screw it up. I do this every year. Never have I came out wrong.
I start and think I am finished with an amount that's about 3k off. I assumed that because I claimed 3, was the issue here.
I broke down!!!! Literally blank faced walking into the bedroom not saying a word to fh. ( even though he asked me whats wrong) The last time I cried this much was when my father passed away. All I could think was.. I did SO much for this wedding. And we really only have 1k left to pay the vendors. I cannot explain this enough...
Imagine your entire wedding going poof right before your eyes.. We cant ask our parents for money. ( even though had this happened.. My azz would of been on the phone doing something about it.) There is no way in hell I would let 1000 dollars keep us from getting this. I have put way to much into it!
After my apology to Fh and him being upset too hugging and holding me all night. I came out of the bedroom and Fh is trying to cheer me up. Says here drink the rest of the bottle. lol at that point I didn't want to think about anything.. I was to upset. So I did! lol
I woke up in the morning thinking... Yano.. It was a new program I was using. Different than the other 2 that I use. Maybe for Some awful reason it was wrong.
It was wrong!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!:irked::irked::irked::irked:
Or I was impatient. See what happened was.. all the other years that I have done this I have used the full version on Turbo tax. Well this year I didn't have that. So I had to use a cheap/free version of turbo tax. But it was way different than what I was used to. The part where you enter your children's name and social, in the full version it automatically adds the EIC. ( Earned income Credit)
This one.. I added my sons name and info. and kept looking at the amount bar to move up. And it didn't. I kept answering questions as I stared at that amount bar staying put. And by doing that I missed a section that was with 10 other sections where I was to see if I was eligible to even get the EIC.
Stupid jrfjrfhroisslfhjksho[ro[epwiorgv nl; thing! Dayum it. Made me flip put and cry so hard for NOTHING!
Fh laughed at me.. Said I should of been born blond. But yano, we got a lot riding on this.
Now after everything is said and done. I suddenly am not worried about small things. Like One bridesmaid keeps putting off getting her dress. Now it will cost her $180.00 to get it. When had she got it when I asked her.. It would of been $50.00 bucks!
So as I end this thread.. I would like to say..to those who are stressed out. Keep in mind... And image it not happening at all. That worse things could happen. Some one could lose there job..Or imagine if you didn't get the money you got for your wedding. Suddenly things that were huge. Don't matter.
When this happened, All I wanted was Rick and I to walk down a church aisle and have a get together with friends and family.. lol I still wanted the first dance and all that. Because that's already paid for.. as far as vendors go. But things like dresses and shoes.. hair and makeup done by someone else. The tweaking the reception room with extra decorations, buying waterproof paper to use with a template you made.. All of it suddenly didn't matter at all..
I think I needed this to happen says my sister. I needed to have a reality check about what's this wedding is for. I dont think I got carried away. I have not been stressed about anything expect that one bridesmaid not getting her dress. Hopefull within the last 77 days till the wedding. I will remain calm. And not sweat the small stuff, that might of seemed big before all this happend.