Male "maid of honor"

[HisSmurf]

My best friend happens to be a male and I really want him to have him instead of a MOH. My fiance's best friend also just happens to be a girl. Is it too offbeat to have them stand up for us or should be just make them a part of the wedding party? And wth would you call them? :winktongue:

[kgvettegirl]

Sounds like a great idea. I'd just call them honor attendants.

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[mitch]

We had a Friends Son joke about being a Bridesmaid. He never did stand up but We did get a photo with Him for the record. :)

I think it's a great idea. Go for it.

Just don't ask Him to wear a Pink Frilly Dress :rofl:

[HisSmurf]

Sounds like a great idea. I'd just call them honor attendants.

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That's brilliant thanks!




We had a Friends Son joke about being a Bridesmaid. He never did stand up but We did get a photo with Him for the record. :)

I think it's a great idea. Go for it.

Just don't ask Him to wear a Pink Frilly Dress :rofl:

Darn! Hairy legs and pink frilly dresses aren't "in" this year? :lafhard:

[mitch]

Darn! Hairy legs and pink frilly dresses aren't "in" this year? :lafhard:

Well You could hold Him down and wax Him. :bbeek:

But i don't fancy hearing the screams from London :rofl:

[wannabeNurse2]

Having opposite sex attendants is quickly catching on. The bride simply has her FMIL and/or mom help her get ready instead of her attendant. I remember the groom who had a woman stand up with him called her the Best Woman instead of the Best Man. I can't remember what the man standing up with the bride was called. Man of Honor sounds too weird. Here's an article that words it perfectly! It even gives you ideas about attire and flowers.
http://www.bestweddingsites.com/Articles/Article_July04_Attendants.html

[Thalia_themuse]

I think it's great to see members of the opposite gender standing up! My FBIL had a Groomswoman who he called his "Best Woman", and he had been her bridesman before that. A friend was a female Best Man at a wedding.

FH and I are having a bridesman and a groomswoman as well. I want to call all of my attendants Maids of Honour, so my brother is my Man of Dishonour. I don't see anything wrong with Man of Honour or Male of Honour really, but I guess that's a personal preference. Attendant of Honour means the same thing. I may still officially call my brother the Bride's Man. Although then I would be tempted to call the others the Bride's Girls (they are all younger than me). FH's best friend is female and she will be a groomswoman, because I don't think the title 'The Groom's Woman' sounds on the same level as the Bride's Man.

Whatever you call them (I considered Maid of Honour, M(name) of Honour, Midget of Honour (nickname for my little sis) and Man of Dishonour) they are still your special attendants. Good luck with it and have fun :grinhappy:

[tk93]

Not sure what their titles would be. I tried "bridesmates", "bridesposse", "bridespeople" until settling on "bridesmaids/men" for my mixed group of attendants. If I didn't have a sister I was so close to, I probably would've asked my BFF, who happens to be a fabulous gay man, or my brother to take on the MOH position.

[RosieAngel]

I like "brideposse" myself... :lafhard:

But yeah, you can totally do this! I don't think friends ought to be left out from the wedding on the basis of their gender... or on your husband having the same amount of close friends as you.

Go for it!

[girlggc]

I went to a wedding a few months ago where there was a "man of honor" and a "best woman".

[gwenshack]

I'm having a Maid of Honor that is female and then a Bride's Best Man (my brother).

[mina*in*paradise]

I too have a best male friend that i want to have in conjunction with my maid of honor. I wanted to call him Man of Honor, but fiance' doesn't like it, he feels he is the "man of honor". Never the less it is a fabulous idea! Why should you have to choose a female to stand up for you, if it is a man you want up there.

I say it's your wedding, do what YOU want.

[Micah's bride]

I'm have a male best friend and I'm calling him my Man of Honor. He's been awesome...btw.

[Whitewater]

A couple of my friends got married to each other and his best friend happens to be female.

She was listed in the program as 'Best Being' :)

Personally, I don't think gender should be a factor. If the person you want to be there for you every step of the way happens to be the guy you've known since you were in pre-school, why not? It is a new millenium, after all!


Whitewater

[ChristineLS]

I'm under the impression that men and women don't interact as formally as they used too, so I wouldn't worry about it.

[Layleks]

I think it's a really cool idea. I'd have a "Man of Honor" myself if I had a close male friend. It think it would look awesome if you had your man of honor and your FH had a Best Woman.

[Karyanne20]

I think it sounds cool... I would have done this, but my guy friend is going to be a groomsmen instead,

[starsthrumysoul]

My younger brother is going to be my "man of honor." It only made sense - FH and I each have a younger brother. And I figured that if I only had one sibling and it was a girl, that she would be my maid of honor. He loves it, and everyone who hears about it gets a kick out of it!

[Carrickgirl]

Hi...I am a widow and getting married again. My fiance...who is also a widower has 4 sons (all between 16 & 30 yrs) and I have 3 sons (around the same ages). We couldn't decide who would walk me down the aisle...and my sons are very dear to me as well. Anyway, I am having my three sons stand up for me and William is having his four sons stand up for him. They will all look amazing in their tuxedo's (all the same colors) and I'm sure it will be wonderful. No one hesitated to stand up for us and knew we would not ask them to wear anything feminine. :)

[Robin.Haiak]

Having opposite sex attendants is quickly catching on. The bride simply has her FMIL and/or mom help her get ready instead of her attendant. I remember the groom who had a woman stand up with him called her the Best Woman instead of the Best Man. I can't remember what the man standing up with the bride was called. Man of Honor sounds too weird. Here's an article that words it perfectly! It even gives you ideas about attire and flowers.
http://www.bestweddingsites.com/Articles/Article_July04_Attendants.html

My fav was "Dude of Honor"

[WebLady]

LOL - Dude of honor is great ;)

I have heard "Man of honor" or just "Honor attendant"

[BrendaL]

I LOVE this idea. My bf is a guy- I just dont know if my fiance would like the idea tho

[allielaurent]

My Maid of Honor is my sister, but one of my "bridesmaids" is male. He's my best friend in the world, and I want him up there with me. It's extremely important to me for him to be in my wedding party.

[MrsFuchs09]

I have three best friends-my Fh, my best girlfriend from elementary school and my homosexual male friend.

The best girlfriend is my maid of honor and my male friend is a "male attendant."

I like "dude of honor"

Haha. It's cute.

I'm going to steal it and put "Bridesdude" in the program. Think people will get it?!

FH and I have a big sense of humor. Our ushers are going to wear purple tuxes. It'll be funny seeing them escort people to their seats. But I won't get to see them. :(

[2dBride]

When we asked my son to be best man, he explained that a best man is a groom's attendant. Since we lack a groom, he couldn't be that. However, he was willing to be dude of honor. My FI was so amused that she actually listed him in the program that way.