We say "I Do" April 4, 2009

[Mrs.Goff]

I thought that I'd start our journal with a little of our history. Not too much don't want to bore you. I met my fiance online 7 years ago. Yes, it's true it probably isn't the smartest way to meet someone, but it worked for me. After getting to know each other for about a month over the phone, he FINALLY asked me out. I was nervous but excited. Our first date was simple but great. We sat water side and talked for hours. Then returned home and sat in his truck and continued talking until the sun came up. I was smitten! You might ask why it took so VERY long for us to take the plunge. Well to be honest I was ready a long time ago. He however wasn't so ready. There were a lot of things holding him back, but I think that he wanted to make sure I wanted to marry him for him and not for "The Wedding".



Stay tuned ....

[Mrs.Goff]

It wasn't exactly a dream come true fairy tale. You know that proposal that every female alive dreams of. However, I'll tell you about it anyway. (Don't laugh ... LOL) Well, I was talking to a friend one day and we were talking about marriage as she was newly engaged herself. I mention that I couldn't wait to plan my wedding. This shocked her because I had said that I didn't want a big wedding and that I would never wear a gown! I should mention that this was a defense mechanism for me. I didn't want to let on that I wanted so badly to be married. She said to me "I thought you hated that stuff!" I said I've decided that I want to be his wife above all else no matter the cost. Well, later that day sitting at the dinner table filling each other in on the days events, I told my fiance about our conversation. When I repeated those words to him "I want to be his wife above all else no matter the cost" he looked at me as though he was seeing me for the first time. However, he said nothing more then "Oh yeah?"! Later that night lying in bed he asked me about what my dream wedding would be. Clueless I started to ramble off my dream wedding. We talked in to the early morning about 3 hours past bed time. yes, the following day was a long one. The next night however as we climbed into bed the subject went right back to our wedding I again just chatted along. UNTIL he said "Well I Think this weekend we should visit a few jewelry stores." I was like, "HUH? What for?" He said "If were going to have a wedding we should be engaged first, right?" Even longer story short, there was some confusion and a lot of tears, that ended with me saying "So what does this mean?" He replied "We're getting MARRIED!" So you see not the best way of doing it but the result will be the same.

[Mrs.Goff]

I got my proposal!

November 29th was our 7 anniversary. Well, we went to bed around 1am, we were chit chatting like always ... When he said "Will you marry me." I said no thinking that he was joking. Honestly I got upset, because I never got a real proposal, as I said before we just kind of agreed. I didn't say much for a while and when he asked what was wrong, I told him that he hurt my feelings because that wasn't funny. Well, after some tears and him explaining that it wasn't a joke. I apologized for miss understanding and I thought that was that.

Well, he snuggled to me got my ring from the head board (I keep it there while I sleep) and slipped on my finger and asked again "Will you marry me." Even though we've been planning a wedding for 5 months hearing those words I cried like it was brand new. LOL

Honestly, I thought that it wasn't ALL that important, but I was WRONG! lol It some how feels completely different. Maybe more real.

I don't know all I know is I'm Haaaapppy. lol

[Mrs.Goff]

So we went to one store and with a little fear in my heart I was determined to find my ring here. You never know if given the chance he may change his mind. We had no idea of a budget but that's the first question they ask and they keep asking until you answer. He finally got fed up and said it's not really about price it's about finding the ring that makes her smile. (Insert AWWW's here!) The sales lady kept trying to sell us the little solitaire rings, to be more exact she really tried hard to get us to buy a pear shaped one. Not saying anything bad about the pear but it wasn't for me. I kept telling her that I wanted something bigger, meaning something more than a solitaire but she wasn't listening. So and hour goes by and even I'm ready to leave, the stores lights go off they are closing! A new lady walks other and says "Can't find anything?" I said "Not really." She says "I've been listening to what you are looking for." Then she reached down picks up a tray and says "Try this." I slipped it on and my eyes lit up. I was in love! It's not something that the normal bride would want but for me it's PREFECT!

[Mrs.Goff]

TELLING EVERYONE was interesting. Everyone was over joyed and very excited. Almost too excited. Both mothers and my father decided to start shopping right away. Only problem was that I hadn't decided on what exactly I wanted. It was a uphill battle to control them. I think I've manged them fairly well. Mostly by letting the have control over things that don't matter much to me. Like cake cutters and toast glasses.

[Mrs.Goff]

PICKING OUR COLORS wasn't as easy as I thought. I had planned on Red and White but then we decided to have the wedding in April which is Spring time. So I thought that Red and White would be tacky. So I played with the idea of a rainbow wedding for a while but my heart was stuck on Red and White. My fiance said "Tacky or not it's your day if you want black and yellow you can have it." So our colors are RED and WHITE!

[Mrs.Goff]

OUR INVITATIONS were a snap. I'm a computer nerd and decided to do them myself. They turned out great. I'll attach a photo later. We only paid $150 for Save the dates, Invitations, RSVP, Thank you cards, and the ink to print them. About the SAVE THE DATE card ... DON'T BOTHER!! Unless you have a ton of out of towners and even then just call them. We sent out our Save the date cards and everyone was calling and thanking us for the invite and asking about time and place. Save the time and money and call them.



UPDATE .... Turns out they weren't such a snap after all. Ater proof reading everything at least 100 times, I printed them. Some time pasted and while scanning the actual Invitation into the computer, I seen IT. A TYPO!!! All the way at the bottom of the invite ... it should have said "to BE held at" and ours said "to HE held out" !!!!!! This made me look at the RSVP(s) boom another TYPO! Instead of GUEST it said QUEST!

How in the world?!? I read the so many time even had my Fiance read them.

So off to the store we went to purchase new ones.

I have since redone them and will post a Pic once I'm allowed.

[Mrs.Goff]

MY DRESS was STRESSFULL!!!!! I had done my research online (THIS IS IMPORTANT LADIES) before I went shopping. I went to a local shop that I had been to with my aunt and a friend. I knew that it would be different for me because I'm a plus size bride. But, I had no idea what I was in store for. I went in with a very clear picture of what I wanted and they had nothing at all near that in my size. So, to please my mother I tried on the 1 dress they had near my size and HATED IT! I hated everything about the dress and the experience. The lady kept telling me that I had to cover my arms "You know because you have big arms you HAVE to have sleeves!" All I was hearing is negative things about what I wanted. Then She preceded to tell me that I needed a dress 4 sizes larger then I thought!!!!! I was overwhelmed and upset and starting doubting my decision to have a big wedding! After a full day of shopping I called it quits, feeling like the ugliest thing to walk to earth. During the next week the owner of the before mention store called me and asked me about the type of dress I wanted. I filled her in and she lead me to a few dresses on a website. Stating that she could get these dresses made to my measurements. I was a tad bit excited. THEN, after looking them over I decided that there was one I really liked and I asked her if she could get one so that I might try it on .... HOLD ON TO YOUR HATS LADIES... she replied by saying "No, I can't do that however if you want that dress come in and pay $900 of the $1675 and we'll order it." I calmly asked "If I don't like the dress can I get a refund?" She replied "No, sorry there will be no refunds, but I promise it'll fit." I said you must be out of your mind there is no way I paying that much money for a dress I've NEVER SEEN! She said "It'll look just the way you see it in the picture." I said " I'm sure that I'll look the same on me a plus sizes woman as it does on a size 0 model!!!" Needless to say I didn't buy my dress or anything else from her. A couple of weekends later I decide to try again. I visited a BRIDAL WAREHOUSE (need a gown try them they're great). So I walked in and was telling the lady what I was looking for. She lead me to a section we choose a couple of dresses and I tried them on. The second one I loved it wasn't exactly what I wanted but was in the ball park and it was on sell. It was a discontinued style and was marked $298 from $1298! I was also surprised to find that it was the size I thought I needed not 4 sizes bigger! So, I bought the dress. Not it's not perfect I'll need some alterations but not many. By the way You can see my arms!!! Ladies, don't try to hide your flaws he knows you better then anyone else. He loves you even with your flaws! We're currently in the middle of planning our menu and all the other little stuff that needs to be done. I'll keep everyone informed. I'll post the pictures that I can now and after the wedding I'll post pictures of the wedding. Thanks for reading.

[Mrs.Goff]

We (my mom and I) were the first appointment of the day. We went in and I change into the dress. As soon as I came out the lady started pinning me. I thought that she would take measurements but nope she just measured the dress open in the back. Some how she determined what I needed from the opening.

The bad thing is that I need panels added to the sides and she gave me only 2 options. 1. order fabric and hope that it matches or 2. Let her take the extra from the train. I was a little disheartened because it means the train will be shorter but then again I originally wanted a shorter train. I think it just comes down to not wanting to change a dress that I love. But in the end I want it to match so I sacrificed 4-6 inches of my train to make sure that the panels match perfectly.

The problem is with my Tush *BLUSH* ... The lady said I needed the panels because "You have a bum and the cut of the dress likes to bunch above your bum."

Great just what every bride wants to hear. "Yes, my dear you butt does look big in that dress!!" lol

There were some good things ...

This morning when I put the dress on I fit A LOT better then before. When I bought it, it was tight around my waist and that caused a bunching in the front and it was a little hard to zip. Today it zipped right up and there was no bunching in the front.

Also, I had been doubting my dress. I kept thinking that I may have rushed into buying something. (I still think I did a little) But this morning standing in front of that mirror I teared up again. I looked at my mom and said "I know why I bought this dress. It's so pretty I love it!"

The seamstress said "Yes, it's a lovely dress and it looks good on you." .... wait for it ... "Because it hides your FAT!" lol I couldn't help give her a dirty look. But I didn't say anything, because honestly it's the truth. But dang a little tact goes a LONG way. lol

I was hoping to get a price today because she told me over the phone it depended on what they had to do. But again today she didn't really tell me a price. She just said they work for a hourly rate of $30 an hour. She said for what they are doing this time around... the shoulder straps, the bustle and the panels, it should be about $180 - $200. Then on February 4, I go back for a fitting and to get measured for the hem.

So I guess I'll just have to wait and see.

[Mrs.Goff]

So an update on where we are. We have everything planned out on paper. Most everything has been picked out. I still have to go and choose the actual flowers. I know that I want True red roses, Black Magic roses, and White roses. I know that I want really swispy(Is that a word? lol) greenery. My FMIL is doing our flowers and she has told us that she will let us know when we need to go purchase them.


We had decided that we were just going to do Cd's with favorite music and forgo a DJ/band. I didn't want to spend the extra money. BUT, I decided to invite my flower girls biological parents (VERY long story) and wouldn't you know it her father is a DJ! Yes, I forgot about him. He has offered to do our wedding for free, can you believe that? I'm so thankful. I'm trying to find a way to pay him back. I've offered to do some website HTML stuff for him in exchange. We have selected the must play music. Yay. We have to choose of 1st dance song from a list of 4 but that's really not going to hard.

I'm still struggling with my MOH's dress as she is PG and has a ever expanding waist. LOL So, I'm not sure what she is going to wear. That's a little more stressful then one might think.

Our cake is UGGGG! I know what I want I just have to pick someone to make it! It's mostly a battle to please everyone.

It's slowly but surely become a wedding. lol

[Mrs.Goff]

I think that I have you all caught up on the goings on.

I just wanted to say that I'm sorry all the post at one time. I'm actually coming here from another wedding forum, so all of this was already posted there and has been building up since June when I got engaged. I have photos of everything and once I permission I'll post all of that.

Thanks for reading.

[TeacherSonja]

I've been reading through your journal and your planning is going great. Can't wait to see photos of all your stuff!

[amisteratwisterandme]

How exciting! Sounds like you are on the ball with everything.

Can't wait to see the pictures.

[EarlyBird]

hi there, i too got a dress and had it tweaked, the train shortened, the top cut etc etc.. and i love it more now!!!

congrats on everything

[Mrs.Goff]

Bare with me here. I'm going to post all that I can and try my best to explain them all.

Our wedding programs... DIY project ...
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/DSC04287.jpg

My wedding night attire ...
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/0006_16038_mm.jpg

Center piece vase and glass beads ... DIY project ...
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/6a34145ef8f7a7bef4d80c97bda55f4b.jpg
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/bevfabriccrafts_2033_971571578.jpg

Flower girl shoe ...
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/5147-4jdBKL__SS260_-1.jpg

Maid of honors POSSIBLE dress ... shes pregnant and will be 6 months by the wedding. So I'm not sure what she's going to wear ...
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/Capture12-21-2008-25826AM.jpg

Bouquet Ideas ...
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/bouquets.jpg

[Mrs.Goff]

Flower girls dress ...
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/DSC04240.jpg
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/DSC04262.jpg

Ring bearers pillows ( I have 2) ...
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/DSC04263.jpg

MY DRESS unaltered ... excuse the look on my face FMIL caught me off guard ...
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/DSC015613.jpg
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/DSC015612.jpg
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/DSC01561.jpg
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/DSC01562.jpg

My shoes ...
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/007735.jpg

[Mrs.Goff]

Grooms tux ... Groom will be in a black tux with black shirt white tie and white vest.
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/st07.jpg

Father of the bride, bestman and ringbearers Tuxedos ... Bestman and ring bearers will be in black tux and shirt with red tie and vest ... father of the bride black tux with white shirt black tie and vest.
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/st05.jpg


My Ring ... it's not huge but I LOVE it!!!
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/343_225897754_10_os.jpg

[Mrs.Goff]

Cake ideas ....

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/Cake.jpg

http://www.elegantcakery.com/images%5CCakes%5C2SquareRedRosesCake.JPG

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/cake222.jpg

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/4_tier_round_cake_red_roses_daronco.jpg

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/RedDrama_StairsRS08.jpg



OK, let me explain the last one. My father has twice tried to choose MY wedding cake. I mean all by hisself, no input for me. The last cake is a lot like what he wants me to have.

[EarlyBird]

haha i have a dadzilla too :)

[Mrs.Goff]

haha i have a dadzilla too :)



It's crazy, isn't it!?! I mean my father use to say that he wasn't even going to my wedding. But the moment that we announced the engagement he went bonkers. LOL

Two days later he was sending my mom cake shopping. Then he was calling me to tell me that he had picked out the cake cutting stuff, the guest book and our toasting flutes. Then he go SO upset that I told him that he simply couldn't order that stuff because I hadn't told him what I wanted yet. His first reply was " But these are SO pretty!"

The cake thing has happened twice now and he still doesn't understand why I won't let him choose it. He told me the other day, " I have good taste." I started to say something when he shouted "Fine just get the one YOU want!" LOL Poor guy!

My fiances mother got upset at us because we didn't immediately agree to use a "Cake lady" that fiances brother found for us.

I swear weddings really do bring out the UGLY in people.

[TeacherSonja]

Everything looks great! Your ring is amazing.

[Mrs.Goff]

Thanks, you're too kind.

[Mrs.Goff]

Going to pick up our Book, Pen, glasses and cake server! YAY!

I'll post pictures!

[Mrs.Goff]

So, here are the promised pictures ... Sorry for the flash ...

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/DSC04314.jpg

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/DSC04371.jpg

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/DSC04363.jpg

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/DSC04355.jpg

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/DSC04343.jpg

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/Capture1-18-2009-35740AM.jpg


My mom and dad picked these out for us. I would have preferred something much less formal (and cheaper), but my folks had their hearts set on these.

Here's the website to the store they bought them at. Just in case someone wants to look.:)

http://www.thingsremembered.com/

Veil and head band came from Michael's craft store.

[Mrs.Goff]

Just a few other pictures ...

Here's the first dress I tried on ... it's a bad photo for 3 reason ... because it of me and because it's a cell photo picture.:huh: I honestly thought (well I still think) it made me look even bigger than I am.

PS: That's the lady who practically demanded that I cover my arms. If you read my first post you know what I'm talking about.

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/Capture1-17-2009-120840AM.jpg


Another of my ring cause I LOVE it ... LOL:w00t:
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/DSC04334.jpg


Invitation with plain vellum ...
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/DSC04373.jpg

Invitation with G on Vellum ...
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/DSC04313.jpg

I think I like it without.

Flower girls basket...
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/DSC04297.jpg

[Mrs.Goff]

Well, I met with the "Cake Lady" today. I looked through her book. She had some nice cakes but honestly she started doing this a long time ago and most of her cakes were from the early 80's -90's. However she said if I gave her a picture she could do whatever I wanted. So I gave her the print out. She said right away that she could do what we wanted. I was a little surprised when she said that I had to provide her with the flowers she needs for the cake. Honestly, I thought for the amount of money we are paying her, that she should be able to get the darn flowers herself. But nope, when I go to give her the go ahead, I have to bring the flowers. Not to mention that any supplies she uses, like the cake stand, we have to return to her the day after the wedding! WHAT?!? I'm not chasing you down the day after my wedding!!! I told my parents and future in-laws that I was adding that on to their to do list because this lady was their idea!

Anyway, here's our cake ...

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http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/4_tier_round_cake_red_roses_daronco.jpg

The texture.

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/ourcakemag.jpg

[EarlyBird]

1. the lady is a b* for the arm comments. :P

2. LOVE THE CAKE

3. i like the invitation WITHOUT the g much better.. but omg i love the ribbon tied like that was it a diy or ordered??

[Mrs.Goff]

It was DIY. I tried tying that thing at least 20 different ways. I wanted it to look good but be easy to remove. I found this knot by accident. lol

I was tying it like you would tie your shoes and because the tulle was too short one of the loops slipped out. I was like OMG that's stunning! lol I fluffed the remaining loop and voila! Perfection! (In my eyes at least ... lol)

The invitations themselves are also DIY. Got them at walmart and printed them myself. There we're 50 invites, 50 envelopes, 50 response cards (my RSVPS) and envelopes. Less then $20.

I also done our STD, 50 blank response cards and envelopes ... staples around $20.

The Thank you cards came from staples they we're less them $20 for 50.

Oh and the Vellum came from staples. I don't remember the exact cost for them but if it was over $20 I would be shocked.

Our original Invites came from staples they were $30, but I had a TYPO so I had to ditch them.

Thanks so much for reading my journal and helping me out.

[Mrs.Goff]

Well, I've been assembling invitations all day. They are printed, all the tulle and vellum are in place.
The envelopes are printed, both for the invites and the RSVPs.

All I have left to do is print the RSVPs, stuff the envelopes, stamp and mail.


YAY, me!

I've been a busy bee today. LOL

[Docsgirl]

Just read through your journal and everything looks great so far! :D

[Mrs.Goff]

Well, after long searches and much debate I finally found and bought my MOHs dress. I absolutely love it. I think she going to be gorgeous in it. Here it is ... opinions? I found it new on EBay for $70.

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/redround1.jpg

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/redround2.jpg

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/redround3.jpg

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/redround4.jpg

[Mrs.Goff]

So I was playing around with my centerpieces tonight. Here are a couple of pics. The ribbon may not be there in the end and if it is the knot will be covered with a small red rose. I just don't know yet.

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/DSC04384.jpg

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/DSC04383.jpg


Here are our bubbles ... not the best picture sorry.

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/DSC04392.jpg

[Mrs.Goff]

Yesterday was a busy day for us. We decided that we needed to go to get the guys measured for their tuxedos. When we got there the store was so packed with people we had to park in the grass. The BM was a little late but we decided to go ahead and have the other guys measured. Everything went OK I guess. My father was a little upset because I wouldn't be let him wear the same coat as FH. But he got over it fairly quickly. They wouldn't measure the Ring bearers for fear that over the next 2 months their measurements would change. So we have to take them back the first week in March. Once the BM got there we got him measured and I think I upset the guy helping us. He put a jacket on the BM and it was really snug. Now that wasn't a big deal except BM wears really over sized clothes normally and I was a little concerned that he may feel like a stuffed sausage. So, I asked if he could try on a coat that was one size bigger. BM of course felt more comfortable, but everyone agreed that it looked funny from the back. I just think the guy was offended that I questioned his expertise. Oh well dude get over it! After, we finished I bought my garter set (see picture below). Then after leaving there FH and I went to Michael's craft store and bought the flowers for our cake. They we're 50% off! YaY! SAVE, SAVE, SAVE!




http://usabridal.cathysexpress.com/img/product/closeup/11236.jpg

[rainbow]

I just read through your journal, and I just wanted to say I enjoyed reading it, I love the MOh dress you picked very wise selection, love your centerpeices, and pretty much everything, you have very good taste, even your journal is tastefully done! April is a nice month for a wedding! My birthday and my fiancees birthday and one of my sons birthday is in April so im a little bit biased.Hehe. I can't wait to see more.

[TeacherSonja]

Your centerpieces look great! I'm a bit biased too :) - my boyfriend's birthday is the same as your wedding date :) And your signature looks awesome!

[Mrs.Goff]

Thanks. I really hope that my guest like these as much as you all. :) You all really know how to make someone smile.

I'm glad you like my Signature. The one with our names I made myself. ;)

[Mrs.Goff]

__________Update__________

I mailed our invitations today! YaY!

The RSVP wait begins!

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Also my MOH dress came in today. It's beautiful! Exactly as described. Brand new with all the tags attached. Gotta love EBAY!

Total savings on her dress = $50 ... YaY!

[NOTKT]

Everything looks great! I love your cake and your colors! I'm really glad you did not chose the dress with the mean lady!

[Kari&Jeremy]

Cute centerpieces!

[SaraT09]

I love your MOH dress!!! SO cute!! I Would like something similar for my bridesmaid!

[Mrs.Goff]

Thank you, Sara. Is your bridesmaid pregnant?

I got it off ebay. It was buy it now, I paid LATE Thursday night and it arrived Monday around 3pm! I was amazed to get it so fast.

If you are looking for something for a pregnant bridesmaid or MOH here's the stores link:
http://stores.ebay.com/Special-Occasion-Maternity

[caligal85]

I was just reading through your journal. I love everything you've done. Your invitations are really gorgeous and your proposal sounds a lot like mine. :)

[Mrs.Goff]

We got some RSVPs back today! YaY! They were from each of our parents but hey someones coming! LOL

[Mrs.Goff]

So yesterday (Saturday, it's after midnight here) my seamstress called. She informed me that they had no power and therefore my gown isn't going to ready for at least 2 more weeks. She said that it was because they lost power due to the Ice storm in our state. Now, almost everyone I know lost power including ME, so I understand that might set her back. HOWEVER, she's had my gown for a MONTH now. What on earth has she been doing this entire time??

I was already anxious about this process and now I'm even more worried. I mean she's charging me $30 an hour. How many hours is this adding on?!? We're coming to the end of our planning and to the end of our budget!

As soon as she told me that it wouldn't be ready Wednesday as planned, tears filled me eye's I was so disappointed.:( I hope there aren't anymore hold ups, this waiting is killing me!

[NOTKT]

Have you talked to her about how many hours she has put in? I hope she doesn't tack on too many more!

[Mrs.Goff]

Actually I didn't mention it yesterday, I was surprised and a tad upset. After posting here last night, I wrote myself a note to call and ask her about the cost. I'm hoping that FH is right and that she hasn't even started on the thing and that's why I can't go in Tuesday. I don't know I'm just frustrated because it's out of my hands. I can't stand when people put things off until the last minute.

Then to top off the fact that she didn't do what she was suppose to ... she asked "When is your wedding?" I told her and she replied "Oh, well we have plenty time." I thought WHAT?!?!? I have 2 months that is not PLENTY of time, woman!

Anyway, it's just 2 more weeks, I guess it won't kill me.

[Mrs.Goff]

This morning I went and made the deposit on our cake! YaY! I decided to only pay half down in case she turns out to be a dead beat or something! LOL

One more thing off the list!

[SaraT09]

No I don't have a pregnant bridesmaid I just really like the style of that dress! I would like something similar for my girls!:)

[Mrs.Goff]

Oh, sorry Sara I thought maybe you had a PG BM. LOL Well if I see anything I let you know.

[Mrs.Goff]

Today I went out to look at food. We're doing our own food so I wanted to get an idea of what it was going to cost. Turns out we have a store near by called GFS that sells bulk foods and things like plates, cups and napkins etc. Everything is very reasonably priced. I was able to get 300 dinner napkins, 500 drink napkins, 300 dinner plates (they are plain white paper plates but the are heavyweight) 100 cake plates, 150 forks, 150 spoons (not sure what we need spoons for lol) and 200 16oz cups, all for just about $35. I was pleased. :)
I also went shoe shopping for my flower girl. I decide to find a white shoe that I really liked. Here's what I bought her.
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/Capture1-16-2009-62019AM2-3-2009-95.jpg

[Mrs.Goff]

Well, looks like I forgot to post the shoe situation from yesterday!!

I finally got the exact shoe size for my flower girl, but when I went to order her shoe it was DISCONTINUED!! I searched online and found some on eBay but they weren't the right size. So that's why I bought different shoes today.

It happens right?!?

oh well, these aren't red but they are cute.

[Kari&Jeremy]

Cute shoes!

[Mrs.Goff]

So, I got my first NO RSVP today.

I cried. :sob:

It was an Uncle and Aunt that I thought probably wouldn't come but I was really hoping that they would. I use to be really close to them, I was even the nanny for their 3 children for 2 years. But they had a falling out with my mother about 3 years ago, and had refuse to talk to any of us since.

My family's like that, they cut off everyone in a family if they're mad at one member. I don't understand it, I'm an adult and am not responsible for what my mother does.

_____

On another note, I had another Aunt that still hasn't got her invitation! I couldn't understand why. So I called and double checked her address with her again.Yes, I asked before addressing the Invitations because the addresses were collected back in June. She gave me the WRONG address!!! So, now her Invitation is lost, and she's the mother of my FLOWER GIRL!

So, I was wondering should I just give her another one?

[NOTKT]

If she definitely should have already received the invite (15 days) I would send another.

[Mrs.Goff]

If she definitely should have already received the invite (15 days) I would send another.


Thanks.

I forgot to update that my mother told me to put another invitation together and she would hand deliver it. That way we know it'll get there. Who knows when we'll get the lost one back.

We had a STD that had a bad address (that was FHs aunt and she lives at that address so we still know what caused the problem) and it took 4 months to get back to us!

[Mrs.Goff]

While visiting Earlybirds journal I seen her crypacks. I thought they we great. Well, I had been trying to figure out if we should supply tissues for our guest. These crypacks answered that question and I think they are a great solution. Thanks Earlybird I hope you don't mind me using your idea.

Anyway, here are pictures of my interpretation of crypacks.

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/DSC04396.jpg

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/DSC04394.jpg

[Deanna2112001]

We (my mom and I) were the first appointment of the day. We went in and I change into the dress. As soon as I came out the lady started pinning me. I thought that she would take measurements but nope she just measured the dress open in the back. Some how she determined what I needed from the opening.

The bad thing is that I need panels added to the sides and she gave me only 2 options. 1. order fabric and hope that it matches or 2. Let her take the extra from the train. I was a little disheartened because it means the train will be shorter but then again I originally wanted a shorter train. I think it just comes down to not wanting to change a dress that I love. But in the end I want it to match so I sacrificed 4-6 inches of my train to make sure that the panels match perfectly.

The problem is with my Tush *BLUSH* ... The lady said I needed the panels because "You have a bum and the cut of the dress likes to bunch above your bum."

Great just what every bride wants to hear. "Yes, my dear you butt does look big in that dress!!" lol

There were some good things ...

This morning when I put the dress on I fit A LOT better then before. When I bought it, it was tight around my waist and that caused a bunching in the front and it was a little hard to zip. Today it zipped right up and there was no bunching in the front.

Also, I had been doubting my dress. I kept thinking that I may have rushed into buying something. (I still think I did a little) But this morning standing in front of that mirror I teared up again. I looked at my mom and said "I know why I bought this dress. It's so pretty I love it!"

The seamstress said "Yes, it's a lovely dress and it looks good on you." .... wait for it ... "Because it hides your FAT!" lol I couldn't help give her a dirty look. But I didn't say anything, because honestly it's the truth. But dang a little tact goes a LONG way. lol

I was hoping to get a price today because she told me over the phone it depended on what they had to do. But again today she didn't really tell me a price. She just said they work for a hourly rate of $30 an hour. She said for what they are doing this time around... the shoulder straps, the bustle and the panels, it should be about $180 - $200. Then on February 4, I go back for a fitting and to get measured for the hem.



So I guess I'll just have to wait and see.


For a 3 bustle and the pick ups I have on my dress.. plus the straps tightened and the back panel sowed in.. 85 bucks.. We should of talked before you went to get this done. :(

[Mrs.Goff]

For a 3 bustle and the pick ups I have on my dress.. plus the straps tightened and the back panel sowed in.. 85 bucks.. We should of talked before you went to get this done. :(

I first called the bridal shop where I bought the dress, they told me it would cost about $60 to let it out (They told me when they sold it to me that there was enough material in the seams to make it fit right.) and fit the straps. But for the hem it would cost a minimum of $150 and would cost more if there was any beading.

At this point I'm just hoping that this lady does a good job, and that I get to see it SOON!

[Mrs.Goff]

I'm doing printed napkin rings. Here are the designs I've made. Still trying to decide.

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/napkinring2_edited-1-1.jpg

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/napkinring1_edited-1-1.jpg

[NOTKT]

Ooooo, I like both of them! They look really elegant. :)

[Mrs.Goff]

It's 325am here in good ole Kentucky and I just ran out of tape! lol

I've been working on printing, cutting and assembling our programs for about 12 hours! My back, wrists and fingers hurt. lol

This is the first DIY I'm rethinking. lol

They look great finished and I love them, they are just very time consuming. I didn't want to stop I only had about 30 more BUT I ran out of tape. That was roll number 5! lol

Tomorrow, I'm going to finish the programs (after I go buy some more efin type) and then Print the Napkin rings and start assembling those.

Busy, busy.

[Docsgirl]

Oooh! Can't wait to see pictures of your programs. I really like your napkin rings too. Are you going to do one or both?

[Mrs.Goff]

I'll post pictures soon.

FH, decided the he wants to do the red napkin rings. I'm glad he could decide because I couldn't. lol

[Kari&Jeremy]

I love the idea of cry packs! I may have to do that, especially since our wedding is outdoors...

[Mrs.Goff]

I got the idea for the cry packs from Earlybird. (Thanks again!) Everyone that has seen them love them.


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On another note. I finished our programs. It took another 1 1/2 rolls of tape. But they look great.

I'll post some pictures later.

[Mrs.Goff]

Here are pictures of the programs and napkins. Like I said on the other thread I'm not sure why some of the napkin rings look pick they are all the same color. lol

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/DSC04414.jpg

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/DSC04413.jpg

[EarlyBird]

I got the idea for the cry packs from Earlybird. (Thanks again!) Everyone that has seen them love them.


________

On another note. I finished our programs. It took another 1 1/2 rolls of tape. But they look great.

I'll post some pictures later.



my crypacks were one of my first DIY. i love them so much! Sometimes i wish i had some them a little fancier, then i realize what they are and go NOPE hahha
glad you decided to do them! I got the idea from an old OWer and i forget who that is right now, but thank goodness for this wonderful board, id have nothing done for my wedding

[Mrs.Goff]

I decided to add the little hearts but that added only like 5 or 6 extra dollars to the total. It was still less then $10 for 90 of them. Not bad, IMO. :)


___

Well, despite me being sick today. FH and I went wedding shopping today. We bought his band. I wanted something more fancy but he refuses to wear anything fancy! Here's what we got him. It's a 5mm Milgrain band.

http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/31EYSX7T8ZL._SS500_.jpg

Although it's not the most fancy thing, I like it. I got teary eyed when we paid for it. lol Silly are emotions always getting in the way of things.:)

I also got the table clothes. YaY.

We searched for a band for me but had no luck. Because of the shape of my e-ring it's pretty impossible to find a band. :( We have pretty much decided that we're just going to have to buy another set. If we end up doing that, then I'll just wear my current ring on my right hand. Because I love it so much and can even think about trading it in or not wearing it.

There's still a lot to do, or at least it seems that way to me. lol FH seems to think that there isn't much to do at all. Men you have to love them cause you can't live without them. :)

[EarlyBird]

So i read about your ring dilema and wanted to give you my story. my band on my ering has rather large princess cut diamonds in a channel setting, and i knew right away i didnt want the band that would add extra thickness to the set cuz i have short fingers, it would make them look fat!
I opened my mind up to anything and everything and lots on. In the end, i went with something COMPLETELY different for my wedding band!!!! its this braided type of band, and you know what? It looks awesome. Sometimes, you just have to try things on that dont even seem like they would work. I will try to post a picture of mine sometime soon, maybe it will help you understand a little more what i mean

[Mrs.Goff]

Great. I can't wait to see.

[f77g4]

Ok I've just read through your entire journal and everything looks great.

I can't believe the first sales lady though - that was so rude & unprofessional of her. I'm glad you found a dress elsewhere.

Have you thoughtabout having your band custom made to match your e-ring? My band has to be custom made and my ring isn't even a weird shape but its hard to find a band in store that matches the channel setting of my ring plus it has diamonds on the top and bottom of the e-ring as well and apparently you need a special ring not to damage the diamonds on the bottom.

Hearing the word custom kind of scared me but the jeweler has assured me that they can customize a ring for any budget. For the type of band I want they don't recommend anything lower then $300 but it can be done....so maybe this could be an option for you?

I love your FH's ring and I think my FH would too if it was white gold or silver looking.

[Mrs.Goff]

Thank you for reading my journal and for your compliments.

I don't remember if I posted it or not but that Bridal shop is now closed. FH and I drove past it a few weeks ago and it would completely empty. LOL That's what they get for insulting people.

We have thought about having something made but honestly I haven't been able to find anyone near me to make it. Everyone I've asked says they don't know of anyone that does that. :(

Here's what FH band would look like in white gold.

https://www.alexandersjewellery.com/images/category37/MGR64mm_pl-550ST.jpg

[f77g4]

Ooh thats so nice.

Do you have any smaller jewellry stores instead of big chains as maybe they would do it more?

I hope you can find something you like.

[Deanna2112001]

We ended up getting something online.. Fh's ring that is..

[Mrs.Goff]

I had someone suggest a place near by that sizes jewelry while you wait. They said that maybe he can curve a plain band to go around my e-ring. I'm excited that would be great. I've looked at other curved bands but none of them were curved the right way. I'm going to call him tomorrow and see if he can help. :)

[FutureKelley]

I really hope the ring situation works out for you! I went back to find a picture of your ring (beautiful, btw)... it's actually the same shape as mine! However, mine came with a matching band, so that doesn't really help you, but I *am* having mine altered a bit. Even though they came together they still do not line up evenly and the stone is off-center, which drives me insane, so I'm having a jeweler solder them together for me and move the stone so they look like they belong next to each other.

[Mrs.Goff]

That's exactly what the problem is with mine. Someone soldered them together. When we went to buy a ring I was SO EXCITED that I wasn't thinking straight. I knew I wanted something more then a solitaire, but I never thought to buy a solitaire and then a wrap for it. When I saw this ring I fell in love with it, and never gave a moments thought about it being 2 rings soldered to be one OR how I was going to find a band to match.

I'm hopeful that we'll find something. If not will buy another set and I'll wear this one on my right hand.

[f77g4]

Good luck calling them tomorrow.

[Mrs.Goff]

So ...

I called the seamstress this morning. The lady that answered told me that the lady that waited on me was out of town. (WHAT?!? My dress is already late and you go out of town?) I then said "Well, I was hoping to find out when my dress might be ready." She told me that it was finished (not sure I believe that) but that I had to wait until the lady called me. I started to ask when she planned on calling me, when the lady on the phone cut me off and said "I'll have her call you Thursday morning."

I don't remember if I posted it or not, but my first appointment with these people was also rescheduled, because the lady was out of town.

I'll let you know as soon as they call me. lol I'm not all that hopeful. :|


I also called the Cake lady. She said she just hadn't made it to the bank yet. But that she was planning to deposit the check today or tomorrow. I told her that it didn't matter that the money was safe, but that I just wanted to make sure there wasn't a problem (i.e. it was lost, stolen, forgotten, or she couldn't get it cashed for whatever reason). She said there wasn't any problem. However now I feel bad for calling. As soon as I hung up the phone. I thought to myself, great now she probably thinks I'm going to spend the money and was calling to see how long I had to get it back into the bank. LOL That's definitely not the case. haha


I called Fast Fix. After I told the guy what I needed. He said that is exactly what they do. So after talking to him, I now know that I can have my ring made ... but ... he said that it would cost $500.:bbeek:

I wasn't really prepared for that. $200 yeah, $250 OK, $300 sheesh. But $500 for a plain gold band, I just didn't think it would be that expensive.

At least now I have an idea of what it's going to cost. Jeremy and I can now decide what if best for us.

[f77g4]

I'm sorry to hear about your seamstress...hopefully she does quality work and doesn't charge you an arm and a leg.

I'm glad you found someone to make you a ring though....even if it's $500 - I personally don't think that is that bad. I've heard the plain gold bands for whatever reason seem to be more expensive...who would have thought. But at least you don't have to buy a whole new set - that would cost you more then $500 and you'll be able to design it yourself.

[Mrs.Goff]

We're using battery operated candles in our centerpieces. I just really didn't want the worry and mess of real candles. Anyway, they came in packs of 2 and I bought more then I needed just in case.

Last night I was brain storming on what to do with the extras. I decided to use my extra vellum from the invitations and make a little box to put the candles in.

I searched for a template that I like, luckily I found a free one.

So, today I did a trail run on plain paper and loved the box. So I decided to try one with vellum.

Here's what they will look like. What do you all think?

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/TW162936.jpg

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/TW162946.jpg

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/TW162944.jpg

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/TW162938.jpg

Of course the G was my idea and it will be straight. I just kept moving the box for the picture and made it off center.

[f77g4]

Cool idea!

[Mrs.Goff]

Cool idea!


**** I tried to say Thank you! Sorry about that.

[f77g4]

**** I tried to say Thank you! Sorry about that.

LOL no worries!

[Mrs.Goff]

It censors cr*p. lol Sorry mods, I didn't know.

[Mrs.Goff]

Here's another picture on the tealight boxes in the dark.

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/TW162967.jpg

[NOTKT]

That's fantastic! Can I have the link to the template?

[Mrs.Goff]

Absolutely. Here you go. Click the design and it'll get bigger so you can save it.

http://www.bellesprintables.com/FreeTemplates/TinyHeartToppedBoxTemplate_Belle.jpg


I should add that I re-sized it to fit my vellum. Mine are sized to fit a 5.5"wx8.5"H sheet. The little tea light fits in there just right at that size.

I used photoshop to color the heart and add the design.

If you use it post pictures, I'd like to see. :)

[NOTKT]

Sure will. I love sending cookies and treats to my family and I've been looking for a box to put them in.

[Mrs.Goff]

Oh, so you'll need it to be bigger then I did. If you search Google there are a lot of templates on there.

[NOTKT]

Thanks! I really appreciate it! I just love yours with the tabs...

[Mrs.Goff]

That's what made my fall in love with it. :) Plus it's super simple! lol

[TeacherSonja]

Wow! It looks great! You are so creative. Thanks for the template!

[Mrs.Goff]

Thank you and you're welcome.

[Mrs.Goff]

OK, it's noon here in Kentucky and the seamstress just called. I have an appointment Monday at noon. I guess she doesn't work until noon now. haha

Anyway, I'm very excited and nervous. I pray she did a good job.

Oh, I forgot. She asked me when I wanted to come in. I asked for Monday.
Then she said "Hmm, let me see, I've been in and out so much. haha I was in Vegas last week. haha"

What?!? I knew it! I'm here stressing and you're off spending the money I'm about to pay you, playing it Vegas!:irked:

Yep, that's what I wanted to say. lol

We'll see what happens.

[NOTKT]

Ugh, vegas! I'm sure it will turn out perfect, hun. :)

[Docsgirl]

Those tealight holders are amazing! Holy moly, you're creative! :D And I'm crossing my fingers for you that your dress is *perfect* when you go to try it on!

[FutureKelley]

We're using battery operated candles in our centerpieces. I just really didn't want the worry and mess of real candles. Anyway, they came in packs of 2 and I bought more then I needed just in case.

Last night I was brain storming on what to do with the extras. I decided to use my extra vellum from the invitations and make a little box to put the candles in.

I searched for a template that I like, luckily I found a free one.

So, today I did a trail run on plain paper and loved the box. So I decided to try one with vellum.

Here's what they will look like. What do you all think?

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/TW162936.jpg

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/TW162946.jpg

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/TW162944.jpg

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/TW162938.jpg

Of course the G was my idea and it will be straight. I just kept moving the box for the picture and made it off center.

Such a good idea!!

[rainbow]

Those boxes are so cool! Did they take long to make?

[Mrs.Goff]

Those boxes are so cool! Did they take long to make?

Not really. It took about 10 minutes to design, print, cut and fold. Designing was the longest part of that. lol

[Mrs.Goff]

Well, we went flower shopping today. It wasn't bad at all. We spent about 7 hours out and about 3 of that was at Michael's, the rest was at lunch (about an hour), Hobby Lobby (Love It! It was my first time there) and walmart.

We are completely finished flower shopping! YaY!

FMIL paid for the flowers.:bbeek: I was shocked and surprised. We weren't expecting that at all. She never mentioned it even while we were picking them out.

She ended up spending a little over $250 on flowers. Plus don't forget she's going to be making them herself.

She was so pleasant today too. I told FH (before I knew she was paying) that I was actually having a good time shopping with her. She was a little pushy. But it turned out it was because she was paying. It was mostly me trying to buy cheaper things to save us money and her wanting the more expensive stuff. But that was because she was paying and she knew her budget. lol

It's sad that I dreading going with her because we get along fine, when we're not dealing with wedding stuff.


So that's one more thing off the list! YaY!

[NOTKT]

Glad you all got along and got things accomplished! I can't wait to see your flowers :)

[Mrs.Goff]

As soon as things get started I'll take some pictures and post them. Even if I have to take them with my cell phone. :)

[Kay]

Hi! I just read your entire journal tonight! WOW!! I luv luv luv your wedding ring! I also think the moh's dress is just perfect! And those little tea light boxes?? You are soooo creative! Great stuff here!

[Gertie]

I just found your thread and read it all. I think you look absolutely gorgeous in that gown, and your arms look fine to me. The skinny witch at the first place was prolly just jealous cuz there is more of you to love. LOL

Those boxes with the lights in them are amazing, too! What a great idea! :)

Here's wishing you a WONDERFUL wedding day and all the happiness many years with your own dh can bring :)

[f77g4]

I'm so glad that you got your flowers!

It's ok that you were dreading the shopping with FMIL! I'd be too! LOL - but the good thing is that you got along ok and even better that she paid!

[Mrs.Goff]

The seamstress appointment went great. The dress it wonderful. She gave it to me to put on. I was in the dressing room trying hard to find where she added the panels but couldn't. I was pleased that I couldn't see it.

But when I got out to her, I told her I was surprised that I couldn't see the panels. She then told me that was because there wasn't any panels. In fact the entire back of the dress was changed. She bought all new fabric and rebuilt the back. She said that the panels just didn't look right. So I still have the entire train, in fact I think it's a little longer and the dress fits now.

She's now doing the bustle and hem. I have a appointment for March 12th but she said if she finishes it any earlier she'll call for us to come get it.

I praised her work, she really done a wonderful job. I still wish it would have been on time though. lol She was telling my mother about her trip to Chicago for 9 days and her 7 day trip to Vegas. haha

I have a couple of pictures on my cell phone (I forgot my darn camera again) I'll try and post later. There are a few fitting issues that she's promised to fix. Other then that I'm in love.

Oh and she said it'll be around $300 total. When she was explaining the reason that cost went up she explain that she didn't really alter the dress, she tailored it for me. I'm still not sure what difference it makes. haha

[Mrs.Goff]

One more thing.

I took my MOH her dress today. She surprised me by paying for it. She said that she was told that it was her responsibility to pay for it so she did. I told her that she didn't have to but she said she wanted to. She's so sweet, I love her to death. http://boards.weddingchannel.com/images/emoticons/happy.gif

[Mrs.Goff]

WoW, I just noticed ...

40 Days to GO!!!!!!!!! YaY!!!!:ura1:

[Docsgirl]

Yay! I'm so glad everything with your dress went so well! :D And your wedding is getting so close!

[f77g4]

Oh I'm so glad the dress fitting went well!! Oh I so hope my alterations aren't that much as that seems really high!

That is nice of your MOH to pay for her dress!

[Mrs.Goff]

Oh I'm so glad the dress fitting went well!! Oh I so hope my alterations aren't that much as that seems really high!

That is nice of your MOH to pay for her dress!

It probably is high. My seamstress charges $30 an hour. I don't really know what it should cost. To be honest I didn't shop around and I probably should have.

[Docsgirl]

My guess is that she probably charged you for "custom" alterations/tailoring...usually anything that they add/change to a dress besides the basic alterations fall in that category. That jacks up the price quite a bit....and it's what my alterations fall under as well.

[Mrs.Goff]

I'm not sure what she normally charges for tailoring. When we dropped off the dress she quoted us a price of $30 an hour. Now that she had to do extra I bet she wishes she would have asked for now. haha

[TeacherSonja]

I'm glad everything went well with the seamstress. The most important thing is that you are happy with the alterations and feel great in your dress.

[Mrs.Goff]

I FOUND MY RING!

Well actually 2. Jeremy and I went ring shopping yesterday we visited too many places to name. I seen some things that I liked but I refused to pay that kind of money. I guess I have expensive taste. Honestly I don't know why anyone buys from Jewelry stores. You can find rings of the same quality at pawn shops for a third of the price. It's not like gold and diamonds go bad or anything. Of course that's just the way I see it. Anyway we didn't find exactly what I wanted in the price range I wanted to pay. Jeremy got a little angry because I found a set that I loved but refused to spend almost $2000 for a set of rings. I'm just not one of those girls. I think it's because growing up my family never had money. Jeremy's family on the other hand have always done really well.

So today we decided to attack another part of town. This time I told him I wouldn't even walk into a jewelry store. So we stopped by a little hole in the wall pawn shop. I seen a solitaire that I loved and he seen a wrap that he fell in love with. I put them together and I was so excited to see that I really liked it. So after talking to the salesman he gave us a terrific deal. He was a really nice guy. I couldn't pass up the deal he was giving us ... So we bought it! YaY! I'm so excited!

Now the crappy part. I'm moving my other ring to my right hand ring finger and that finger is about a size bigger then my left. I know crazy, huh?!? So we took both rings to get them sized. The place advertises that they size your rings while you wait. But When we dropped them off, they said that they wouldn't be done until tomorrow at 5pm. http://boards.weddingchannel.com/images/emoticons/sad.gif

I woke up today with 1 ring. Then we bought 2 more, so I had 3. Now I have none. http://boards.weddingchannel.com/images/emoticons/shocked.gif ... Well, I have my band that's a family heirloom, but that's just not the same.

That's another thing off the list. http://boards.weddingchannel.com/images/emoticons/happy.gif

[Mrs.Goff]

It's not the best picture but you get the idea.

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/TW262968.jpg

[f77g4]

Ooh how exciting - congrats!

[Mrs.Goff]

I took more pictures ...

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/favs2.jpg

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/favs3.jpg
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[Docsgirl]

Threesia, it's gorgeous!! Lucky you! :D

[Mrs.Goff]

Thank you so much.

[Mrs.Goff]

Tomorrow we are taking our ring bearers to get measured for their tuxedos. They made us wait because they said little boys grow too fast.

I can't wait to see all my favorite men/boys all dressed up.

I'm equally excited about seeing the ladies.

I hope each one of them feel like a million dollars!

[Mrs.Goff]

Just a quick update.
We took the ring bearers to get measured today. Tuxedos are now finished all that is left is to pick them up. YaY.

We bought our aisle runner. Nothing fancy. But it does have a rose pattern on it.

I decided that I wasn't in love with the little flower girl basket so I bought a basket and done some DIY work.
opinions?
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/DSC04441.jpg
I've decided that our centerpieces are going to alternate between 2 different styles. There will be 2 on each table.
Two of these will be on every other table...
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/DSC04378.jpg
and the other tables will have two of these...
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/DSC04439.jpg
Both will have the little charms.
One last thing. We called to make a appointment with the JOP for next week but he's going to be out of town until the week after next. PffT! So we have to call him then.
I'm so tired sorry if this makes no sense. If you're confused just ask and correct myself tomorrow.

[Docsgirl]

I realllllly like that flower girl basket! Very cute!! :D

[FutureKelley]

That flower girl basket looks wonderful!

[Mrs.Goff]

Thanks so much ladies.

My ring bearers trying on tuxedo jackets. Though they aren't the jackets they'll be wearing in the wedding. I'd love to cut the little ones hair off. lol But he likes it.

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/3.jpg
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/2.jpg

[Mrs.Goff]

So FH and I have been talking about favors for the adults. I want something edible, though I'm not sure what yet. FH has suggested giving everyone a scratch off lottery ticket in addition to something edible. Oh and a shinny new penny for the scratching. I think it's a cute idea. I've never really liked the idea of giving them some little trinket that they have not use for. Really who needs a wallet size picture frame or a key chain. (Sorry if these are your favors. I don't mean to offend anyone.) Hm, I don't know.

What do you think ladies. Would it be tacky to do this?

Here's another question for you all. How are you deciding who gets to take home the centerpieces? (If you're giving them away) Do you wait for someone to ask? Do you mark someones seat and they get it if they want. Or do you just let whoever takes them have them? What if no one takes them ... lol ... I'll be stuck with all those things. AHH! lol

[f77g4]

I think your idea for favors is great not tacky.

As far as the centerpieces go, I'm hoping noone really takes them...lol....FH will want the golf balls for the golf season and I hope to sell the rest and recoup some of my costs but that is just me. I'm quite interested to see what others say about this.

[Kay]

So FH and I have been talking about favors for the adults. I want something edible, though I'm not sure what yet. FH has suggested giving everyone a scratch off lottery ticket in addition to something edible. Oh and a shinny new penny for the scratching. I think it's a cute idea.

Sounds *very* cute ~ and if you have a lot of guests, you will surely have one or two win $20, $100, etc... ~ that would be very cool and fun for them and make your wedding reception memorable, for sure!!

[Kay]

Here's another question for you all. How are you deciding who gets to take home the centerpieces? (If you're giving them away) Do you wait for someone to ask? Do you mark someones seat and they get it if they want. Or do you just let whoever takes them have them? What if no one takes them ... lol ... I'll be stuck with all those things. AHH! lol

When setting-up the reception site, I would place something under a chair at each table ~ and then have the DJ or someone announce (about half-way through the reception) for everyone to check underneath the chair they are sitting at ~ and then say "Surprise! You've won the centerpiece to take home!" A husband will give it to his wife, a daughter to mom, and if there is someone who doesn't want it, there is always someone at the table that will gladly take it for them.... it's amazing the things people will carry home with them! HA :)

[Mrs.Goff]

Thanks for all the help. :)

[Mrs.Goff]

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[Mrs.Goff]

My DJ emailed last night he's mailing out a package that we have to return ASAP. I guess we better get busy picking those songs.:bbeek:

Also, I called my seamstress because I needed to see if she had a different time slot available on the 12th. She told me that my dress is ready and that I can come in Saturday, March 7th to try it on and pick it up!!
:ura1:

I hope that it perfect. I'm a little nervous. haha

[Mrs.Goff]

OOPS ...

I posted the wrong RSVP number.

Here's the correct count so far.

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/RSVPcount6105.jpg

[f77g4]

Ohh I guess your mother has been a busy lady! Gotta love having mom's to delegate to! LOL

I hope your dress is perfect too! Good luck!

[Mrs.Goff]

So we ordered the edible part of our favors.

They are champagne, blackberry and raspberry flavored soft jelly belly with candy seed covering.

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/OUREDIBLEFAVORWHITE.jpghttp://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/OUREDIBLEFAVOR01.jpg

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[f77g4]

They look yummy and like real berries!

[Mrs.Goff]

I went to the bank they other day and asked for a roll of new 2009 pennies. They said they didn't have rolls of new pennies. Well, what I didn't know was that they just released a NEW special set of pennies and it is IMPOSIBLE to get them. A single roll of pennies is going for like $25 on EBay!
The guy at the bank looked at me like I was crazy when I asked and now I know why. I just wanted 2009 pennies because we're getting married in 2009. I didn't know there was a black market for them! There are even scam warnings all over the Internet.
Who would have thought?
There is NO WAY I'm paying $25 for 50 pennies. Looks like my guest will get regular odd year pennies.

[f77g4]

I went to the bank they other day and asked for a roll of new 2009 pennies. They said they didn't have rolls of new pennies. Well, what I didn't know was that they just released a NEW special set of pennies and it is IMPOSIBLE to get them. A single roll of pennies is going for like $25 on EBay!
The guy at the bank looked at me like I was crazy when I asked and now I know why. I just wanted 2009 pennies because we're getting married in 2009. I didn't know there was a black market for them! There are even scam warnings all over the Internet.
Who would have thought?
There is NO WAY I'm paying $25 for 50 pennies. Looks like my guest will get regular odd year pennies.

Although the 2009 pennies would have been awesome to have the year etc why not keep your eyes open for the good luck pennies? Every time you see one pick it up and add that to the collection that the guests will get...just a thought.

[Mrs.Goff]

Hey that's a good idea. I'll have to tell FH about it. Thanks!

[Kay]

I'm curious ~ what are you going to do with those cute little berries??

[Mrs.Goff]

They are going in little white organza bags. Like this.
http://www.aromabeadsonline.net/images/organza%20bags.jpg
I'm leaving them in their sealed container until the night before so they'll be fresh for the guest.

[Mrs.Goff]

Hmm, look at my counter! I looked and was like "Where's my heart?!?". I found it, it went back to the beginning because we have 29 days, 21 hours, 4 minutes 22 seconds! haha

[Mrs.Goff]

Our candy came today. They are much smaller then I thought but they smells delicious.

I'm having a hard time today because I know that we can go get our marriage license today. But FH wants to wait a few days.:snide: I'm disappointment. :( I know it doesn't really matter as long as we have it before the wedding. But I have been counting down the days before we could go get it. Oh well.

I go tomorrow to pick up my dress. I hope that all is well. I'm nervous. I know that this is it. After this it's a finish product. I hope that it's right.

[f77g4]

Glad you like the candy - sorry to hear it's smaller then you had thought.

I'm sorry to hear you're disappointed with not going to get the marriage license but it's ok you'll get it in time. I'd be scared of getting it too early and losing it but that is me - I have one filing system and FH another and he tends to move important papers and it can take some time tracking them down.

Good luck with the dress tomorrow.

[Mrs.Goff]

It's true it is smaller, but after I tasted each of them I know why. The taste is very pronounced, if they were any bigger it would be over powering.

As for the marriage license. I told FH that I was disappointed and he said that we'll go get them Monday. :D It's because they are only good for 30 days and they count the day you get them. So if we got them today it would be exactly 30 days. I'm okay now knowing that we're going Monday.

Thanks for the well wishes about the dress.

[amisteratwisterandme]

Here's another question for you all. How are you deciding who gets to take home the centerpieces? (If you're giving them away) Do you wait for someone to ask? Do you mark someones seat and they get it if they want. Or do you just let whoever takes them have them? What if no one takes them ... lol ... I'll be stuck with all those things. AHH! lol

A recent wedding I went to, the DJ asked that one person from each table hold up a napkin, then pass it to the left, he played music while everyone passed it, then he stopped and said to stop passing the napkin. At this point he said to whoever was holding it to pass it once more to the left, and then announced that at that time whoever was holding the napkin kept the centerpieces.

It was kind of a cute way to get everyone involved.

[Mrs.Goff]

A recent wedding I went to, the DJ asked that one person from each table hold up a napkin, then pass it to the left, he played music while everyone passed it, then he stopped and said to stop passing the napkin. At this point he said to whoever was holding it to pass it once more to the left, and then announced that at that time whoever was holding the napkin kept the centerpieces.

It was kind of a cute way to get everyone involved.

That's a great idea. Thank you.

[Mrs.Goff]

I just got home from the seamstress. I'm happy, yet disappointed. The train is back to the original length. The dress now fits the way it should. BUT, I'm extremely disappointed with the bustle. It's horrible, and I mean that. I have seen a ton of different types and never once have I seen anything like mine. She made a strap that attaches to 2 little bra hooks at the bottom of the beading on my back. She made it so that I have to pull the entire train up my back and fold it over that strap. Then I have to safety pin the bottom if the skirt together because the tulle is exposed. When I seen it on the hanger the first thing I thought was WTF?!? Never in my wildest dreams did I think she would have done something like that. My mom was like "I love it!" I didn't make a scene I just over looked it bustle and the few other flaws I seen and focused on what I loved about it.

I think I might get together with my mom and FMIL and see if we can't find a way to pin the bustle a different way.

I forgot my dang camera again, so I'll have to wait for Jeremy to go to work so that I can get the dress out and fix the bustle and take photos.

The total cost of the alterations $345.00 or $23 and hour, she said she gave me a discount. She said it was 15 hours and that would total $450 at $30 and hour.

[f77g4]

I just got home from the seamstress. I'm happy, yet disappointed. The train is back to the original length. The dress now fits the way it should. BUT, I'm extremely disappointed with the bustle. It's horrible, and I mean that. I have seen a ton of different types and never once have I seen anything like mine. She made a strap that attaches to 2 little bra hooks at the bottom of the beading on my back. She made it so that I have to pull the entire train up my back and fold it over that strap. Then I have to safety pin the bottom if the skirt together because the tulle is exposed. When I seen it on the hanger the first thing I thought was WTF?!? Never in my wildest dreams did I think she would have done something like that. My mom was like "I love it!" I didn't make a scene I just over looked it bustle and the few other flaws I seen and focused on what I loved about it.

I think I might get together with my mom and FMIL and see if we can't find a way to pin the bustle a different way.

I forgot my dang camera again, so I'll have to wait for Jeremy to go to work so that I can get the dress out and fix the bustle and take photos.

The total cost of the alterations $345.00 or $23 and hour, she said she gave me a discount. She said it was 15 hours and that would total $450 at $30 and hour.


Wow I'm really sorry to hear you are disappointed...is there anything that she could do to fix it? What were the other flaws? I mean you are paying her for a service and I think that I'd feel really disgruntled pay her that much money for something I wasn't completely in love with.

I hope you can get it figured out!

[Mrs.Goff]

The other flaws are things that other people probably wouldn't notice. But being that it's my dress I notice everything! Like the lining of the train shows when I walk. It's almost like the lining was cut longer than the train itself. It's so small that I doubt that anyone else will notice. Then there's the the beading panel in the skirt. It use to lay perfectly flat but now it kind of folds and sticks out. Again no one else will care but it annoys me.

In the end I still hate the flaws, but more importantly I love the dress.

[f77g4]

Well I hope you can get it all figured out - good luck especially with the bustle.

[Deanna2112001]

I just got home from the seamstress. I'm happy, yet disappointed. The train is back to the original length. The dress now fits the way it should. BUT, I'm extremely disappointed with the bustle. It's horrible, and I mean that. I have seen a ton of different types and never once have I seen anything like mine. She made a strap that attaches to 2 little bra hooks at the bottom of the beading on my back. She made it so that I have to pull the entire train up my back and fold it over that strap. Then I have to safety pin the bottom if the skirt together because the tulle is exposed. When I seen it on the hanger the first thing I thought was WTF?!? Never in my wildest dreams did I think she would have done something like that. My mom was like "I love it!" I didn't make a scene I just over looked it bustle and the few other flaws I seen and focused on what I loved about it.

I think I might get together with my mom and FMIL and see if we can't find a way to pin the bustle a different way.

I forgot my dang camera again, so I'll have to wait for Jeremy to go to work so that I can get the dress out and fix the bustle and take photos.

The total cost of the alterations $345.00 or $23 and hour, she said she gave me a discount. She said it was 15 hours and that would total $450 at $30 and hour.


You should of made a trip over to Loveland Ohio and had pauline do yours. She stated that no bride has ever left her shop paying more than 200 for alterations.. And thats with the press!

If you want I can put you in touch with her.. How far are you from Loveland OHio?

[Mrs.Goff]

You should of made a trip over to Loveland Ohio and had pauline do yours. She stated that no bride has ever left her shop paying more than 200 for alterations.. And thats with the press!

If you want I can put you in touch with her.. How far are you from Loveland OHio?

I had to mapquest it. haha It says that I'm about 2 hours from you.

[Mrs.Goff]

Sorry these aren't the best they are cell phone pictures.

OK, not sure what this one shows other then the side.
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/me030709.jpg
In this one you can see that the beading panel in the skirt is sticking out and not laying flat.
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/03-07-09012.jpg
In this one you can see it train lining showing along the edge.
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/03-07-09_0957.jpg
These are of the CRAPPY bustle.:irked:
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/03-07-09013.jpg
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/03-07-09_0955.jpg



I guess it could be worst. I still love the dress and even if I didn't I'm not spending anymore money on it. haha

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Here are a few pictures of my mom. I had her try on her dress again so that I could take a few pictures. They aren't the best because they are cell phone pictures.

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/mom2.jpg

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/mom5.jpg

[EarlyBird]

Okay, NO! I have researched every possible bustle cuz i have a big booty and wanted one that didnt accent that.. i have never seen that bustle.. ever!


Listen, you dont have to be unhappy, the bustle is the most SIMPLE thing to have them redo.. call her tomorrow..

Little story about my "bustle fit" as my mom and i call it- (which prompted me to go research bustles) my seamstress decided on the bustle she was using for my dress. when i got there and she did it, i literally did what you did WTF but outloud!!!!
the seamstress and i spoke and my words were "There has got to be something else, something has to be done" the one seamstress told me no, the other said "of course!!" DO NOT let her charge you for it either..

im so mad for you right now! b/c i hate that she just chose what she was going to do with your bsutle.

[Mrs.Goff]

I wish I could call her tomorrow, but she's out of town AGAIN!!! This is the third time since January! She told me today all about how she was going to be gone for the next 2 weeks to visit her son.

I'm so glad that someone else sees that it isn't right and agrees that it's a bustle that she made up. Now I don't feel so bad. My mom and FH (who in his defense hasn't seen it) made me feel like I was making a mountain out of a mole hill. I just can't help it, I HATE HATE HATE it! It honestly it's the ugliest thing I've ever seen.

I'm going to talk to my FMIL and see if she can help me figure something out. Maybe we can pin it or something. Because honestly I would rather not bustle it at all if it has to look like that.

I remember her saying that it was because my train was so heavy. I thought to myself "I've seen cathedral length trains bustled so it can't be that." I know being big that my dress weighs more then others in total but I don't know what that has to do with the train.

The more I think about it the more sad I get. I'm angry at her, because I think she rushed it because she knew she was going out of town.

UGG. Will the dress stress ever end. One would think that after 8 weeks and $350 worth of work (or $450 if you believe she gave me a discount. Which I don't believe.) that the dress would be perfect!

[EarlyBird]

so, i had a cathedrial length gown and they did a 5 point bustle. Thats when i had the breakdown cuz i didnt want it, and we decided to reconstruct the entire dress :) but thast a different story.
However, my mother also at that point said it was "nothing" and in the end, after it was fixed she was like OH YAH, ITS MUCH BETTER NOW!!"

so here was the bustle. pretty much it was two on each side of the "butt" and then one that connected all of those. it was heavy as all heck but it would have worked!!! She also said that she could have done a "6" point which would have started at the top of my butt, had two button "bustles" next to each other and gone down the whole way of my butt with two bustles on each "column"

anyway, here was the 5 point
http://i82.photobucket.com/albums/j277/vanamarieG/DRESS/CIMG1240.jpg

bring this in for her.. my dress was beaded with CRYSTALS all over the train and the women did this!

[EarlyBird]

I wanted to add, im so sorry you have this stress. I know this is supposed to be the best part of the wedding process. but you will be a beautiful bride no matter what. the thing with the liner, dont worry, not noticable, and i know it might feel big to you right now, but like you said, nobody else will notice.
i love your moms mob dress too.

[Mrs.Goff]

See I love your bustle.

Thank you so much for you kind words.

[f77g4]

I agree - I don't think you are overreacting at all especially with the bustle....I've never seen one like that (mind you I haven't been to a lot of weddings either but still common sense)....I know some trains have a loop for the bride to put her fingers through to carry it instead of bustling it and that looks like what she did but she attached the loop to your dress, etc.

I can't believe she charged you so much for something that looks like that and that you're so unhappy with. I think you may be right in that she was rushing to be able to leave town since they had had your dress so long. As much as you don't probably don't want to shell out any more cash, I think I would take it somewhere else and have them fix it as this lady doesn't seem to be focused on doing a good job, etc. And then I wouldn't recommend her to anyone else in all honesty....I'm sad/angry for you that you have to deal with this but you'll be able to help other brides from dealing with the same stress!

Good luck!

[Deanna2112001]

I had to mapquest it. haha It says that I'm about 2 hours from you.


Ah hell it was worth a try yano.. lol Again..if you decide you need her. it might just be worth the drive.

[Mrs.Goff]

Jeremy and I went today to get our marriage license. OMG! I have never seen something so unorganized in my life. I walked in the county clerks office and it was pack FULL of people. There is no information desk, no signs, NOTHING! I asked the closest people around if there was someone to talk to and they said no. I kind of wondered around a little trying to figure out where I needed to go or who I needed to talk to. Honestly in that place I guess it's just the luck of the draw. No one ever even looked at me and I never once seen anything about marriage license. i walked out in frustration!
I came home to call, BUT when I looked up that branches phone number, they only publish a fax number! WTF?!?!?!? I don't want to fax you I want to speak it someone so that I can figure out your crazy unprofessional system. I NEED to get my marriage license and more importantly I WANT them!
To top all that off I now have to wait an entire week because they close at 430pm Tuesday - Friday and FH doesn't get home until 330pm!!!!! Monday is the only day that they stay open late and they aren't open on Saturdays anymore!
Yep I'm one unhappy bride-to-be. I don't care if I am getting upset over nothing I'm POed!
:irked::irked::irked:

[f77g4]

Jeremy and I went today to get our marriage license. OMG! I have never seen something so unorganized in my life. I walked in the county clerks office and it was pack FULL of people. There is no information desk, no signs, NOTHING! I asked the closest people around if there was someone to talk to and they said no. I kind of wondered around a little trying to figure out where I needed to go or who I needed to talk to. Honestly in that place I guess it's just the luck of the draw. No one ever even looked at me and I never once seen anything about marriage license. i walked out in frustration!
I came home to call, BUT when I looked up that branches phone number, they only publish a fax number! WTF?!?!?!? I don't want to fax you I want to speak it someone so that I can figure out your crazy unprofessional system. I NEED to get my marriage license and more importantly I WANT them!
To top all that off I now have to wait an entire week because they close at 430pm Tuesday - Friday and FH doesn't get home until 330pm!!!!! Monday is the only day that they stay open late and they aren't open on Saturdays anymore!
Yep I'm one unhappy bride-to-be. I don't care if I am getting upset over nothing I'm POed!
:irked::irked::irked:

Wow sorry that didn't go as planned....there as got to be a number or website I would think....or can you call another government office and have them transfer you? I hope next Monday goes better for you.

[Mrs.Goff]

Yeah one would think there would be a number or website. I can get the number to the main office which is downtown and it's impossible for us to make it to the downtown office during the week.

My aunt is a title clerk for a major car dealership in town. So my mom is calling her to see is one of her friends down at the county clerks office can help us.

It's not the end of the world it just ticks me off.

[f77g4]

Yeah one would think there would be a number or website. I can get the number to the main office which is downtown and it's impossible for us to make it to the downtown office during the week.

My aunt is a title clerk for a major car dealership in town. So my mom is calling her to see is one of her friends down at the county clerks office can help us.

It's not the end of the world it just ticks me off.

We get calls all the time for other government departments and we just transfer them to one of the others....one of our numbers if very close to another departments so we are always getting people calling that should be calling elsewhere.

I hope you can find the number....maybe call the main office and have them transfer you or maybe the appts are all booked through them since the other place just had a fax listed?

[Mrs.Goff]

My MOH emailed me today saying that she finally tried on her dress. I just have to say it's about darn time. With 22 days to go she tells me that the bodice is too big under her arms. *Rollseyes* I told her that it was going to need alterations! She F*ing PG nothing is going to fit perfectly off the rack! she said that it's just a little big and it's under the arms so she's going to ask her mom to help her fix it. Fingers crossed.

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Then my cousin who is nearly 21 that so badly wanted to be a part of my wedding emailed me saying that she found a new job. I'm excited for her, but, I asked her about the wedding. She replied "Well, I do have to work some Saturdays, and I'm going to ask them about your wedding date tomorrow. But I get off at 3pm so I should be able to make it. What time should I be there?" WHAT?!?!? You should?!?!? You're on my $#!% programs as our reader you better be there. Nope I didn't say that to her but I wanted to. I just told her that she needed to be there Friday for the rehearsal and that the wedding started at 5pm and I hoped that she could be there by 4pm but no later than 4:30pm and not to be surprised if I freaked out and had someone call her if she wants there by 4pm.

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I forgot to tell everyone that I had to call the main County clerks office 5 times and I'm pretty sure I talked to 3 different people, just to get the local branches phone number!! I was SO angry. Then I called the local office and told her that I was there and didn't see a sign or anything, could she tell me what we needed to do. She wasn't a very nice lady, she said "Well, honey it's common sense you take a number and wait." I was about popped a vein. I swear I looked I didn't even see a place to get a number.

Either way.:irked:

Jeremy and I are going Monday to get or license. He took a vacation day. We're going to try to get there before it opens and be the first in line. Neither of us are very patient people, so waiting for hours doesn't go over well. lol

[NOTKT]

Good luck chica! Everything will turn out ok, we promise!

[f77g4]

Well I'm glad your MOH finally tried on her dress! Wow only 22 days to go!! How exciting!

Good luck getting the license - some people are just so rude!

[FutureKelley]

Oh my gosh, how rude!! Ugh... I would have slapped her through the phone!

That sucks about your MOH too. I hope everything works out!

[Mrs.Goff]

Updates:
First we received the package from our DJ. Now I'm stressing over the music even more. We have to return it ASAP and we still don't know what songs we want and more importantly we have NO idea what we want our First dance song to be. :0 Jeremy and I worked on it some tonight and I think we have our list figured out, but still can't decide on that first dance song. The only thing we even have on that list is I cross my heart by George Strait. But I'm not sure I want that song.


We got one of our missing RSVPs back today it was from one of Jeremy's uncles, they aren't coming. So that three more nos. Still 4 missing. :irked: Jeremy called his mother about the missing RSVPs she flat out refused to call, she told him to call his father. Pfft.


On a brighter note I found my unity candle lighters. It's such a small detail but I didn't want something ugly. haha I know silly right? Well, I found a lighter I liked from Zippo but they were nearly $20 a piece. Yikes I of course wanted 2 , one for each mother. I know my mom will want hers as a keep sake. Anyway they said that Walgreen's carried them so I want to look and didn't see them but I did find one I liked and it was only $3.99 a piece. YaY $32 in savings!
Here's a pictures.
http://us.st12.yimg.com/us.st.yimg.com/I/yhst-11353365108554_2037_667839551
Last thing ... I was suppose to go over and help FMIL with the flowers today. She hasn't even started. Yep, that frightens me! Well, I called to see what time and she wasn't home. :boggle: She was out with her mother trying to find something to wear to the wedding. I couldn't help myself, I started laughing and said "It didn't take me that long to choose my dress and it's MY wedding." Then FMIL informed me that she is now thinking of wearing a navy pant suit, instead of her purple dress. Pure craziness. haha

[Deanna2112001]

We have to provide our own lighting for the unity candle.. Geesh.!!!! Welp at this point.. matches will have to do.. HAHA

[Mrs.Goff]

Haha, Your venue may have something on hand. I know that mine will not. Our mothers are lighting them during the ceremony not as they are seated so we needed something.

[Deanna2112001]

I don't even know how that's all gonna go down... Man oh man.. I hope pastor Gary knows how to do a rehearsal lol Cause I don't!

[Mrs.Goff]

:) ... I'm sure he has a plan. When will you be meeting with him to go over the ceremony?

[Deanna2112001]

The day of YOUR wedding ... lol One week prior to my wedding

[Mrs.Goff]

haha ... I still have to go meet with me JOP. I'm hoping to do that this weekend.

[Mrs.Goff]

I want to have something put together for our ceremony before going in front of the Officant. I don't want to be sitting there with a DOH' look on my face and end up with a ceremony that I'm not happy with. So I've searched high and low and pieced something together. Opinions please ...

__________________________________________________ _______________________

Opening:
Officiant: Dearly Beloved, we are gathered here today in the presence of these witnesses, to join _____and____ in marriage. In the years they have been together, their love and understanding of each other has grown and matured, and now they have decided to live their lives together as husband and wife. If any person can show just cause why they may not be joined together – let them speak now or forever hold their peace.

(pause)

Officiant: Hearing no objections we will proceed.

THE GIVING IN MARRIAGE:
Officiant: "Who gives this woman to be wedded to this man?"

Dad: I do.

Officiant: Thank you.

Declaration of Intent to Marry
Officiant: Marriage isn't something that should be entered into lightly. Only those who truly love one another and are willing to give their whole selves to the other should make such a vow. Jeremy and Threesia, I ask you here in front of your family and friends to state your intent. Do you, Jeremy and Threesia, stand here today free from reservations, loving only one another, and do you understand the seriousness of the vows your about to exchange?
_______: Yes, we do.


Officiant:
Please face one another and join hands.


WEDDING VOWS:

Officiant: ______, do you take this woman/man to be your wife/husband? Do you promise to love her/him, comfort her/him, honor and keep her/him in sickness and in health, forsaking all others and keeping yourself only for her/him as long as you both will live?
ANSWER: I DO!

Officiant: _____, do you take this woman/man to be your wife/husband? Do you promise to love her/him, comfort her/him, honor and keep her/him in sickness and in health, forsaking all others and keeping yourself only for her/him as long as you both will live?
ANSWER: I DO!

RING CEREMONY

Officiant: May I have the rings please?

Officiant:The perfect circle of the ring symbolizes eternity. Gold is the symbol of all that is pure. Our hope is that your love for each other will be as eternal and everlasting as these rings. In the years to come, may these rings remind you of the overwhelming joy of this special occasion when you were united in marriage. May your love be like the circle of this ring, never ending.
Officiant:"_____, take this ring a place it on ___ finger and repeat after me:
Bride and Groom: I, _____, take you, ______, to be my wife/husband. To have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish 'til death to us part. With this ring I take you as my wife.

Officiant:"_____, take this ring a place it on _____ finger and repeat after me:
Bride and Groom: I, _____, take you, _____, to be my wife/husband. To have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish 'til death to us part. With this ring I take you as my husband.

LIGHTING OF UNITY CANDLE OR OTHER UNITY CEREMONY:

Officiant:To show that they understand that they are not simply creating a new family but joining two families as one ____and____ have chosen to preform the Unity candle ceremony. In this ceremony each of their mothers will light a single candle. Those candles represent each family in it's entirety.
______and________, will you please come forward and join us?
(Mothers approach)
Will each of you please light one of the taper candles?
(Pause for mothers to light,)
These two individual flames represent each family, and symbolize that ____and_____are not only joining their hands and hearts but also their families and friends.
(Pause for mothers to finsih lighting the cendles, for hugs and for the mothers to take their seats.)

_____ AND ____,
Through love, your paths have come together, and in this symbolic ceremony, you will each take a lit candle, representing your previous separate pathways, and together you will light the Unity candle, symbolizing your willingness to walk life's pathways together as one great love.
(Bride, Groom light the Unity Candle)
Minister: By allowing the flame of the two taper candles to remain lit, you also accept the individuality of each other as a means to fulfilling your commitment to one another.

(back to starting points)

[Mrs.Goff]

PRAYER OR READING :

Will ______now come forward.
(PAUSE)
____ will be reading a poem for the bride and groom.

"A good marriage must be created.
In marriage the "little" things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say, "I love you" at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is having a mutual sense of values, and common objectives.
It is standing together and facing the world.
It is forming a circle that gathers in the whole family.
It is speaking words of appreciation, and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is not only marrying the right person -- it is being the right partner."
or
These are the hands of your best friend, young and strong and full of love for you,
that are holding yours on your wedding day, as you promise to love each other today,
tomorrow, and forever.
These are the hands that will work alongside yours, as together
you build your future.
These are the hands that will passionately love you and cherish
you through the years, and with the slightest touch, will comfort you like no other.
These are the hands that will hold you when fear or grief fills your mind.
These are the hands that will countless times wipe the tears from your eyes;
tears of sorrow, and tears of joy.
These are the hands that will tenderly hold your children.
These are the hands that will help you to hold your family as one.
These are the hands that will give you strength when you need it.
And lastly, these are the hands that even when wrinkled and aged, will still be reaching for yours,
still giving you the same unspoken tenderness with just a touch.

CLOSING :

This could be a poem, a prayer, or a sanctioning of the marriage. It is generally the "final thoughts" of the officiant.

Signing the license ...

Officiant:______and____a long with their Bestman ___ and Maid of honor ______, will now sign the marriage license.


(Everone moves back to their starting spots.)

DECLARATION OF MARRIAGE :

"By the power vested in me by the State of ____, I now pronounce you husband and wife"
______ you may Kiss your Bride!

INTRODUCTION OF NEWLYWEDS

Officiant:"Now with no further ado, it is with pleasure that I present to you for the very first time Mr. and Mrs. ____!"

[FutureKelley]

Wow, the whole ceremony looks great! I may steal some of it for my own. :P

[Mrs.Goff]

Thank you.

[Mrs.Goff]

Today got off to a rocky start. Last night I fell to sleep on the sofa and FH left me there. So no one set the alarm clock. I'm not sure why he didn't think to set it.:irked: Anyway, I woke up at 10 am about 3 hours late.:ooh: We both had to shower and get dressed. We finally got out the door at 11:15am. We took our pup to my mom and headed for the clerks office.

When we got there it was fairly crowded, but no where near what it was the last time I was there. This time there was a lady walking around answering peoples questions. ABOUT TIME!:irked: She pointed us to a huge built in planter and on the backside of that was where you got the numbers from. I told her that I couldn't find it before and she said that she had told them that it needed to move it. Ya think?!? We ended getting number 11 and I thought hooray! But nope, they were on number 62 it had to go to 00 and start again. haha We got there right at noon and were finished at 12:40. Not too bad at all.:)

So if nothing else happens and if everything else falls apart we're still getting married. haha

I went and go some of the other things that I needed. I got some transparent buttons and thread. I'm hoping that I can figure out how I'm going to bustle my dress, this week.

I got some little pearl letters to put our mothers names on their keepsake unity lighters. They turned out well. I'll post pictures tomorrow.

We finished our music list. I just have to fill out the forms and mail them back.

I think that's about it.

[Docsgirl]

Love your ceremony! :D

And a big congrats on your license!!:whoohoo: Woo hoo! Time to do a little happy dance!

[Mrs.Goff]

18 Days 10 hours 32 minutes 44 seconds to Go!

[f77g4]

Congrats on getting the license!

[Mrs.Goff]

Well, FH and I sat down and looked over the ceremony tonight. And have changed a few things.

Opening:
Officiant: Dear Family and Friends, we are gathered here today to witness the union of _______and____________ in marriage. In the years they have been together, their love and understanding of each other has grown and matured, and now they have decided to live their lives together as husband and wife. If any person can show just cause why they may not be joined together – let them speak now or forever hold their peace.

(pause)
Officiant: Hearing no objections we will proceed.

THE GIVING IN MARRIAGE:
Officiant: "Who gives this woman to this man?"

Dad: I do.


Declaration of Intent to Marry
Officiant:Marriage isn't something that should be entered into lightly. Only those who truly love one another and are willing to give their whole selves to the other should make such a vow. Jeremy and Threesia, I ask you here in front of your family and friends to state your intent. Do you, ____________, stand here today free from reservations, loving only one another, and do you understand the seriousness of the vows your about to exchange?
Bride and groom: Yes, we do.

Officiant: Please face one another and join hands.

WEDDING VOWS: Officiant:____________, do you take this woman/man to be your wife/husband? To have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish until death do you part.

ANSWER: I DO!

Officiant: ____________, do you take this woman/man to be your wife/husband? To have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish until death do you part.

ANSWER: I DO!

RING CEREMONY
Officiant: May I have the rings, please?

Officiant:The perfect circle of the ring symbolizes eternity. Gold is the symbol of all that is pure. Our hope is that your love for each other will be as eternal and everlasting as these rings. In the years to come, may these rings remind you of the overwhelming joy of this special occasion when you were united in marriage. May your love be like the circle of these rings, never ending.
Officiant:"__________, take this ring a place it on _________ finger and repeat after me:
Bride and Groom:__________, I give you this ring as a sign of my love and devotion. Here today in front of our family and friends I take you as my Husband/wife.

Officiant:"__________, take this ring a place it on _________ finger and repeat after me:
Bride and Groom:___________, I give you this ring as a sign of my love and devotion. Here today in front of our family and friends I take you as my Husband/wife.

[Mrs.Goff]

Here's my lighters. Sorry it's not the best picture, both of my cameras have dead batteries, I'll take a better one when the batteries finish charging.

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/DSC04472.jpg

[Mrs.Goff]

Well, I've been playing with my dress and talk about STRESSFUL! But I pretty much know that I cannot do it myself. I pinned it with a safety pin and liked the way it looked but I don't trust the pin, and the pin site wasn't very pretty. I just flat out don't trust myself enough to sew anything to it. So I'm back at square one. Here's a not so great pictures of it pinned.
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/DSC04490.jpg

[Kay]

You could always use a beautiful brooch to pin your dress???

[f77g4]

I love the lighters for the unity candle!

[Mrs.Goff]

You could always use a beautiful brooch to pin your dress???

I've thought about that. I'm ordering one from ebay and am planning on useing it a long with a couple of safety pins. The train is too heavy for just a brooch or just a pin.

I love the lighters for the unity candle!

Thank you very much.
Total cost, $12.96. Total savings, $23.05. :jphappy:

[Mrs.Goff]

I called the JOP today, he wasn't very pleasent today. Not sure what his problem was. Maybe just a bad day. Anyway I asked him for his email address, so that I could send him the ceremony. In that email I explained what I'm thinking and ask him to correct anything that needed correcting and to please send the corrected version back to me. We'll see what happens.

I also scanned and emailed the DJ contracts back to the DJ. I have to mail them back to him Friday.

Jeremy has decided that he wants to make personalised wine glasses and bottles of wine for the wedding party gifts. We bought some cheap samples and play around with it. They turned out really nice. So I guess he can have it his way. haha

We've also decided on what our reader is reading. She reading the "These are the hands ..." poem. I'm excited. Jeremy wanted the other but I just couldn't let go of my favorite, even after searching what I am convinced was the entire Internet I couldn't find anything I liked better. So, I asked Jeremy if he would be terribly disappointed if I used the one I wanted and he said if it was truly the one I loved then that's the one he wanted me to use. (Insert Aww's here. lol)

[FutureKelley]

Oh my goodness, I just happened to look at your ticker and when I saw "15 days left" I thought to myself it must be wrong! I can't believe how quickly time has gone by.

Everything looks amazing!! :D

[Deanna2112001]

Omgoodness, Dont scare the poor thing! :bbeek: :rofl:

[Mrs.Goff]

Jeremy and I got all the supplies we need for our wedding party gifts. I don't even remember if I posted what they are or not. So here goes. He decided that we would make etched wine glasses and bottles of wine. Well, honestly he wanted all champagne flutes, but I talked him into doing half wine glasses and half champagne flutes. I'll post pictures once they are finished.

We went and visited FMIL. She isn't willing to help with the dress at all. So I've given up and am just going to pin the darn thing. It'll only be for about 3 hours and I'll never wear this dress again so it'll do. I'm happy with the solution and I don't have to worry about it anymore so that's all that matters.

FMIL and I had a bit of a disagreement which sparked a small spat between Jeremy and I. FMIL told me that most of the people on their side has already told her what they got us for gifts. Which is fine I could careless if she knows or not. But that got us talking about the gifts. Now a few months ago we talked about opening gifts at the reception and I told her that I was 100% against it and refused to do it. She agreed that it's tacky. Well NOW she says that if we are given cards we need to open them at the reception. She said they could contain money and that we needed to thank those people at the wedding in person!!!!! What?!? It's their choice to give money! They are not more important then the people that bought gifts! I told her that I would not be opening any gifts at the wedding. That everyone there will receive a handwritten, personalised Thank you note ASAP after the wedding. She said well we'll play it by ear. I told her that there was anything to play by ear that I was not opening ANY gifts at the wedding.

Well, after we left I told Jeremy about the conversation with FMIL. He was outside with the dog at the time. He right away agreed with her! I was P*SSED! I told him that when my mother suggested it he thought it was the dumbest idea ever, and that when we discussed it he said that he would absolutely refuse to open gifts because it might embarrass someone. I told him that I was very angry that he ALWAYS bends to his mothers will and that I refused to bend on this issue. I WILL NOT be opening ANY gifts at our reception. I don't care who gets outset. If they want a special Thank you in order to give me/us a gift then they can have it back! Their gift isn't anymore important then everyone else's.

It really bothers me because my family doesn't have the money that his does and I don't want my family to feel bad because they could afford what his family got us. I THOUGHT that Jeremy understood that.

[Docsgirl]

:hug:I'm sorry you're dealing with this right before the wedding. I 100% completely agree with you, no gift is any important than the next. Don't cave, girl! On the day of, just keep busy and smile, and if FMIL approaches you about the subject at the reception, just tell her you'd prefer to wait and maybe invite her over when you do open the gifts so she can feel like she's in on the excitement.

[Mrs.Goff]

Thank you. I'm glad someone agrees with me. FH believes that someone told his mother about a sizable cash gift and that is why she's changed her opinion. I don't want to seem ungrateful because that's absolutely not the case. I went in to this entire thing not expecting anything so if I get a set of matching toothbrushes I'll be happy. I just don't want to hurt anyone's feelings and I don't want to deal with all the awkwardness.

I know for a fact how it feels to be the one that gave the least expensive gift. Not a good feeling. I also know what it's like to have someone open a gift that they hate and see it written all over their faces hidden by a fake smile and covered by a less then sincere thank you. I don't want any of my guest to feel that way.

[Deanna2112001]

I'm sorry but I am only responding to half of the post. I am at work and I have to get back, but wanted to say something. Why not tell your FMIL that it looks like you are money hungry.. if you open the cards asap! I mean dont it?????? Geesh To me.. and this is just my opinion... if you did that it makes it look like you are saying..." gimmie gimmie... I cant open them fast enough" If I was you.. and again.. sorry for not reading your entire post.. But.. Id tell her to shove that idea where the sun dont shine.

Is she always a pain like this.. if so.. you poor thing.. :bbeek:

I got to go back to work.. lol.. I just read this and instantly felt yoru pain!:o

[f77g4]

I agree as well - its awkward and tacky to do that at the wedding. And besides that, you definately have your reasons. I hate how people like to outdo each other....makes me feel like she is purposely trying to outdo your family.

Good luck and don't budge and get Jeremy on your side!

[Mrs.Goff]

She's normally a really nice person. But we have a few disagreements during the planning stage. I think what bothers me is that at one point she said it was tacky and now she's bringing it up. She done the same thing with my bouquet. When we started planning she told me that I SHOULDN'T have a flashy bouquet because I wasn't getting married in a church. Then we went talked about it later she said that I should absolutely have a big flashy bouquet cause I'm the bride. There were other things as well. I just wish she'd make up her mind.

On this issue I'm going to fight tooth and nail. I don't care what the gift is or the amount EVERYONE will be treated equally.

In my opinion you should give a gift because that's what you want the person to have. If you give a gift for any other reason, then you shouldn't be giving the gift. I know personally when I give a gift I don't even need a thank you. An acknowledgement that you got the gift is enough for me. I get enough thanks if I know that my gift brings you happiness. But then again I'll gladly help you return or exchange the gift if you don't like it. I just want you to have something for me that is useful and that brings you joy.

[Kay]

I COMPLETELY AGREE with you about NOT opening gifts or cards at the reception. If I were you, I would google the etiquette on this and print-out ALLLLL the pages that say how WRONG it is and how TACKY it is and show them to your FH. He will quickly agree ~ it's a HUGE wedding no-no ~ whether FMIL wants it or not ~ it's wrongo wrongo wrong. (And btw, my MOM wanted me to do this and I threw a big fit and did my googling about a week or so ago so I get where you are coming from). Good Luck!!

[Mrs.Goff]

Well, life is busy, busy, busy! Jeremy and I are slaving away making the personalised etched wine/champagne glass and bottles of wine. They are really time consuming.

I bagged the favor candy. That took longer then even I thought it would. haha I told Jeremy that I was going to start of putting 5 of each flavor in each bag. He was like "I'd do them one piece at a time." Huh?!? There are 80 bags that's 80x how many ever times. haha Turns out it would have been 80x17 that's 1360 times! haha Glad I didn't listen to him.

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/DSC04492.jpg

Anyway we still have to get the lottery tickets. Not sure how I'm going to do those. They won't fit into the little bags like I thought or pictured. Dang it. lol Jeremy doesn't want a seating chart and the kids don't get lotto tickets so I'm not sure what to do. Maybe I'll just put everything on a table with a "watcher" and as the guest move from the ceremony seating to the dinner tables they can pick one up. Hmm.

Yes, that's probably what I'll do. Because I forgot to tell you all that we decided to have A (meaning 1) glass of champagne per guest for the toast portion. I know it's not a lot but hey it's more then they were going to get. haha

So I can just put the favors adult and kids on a table with the champagne. Then there will be someone to watch over everything.

I guess we'll see.


So much to do so little time.

[doris27]

We're probably not going to serve alcohol at all. It's expensive and some people in each of our families don't really drink, so we think we're going to skip it. I think you're being really nice to give champagne for toasting. I've been to an open bar reception, and it's fun, but some people tend to get drunk and rowdy (there's always one who ruins in for everyone lol)...which is not what I would want for my wedding.

[Mrs.Goff]

We're not drinkers and we really didn't want to have to deal with drunk people. So, we have always said that we would have a dry reception. This way there no way that someone will get drunk and become a disruption.

I don't know. For us it's just something else that we have to plan out. lol I waswriting here yesterday and thought to myself, why did we do this to ourselves? lol

[Mrs.Goff]

So I've figured out what I'm doing with the lottery tickets. They won't fit into the little bags (BOO!). So I'm making these ...



This is what I created. The half circles don't print that dark, you can hardly see them.

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/lottocards_edited-1.jpg



http://www.escapeconcepts.com/Store/lotteryticketnew.gif
We decided to put the candy on the tables and the lottery tickets on the table with the Champagne.

[TeacherSonja]

It looks great! I have to say it again - you are so creative and I love your DIY stuff!

[amunet]

Just wanted to pop in and say hope things are going well!! Good Luck.

[Mrs.Goff]

It looks great! I have to say it again - you are so creative and I love your DIY stuff!


Sorry, I was trying to say Thank you! Not sure what happened.

[f77g4]

Thats a great idea for the lottery tickets!

[Mrs.Goff]

Thank you!

Hey, did everyone notice?!? SINGLE DIGITS!!!! YIPPEE!

[f77g4]

Thank you!

Hey, did everyone notice?!? SINGLE DIGITS!!!! YIPPEE!


Yay how exciting!

[amisteratwisterandme]

Thank you!

Hey, did everyone notice?!? SINGLE DIGITS!!!! YIPPEE!

I think you are the very next wedding too!

COngratulations

[NOTKT]

Yay! 9 days, holy moley! Are you getting nervous? :) You have some fantastic ideas, I can't wait to see wedding pictures!

[Deanna2112001]

lol Your making me think of mine going to single digits! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH :rofl:

[Mrs.Goff]

Yay! 9 days, holy moley! Are you getting nervous? :) You have some fantastic ideas, I can't wait to see wedding pictures!

You bet I'm nervous. I keep telling everyone that I'm not but I am. I can't even close my eye with picturing something wedding, and every dream is about my wedding. Funny thing though, they're no longer nightmares. They're always happy dreams, but I'm always overwhelmed. haha

I honestly cannot wait.


lol Your making me think of mine going to single digits! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH :rofl:

I know you're almost there. I can't wait for your wedding! I wanna see pictures. ;)

[Deanna2112001]

How do you quote two different people like that?

And.. I swear we at onewed, or maybe its just women, Love pictures.

I once thought about making a video and posting it on here. Like my excitement about something or just my need to vent.

[Mrs.Goff]

Here's how you do 2 qoutes at once.

You push the quote button on the first one, reply to that one.

You'll do what's in this picture. You'll copy the second persons name. After pasting that you'll copy their message.

http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/quoting2-1.jpg

I hope this helps.

[Goin2thechapel]

Ummm WOW, What a neat idea for the lottery tickets!!!! Those are AWESOME.

[Mrs.Goff]

HmmP!:irked:

I was watching the NCAA tournament with FH today and seen that the Final 4 are playing on our wedding day. I freaked out, there are serveral people that probably won't come to my wedding because it starts at 5pm and the games start at 6pm.:irked:

Well, I call my MOH (she never misses a game and her favorite team is Louisville which happens to be playing and happens to be #1 over all!) and I asked her if she knew that the game was the same day.

She said "Yeah, I know but I'm hoping that Louisville plays second that game should start at 9pm and the wedding will be over by then, Right?" I said "NO!The wedding is scheduled until 930pm." Then she said "Well, doesn't the wedding start at 4pm?" I said "NO!!! 5pm!!! It's always been 5pm!" She then said "Well, then lets HOPE that the game doesn't start till 9 so that I don't have to leave too early.":irked::irked::irked:

I was SOOOOO angry that I just started crying. What the he*l is her problem. We have been friends since I was 12 and she was 16, I have been to he*l and back with her, and she can't even give me 1 day!!!! I honestly don't know if our relationship can survive if she walks out on me on my wedding day just to watch a %*&%!()^!# basketball game!

I'm just overwhelmed and honestly if it wasn't for Jeremy I would have lost it by now.

____

In other news the JOP approved my ceremony. He told me that he was pleasantly surprised. He said that normally when a bride does her own ceremony he has to make a ton of corrections. That make me happy.


_____

Also I was worried about my veil, it was terribly wrinkled. I wasn't sure how to straighten it out. But I read online to hang it in the bathroom and turn the hot water on full blast and let it steam for10 minutes. I was doubtful but it work like a charm. I went in got a facial and found that my veil was completely wrinkle free and much to my surprise was super soft. Got to love the Internet.

___

Jeremy and I going tomorrow to finish the few things that we have left to buy and start buying all the food for the reception. 7 days to go and although I don't want to rush my wedding away, at this point I can't wait for it to be here so it can be over with.

[jamt]

just wanted to say i hope your moh realises that true mates do not let each other down an your wedding day is an important day in your life an should take priority over sport i hope you get to have your dream day an by the way i loved lots of your ideas

[f77g4]

Sorry to hear about the NCAA finals falling on your wedding day...I hope your MOH realizes what true friends are and if she can't reciprocate what you've done for her all these years maybe it will be best to cut your losses...I've had this happen with several friends in the past where I'd bend over backwards to help them and all they could do was slap me in the face etc.....good luck hun!!!

If people can't prioritize between your wedding and a basketball game thats there issue hun and something out of our control. It sucks I know but thats just how some people are.

Good luck on all your last minute/outstanding things to get done this week!

[Mrs.Goff]

I'm am freaking out! I just can't take it.

My mother called me this morning to tell me that my grandfather is having trouble with his kidneys. They have had to drain them for him!!!!! He said he still hopes to be here for the wedding (he coming from Tennessee) but that he has to go to the doctor on Monday and that he'll no more then.

I'm beside myself. I'm worried about him his health that the most important thing.

But we have spent SO much money and it seems that everyday the guess list gets smaller.

Ugg, I'm just over whelmed.

[f77g4]

Thinking of you, your grandfather, and the rest of your family during this time.

I hope that he'll be able to make it for the wedding!

[Deanna2112001]

Calm down. Take a breath.

I hope your Grandfather is ok. You cant control everything. What is your guest count up to?

72 is still a good amount of people.

Sending lots of :hug: your way.:o

[FutureKelley]

Calm down. Take a breath.

I hope your Grandfather is ok. You cant control everything. What is your guest count up to?

72 is still a good amount of people.

Sending lots of :hug: your way.:o

Exactly what Deanna said!

[Mrs.Goff]

Thanks ladies. There's just a TON of things going on and I'm extremely stressed. Right now I just feel all alone, FH isn't helping as much as he could and everyone else is just causing problems.

It'll be OK in the end it's just really stressful right now. I've been crying for about 2 days and it's all stress. Every little thing sends me over the top.

I'm so glad I can come here are vent to people that know how I feel because they are right there with me. You guys are truly a blessing right now.

Thank you so much.

[f77g4]

I say you need to treat yourself to a massage or something relaxing at the spa - help you unwind etc. I know how you feel cause I can get the same way when I write exams.

Talk to Jeremy - he should be helping out especially with one week to go and with everything that is going on.

Good luck hun and I hope that you can relax and enjoy the coming week and have a magical day next weekend!

[Deanna2112001]

How are you feeling today Threesia?

[Mrs.Goff]

How are you feeling today Threesia?


Feeling better today, Thanks. But then again I haven't spoke with anyone that can stress me out yet. haha


Leaving right now to do more wedding shopping, our shopping was cut short yesterday because of a tornado warning.:irked:

Thanks for asking. I'll update later. I have some pictures to share and I've finished a few more DIY.

[Mrs.Goff]

So, we've been stressed out and busy, busy.
I've finished my wedding favors and attendants gifts. I'll post pictures. Sorry I'm slacking on the pictures. I've printed the ceremony and put it in it binder for the JOP. We got our disposable champagne glasses. And we've started buying the food. Only thing left is to finish the food which we are doing Wednesday and I want to get 4 extra centerpiece vases just in case. That's it. Then it's just about putting everything together and getting it over with. haha

[Docsgirl]

Oh, you're so close!!!

Just remember to breathe and at the end of it all that you will be married!!! :D

[Mrs.Goff]

Ring bearer glasses:
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/TW293605.jpg

The moms glasses they each get 2:
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/TW293606.jpg

All the wine together:
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/alltogether.jpg

Maid of honor and readers glasses 2 each:
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/angieandkimsstyleglasses.jpg

Maid of honor bottel:
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/angies1.jpg

Bottles:
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/closeups.jpghttp://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/closeups2.jpg
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/closeups3.jpg

[Mrs.Goff]

Best mans bottle and glasses:
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/josh.jpg
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/joshglasses.jpg

Flower girl glass:
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/katie.jpg

helpers glasses:
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/tracyglass1.jpg


Mothers bottle:
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/themothers.jpg



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Lotto favors (They didn't have the ticket I wanted so I got this ugly one.:irked:)
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/lottofavors1.jpg
http://i334.photobucket.com/albums/m439/Threesia/Wedding/lottofavors.jpg

[TeacherSonja]

The bottles and glasses turned out fabulous! You are getting so close - 5 more days!

[Docsgirl]

I love those wine bottles and glasses! Did you etch them yourself?

[Mrs.Goff]

The bottles and glasses turned out fabulous! You are getting so close - 5 more days!

Thank you.

I love those wine bottles and glasses! Did you etch them yourself?

Sure, did. :)

[doris27]

What a beautiful job you did on the wine and glasses! I'm sorry things have been so stressful lately. You're so close, though. Soon you will be a Mrs. and all the stress will be worth it. It must be frustrating that your FH is being quite as helpful as he should. I think that happens a lot though. There are some things that most guys just don't get. I hope things settle down for you soon, and that you have a beautiful wedding day!

[f77g4]

Everything looks great - you did a great job!

Good luck!

[savepaws]

OMG you are almost there!! I love the glasses & bottles. They turned out great! You did an awesome job.

I'm sorry to hear about your MOH. I just don't get people who miss out on things in their life because they would rather watch a television show or a sports game. Some people need to get their priorities straight. Hopefully she'll stick around til the end & not worry about a dumb game on the most important day of your life.

[Mrs.Goff]

Thanks ladies!

Turns out that my MOHs team lost so now they're out of the tournament. That was a relief to me. I spoke to her yesterday, and something still felt off. She asked me if we decided to supply alcohol or not. I told her nothing more the a glass of champagne. She was like "Oh well you said something about entertaining people, so I thought you might have changed your mind." Then she went on to tell me how people just don't go to the reception! HUH?!?:irked: I've never heard that. I told her that I've always heard the opposite. I finally told her that I don't care who leaves. I told her that I have a cousin coming all the way from Tennessee who doesn't get off of work until 5:30 am THE MORNING OF THE WEDDING, she going straight home to get her husband and 4 KIDS and driving all the way here just for ME! Then I told her about my mothers friend who is having surgery Monday and she coming and said she'll be there til FH and I leave.

In the end I told her I didn't care who comes or who stays. I told her that the wedding party was free to leave the moment the pictures are done. I just said that those who love us most will be there (I understand that some people just can't come) and that's all that matters to me. Will I be upset if I don't see some people you bet. But I'm done letting it ruin my experience.

[f77g4]

Thanks ladies!

Turns out that my MOHs team lost so now they're out of the tournament. That was a relief to me. I spoke to her yesterday, and something still felt off. She asked me if we decided to supply alcohol or not. I told her nothing more the a glass of champagne. She was like "Oh well you said something about entertaining people, so I thought you might have changed your mind." Then she went on to tell me how people just don't go to the reception! HUH?!?:irked: I've never heard that. I told her that I've always heard the opposite. I finally told her that I don't care who leaves. I told her that I have a cousin coming all the way from Tennessee who doesn't get off of work until 5:30 am THE MORNING OF THE WEDDING, she going straight home to get her husband and 4 KIDS and driving all the way here just for ME! Then I told her about my mothers friend who is having surgery Monday and she coming and said she'll be there til FH and I leave.

In the end I told her I didn't care who comes or who stays. I told her that the wedding party was free to leave the moment the pictures are done. I just said that those who love us most will be there (I understand that some people just can't come) and that's all that matters to me. Will I be upset if I don't see some people you bet. But I'm done letting it ruin my experience.

Good for you hun! And well said! I hope people stick around and support ya's. But at the same time you'll realize who really cares about y'alls.

[Mrs.Goff]

FH just got home and was carrying our first gift. It was from his friends at work. It was a really nice set of towels, wash clothes and hand towels.:jphappy:

[f77g4]

FH just got home and was carrying our first gift. It was from his friends at work. It was a really nice set of towels, wash clothes and hand towels.:jphappy:
Yay how exciting! Congrats!

[Mrs.Goff]

We done all the food shopping yesterday. Only thing left is to buy the bread for the sandwiches.

Jeremy and I were out yesterday buying the food and as we checked out he asked "What's next?" I stood there for a moment and couldn't think of a single thing I needed. That's the first time in 9 months that I didn't have a HUGE list of stuff we needed. It felt wonderful!

Things seem to be going well. We have most of tomorrow just to set back and relax. Then Friday is going to be none stop. I won't have too much time to update you all on those days. I'm going to stop by because I want to see my counter say 0 DTG. haha

I just can't believe that it's here. I'm going to married really really soon. It's really crazy because honestly I never thought I'd get married, yet here I am.

[f77g4]

Yay I'm so excited for you!!!!!!!!!!! I hope everything goes smoothly for you and that the day is just amazing!

Can't wait for pics and the story!

Congratulations and good luck!!

[Ninedays9]

Wow, it's coming up very quickly! I was just checking out your journal, and I like all the projects you've done. I really like the bottles and glasses you're giving as gifts.

Congrats and good luck!!

[Deanna2112001]

We done all the food shopping yesterday. Only thing left is to buy the bread for the sandwiches.

Jeremy and I were out yesterday buying the food and as we checked out he asked "What's next?" I stood there for a moment and couldn't think of a single thing I needed. That's the first time in 9 months that I didn't have a HUGE list of stuff we needed. It felt wonderful!

Things seem to be going well. We have most of tomorrow just to set back and relax. Then Friday is going to be none stop. I won't have too much time to update you all on those days. I'm going to stop by because I want to see my counter say 0 DTG. haha

I just can't believe that it's here. I'm going to married really really soon. It's really crazy because honestly I never thought I'd get married, yet here I am.

Awe you moved me with that. I am so happy for you. I cant wait to see pics

[Mrs.Goff]

Thanks ladies. You all are so great.

I'm sad that I spent so much time on my old forum. I wish I would have found OW first. You all are such great people.

Sorry, Deanna didn't mean to get to ya. ;)

The tuxedo shop called today. The tuxedos are in! YaY. Picking them up at noon tomorrow! Yippee!

[TeacherSonja]

Wow, 1 day to your wedding! So exciting! Hope everything goes as planned and you get to have your dream wedding! Can't wait to see pics and hear your story. Have fun!

[savepaws]

OMG how exciting! I'm excited for you! I hope everything goes beautifully & the day is perfect! I can't wait to hear all about it & see pictures!