Need Ideas for non traditional wedding

[HappyMonica]

I am needing some ideas for a non traditional wedding. I am hoping to get a deep purple or light yellow sundress rather than the white wedding dress but my problem here is what will the groom wear? It will be a May wedding in the midwest and outdoors. If I wear a sundress then he can't wear a tux, but short of a polo shirt what should he wear that still looks nice? Any ideas? Also, I don't want to follow the "groom can't see the bride before the wedding" tradition or walk down an aisle to him. Any ideas to change this up? For the reception, we were wanting to skip on the wedding cake without resorting to cupcakes but I can't think of any other dessert ideas. If anyone can think of ways to change up the same old routines, replace them, or really spice them up, please let me know. I would greatly appreciate it!

[RosieAngel]

Hello and welcome to OneWed!

Oooh, that sounds like a lot of fun! Casual weddings are great!

I think a short-sleeved collared shirt over khakis (I'm picturing a light blue one for some random reason), maybe with a brown belt and shoes, would be fabulous for your FH. As for the rest... I'm not quite sure.

Oh, my husband is suggesting pie! Wedding pie! Yummm...

[mitch]

I wore a Red Dress to My Wedding. My Glasses re-act to light so in the photos it looks like i have Sunglasses on. DH wore a normal suit and it still looked OK.

As for the night before the Wedding. I actually spent Mine with DH in the same hotel room. We woke up together, went for breakfast together. He got ready then went across the hall to see His Daughters and leave for the Ceremony. I then got ready and met Him outside the venue. We had to fill out some paperwork together. He then went into the Ceremony Room and i walked in afterwards on the arm of a Family Friend.

Cakes can be anything You want. From Gateau to Cheesecake. Pies to Puddings. There are plenty of other sweet alternatives out there.

[gwenshack]

I think you can do anything you darn well please!

I know one of our esteemed board members had been discussing pie types, as opposed to cake. Sure, some people go the cupcake route, but I think you can do anything your heart desires. Ask yourself what you like to eat and then we can go from there. Imagination can take you just about anywhere!

A lot of people choose not to walk down the aisle toward the groom - you can walk in together if you'd like. I know several brides have done that and were very pleased. You could have him walk down the aisle toward you...tee hee. :)

I agree with Rosie, a short sleeved button down shirt on the guy would like nice. Or maybe just a suit jacket and a more casual pair of pants, so he's not in a full on suit.

Brainstorm your little heart out and you'll end up with a wedding that suits you perfectly. Stick around here too - there are some very creative ladies on this board who are super helpful and friendly!

Congrats on your upcoming wedding! :)

[WebLady]

Yep; do what you and your FH want! The wedding should be a celebration of you and about you!

My DH and I had a never non-traditional wedding; got married in our living room! He wore jeans and a plain shirt and I wore a while lines 2 peice dress ... I have worn it a few times since too ;)

[HappyMonica]

Thank you all very much for your ideas and words of support!! I greatly appreciate it!

[acidcookie]

That's the beauty of breaking tradition: you can do whatever you want! The more I thought about mine the more I was able to break out and say "Hey, why do we DO that at weddings anyway? Do I want that?" All you need is you and your fiance and the legal stuff. Anything beyond that is totally up to how you want to celebrate.

[BarceloMayaPalaceBride]

Linen pants/shirt would look very nice too!

[sandy03]

Here are a few rambling thoughts...

An acquaintance of mine used chocolate covered doughnuts from a local bakery in place of a cake at their wedding - it was his favorite sweet and what he wanted. It was actually really cute. I've also seen some displays of lots of different small desserts (various little cakes, fruit tarts, cheesecakes, etc) It looks really unique and I imagine would be quite tasty because there are so many different options

I agree that a button down shirt and khakis looks really nice, but really it depends on what his personal style is and what he normally wears and would be comfortable in.

Depending on your ceremony site, you don't have to have an aisle at all if you don't want it. You could walk in from one side together (or opposite sides toward each other and meet in the middle). You could probably also just sit in two seats at the front together as people are coming in and then at the start of the actual ceremony, step forward together.

[Kirby]

For lots of pictures and advice on unique, non traditional weddings, check out http://offbeatbride.com/

It's a really fun site. (I'm not affiliated with them, I just thought of it when I read your post. ) :)

[ChristineLS]

For lots of pictures and advice on unique, non traditional weddings, check out http://offbeatbride.com/

It's a really fun site. (I'm not affiliated with them, I just thought of it when I read your post. ) :)

It's a good website. It also has a network associated with it, but in my experience the gals on the network there are not nearly as supportive as the ones here. They are very nice, don't get me wrong, but you get more "BUT THAT'S TACKY AND AGAINST ETIQUETTE!!!" much more than I've ever seen here, which is to say I haven't seen it. The blog and the book are fantastic though.

[wannabeNurse2]

You could have cheesecake, a sundae bar, brownie and cookie bar, or like previous poster said wedding pies.

Your fiance could wear a short sleeved dress shirt with khaki pants. Skip the tie though.

My fiance and I are doing the pictures before the ceremony. We will have a first look picture taken where he'll have his back turned to me until I touch his shoulder. I don't know if you've seen any pictures like this, but the reaction is priceless! Most of the time when you don't see each other until the ceremony the look of shock and awe on fiance's face is lost because the photographer is concentrating on the bride.

Before my brother offered to walk me down the aisle I was actually going to meet my fiance halfway down the aisle. He'd be at the front waiting until I started walking down the aisle. We were going to meet in the middle to symbolize compromise. Then we'd walk the rest of the way together.

[animal.crackers]

PIE! Oh man, if I didn't want to elope so badly, I would definitely skip the cake and have berry pie!

I went to a wedding where the groom and groomsmen wore lightweight brown slacks and these gorgeous white linen shirts. They looked really good. If your dress is more casual, maybe do khakis?

Good luck!

[DennissBride]

I am have a country western themed wedding, and we have our caterer providing a 1/2 sheet cake AND apple pie squares. The apple pie, kinda goes with the whole country thing!!!

[kristan]

Linen pants/shirt would look very nice too!'

This is what I was going to suggest!

[NOTKT]

For lots of pictures and advice on unique, non traditional weddings, check out http://offbeatbride.com/

It's a really fun site. (I'm not affiliated with them, I just thought of it when I read your post. ) :)

This is a great site! If you need ideas, these girls have them!

[nothereok]

I was going to skip the cake for a while since I'm not a big fan and was planning on having a huge chocolate fondue fountain instead. Sort of like this:
http://www.chocolatefountainsales.com/chocolate_fountain_image_1.htm

That way you still have the cake tower shape but it will be more unique. Also in lieu of the traditional bride/groom cake feeding during the reception you can feed each other chocolate covered fruit (and if you want to make each other messy you still can!)

[Gertie]

Ok I'm picturing the bride in a sundress with big, sunny yellow and purple flowers and a big purple sash, groom in khaki slacks, white button down with fine yellow stripes and a purple tie...

the bride can carry a big bouquet of sunny yellow, purple, blue, and orange spring flowers...the little flower girl should wear pigtails or braids and toss out those little violets instead of rose petals.

Big fat, juicy berry pie in place of heavy cake sounds heavenly, pile on the whipped cream!

Get a square dance club to perform at the reception, or at least have some fiddlers for a while! :)

The guests can come relaxed, the food can be bbq or summer sub sandwiches and lots of fruit with that cream cheese dip and lots of veggies with a couple of fav veggie dips.

This could be great!

[HisDelightfulFaerie]

PIE!!!! You must have pie I LOVE PIE!!!! (Even though I'm not going to your wedding.)

A button down linen shirt with drawstring linen pants would be perfect. He could leave a few buttons open at the top. Heck you both could be barefoot (I have a thing with barefoot weddings).

Sunflowers are going to be your best friend.

I think you could seat everyone and then have both of you enter from either side of the back and then walk up the aisle together.

[Genevieve04]

He could wear a light colored suit.

[Kay]

You could walk EACH OTHER down the aisle ~ just walk down, hand in hand...

I love the donut idea!