We're getting married Friday!

[rockchalkchick]

I'm kinda psyched!

The wedding's still going to be May 9, but due to a few financial bits we're doing the legal side of things now (health insurance, car insurance, etc - we're going to save almost $1K by doing it now instead of in 4 months).

I'll admit, it sounds kind of wierd, but even though I won't necessarily feel "married" until after the wedding, this feels like a pretty good "first" step (which is odd, since the legal bits are often some of the last details to address when planning a wedding!) Plus, while I've been willing to have a full-on wedding for my guy's sake, this way I get a bit of my desired elopement anyway!

I'm kind of excited, since I managed to get things scheduled for 1/9, and our wedding will be 5/9, and our dating anniversary is 9/9. It's corny, but this way we can continue to celebrate every 4 months if we want!

Anyone else get legally hitched apart from the wedding? Any good stories/tips to tell?

[WebLady]

Congrats! You will have two anniversaries to celebrate ;)

I think there are a few other people here that did something like this.

[IDoTwo]

We got married by a JP on 03.28.03 but couldn't afford to have a wedding at the time. We renewed our vows and had our wedding on 03.28.08

It was beautiful and just as special as if we'd done it that way the first time. Congratulations!

[Docsgirl]

We had a spontaneous (none of our families even knew we were engaged!) JOP service on July 29, 2008 and our wedding date is May 30, 2009.

I wouldn't change it for the world. I just got surprised with my ring on the day after Christmas. We're doing things slightly different from the norm, but all we know is that we're crazy about each other and our way of doing things is fun. :D

Congrats!!!

[tha_mrs]

I'm kinda psyched!

I'm kind of excited, since I managed to get things scheduled for 1/9, and our wedding will be 5/9, and our dating anniversary is 9/9. It's corny, but this way we can continue to celebrate every 4 months if we want!

stories/tips to tell?
Well I actually thinks it's cute! Those are all dated mildstones in your relationship. I think it's really nice.

[gwenshack]

Very cool! Congrats! Are you going to tell people you're already married? I know a few people who did that and kept it a secret!

[Jacobs_Girl]

congrats and good luck!

[rockchalkchick]

Very cool! Congrats! Are you going to tell people you're already married? I know a few people who did that and kept it a secret!

Nope, definitely keeping it a secret - I have a cousin who got legally married about a year before the church wedding and my parents had plenty to say about that... essentially that they didn't "deserve" to have a wedding and that it was "a lie" to "pretend" in that way. (Especially interesting since they were very open about it - they DIDN'T lie or pretend that they weren't legally married - they just felt it important to have a formal ceremony when they could arrange it.)

While I'm not into lying to my family/friends, we just aren't planning to bring it up anytime soon. If it comes up, we'll explain, but since we were already planning to do the paperwork the week before the wedding (our minister is out-of-state and we didn't want to deal with the hoop-jumping), I doubt it'll even be mentioned. We'll just explain that the paperwork was already signed and not get too specific about when!

Plus, I'm kind of enjoying "our little secret." My guy's already given me a little food for thought - when the wedding planning details get stressful, I get to just remind myself that we're already married and the rest is all fluff! Convenient way to put it in perspective (especially since if I had my way we would have had a JOP service with closest friends and family and been done with it!)

[Jacobs_Girl]

I didnt have time to type this earlier but I wanted to save it my posted area so I could come back.

We eloped in Vegas then 7 months later we did the big wedding. I actually regret it a little. The BIG WEDDING not eloping. It was so much simpler than the big one.

I did miss my family not being able to be there and right before I walked down the "aisle" I was so nervous having second thoughts and no one to calm me down. No one to give me an opinion.

I did have a hard time keeping things straight like who to tell we were already married and who not to tell.

If I had to do it again I would only do the Vegas wedding and not the big one. Possible just a reception.

I love it when people were like when u guys are married things are going to change and we both looked at each like HA we already know!

Good luck!!

[karkar]

Well, first off congrats! And second were date twins! :) Believe me there have been plenty of times when I wished I ran off and married FH the elopment way.

[JJsWifey08]

I got married by a JOP 12/18/08. It was hard planning the simple one and we will have a vow renewal 09/22/10. congrats!!!