If you had it to do all over again....

[savvy]

If you had it to do all over again what would you change about your colors, and "themes"

I would do a 1920's theme. I would have the girls in flapper dresses.
~savvy

[totalia]

Do it again? I say to heck with it all and elope.

[WhiskeyGirl]

I have to agree with Totalia on this one, for a change. I would totally elope as well! Just kidding, although the thought would be tempting, I think the only thing I would do differently, would be to have a small simple country wedding with just me and the groom and the wedding party and a few immediate family members only. Then have a big party later with everyone else! I might even consider going for a winter wedding, so that I could use lights and snowflakes as my decorations. Then I would probably pick a blue (like the sea almost) and maybe light pink color for my wedding colors. Oh, if I could only change my mind and do it all over again, I probably wouldn't...too much stress...too much money... But then again... I love it! I know, I wish I could make up my mind too!! Lol. Would I or wouldn't I?

~CanadianBride~

[As You Wish]

Unfortunately I did do it again. My first wedding was a big formal thing with over 600 invitations sent out. I didn't know most of the people at the reception. My second time we had a small wedding with just close family and friends and did it the way we wanted. I wore a pink dress (my favorite color) and we had barbeque followed by dancing. It was magic! People still occasionally comment on what a nice wedding it was and how much fun they had. The advantage of maturity and the right man.

[Am3na]

That sounds really nice As You Wish. I have never seen a pink dress before.

I think I would get married again, but just to renew our vows. Maybe on our 25-year anniversary. Depending on my taste then, I do not think I would change either the colors I chose or the theme. We had a lovely cali lily theme with sage green and cranberry for the colors.

Hey, maybe I will even use the decorations and attire I saved. I think that would be nice.

[iluvweddings]

Do it again?
I never had a wedding, and it is our 10 - year anniversary ('06) so I am doing things really big for the Vow Renewal Ceremony. I am going to have the wedding of my dreams!!!!

[As You Wish]

Everyone should have the wedding of there dreams at least once. I am glad to hear that you are doing this for yourself!

[usahgrad]

I'm still working on doing it for the first time, but I have to say that the wedding plans, as they're going now, are forming into just what I want. Something simple, yet pretty. My colors are yellow and pink. The location we're thinking about is really beautiful. The dress isn't what I ever would have thought of, but it's so beautiful that it doesn't even matter. Good luck with your 10 year anniversary...I hope it goes exactly as you want it!

[iluvweddings]

Thank you for wishing me the best! I will keep you ladies informed.

[lacey_8_99]

Wow, since I have become so addicted to weddings since planning mine, I'm not sure I would even be able to pick a theme for another one. There are so many ideas that I have found that I love!

[LaceyinPgh]

I would be on a plane to sunny and warm Las Vegas. Preferably I could find a nice Elvis impersonator to do the ceremony. And, we wouldn't tell a soul until we got back. I am so sick of the constant bickering about my wedding that I am planning now!

[WhiskeyGirl]

I think I have to side with LaceyinPgh here. I would totally join you in finding that Elvis impersonator you speak of, after all that has been going on around here too! (Lol)

~CanadianBride~

[usahgrad]

I don't know if I'd go for the Elvis impersonator, but I definitely agree in not telling anyone until we got back. I hate how everyone in my family feels they have the right to put in their two cents...I don't want it! However, I keep telling myself that in the end, this is going to be really beautiful and that dealing with everyone will be incredibly worth it...after all...I'm marrying the man of my dreams!

[iluvweddings]

I think the way that I stayed sane, is that I did not tell anyone any of my plans. When someone asked me how the wedding was going, I said great. If they recommended someone, I would take their name and number and say thanks. Noone will know what's going on, until they arrive - including the bridal party, and that's how I want it.

[usahgrad]

That's a GREAT idea! The problem I run into with that is that a good portion of the payment for the wedding is coming from my mother and she's the person I'm having the most ferocious confrontations with. She wants me to get married by a Catholic Priest, which means the ceremony would have to be indoors and I want to get married outside. Believe you me, sounds simple, but this is THE BIGGEST problem I have right now.

[LaceyinPgh]

I am just saying, if you go through all of the trouble of getting to Vegas in secret to elope, you might as well do it right and have in Elvis impersonator officiate the ceremony. And not a young skinny Elvis, a fat old Elvis in a white jump suit. After that instead of a reception I say go all out, tickets to Wayne Newton and an all you can eat prime rib and shrimp cocktail buffet. I LOVE Vegas!

[iluvweddings]

I'm sorry - I'm not catholic, but are you saying a priest will not marry you outside?

[usahgrad]

Yes...it's against the Catholic religion to get married outside. Even though the Pope's funeral was just outside and the new Pope's benediction was outside. There are times I really wish I wasn't Catholic...this happens to be one of them.

Lacey, I never thought of it that way; if you're going to do a Vegas wedding go all out and do a "VEGAS" Wedding. Thanks for the laugh; I needed it.

[iluvweddings]

Oh, I'm so sorry to hear that.
I would never suggest that someone go against their religion. How about you have the reception outside as a compromise. You and your FH can still take lots of pictures outside.

GOOD LUCK!

[sstark1218]

I agree with totalia.. I would def catch the first plane to Vegas and elope!

[usahgrad]

Well, first, I'm not a big religious person anymore. I'm having a problem with politics and hypocriticism of churches (and I mean all of them, not just catholics...no offense to those of you who are religious). Secondly, I've always wanted to get married outside and it's my mother who wants me to get married by a "man of God." I'd have no problem setting up a JP to do it. The thought I came up with was to have one of my friends/my brother ordained online. I think that would be cool.

[sstark1218]

Do you know what they would need to do to be ordained online? I was considering the same thing for my uncle instead of him walking me down the aisle. I didn't know you could do it, but a friend of mine mentioned it. Any info, I would appreciate it! Thanks!

[usahgrad]

I did a search online and found one website that with forty bucks, BANG you're ordained. I have to look into it deeper though.

I'm going to start a new thread about this since we've gone so FAR off of the topic. Sorry everyone!

[neeni13]

I would still have my same colors purple, pink, and blue.
Still have my heart dress from Davids Bridal.
I would however be more involved , my family did everything.
I would definatly be married at my home church and have my brother to marry us as planned.
More of my friends there than just family friends