Did you "just know"?

[animal.crackers]

So quite a few of my friends/family members have said that they "just knew" their significant other was the one they wanted to spend their life with. My old roommate who is getting married next summer is the last person in the world I would ever expect to say this, but she said that she never believed in love at first sight until she saw Chris. They got engaged 4 months after they started dating. My LITTLE (BABY!!!!) sister (okay she's 22) has been dating this guy for 3 months and she "just knows".

So how many of you "just knew" right away? How long did it take for you to get that feeling?

I'm just curious. I did not/have not had that experience at all. My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half, but we have known each other for over 5 years. We have a pretty crazy history. I used to think he was awful, and I never wanted to like him, but I was just drawn to him and couldn't ever walk away from our friendship/relationship/whatever. And just to clarify, it wasn't like he was awful in the abusive/creepy sense. He was just a serious player, and I hated it. But it certainly wasn't like I just knew we'd be together forever! Those kinds of feelings were a long time coming for me.

We have a fantastic relationship now, and since we've been together he has been nothing but wonderful, so I'm very happy that we somehow made it here, but sometimes I worry about never having that "just knowing" sort of revelation.

I'd be interested in hearing your thoughts/experiences... =)

[Whitewater]

I did the whole 'I just knew' thing -- and I thought I was going insane for feeling that way. See, before I met Fiance I'd spent the last ten years (in a row -- one whole decade!) being happily single, and my experience from a very poor previous marriage had made me 200% convinced that I NEVER wanted to be married again. Ever. I wasn't even sure that I wanted a long-term relationship!

So when I got home from our first date and said to myself 'I am going to marry this man' I thought for sure that the stress and the strain of being alone had finally gotten to me, and that I was just that desperate, you know. I didn't want to believe that, and I didn't know why I was thinking that way. I didn't think my feelings were at all real, or valid, and I was sure that I was trying to talk myself into being with somebody because let's face it, living single might be fun and have lots to recommend it -- but it's difficult, and I was tired of life being so hard. I was certain that I was just making it all up because by then I didn't want to be alone forever. And it seemed too perfect that mere weeks after making the decision to seek out a romantic relationship that Fiance should have met me. So I assumed for a long time that my feeling from the first time I saw him was just my desperation talking.

That said, the conviction that Fiance was made for me and that God intended us to live the rest of our lives together kept getting stronger and stronger the more times I went out with Fiance. And I couldn't understand it! I had convinced myself so hard that I didn't want a man that I couldn't see the truth even when it had smacked me across the face :).

A little over a year into our relationship I finally woke up and accepted the truth -- that perhaps a LTR and eventual marriage with this wonderful, perfect man wouldn't be so bad. I was willing to open myself up to the concept that was 180' from where I was when I first met Fiance, and the rest is history.

But yeah, I knew, immediately, that Fiance was the man for me and that our lives would no longer be separate. It made it both easier and harder for me, because Fiance didn't have that same conviction! He was coming off of a bad martial break-up also and had only been single about half as long as I had, so there were things with him that were still fresh, while my wounds had pretty much healed -- so it took Fiance a LONG time to decide that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with me. It actually took him longer to figure it out than I did!


Whitewater

[mitch]

Ours is a strange tale because We were already Married to others at the time. Me in a Ten-Year Marriage, DH in a Fourteen-Year Marriage and Four Kids.

We met in a Chatroom and the love of the Band AC/DC that brought us together. I was in the Chatroom talking to Fans of the Band as research for a Book i was writing and online came DH. We chatted about what our Favourite Song was, Favourite Album, Tours We've seen etc. Then before long We were exchanging different topics. The Kids, Work, Friends, Family etc. We found ourselves telling each other stuff that no one else knew about. And it got to the point where the Band and the Book were forgotten about. Chat moved to Yahoo IM and We grew very close.

When We finally met face to face it was like a light bulb had gone on in both our lives and We knew We were meant to be together. We admitted Our "Affair" to Our Families and set up home together.

At the time neither of us were intent on getting Married again. After both going through Divorces We were happy to just be together.

We went through a rough patch in 2006 to the verge of splitting up. So We locked the doors, turned off the Phones, took a week off work and spent time going through all the "Ifs, Whys, Maybes, Wants, Needs, Hopes and Dreams" and came out the other side stronger and more closer than ever before. So when DH proposed in 2007 i was shocked because He said He would never Marry again.

Now Two Months after Our Wedding and Six Years together i wouldn't swap DH for the world. He is My Life, My Soul, My Everything.

[Ninedays9]

Hmm... I have another interesting story.

I was dating someone else when I met my fiance at a wedding. I was highly considering breaking up with the other guy for quite a few reasons. And so I kind of set my sights on my now fiance... thinking that if he was half as great a guy as his brother was (the one who got married that day), he'd be a great guy to go out with.

But... then I actually broke up with the first guy and had the chance to date my now fiance. That was when I got scared, thinking it'd be a rebound and let us become "just friends." I cared about him a lot over the whole time.. even as I had other interests and even love for another guy. So I think I knew all along that I wanted to be with him and just didn't let myself realize it 'cause I was silly.

Oh yeah... I guess I should add that I always knew that if I did get together with him, he'd be the one I'd never break up with. At the time, I wasn't sure I wanted that, so I let it scare me off for awhile. Fortunately it all worked out with perfect timing, and I couldn't be happier about my choice, :).

Sooo... did I know that he was "the one"? Yes... and no.

[ThePhotoBride]

I didn't have that feeling immediately. I knew him for six months before we started dating. It only took a few months after we actually started dating before I realized I just couldn't let this guy go. It's just this overwhelming feeling that he is the type of guy I'd be stupid to let slip away. So I've been holding on for dear life ever since, lol.

[candars]

I don't know when I started to have that feeling, but it definitely wasn't when we first met! He was friends with my older sister, but she had a ton of friends and I never really even noticed him. At some point, we started hanging out more and then started dating. We've been together for almost 10 years now and I'm not sure when that feeling of knowing he's the one started, but I know that it is there now. We have a great connection and think a lot alike. We will make fun of the same exact phrases on tv at the same time, say the exact same thing at the same time-even the way we word things!

[WebLady]

I don't know if I would say it was love at first sight with DH and I, but I was definitely drawn to him and we hit it off right away. The more I got to know him the more I liked him; we spent a lot of time together so I am pretty sure he felt the same ;)

I can't think of any real defining moment when I knew I loved him and I'd marry him, but it wasn't too long into our relationship before I knew he was the man I had been praying for. The feeling just grew and solidified with time ... so yeah, I guess "I just knew" :wub:

[amisteratwisterandme]

Not me!

I don't think I would trust knowing my own name if I hadn't of seen it on my birth cartificate.:sheep:

I second guess everything! Than when I am comfortable with that decision, I guess a third time and sometimes a fourth time.

For me it was a few years into the relationship, when it wasn't so much that I "knew" he was the one, as he just was the one. No defining moment, none of that (How I wish I could be one of those people) just a gradual feeling that I somehow hit the jackpot with this guy, when I wasn't even gambling.

[Docsgirl]

I've known my hubby since we were 8. We dated in 8th grade and after that short little dating period had it's course, we became best friends. I've loved him for a very long time. I just didn't know the feeling was mutual....until this past June when he kissed me for the first time (ever!) while he was home on leave and told me he'd been waiting 8 years for that kiss. I swear my heart skipped a few beats and it was the moment that I "just knew" that I wanted to be able to kiss him for the rest of my life. I honestly felt like I was in a fairytale. A few weeks later, he flew me out to here and proposed to me on a pier overlooking the ocean. We were engaged for 3 days and got married in a JOP service on July 29th when I missed my plane back home.

Some call us crazy, a lot of people are skeptical that we'll make it because we didn't have the long term relationship most people have, but I think that says more about them than it does about us. Our moms have both given us their blessings and are both really excited about our "actual" wedding ceremony in a little over 5 months. They know our past. I "just know" that we're going to grow old and wrinkly together. :D

[Moon.Dust.]

We did. The second I hugged him hello ... it was perfect. I was literally home.

[MrsDM]

Sorta. FH and were friends for a bit before we became an actual couple. I thought he was just a really sweet friend. The first time he held me in his arms, I knew. I felt so safe, and secure in his arms. That same day, we had our first kiss and with other guys I kissed prior to FH, I was kinda like, "ew, your a horriable kisser" but not with FH. I had butterflies in my stomach everytime we kissed. I just had this voice in the back of my head saying, "this is him!"

[FutureKelley]

I can't say it was love at first sight, simply because I was on my way out of a very abusive relationship and was not capable of loving anyone at that point in time. There was, however, an instant connection. I did think to myself "OMG, I'm going to marry this guy" the first time we met, which I thought at that time it was INSANE.

We stayed very good friends over the next couple of months since we both just came out of a long-term relationship and decided it was best. I will say though, I fell head over heels for him the first time we kissed (which was before we ever started dating). By the time he asked me out, there was no way I'd say no! At that point, we were already talking about marriage, kids and the future. He ended up proposing a year and a half later!

[RosieAngel]

I knew, and my reaction was OH NO NO NO NO, I'm only 20 and this is a bad time for relationships! I'm trying to get an education right now! Why couldn't THE ONE show up at a more convenient time, like ten years from now? :rofl:

But we dated anyways and it worked out in the end - even though I'm still chipping away at that darn degree! :bbredface:

[SerendipityCrafts]

Yes and no ..... I fell in love with him from the get go but I needed a bit more time to realize that he was indeed the perfect fit for me.

[KMS]

I still remember the very first time that I saw Chad in high school. I remember exactly where we were in the hallway and who he was walking with. I fell for him right then and there, almost 8 years ago (7 of those dating) and we haven't been apart since that moment. Very early on when we started dating he told me that he had never fallen for somebody so hard, so fast. I felt the same way.

[punkin_eata]

we knew. FH is from the east coast and came to cali with some friends for what was supposed to be a temporary stay. i met him about a month after he stepped foot in cali, when we started working together. we were inseperable from day 1, because we just felt so inexplicably comfortable around each other. we said the "i love you"s on our first real day as a couple and agreed we'd get married someday by the time two weeks had gone by. it's strange, but we instantly felt like we'd known each other forever. a couple of his friends took me aside to tell me that he'd never acted this way with a girl and that he was a great person and essentially not to break his heart because they could tell he was really in love with me. lol it was so sweet! so after about 3 wonderful years together he proposed to me in vegas at the "eiffel tower" with his mom's ring, and even though i knew it was coming i almost cried :) it sounds really cheesy but i feel like everything important that i've ever wanted fell in my lap the day i met him.

[ChristineLS]

Our relationship warming up was more "crock pot" than "spontaneous combustion". We knew each other while we dated other people, became really close friend, dated, because really really close, closer, etc. We were friends before lovers. I like that better, because when we met we weren't trying to impress each other so I feel like I got the real deal, as I wasn't trying to impress him when I met him, hah!

I was coming out of a relationship that was pretty serious, so I didn't really let myself think serious in the beginning of this one. In the beginning only ;)

[gwenshack]

Oh no no no no no no no no.

I actually really disliked him at first. The only reason I went out on a date with him was because I had nothing better to do that day.

Dating used to be my sport...!

[evilcookie]

I never had any intention of getting married, and I always thought people who believed they knew when they met 'the one' were full of **** :snide:. I spent years dating a string of losers, and although I liked them ok at the time, I always knew none of them were anyone I'd ever spend my life with.

Then I met my FH. He was in town for his sister's wedding (she married his best friend), and I was there because she & I were good friends. We hung out all night after the reception, and he stayed in town for a few extra days to hang out with me. He told me he'd call me when he got back home (we lived 4 states away from each other), and I figured I'd never hear from him again.

I was out with friends when he called that night, and when they asked me who it was, out of nowhere I said 'the man I'm going to marry' :bbeek:. I horrified myself when I said that, but I just knew! Four and a half years later, we're planning our wedding. I still find it a little bizarre...

[Tadswife]

Ok maybe i'm the odd ball, but I knew it it from "Hello" I just knew! How wacky does that sound. I was so certain, I bought my wedding dress four months after I met him! :bbeek: And told him I loved him 7 days after I met him:bbeek:
Ok, maybe I move a little quickly! But I deffianlty knew

[EarlyBird]

fh has always said he knew.. hahaha i didnt!! no way.. didnt even know we would ever date..
hahha

[JJsWifey08]

The first time he commented my blog with something smartassed I just knew he was the ONE!! WE had everything in common so when we talked its like I was falling in love with just one talk. then we met and kissed and it was confirmed I was to marry him. he proposed a month later and 3 months later I became Mrs joseph. We both knew we were so right Time cant define that!!

[*Lisa*]

We were really young when we started dating. I was 15 and he was 18. I wouldn't say that we knew we were "the one" right away, but we knew that we absolutely had to be together. It was instant attraction and we fell in love very quickly.

I would say that I was about 17 when I knew 100% that he was who I wanted to be with. He said he had felt the same way around the same time. We just wanted to wait until we were in a better position to get engaged to take the next step. 22 and 25 was the perfect time :)

[Piedpiper522]

I'm another "sort of". I've known my FH since I was 8 years old, but I always thought he was the biggest dork! My sister had a crush on him for years, and I had a crush on his brother, lol! But we grew older and stopped hanging out very much in our late middle school/early high school years. But then we picked up our friendship again his junior year of high school, and I knew then. Even though I had a lot of guys pursuing me at the time I would lay awake at night hoping he would be the one to pursue me next!

And he did, and we fell so hard for each other its not even funny. I remember writing in my journal when we were still friends that: "this is a man I could marry. This is a man that could make me forget EvilEx." :heart:

something funny though...sometimes when I would meet a guy I really really liked, I would imagine waking up to them every morning, and my barometer for how much I liked them is how I thought it would feel to wake up to them every, single morning. Oh my word, I still remember the exact moment I thought about that about Joseph. I thought it, and then I thought how fantastic it would be, and how much joy it would give me, and that's pretty much when I knew. lol. it sounds ridiculous, but it really worked for me. :D

[rainbow]

I definately "didn't just know". We are opposites in alot of ways so we can clash quit a bit actually.lol. But he can also keep me grounded. I stress out when a crisis comes up, and he remains calm and doesn't let it bother him, and after a while comes up with solutions. I am trying to learn to me more like him in that way and I need that. We have been through alot more than most couples (mostly selfe inflicted). we fought like cats and dogs in the beggining (starting from about 6 months), but we get along great now. Maybe we got all the fighting over with or we understand each other more now, but i'm glad that we got through that.

[Lasko@~]

I did "just know" what is funny is I NEVER believed in that or true love or anything, i was emotionally unavailable at the time. But in less than 2 weeks i told him I love him (i NEVER say it first or that much even after it is established) i also asked him to move in and within a month we were looking for wedding favors. I am in no rush to get married but i Know he is the one and i have never been happier or content. content being the key and best word for life!!

[starsthrumysoul]

I did not "just know" right away... I'd say I "knew" about 2 1/2 years in. At that point we were comfortable with each other, but still had the spark. We worked hard at our relationship, and really complemented each other. It wasn't like one day I woke up and was like "aha! He is the one!" It was more of a slow realization that he was the best man in the world for me.

[Kari&Jeremy]

I "just knew" about three weeks after we started dating. :)

[taubakalupe]

Did you ask them or did they tell you that going door to door was part of the job description?? If not thats not right. They are usually supposed to tell you what the job description entails.Hang in there hon Youre the right person for a great job, employers just dont know it yet.

[WebLady]

Did you ask them or did they tell you that going door to door was part of the job description?? If not thats not right. They are usually supposed to tell you what the job description entails.Hang in there hon Youre the right person for a great job, employers just dont know it yet.
Did I miss something in this thread, or did you mean to post this somewhere else?

[dodgercpkl]

Did I miss something in this thread, or did you mean to post this somewhere else?

I was wondering that myself!!

As to the original question - it depends on whether we are talking about 1st met or 1st PHYSICALLY met. lol my fiancee and I met online in a game we both have played for years. We became MSN buddies and good friends until we finally met in real life 4 months later. When we met in real life, I just knew! As someone else said, it was like coming home. We both felt it thought it took us both a couple months to get past the "can this be real??" stage, but 2 months after meeting in real life, we were already talking about marriage. :D

[animal.crackers]

Wow, I can't believe I started this post almost a year ago! I have not been on here in a while, but I saw this at the top of the list and enjoyed catching up on everyone's answers! I guess I should update on this...

I broke up with my boyfriend about 6 months ago... I wasn't engaged, and I'm doing fine- just FYI!

I joined here because my sister got engaged and I was helping her plan her wedding. She got married this summer (I will put some pics up maybe!) so I haven't been around much! =) And for the record she definitely "just knew!" pretty much right away =)

[melissa1031]

It was a few weeks when I "just knew"that FH was the I.And that we were going to be together forever.

[LuLu86]

mine was love at first site. (cheesy i know) i normally dont believe in that sorta thing, but the moment we met we have been like peas n carrots. lol

[dearmissie]

I realized he was the one when I was really sick. I had a huge fever for over a week and was really weak. He stayed home all week to take care of me hand and foot. Then one night when I was in bed, I suddenly woke up with the need to throw up. I sat up quickly (he was in the room on the computer) and he heard me, so he turned around and saw my mouth started to blow up with vomit inside. I guess from the look in my eyes he knew I couldn't hold it on any longer, there's no way I'd make it to the restroom. So he came to me and cupped his hands together. I looked at him, and he nodded his head and said, "yah babe, its okay" then I just did it, threw up in his hands. When I was done, he walked me to the restroom (with vomit in his hands) and I finished throwing up in the sink. When I was done, he washed his hands and I asked him why he did something so nasty. He replied, "When I looked at it and took a whiff, I wanted the gag and throw up, but then when I looked at you (with **** all over my face im sure!) I realized it doesnt matter. It was YOU."

It melted my heart then and thinking back to this, it still melts my heart and since then I just knew he was the one. :hearts:


Now here I am sitting and thinking back on all the good times, and I remember this story which deserves an honorable mention (it's one of my Mom's favs!). We had just started started dating for a few weeks and we went to the movies one night. It was summer time so I dressed lightly, but to me, the movies are ALWAYS cold. But I thought I could handle it, I was trying to look all cute with my summer outfit and flip flops! Anyways, we decided to go to a movie I had just watched the night before with my Dad because my SO really wanted to watch it. So I agree'd. (I had the tendency to fall asleep in movies anyways) And this time was no different. I lied down to sleep with my head on his lap and my legs sprawled across the empty chairs next to us. And I'm knocked out! I kicked off my flip flops, and curled into a small tiny ball because it was sooooo cold! While sleeping on his lap I feel him slowly get up, I figure he had to use the restroom. I lift my head up so he could go. Then a couple seconds later I felt like something was coming towards me, I crack my eyes open a bit, and I see what looks like a white cat coming at me. (I'm thinking, why is there a cat at the movies?? Maybe it's an albino rat!! Eww, is the movies really that dirty?!) And then I feel it come to my foot. What a soft cat/rat!! I realize, it's him. He took off the socks off his feet to put onto my freezing footsies! (No, they weren't moist and nasty! They were dry and toasty!) Then he came and put his sweater over me and ever so lightly lifted my head back up to sit down. OMG it was just the sweetest thing ever!! Oh how I love that man!! :hearts:

[jennybaby]

Well, for me... no it was not an "I just knew" kind of thing. Kind of the opposite?

I met Peter our Freshman year in High School. We were in line for water after marching band and I just piped in "Are you a senior?" He laughed at me (omgosh I loved that laugh) and said "No, I'm a Freshman... like you!" I felt kind of a spark. I'd go out of my way to talk to him and yaddah yaddah. However, that didn't turn into anything. Over the next 3 years in High School we talked, I enjoyed his company, but never thought anything special. I was too involved with my other friends.

My junior year in High School, my Dad died. It was hard, and I had the best friends to get my through it. Peter wasn't one of those really close friends, but on the mornings when I'd get there early and no one else was there he'd just make it a point to see how I was doing. At the end of Junior year a couple of friends came up and were like "We know who has the hots for you! PETER! He stares at you all through practice!" I was like "Yeah right."

Low and behold, in November of our Senior year he asked me out (ON A BAND BUS! lol; Oh and 'asking someone out' means asking them to be your girlfriend). I declined because I hardly knew him on that level. The week after we started having these intense, deep conversations. We got on such an intimate level emotionally that I felt so stupid for turning him down! Our Senior year everyone knew we were into each other, but we just never did the whole "boyfriend/girlfriend" kind of thing. We finally started dating in college and maybe a few months into it I finally got the "I just know" feeling. I thought I was crazy because I was 18! I talked to my Mom about it and she said she felt the same way about my Dad. They were together since she was 19 and were still perfect for each other 40 years later.

(Apparently my band director knew we'd get married! He told some of the band kids after we left that we'd get married and have babies! lol)

[llhc04]

My FH and I dated four almost 5 years ago and it didn't work out then at all! I thought he was the clingy, way too emotional type (that I hated). I was 19 at the time and truthfully only dated him to make an ex-boyfriend jealous so he would take me back. My ex did take me back and I broke up with FH, but we ended up staying friends.

Then two years ago, I got married and was in the worst relationship ever! When I thought things could not get any worse, it did. I ended up pregnant with the father not wanting a thing to do with us after that. So I turned to my computer and instant messaging friends for comfort. I ended up re-connecting with my FH and became even closer as friends. I finally had my breaking point and moved back in with my parents and later got divorced after my son was born. FH was at my side in the hospital the day after. It was at that moment that I realized that he had more feelings for me than I ever knew.

We talked every day since that point and he came and saw me every day before he left for work. (HE works 3rd shift). After 3 months of being sleep deprived since my son would only sleep 2-3 hours day or night, my FH stayed the night and took care of the baby so I could get a full night's sleep. That's when I knew. We have been together ever since.

[CountingTheWaves]

I'm not the biggest romantic overall, but I did "know" right from the very beginning. So, in a word, yes. It actually scared me a little bit. We were pretty young, and the "knowing" feeling came on so swiftly that it was unreal.

I'm loving reading the stories on this thread, by the way.

[Tammy]

I really enjoyed reading eveyone's stories:lafhard:
So I couldn't help but turn to FH a few minutes ago and ask" Honey did you just know I was the one?" He thought for a bit and replied that he knew after a few months but not right away.
I have to agree...I knew right away there was something about him and that there was a connection but I didn't realize he was the one until we were together for a few months at least.
I haven't dated a ton of guys and was with my ex for 9 years(and 2 children) but my relationship with FH has been so different. Now I can't imagine not being with him. Even his long time friends have agreed we were just meant to be :luxlove:

[bright_eyes]

I think I knew he was the one before we ever started dating.
We met and became best friends very quickly. I was then not in a good place emotionally (just broke up with a bf I was crazy in love with etc) and wasn't looking for any serious relationships. But somehow with him I didn't want a rebound or anything casual as well. So we became friends and while he kept courting me for 7 months I think it was around the 5th month of being friends I realized that anything and everything that happens to me, every sad thought or every happy thought - my first gut reaction is to call him and tell him. It was almost surreal - since day one we could complete each other's sentences. And then I remember I was sick and running a high fever. He found out, came to my mom's house , brought HOME MADE chicken noodle soup and some romantic comedies to watch. My mom didn't let him see me because I was a little out of it (my fever was 103) but was definitely impressed. I was too! And we were just friends then. And then after 7 months I was finally able to trust again, and let my guard down and was able to let him show me how he really feels about me. The rest is history. One that day when we got together and became official we went to this street fair and the tarot card reader was all saying how our cards are "lovers" and "marriage". And people in the street kept asking us if we were on our honeymoon and how long we have been married. It was hilarious to say "Ugh we are dating. For last 4 hours!!!
I truly love him. We are a total match and I knew since that day at the fair that letting my guard down and giving us a chance was the best decision of my life I won't come to regret

[RoRo]

It's weird, that feeling you get, isn't it? But I know it well. From the moment I met my FH, I just knew he'd be the one I'd end up marrying.

My friends and I have this inside joke - I'm obsessed with this show called Flight of the Conchords, and on the show there's this man named Bret and he was always my favorite, and I would joke around saying that I could never marry a man who didn't look like him. My fiancé, Brandon, looks exactly like him! Coincidence? :rofl:

Brett http://popculturenerd.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/05/bret-mckenzie.jpg
Brandon http://c2.ac-images.myspacecdn.com/images02/119/l_caae6d3eeb164bcf87531db27d96f4f9.jpg

[xxeverafterx3]

Ok, I'm glad I'm not the only one who "just knew." People think I'm crazy when I say that. Fh and I met when we were both working in a haunted house - and even under his face makeup and "cape" I knew there was something different about him. At the moment did I know he was the one? Not necessarily, BUT i was determined to get to know him better. As soon as we hung out for the first time (about a week later) that's when I KNEW. It was like magic. We didn't start dating until about a year and a half later. That was mostly because I had other boyfriends, but every time I spent time with other boyfriends, I couldn't stop thinking about FH.

Now we've been together for 4 1/2 years and are finally engaged. People from high school that knew us when we first started dating still come up to me and say "I always knew you guys would end up together."

So yes, I did just know that he was the one. And I still feel the same way:luxlove:

[soontobeschroeder]

Mine is an interesting story. My fiance is 10 years older than me. I'm 20, he's almost 30. We met while he was still married to his ex wife and while I was with my Bf at the time. We met at a nightclub. I saw him playing pool and was just so intrigued by him. He was so tall and just wow...dominated the room. I kept staring. He came over and we started to talk. My friend pulled me away at the end of the night, saying "Jen! don't forget you have a guy waiting for you." I felt so bad and guilty. But something about him...idk. Next thing I know he asked me for my number right before I left. We started talking...and there started a whirlwind stormy yet passionate relationship.

Here we are now, 1 year later, living together. I left my boyfriend. Meeting Will helped me realize that things weren't right between us. And I finally gave him the courage to leave his wife and his depressing marriage. He does have two children. And I tell you, what impressed me the most is that he was honest with me from the beginning. He told me on our first date that he has a lot of baggage. He never lied or deceived.

Idk how I knew, I just did. I tried to leave him a few different times because I didn't think I could do it, but I just couldn't. Something drew me back. It's been a long trying journey...but it's all been worth it. I never thought I would be in the place my fiance has taken me. He gets me, make me laugh, is honest, real, and everything a man should be. And the best father. He just has this effect on me, keeps me grounded and safe. Has taught me so much about life. Idk, he just speaks to me.

Lol, I like to say I knew the first time he kissed my nose. No other guy had every done that. And when we sat in his truck all night talking in the rain in the mall parking lot. :)

[savepaws]

I figured I would have posted in this thread before...but I haven't. It may sound silly but when I saw a picture of DH, before I had met him, I looked closely at his eyes and I just kind of gasped...I knew I was looking at the man I was going to marry. It was so freaky. I met him maybe a week later and once we started to get to know one another, I knew he was exactly the kind of man I wanted and needed in my life. So I definitely knew from the beginning.

[jennybaby]

I figured I would have posted in this thread before...but I haven't. It may sound silly but when I saw a picture of DH, before I had met him, I looked closely at his eyes and I just kind of gasped...I knew I was looking at the man I was going to marry. It was so freaky. I met him maybe a week later and once we started to get to know one another, I knew he was exactly the kind of man I wanted and needed in my life. So I definitely knew from the beginning.

My SIL said the same thing about my brother since they met on an online dating site! Weird, but so romantic. :heart:

[Dear You]

I pretty quickly came to this realization, yes. Got engaged after 3 months, and I don't ever regret it.

[hleef]

FH and i met on a online dating site and i almost didnt message him because one of the 5 things he couldnt live with out was ac so i took that as hes not really an outdoorsie person.. and after talking to a few duds i kept comming across FH so i messaged him and then we started talking online and then on the phone and finally decided to meet, he showed up with a boquet of flowers and after dinner and a movie after the movie was over we sat in the parking lot for something like 5 hours just talking... on my way home i knew he was the one!

a few weeks after our first date we were watching a movie at his house and i had my head in his lap and he looked into my eyes and said can i ask you a question? and i said sure whats up? and he said well i was more wondering if i tried to kiss you would you run away or kiss me back (we havent kissed at all at this point only hugged) and i said well why dont you try and find out ;) lol that was our first kiss... then we started the movie and about half way through i looked at him and said... i really want to tell you something but im scared that its to soon and youll run away... and he said well if its the 3 words that im thinking of its deff not to soon and ill be here forever :wub: o how i love that man!

[ZurchersWeddings]

It took me a while, but my DH claims that he knew almost right away. It is sweet when he tells the story of how he knew. We were watching TV in my apartment. We'd only been dating about a week. I was making a chowder i the kitchen and he was lying on the couch and the person on the TV was talking about how his wife had died. He was telling touching stories about his wife and you could tell that he dearly loved and missed his spouse. DH says that as he was listening he was thinking that he really wished that he could find someone to spend his life with so that someday he could talk about her the way this widower was talking about his wife. He then glanced mid-thought up at me and distinctly heard a voice say "you already have found her." :wub::heartface::luxlove:

Please no jokes about how he felt that because I was cooking. ;) I have heard them all already. :bbrolleyes:

[Aubrey]

I've been married before, and I've thought I've 'just known' with guys I've dated in the past, so I'm much more hesitant to say that I knew right away I'd want to marry my boyfriend. This may sound boring, but I knew I wanted to marry him after I went through some tough times earlier this year. He helped me through it in the best, most constructive, most helpful way possible, and never treated me like I was stupid or that he didn't support me no matter what. I like us together because we want the same things in life and we treat each other with respect. I didn't know right away when we first met, but I know now.

[Maria87]

I didn't know right away, neither did he. After like 6 months I got my first feelings towards marrying.