Missed photos

[BingBot]

How many of you have gone through all of your wedding photos and thought of some that were missed? I thought we could all post about it in this thread in order to get it off our chest! (maybe) :purplex: Here is my list.

1. Our photographers gave us a checklist to check off which photos we wanted them to get. Both DH and I checked off bride/groom with entire immediate family. They did not take these, I am not sure why. My sister lives out of state and my brother has been away at college for a while so we rarely get a pic of our immediate family. I am the most bummed about not getting this photo!

2. Did not get a picture of my brother and I. It's funny because we always get pictures together on Christmas, Thanksgiving or other times we are together. I should have asked the photographers to take one.

3. Did not get a GOOD one of us with my grandparents. They were not able to stay during the church photos because my grandpa was playing keyboard for the start of the reception. They got a picture of DH and I with my grandparents later, but it's definitely not worthy of framing.

4. And out of all the pics of DH and I, we only got a couple of traditional posed pictures (you know like the ones you would send someone in a Christmas card.) They did more candid and more of them telling us to be romantic and then just taking pics. I like those, but I would have been happy with a few more posed ones.

That is what I am most disappointed with. Overall I'm very happy with the photos, but I feel like a few important ones were missed. What photos were left out at your wedding?

[mitch]

I have just one full length photo of DH and Myself together. Every other shot has someone in the background or next to us.

The only time We stood with all Five Kids, DH was holding Grandson and You can't see DH's face clearly. We have numerous angles of this photo and only one angle is everyone seen.

We had one photo taken of everyone there. But even then it has Three people missing. The Lady who walked Me in and a Friend with Her Son. This wasn't even "Staged" We just all crushed into the Lounge, sat or stood anywhere and smiled at a Timed Camera Phone.

There's not one photo of us with Our Two Witnesses. Every photo taken has one of us missing.

But i'm not too fussed. It gives us an excuse to get dressed up again and do it all again in the Spring.
Only this time i'll be taking My Dress up North to the Kids and taking photos in their local park. A lot easier for us to drive there than hire a car to get them here.

[SerendipityCrafts]

Ohhhhhhh if I answered this post, my list would be never ending and my blood pressure would reach the boiling point. :irked:

My photographer missed pretty much all the "standard" shots. The one I am particularly angry about missing, is a photo of DH, all 4 kids and I <<< we are just never going to get the chance to take a "do over" photo.

[Scrwballsgrl]

I'll have to try and learn from others experiences. But my sister was married last weekend & she was happy overall (I believe) with the pictures & poses that were taken. The only thing we were all disappointed about was we were going to do the "what doesnt' belong" shots with a garden gnome!

[saltyveruca]

From the photographer's side...It's not always easy to know who exactly the important people are to photograph. Of course YOU know who your family and best friends are, but generally up to the point of the wedding we have only met the two of you, and possibly your parents and siblings if they've come along to meetings or photo sessions before the wedding. Tell your photographer who you want a picture of, and with. We're good at what we do, and that includes figuring out who your grandma is, but we're not mind readers or family tree experts. Use this mantra:

When in doubt, point them out!

Even though shots are written down, sometimes people just plain aren't there. In November we did a wedding where the formals were an absolute nightmare. I almost cried for the bride and groom because their families were being so disrespectful to them (and us), although I think they were so blissed out from the ceremony that they didn't notice it. We told all the VIPs before the ceremony to stick around for photos. Yet they all went to go get drinks, got distracted talking to people, and I had to spend at least 20 minutes using various family members to go drag so and so away from the bar to get a photo. (Oh, and would you please set your drink down? Thanks.) Somehow we managed to keep everyone occupied and happy by taking photos of the people that actually were there, but it wasn't easy and it took FOR-EV-ER. According to my list we didn't miss any but it was pure chaos and if I wasn't such a freakazoid about my list I could definitely see how we could miss something important. Anyway, that's a long and complain-y way of saying, don't always point the finger of blame at your photographer for missed formals. They might be just as ticked off about it as you are.

If at some point in the reception you realize you don't have a photo with you, your mom, and your grandparents, take a moment to get everyone together and grab your photographer for a shot. Don't wait for us to figure it out. And it's also helpful if you're actually near the people you want to be photographed with. If you spend the entire reception hanging out with your husband at the sweetheart table, we're not going to have many opportunities to photograph you with someone else. Dance with your grandpa, get everyone on the dance floor together, visit people at their tables and drag your photographer along. These are all things that will make it easier and more likely for us to photograph the people you want photographed.

When in doubt, point them out!

We actually put in our contract and encourage our clients to have an "event guide," who is responsible for being a point person that identifies and gathers the people who really need to be photographed (unfortunately for the wedding I mentioned, we ended up needing like 5 of them). We take getting important shots seriously-we know these are once in a lifetime photos. But you have to help us!

[KMS]

Yep, we had some that were missed and it makes me so sad!.There was no list of pictures that we would like to have taken so I should have been adamant about getting certain ones done.

[RosieAngel]

Maybe it's because my wedding was TINY (28 guests in all), but I lucked out and got everything I asked for - and more! I'm just sad that my hair looked dumb in all of the formals with DH. I was, as SaltyVeruca said in that last post, too "blissed out" to remember to fix my hair! But that's hardly the photographer's fault.

[Ginger]

:( Sorry to hear so many people are missing photos.

[SerendipityCrafts]

We're good at what we do, and that includes figuring out who your grandma is, but we're not mind readers or family tree experts. Use this mantra:

When in doubt, point them out!

I totally agree with you. I do realize how hard it is to capture that "one and only moment" and I in awe of what you do.

I asked a pro/friend to photograph our wedding and he turned it into a gift. As it turned out, he was going for a "journalistic style" and also using brand new equipment. When I asked him during the reception, about getting those formal shots, he assured me that he had "got some beautiful shots" and "captured the love between DH & I" - and then he went back to the chocolate fountain.

I blame myself for taking a freebee and for being more assertive and insistent. It's hard to be pissed at a friend, about something that you paid nothing for. On the other hand, it was much easier to be ticked at his statement "I'll do better next time".

I guess I am still not "over it" :rofl:

[ISPWP]

Sorry that your photographer missed some important photos. Sometimes even with all of the preparation and communication beforehand, pictures will get missed because the timeline is crunched at the last minute, people are late and aren't available, and just plain ol' human error.

My advice to future brides to avoid this problem is to take adequate time to talk to your photographer and make sure you're clear on the group/portrait shots you want. Make sure they are written down so there is no misunderstanding and no room for interpretation.

The key thing is to NEVER ASSUME anything, always clarify and communicate and you should end up with what you want. Don't assume your photographer remembers who's in your family. Don't assume your photographer knows how much you want a lot of portraits. Remember, your photographer is shooting a wedding almost every weekend, and every couple wants something slightly different, so a written list of the group/portrait shots helps the session go smoothly!

[BingBot]

While I appreciate the opinion of the professional photographers on here, this IS the married life section, and none of us are able to go back and retake our wedding photos. We all have to be happy with the photos we got. Sure I realize I should have taken some more time before the wedding to think about what photos were the most important to me. Sure I could have gone up to my photographer and said "hey, get a picture of my brother and I!" But the wedding day is a very busy one, and us brides don't always think of this until after the day is done. I'm sure all of us were super busy with planning up until the big day. We don't know all of the photos that are being taken the whole time, especially when they gets lots of candids. It's only when we look at all the photos afterwards that we realize what we missed! It's unfortunate but it happens to many people. I am not saying that anyone is to blame. But if I had someone to plan my whole wedding and worry about all the details then I'm sure I could have given the photography some more thought ahead of time!

Oh well - whenever my brother gets married I'll be sure to get a good photo of the two of us!! :wink:

[Nekochanpurr]

We didn't get ANY pics with Steve's grandma on his dads side.. o.o; Not many of my mom, either... Too late now, though! ^^*

[MrsDM]

This thread is a good idea because before the wedding, I can make sure that my photographers have a list of pictures because you are right, it is such a busy day!!

[FFC]

I missed a lot of photos. We took photos out under an oak tree in the shade, and they're all very dark and obviously not very good quality. My photographer was kind enough to brighten a lot of them for me, but there are some pictures that I think are great poses, but bad lighting that I have to go through and fix myself. I'm happy with a lot of my pictures, but I'm bummed at the poses that we missed:

Bridal shoot - I don't have any pictures of my jewelry or just me (besides about 5 poses of me on the lawn and near my stepdad's truck). I really wanted a bridal shoot to get up close shots of my jewelry, my hair, my make up, just ME. Didn't happen.

Bride and groom shoot - we got a lot of Matt and I, but NONE of just him and I looking at the camera, besides the one on the jungle gym, but that's hardly frameworthy.

I can go on, but those are the main disappointments with my photos.

[lize566]

We also got very few if any good shots of just DH and I. The ones we did get were of us sitting on the steps on the altar. We have NONE of the typical full length shoots of just me or of both of us. I was also upset about the fact that my dad was in almost all of the shots of the GM. And the photographer was a friend of my dad's so it's not like she didn't know that he wasn't a GM, although I kind of think she has a thing for him b/c not only was he in all of these shots, but he and my brother were the only ones who got ready there so for the preparation shots I have a bunch of my dad. Why not go find me or the groom and take our pictures instead of documenting him?

I did have a list, and I had my aunt in charge of the list, so I'm not sure how my dad managed to get in all those pictures. My advice-take the time to look over the list yourself, and definitely have inspiration pictures. I thought I had gotten all the pics I wanted-the list said pics of bride and groom which I did get, just not the way I wanted-until I was going through them after the fact. Oh well. I regret the photographer choice, but that's the only thing I regret, so I guess I can't really complain :)