Has anyone felt poisoned by "the knot"

[phalerian]

I am getting married, my fiance joined "the knot" website months after our engagement -advice from a friend. Since she has gotten irritable and nasty anytime I mention the wedding. When she speaks to me about it she is confused and angry. she always seems conflicted and blurts out chat names and their somewhat nasty advice. We have been close for 5 years , 2 living together and i have never seen this side of her. Mind Control? I am worried that this site is bringing out a creature I dont want to spend my life with. Advice? Help? Empathy?

[Kacie_bride]

Well...welcome to onewed! This group of ladies on here are amazing! I've heard stories about *******.com not being as pleasant as we are here.

About your friend, it seems like maybe she is jealous. It seems like the jealousy bug gets a lot of people. Maybe suggest that she join our group.

Again, welcome. We will always be here for you.

[shawnsgirl]

I can't really say I have ever felt poisoned by the knot. Perhaps confused but not poisoned. They have a ton of ideas and sometimes if you look too much and too hard things just run together and you mind gets numb. YOu fiance's behavior though is a bit scary though. You definatly need to have a sit down. When you do, approach her in a concerned manner. WHATEVER YOU DO, DO NOT BE OFFENSIVE OR DEFENSIVE WITH HER!! Some ways to approach her is this. Try to find a moment when you can talk. Ask her is everything is okay. Tell her you noticed that she gets upset at the mention of wedding planning and your worried. Let her know that you love her and that you only want her to be happy and you are scared right now. Try to get into her head. Also, use the word I feel when talking with her. Avoid using hte word YOU... WHen the word "you" is used it can easily be interperted as blaming and flip her into defense mode. Obviuosly something is a matter and you guys are not effectively communicating thoughts/feelings in an appropiate manner. I would also suggest some premarital counseling. Let us know how things go!

[Kacie_bride]

Oh, my bad. I misread what you posted. It is your fiance that is acting weird, not a friend. I apologize. It seems like you guys need to have a long chat. Maybe it's just stress. Stress can cause people to act very strange. But I do think you need to reevaluate your situation. Perhaps you guys should see a marriage counciler.

[WebLady]

"poisoned by the knot" :bblol: love it ... yeah I have heard all kinds of things about the goings on over there. Some ppl get way too into the 'wedding' IMO

Anyway, yes do have a talk with her ... calmly and not 'attacking' her. Let her tell you what she is feeling and tell her how you feel. You guys should be able to talk to each other (about this or anything else really) or you are in for a rough ride.

Everyone here is great! This is by far the best wedding forum I have ever heard of or had the pleasure to be a part of :D

Good luck and Welcome to the board!

[laylu2001]

Everyone knows the girls on the knot are evil. I had one of them break into my photobucket account and delete all my pictures. Don't ask me how.

[Shawna Bride]

ummm, no offence, but I don't really believe this.

[katieandalex]

I'm not quite sure if I understand what you are saying....why would your fiance get upset and snippy when you mention the wedding just because she is on The Knot. My suggestion is to talk with your fiance and let her know that you've seen a correlation between her behavior and being on The Knot. I used to be on The Knot and I couldn't handle it...one its not user friendly and two it always seems like they never give advice....just knock down everything you've posted.

[CindySue]

I used to be on The Knot and I couldn't handle it...one its not user friendly and two it always seems like they never give advice....just knock down everything you've posted.
Well this would definitely make sense as to why all of the sudden she gets upset talking about the wedding. If all of her plans have seen shot down by people on a planning website, shes probably feeling pretty crummy about herself and her ability to plan a wedding. There were times when I went through similar, but I got lots of great advice here......and bunches of inspiration.
You do need to talk to her, let her know her being upset bothers you. If she thinks you really dont care, she will keep things bottled up.
Good Luck

[countrygirl]

You know, I haven't checked out any of the other forums. To be honest, this is the first one I checked out and stayed from the beginning. I guess it's a good thing because there seems to be alot of yucky ones out there.

[MOB Karen]

You know, I haven't checked out any of the other forums. To be honest, this is the first one I checked out and stayed from the beginning. I guess it's a good thing because there seems to be alot of yucky ones out there.

This was my first and only forum too. I'm glad I found this one before the others too!! There just seems to be a lot of wickedness going on at the other forums, and I don't want any part of it.

[AngelinLove]

Just wanted to add that thsi is my first and only forum as well and I am glad to be here!!!

Also, I really don't think that the guy that posted this thread is coming back!!!

[WhiskeyGirl]

Also, I really don't think that the guy that posted this thread is coming back!!!

Lol...I was thinking the same thing Angel!! :)

[mj512]

I actually really like ******* But not their forums, Every time that I have went into them no one is ever talking about weddings lol, it is always about TV shows and such, but I do really like their website making thing, and their guest list stuff

[SoontobeMrsClark07]

I belong to the knot but I only go on my local board. I have had wonderful experiences with girls there. Its helpful for specifics in your area... but thats only on some of the local boards... on the other boards people can be really nasty and mean. People have been called stupid for making simple typing errors and made fun of for everything from the size of their e-ring to their weight or appearance and even plans they have made.

Its really hard to find a "home" over there. But thats just my experience.