Married and Still Dating

[Ohio888Bride]

I'm here to toot DH's horn. :) Keep in mind that our dates are typically reading the Bible together on Friday nights, doing mundane errands and chores together, and the usual planning what restaurant to go to and what movie to watch at home or in a theater. The operative word is "together"; here is where the surprise begins...

On Friday, October 24th, DH had a wonderful evening planned, but the rain kept him from following through with the surprise date that he'd set up for us. His plan was to book a carriage ride (he surprised me this way once before). DH said that we were going to walk away from the car and he'd turn back stating that he'd left his wallet in the car. He was going to move the bouquet of flowers from the trunk to my seat, so that I'd be surprised when we returned from the surprise carriage ride. We were going to have dinner somewhere, too.

The rain kept the horses from working that night, so DH brought the flowers home. After we ate dinner, I flipped on the light switch in the family room and my heart nearly stopped! I saw a gorgeous bouquet of flowers on the table. What a surprise indeed! I had no clue that he'd been up to something.

Not to let the rain completely ruin a surprise date, he set up something for this past weekend. He told me to be dressed nicely on Saturday by 8 PM. My little sister was sort of in on it; I found this out when I called to consult her on what to wear. She refused to spill the beans (good for her!), but gave me some advice on what might be appropriate attire.

DH's surprise was that he hired a sitter and planned to take me to a nice restaurant and a movie. During dinner, we decided to skip the movie, came home to book a hotel room and get my ID, and we spent the night away from home - with the sitter knowing we'd be out until early Sunday morning - didn't want to miss church!

I thanked him, but it doesn't seem like enough. He worked so hard to pull this off without my help or knowledge. I'm truly grateful. It's now my turn to set up something spectacular for him.

Share your stories of what DH/FH/DW/FW has done for you OR what you've done for him/her. :)

Oh, I'll post the flowers when I stop being too lazy to upload them.

[WebLady]

Nice "just because" surprises are always nice :)

DH always tries to do something nice for my birthday and our anniversary and such, even if it is just a nice card and dinner out. He will bring home flowers every now and then and send me nice emails.

We go out to eat every now and then and/or will have nice dinners at home. We don't have children so we don't feel the need to get out away from home as much.

I even like it that he will help me make grocery lists and we can go shopping together too.

The other day we went out looking at Christmas stuff and getting ideas on how to remodel the bathroom (FINALLY) :)

[KMS]

How sweet that he made it up to you! I'm sure that he could tell how much you appreciated it too.

I graduated high school a few years before Chad and since I was 21 when his senior prom came around, we couldn't go together. I had gone with somebody else to my prom even though I secretly wanted to go with him, but we were just friends at the time. We really didn't have enough money anyways though! He knew how sad I was and he still wanted us to do something special that night so he took note of the dresses and sizes that I was trying on one day at Macy's. When prom time got closer, he told me that we would have plans and he would take care of everything - even my attire. (That made me nervous! LOL) Then prom night he surprised me with gifts of one of the dresses that I had really liked, jewelry, etc and drove me into Houston. When we got closer to our destination he blind folded me and when we arrived he took it off. We were at a dinner theatre that I had been to years before and had always talked about going back. What?!? I was so excited and it couldn't have been better. He really helped take my mind off of a silly high school prom and onto things that we would be doing together for the rest of our lives. :D

[KMS]

I even like it that he will help me make grocery lists and we can go shopping together too.


I love doing that too!

[Ohio888Bride]

Brandi (sp?), the little things really do add up to big emotions, so kudos to your DH for showing love and romance on any given day. Your home improvement and shopping trips sound like our "dates". Your DH sounds like a lovely (can I use that word to describe a man?) person! :)

Keely, that is too cute! We spend so much time venting about stuff (not just our spouses) that it's great to hear about goodwill given to or from our loved ones. And ooh la la at being blindfolded!

Come on ladies and gents, share your stories! I know there's a lot of love out there. That's why OW exists.

[WebLady]

Brandi (sp?), the little things really do add up to big emotions, so kudos to your DH for showing love and romance on any given day. Your home improvement and shopping trips sound like our "dates". Your DH sounds like a lovely (can I use that word to describe a man?) person! :)
Thanks ... yeah, it is Brandi with an 'i' ;)

[mitch]

Yesterday i did a few hours overtime at work. I hardly ever work on Sundays. But We are so short staffed at the moment, i went in to help out.

I woke up to find DH was already up. So while i got ready He made some Tea and Toast for Me.
The House was a mess but i didn't have time to do any chores before work. Sundays is normally spent doing Laundry and paperwork etc.

The Petrol light is on in the car. And We don't have any money until Tuesday. So DH took Me to work in His new Van. He was going to pick Me up when i was done. But i got a lift home.

When i got in. DH had washed the dishes. Done the Laundry. Hoovered the Carpets and Polished the units. As soon as he heard My key in the door he ran downstairs and made Me a cup of Tea. He then ran Me a bath and put some new fluffy towels on the Radiators so i had warm towels when i got out the bath.
When i came back downstairs. He had started dinner and when i finally got into the Lounge i found a bouquet of flowers in a vase. :)


The reason for the fuss.


He was saying sorry for dumping a load of work gear (Digger Buckets, Barriers, Huge Drums of White Diesel, Shovels, Brooms etc) in the back garden. And filling up the Kitchen on Saturday with Overalls, work boots, bags and buckets from the back of His Van.

Awww bless Him. Love that Man to pieces.

[Ohio888Bride]

Wow, Mitch! DH sure does know how to say "sorry". :)

[gwenshack]

I think it's important to be married and still dating - so I'm super happy for you!

Since we're not married officially yet I can't speak to what FH WILL do once he has the old ball and chain on, but since it seems like we're married sometimes since we live together, I can say that he could fall back into routine and just wave to me as he's off to do something fun while I'm doing his laundry or something. Fortunately that's not the case. (Save for the part where I do his laundry...haha)

Yes, we're both busy and could very easily just flop into our respective favorite comfy chairs, but we make an effort to go out, even if it's just for a drink, at least one weekend night. The other night, if we don't go out, we take the time to watch a movie together or just sit out on the balcony and talk about whatever.

Those are actually my favorite "dates" - when we just sit out on the balcony with a drink and chat.

I like the fact that we make an effort to "date" and hope (and suspect) that will continue once we're married.

I'm glad you brought this subject up - it's nice to hear about the good things our SO's do to counter all the vents and frustrations! :)

[Ohio888Bride]

You're right, we do have to date our DH/FH. DH and I didn't date much after we began living together. I was so busy with school, work, the kids, and volunteer efforts, I took him for granted all the time. :(

It took having to hit rock bottom for me to realize how I severely underestimated the amount of date time we needed. I'll never need to be reminded to spend time with him again... :bblol:

[mitch]

Wow, Mitch! DH sure does know how to say "sorry". :)

Yeah. He realised how much time and effort i put into making the Back Garden look nice. Then within Half an Hour He made it look like a New Motorway was being built right through the middle LOL.

He's just changed companies. So He got a new Van. It's all in the back of that now. And the Garden is back to normal. :)

[mitch]

Sometimes DH and Myself walk into a Pub separately. We both order a drink each. Then one will walk up to the other and pretend We've just met.
A bit of flirting here and there. Buy another drink then sit somewhere cosy and chat like We don't know each other.

Having met in a chatroom. We only met face to face three times before He moved in with Me. So We did most of Our "Dating" online. So it's fun to actually go out and do the dating bit for real. Even after Six Years together.

[Ohio888Bride]

That's TOO cute! I'll bet the guys in the pub get jealous when your husband "wins" you. LOL!

I might have to try your game once. Then again, I have an attitude problem. I don't like when men look at me like I'm their next meal, so I shoot daggers at them with my eyes and DARE them to say something. Poor chumps! :rofl: