Treasia and Jerry

[hummingbird521]

I had to share this and give everyone a laugh. Now that it is over, it is just too funny not to share with everyone. We waited today till the last minute to go and get our marriage license. We had so much stuff to do we figured this would be no problem. Well jerry was supposed to get off work today at 12 noon and we were going to pick it up and go and get the wedding cake afterwards. We had plenty of time, right? wrong,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,He was unable to get off work as planned at noon because some of the guys got sick and had to leave so he ended up staying till 2:30 pm. the courthouse closes at 4 pm. we have to drive about 25 to 30 miles to get there. as we are rushing out of the house to leave the kids school called and his youngest is sick and throwing up and very pale. the mother is gone to work and didnt take her cell phone today with her. so we had to go and pick up both kids and take them with us. so here we are driving like a bat out of heck with one child throwing up in a sick pan in the back seat when we looked up and are meeting a state trooper. naturally we got pulled over. my car window tore up a few weeks ago and we have not been able to get it fixed yet. so jerry had to get out of the car (which upset the officer). jerry explained why he had to get out. we both explained about the rush and why. as he leaned into the car my soon to be step son decided then would be a good time to throw up again. so he is spewing in the backseat while the officer is reaching into the car for me to hand him the insurance card. we got off with a warning this time. i think he felt sorry for us at the time. haha. :D we barely made it to the courthouse and got it picked up. we then had to rush in another direction for about 40 miles to get the cake picked up in time. the cake is a disaster to say the least. it is not what i expected at all. i wanted something unique and different. not the traditional cake with bride and groom on it. LADIES BE CAREFUL WHAT YOU WISH FOR!!!!!! My wedding cake looks like a big birthday cake. It looks like two gift wrapped boxes stacked one on top of the other. With large bows on them. the bottom box (can't call it a cake) has a bright cobalt blue bow on it and is covered with yellow hearts. :bblol: the top box has a hot pink bow on it and the box is also covered with green polka dots. ;) jerry took one look at it and busted out laughing and so did I. you can't help but laugh at it. the longer you look at it hoping against all hope that it looks better, the worse it looks. it would be absolutely perfect for my daughters upcoming 16th birthday. :happybday: But not our wedding. we are considering scraping the bows off and replacing them with a bride and groom on top and the bottom bow replacing it with some silk flowers or something. their is a cake decorator two doors down from me and i am considering begging her to repair it. but then on the other hand it might be too funny not to have this memory in years to come. it will definetly break the ice at the reception. gotta smile about it, what more can I do????

i hope this makes everyone a good laugh.

[Jenn060306]

Sounds like it was an extremely eventful trip! I can just imagine your son getting sick in the back of the car as the police officer pulls you over. At least you got the licence!
Your cake does sounds amusing. I say go with it! Definatly it will be an ice breaker. I can totally see where you wanted it to go. I love the stacked parcell look. But from what you described is sounds like its REALLY bright!
Nothing can be perfect, may as well make light of it! You definatly sound like you are taking everything with a grain of salt. I hope your wedding day turns out to be fantastic!

[Kacie_bride]

Wow! Sorry about your cake. You seem like you have a good attitude about it so that it is always good.

Despite the problems I know your day which is TOMORROW will turn out wonderful! Congratulations and good luck with the big day tomorrow.

[Jopet]

HAHA well it certainly sounds like an eventful trip!!! sure did make me giggle.
oh and I would love to see a pic of the cake ;).

[Valmai]

Hope everything went ok for u both, Jamie and i said that if our cake turned out like that then we would definately keep it, if u both laughed then so will everyone else and it would deifnately be a talking point lol - Hope you are now happily and peacefully - married cant wait to see pics
Valmai xxx

[MOB Karen]

Congratulations, Treasia!! Tell us how it went. Do you have any pics to share?

[hummingbird521]

just thought while i had the time i would update some on the wedding journal. wedded life is going well!!!! i continue to be happy as Mrs. Stepp. although i do admit it has it's moments. haha. i guess with the wedding and all that out of the way i feel out of sorts now at times. like i have nothing to do with myself. When in all actuality i have plenty to do. we have fell into a routine of sorts around here. but i wonder sometimes if routine is good. i am a very routine person, but is it getting mundane? sometimes i feel as if the relationship has changed. i think this is all in my head though. i don't feel as sexy and confident in myself lately. maybe it is because jerry and i have not had any alone time to amount to anything since we got married. one of us always has at least one of our kids around. and the stress of bills (what with the wedding) is starting to get to jerry. he is wondering about a second job. while i am looking for one much closer to home that pays more. i feel as if i have become a hindrance to him. my job is an hour or more drive away and the cost of gas is killing us. i average staying at my parents about one night a week to save on the gas. since they only live about 10 miles from my job. jerry does not make me feel this way, i make myself feel this way. and we dont' seem to laugh as much anymore. anyone have any ideas on what to do? take today for example: i have to take my daughter to a town about 25 mins away for an appt. then travel back home and then go to work about 75 miles in the opposite direction. i really don't have the gas to get to work. i know this sounds awful, but i had planned on not going to work today at all. i would love to quit this job. i get paid once a month and now that i live so far away can't stretch the money to get back and forth to it. which takes away from jerry's paycheck to do so. he makes little comments about how he can't wait for me to find something closer to home. i know he doesn't realize this makes me feel bad.

well so much for updating!!! now i have depressed myself and probably all those who read this. SORRY.

[Valmai]

Aww Treasia, im sorry ur not feeling the best xxx any transition has its good and bad points and as a few on this forum have already said they have also felt a bit down after the wedding. Why dont u explain to Jerry how u feel with all the travelling and costs, he may actually think that u dont mind it all that much? Whats the likelyhood of u getting a job closer soon?
Marriage is a huge commitment and i feel scared in a way about it, but also excited and i like to think that we will be just as happy, if not more, after we are wed as we are now. In reality tho i suppose nothing will change and all that excitement can then make u feel that maybe something is wrong when in fact nothing has changed (am i making sense or just waffling? lol) Ok i will shut up now lol and just say I hope ur feeling better soon hun and u know where we are if u wanna chat ok
take care
Valmai xxx

[Kacie_bride]

I'm sorry you're not feeling to well. I think after a while when things get into more of a routine you'll feel better. I think you and some of the others are just feeling the after wedding blues. Give it some time. I'm sure everything will be fine.

[AngelinLove]

Just wanted to say that I too am sorry that you are not feeling well. I am sure that things will get better for you. Once you adjust to the "married" lifestyle...meaning no wedding planning or concerns...things will get better. I can understand why the lack of alone time could have a negative effect on your relationship and sel-confidence. You should just talk to Jerry and let him know how you are feeling. Honesty is important. If you guys talk about it, maybe you can set some type of a shedule for some alone time. Like maybe you could set a date...or one hour out of each evening...something like than. Good Luck!!!!

[WhiskeyGirl]

Hi Treasia,

I just wanted to say also that I'm sorry your feeling this way. And I agree one hundred percent with what Angel has said so I won't say it again! :) Some times we just need to take the time for the two of us, ya know, even if it is ten minutes here or there. A quick hug, a longer kiss...some times thats just the thing we need. I can't speak from experience on never getting alone time because of kids, but lately I have been put off a little because Matthew is so busy with school and studying. It can get quite frustrating but the one thing we do have is the 15 minutes before we fall asleep. We don't talk about school or anything other then us. That is OUR 15 minutes for one another and for us to cuddle and be together. Its hard when life gets going so fast and we lose the ones we love to the bussle of life.

Can you talk to your employer and see if they might give you an advance every month so that you could continue (if you choose to!) to work for them. Say $500 or so on the 15th of every month. I worked for a company once that only payed monthly as well, well that would never have worked for me, so I asked the boss if it were possible to get an advance on my pay check, if your boss is any kind of person and wants to keep you working for them, they SHOULDN'T have a problem with that. You can't work if you've got no money for gas to get there! :wink:

Good luck with everything Honey! I hope it all works out for you soon! Take care.

[hummingbird521]

Just an update on the married life. Life continues to move along well with us. We are truly happy. As some of you read today I am a grandmother for the second time. so this makes us even happier. Jerry is getting more and more used to the idea of being a grandpa. he thinks it is kinda funny that he is a grandpa at age 38. i like it. haha. he has already picked out some cute little pink dresses. we plan on going and seeing her next weekend. so you brides be ready for some baby pics on here. can't wait to show her off.

we have adjusted and have gotten into a routine now with life. at least as much of a routine as one can have with 3 kids. i continue to be happy and amazed that our children our getting along so well. it makes us both so happy to hear them laughing together and to see my teenage daughter act like a kid again herself. she never has really acted like a young person. It does my heart good to see this behavior from her.

jerry and i grow closer each day. i lay in bed at night and wonder why god thought me special enough to bless me with such a wonderful man. we talk as much as we ever have. tonight will only be the second time in over two months now that i won't be home sharing the bed next to him. what with the price of gas these days and it costing me so much to drive back and forth to work, i am staying at my parents tonight. boohoo!!! i know to some this might appear to be adolescent behavior by being upset about being apart. but i am going to miss him very much. however he is probably going to enjoy the time alone without me laying next to him snoring in his ear. :D

we continue to work on the house and yard together. i love this big old house. i look forward to many more years of working on it. i have so many ideas and plans on how to make it look. and for the first time in a long time i do feel like i am home. the house is big by the standards of most i have lived in. two story, 4 bedroom, 2 bath. lots and lots of windows. i love this. i hate feeling like i am trapped in a warehouse all dark and gloomy. but this house is light and airy. still more work to do in the yard. i can't wait for his lazy brother to come and get all his tools and odds and ends off the carport. it is one big eyesore at the moment. if he hasn't picked them up in the next couple of weeks the trash men will find some useful things to use. we have waited for a month or longer now on his to get that *hit!!!! we have done a lot of work in the back yard especially. from the brother's and his wifes dogs. we have filled more dog dug holes than i care to see again. now i have confidence that the kids wont' break their necks running around out there. jerry is a hard worker like me and loves being outdoors. next year we are going to try and get us a private patio built onto our bedroom and maybe if money allows put a jacuzzi out there for us as well. maybe a hammock for napping. oh at least we can dream!!!

[brewsells]

I am so glad to hear things are going so well for you Treasia. It sounds like you two have found your groove and from there it's smooth sailing. I am so excited to hear about the grandbaby. How exciting!
I am jealous of you having an old house to fix up. I love those type of things and FH and I have been trying to get into a house for a while. Unfortunatly, we screwed around too much for too long and the credit is shot.
I totally understand how you feel about not been with your husband for the night. FH and I aren't apart much and for that week he is elk hunting, I go insane. I make my mom come and stay the night a couple nights so i have someone to flip my leg on.

[AngelinLove]

I am happy that things seem to be going better and you are feeling better about your marriage and the routine. I agree that it is funny that Jerry is now a grandpa at age 38.