Dads Trying To Ruin My Wedding

[kheath10]

hey yall havent talked lately beacuse ive been so mad so much **** has happpened to me yall won't belive. well fist off dads not giveing me away nothings chaged i have moved on with that. Ok it started last week when i went to dads to collect some money for my daughter fundraiser i did.nt say much but hey and by he asked me was my mom comeing into town i say don't satnd her up like you did last time my mom came last xmas(she just wanted to talk to my dad which my mom is happily married and lives in florida) ok so he flew off the handle curseing and calling me (iches) and my mom a sorry ( ich) and all of that so what the heck? Ok next week he sees my aunt and curses her out like a dog for asking hows the wedding going(my moms sister(I had not told her that dad wasn't giveing me away)she told my mom not tell to tell cause she knew it would hurt!! Ok net day (remeber no one has argued or said nothing to my das not even me feeding into his :censored: so he has no one to argue with(this is hard we all want to curse him out even my man(ok next day he comes to my house to bring my daughter snacks for camp he nocks no even speak to my mom who is here from outta town not my fh who opened the door or me. so my mom went out side to see what the problem was and he curse her out so bad and my daughter heard it all!! my mom walked away i was in the room did'nt know what went on till she told me(my mom is stong she said she walked away(once again not feeding into his bull ok all of this and im just so mad i cant stop crying. I had my graduation this weekend and That was the happiest i had been then mothers day was great and me and my mom and my fh and my daughter had a great time. So i had to take my mom back to the airport. Well no sooner than she gets home i called her this monday and told her disaster # 4 Yall won't belive this he has been talikng so much junk about my fiance and me until its gotten back to my fiance faimly and that don't make no sense. My fiance is so mad I had to calm him down he going off saying keep your dad away from me . I m just a nervous wrek. Ok so were calm and were praying and talikng to my mom and things are settled down #5 my dad comes down to my job and says read this he actually went and got my fiance poilice report and brung it to me.:bbredface: I was mad as :censored: I allready know about my fiance PAST PAST PAST PAST i don't need him being jesues telling me nothing so he s been introuble he has been saved and baptized and have asked his god for forgiveness and that is were it stops. MY DAD IS NOT SAVED OR A SAINT!!! yall help this is about send me to the hospital. Still i haven't said nothing or called or argued with my dad why can't he mind his own buiness. The wedding is still AUGUST 26, 2006 at 3:oo so whatever. PlEASE HELP IM SO SAD

[CindySue]

Ok.....1st off Kim Im so sorry you are having the mess to deal with. I know it would be hard, but I would tell you dad that unless he can start being more civil and stop cursing at everyone and calling them names, then you think it might be best he stay away for a while. Youre NOT writing him off, youre giving him a choice.
#2 Depending on your FHs past, I can understand why he might would be a little upset though. A lot of people dont believe that someone can change that easy especially when that person is marrying their daughter. If this is the reason that hes been acting the way he has, then SOMEONE needs to sit down with him and talk to him. He needs to understand the WHOLE story. You also need to let him know you undersrtand his fears.
Good Luck Girl!!!

[Kacie_bride]

It seems to me that you should separate yourself from you dad for the time being. He is causing you nothing but grief. There is no excuse to use obsene language like you said.

If your FH has a past I can see why it might concern your father and other family members. However, your marriage is YOUR decision and apparently you can get over whatever it is that he did. People can and do change. That is why it is called a past. We can't change it, but we can learn from it. No matter how big or small we all have one.

[hummingbird521]

I am a firm believer in the past is the past. i to have had a past and finally told my family to get over it a few months ago. people can and do change. i am one. when i told them this they finally left my past exactly there, in the past. maybe if you sit your dad down and talk (try rationally) with him about this he will be more understanding. there is no excuse for his cursing at all. i would also bring this up and try to tell him this is your life and he is interfering in it and that you are aware of your FH's past and he has changed. tell him you understand his concerns and that time will show him how things have changed and give him the understanding that if he doesn't change to stay away. hope this helps.

[WebLady]

It seems to me that you should separate yourself from you dad for the time being. He is causing you nothing but grief. There is no excuse to use obsene language like you said.

If your FH has a past I can see why it might concern your father and other family members. However, your marriage is YOUR decision and apparently you can get over whatever it is that he did. People can and do change. That is why it is called a past. We can't change it, but we can learn from it. No matter how big or small we all have one.
Well said!! I totally agree! You can try talking but if you can't talk like adults without all the yelling and name calling then just leave. If your dad (or anyone else for that matter) can't be supportive of you and your decisions (whether he agrees or not) then he just needs a 'time out' You don't necessarily have to disown him, just don't let him have a big part on your life.

Best of luck girl!