Post wedding depression

[BingBot]

Anyone else feel depressed after their wedding and honeymoon was over? My wedding went well (despite some annoyances from a BM) and the honeymoon was a blast. We came home and had two more days off before going back to work. I really did not want to go back to work and get on with normal life. I'm not too happy with my job anyway.

So usually I'm pretty motivated and like to keep things clean around the house. Ever since we came home I don't even care. I just get home and want to eat dinner and watch tv. I don't even want to make my honeymoon scrapbook. We looked at all the wedding pictures and I really loved them, but once we were done, I felt like "That's it?" And oh no, they didn't get a picture of this or that.

Don't get me wrong, I'm very happy to be married but I'm just feeling lazy and depressed now that all the fun is over with. I spent so much time planning the wedding and now it's done. Anyone else have these same feelings?

[WebLady]

I have heard of others feeling this way; it is like you put so much for so long into planning for that one day, then it is done and everything else seems trivial and unexciting.

Hopefully it will pass soon; just focus on your new life as a wife and be happy :grinhappy:

All the best :flower:

[Kirby]

I have felt it a little bit. I am glad that the wedding planning process is over because it was stressful with school and two jobs. I felt like the actual wedding and honeymoon went way too fast though.

I was still really happy until we got back from the honeymoon and had to go back to work and school after our 3 weeks off. Reality hit and all of the sudden everything seemed to suck.

The fact that we are left with debt from our wedding and honeymoon makes it tough too. (About 5k, which isn't a ton but is still debt) The fact that we spent so much money makes me depressed. I mean it was worth it, but it still sucks when you are as poor as we are.

For some reason, I have been really unmotivated to do any after-wedding stuff- thank you cards, getting photos printed, framing our invite, etc. I just can't get into it.

[Nekochanpurr]

I was a bit depressed, but only because i knew i probably wasn't going to have a vacation again for a VERY long time. haha

[mitch]

Yep been there, done that.

DH went back to work on the Monday and i went back on the Tuesday.
On Mondays i normally do all the weekly chores. Washing Windows, Gardening, Wiping down woodwork etc. On that Monday i just sat down and did nothing. I admit to even having a little cry about it all. :bbcry:

Because DH is Self Employed We have no money for the next Two Weeks. The rent is due and i'm down about that. Lucky enough Our Landlord is super understanding and knows He will get His rent.
After a week back at work i did start to perk up a bit. But My Friend at work has noticed i'm a lot quieter than normal. Maybe it's because i just want to get back to earning some money and not muck about as much as i used to. (I'm known as the scatty one at work because i'm generally quick witted)

I kinda feel deflated. Like My Bubble has burst. Not being 100% healthy hasn't helped. It just seems to be work work work and no play since We got Married.

But Hey-Ho. Things are turning back again. DH got a new contract at work. Working for an even bigger company. This one is working on the 2012 Olympics. So work is guarenteed until then. In the New Year He hopes to be an Site Agent and not a Groundworker. Which means double bubble wages and a company car. :D

[BarceloMayaPalaceBride]

Girl, don't be sad! Keep your chin up and think of it this way: Your wedding day was the beginning of the rest of your life with your new husband. Just think about all the wonderful years you have to look forward to! You can start thinking about if/when you want to start a family together and start an WHOLE new chapter in your life. I totally see where you're coming from because I LOVE planning my wedding and I am trying to not count the days down "too quickly" because I know it will come and go so soon. Just remember, you will always have something to plan and look forward to in your life!

[KMS]

The same thing happened to me. In fact, 9 months later and I still don't post in the bride chat section much. I always have to have some type of project going on or else I feel like my life is static and uneventful. The wedding/honeymoon is a HUGE planning event and after that I was left kinda deflated. I'm always working on plans for Valentine's Day, Christmas, a weekend away, etc. Maybe you could do the same (get involved in something non wedding related) and then it will inspire you to pick up your wedding/honeymoon stuff and work on it.

[Tadswife]

OH yes.. I know exactly what your talking about. After our wedding ceremony was over and we were walking back down the isle togeather, I looked at my dh and said "that's it, did it really go that fast?" But I did get the thank you card out before we went on our honeymoon. I didn't want that hanging over our shoulders! I loved keeping up with the house and doing laundry... I truely was looking foward to these thing. But I did take a look at our pictures and started to notice shots that were missed that I really would have like to have! But I think we all go through that. Just take your time, enjoy the couch and tv for a while. The house work will always be there. Just take this time to enjoy the hubby for a while....and enjoy the newlywed bliss..:D

[lize566]

I felt like that, too. In fact, I still have days like that and it's been over a year. The other day we were looking at magazines and I saw a wedding one and those feelings were REALLY strong. I'm so happy for everybody that is getting married, but sometimes I want to get married again so badly! I think it's normal, because I mean you look so forward to it for so long, then it's over and your like now what, kind of like what Keely was saying. You just have to find something else to plan and look forward to.

[amisteratwisterandme]

I noticed that alot of new brides move straight on to babies. Wonder if there is some kind of connection, planning a wedding and planning a new baby?

[caligal85]

I noticed that alot of new brides move straight on to babies. Wonder if there is some kind of connection, planning a wedding and planning a new baby?

I've noticed the same thing. I've also noted a correlation between the amount of time the couple has been together and planning for a baby.

[mitch]

I noticed that alot of new brides move straight on to babies. Wonder if there is some kind of connection, planning a wedding and planning a new baby?

I'm definately back to front then.

I was Sterlized on July 11th (My old Wedding Anniversary).
And got Married on October 11th.

So no Babies from Me.

I have Four Step Daughters and a Grandson.

And not one stretch mark :rofl:

[amisteratwisterandme]

I'm definately back to front then.

I was Sterlized on July 11th (My old Wedding Anniversary).
And got Married on October 11th.

So no Babies from Me.

I have Four Step Daughters and a Grandson.

And not one stretch mark :rofl:

I don't think we will be having babies, and I all ready have two very spoiled puppies, so I guess I need to plan something else to keep myself busy huh?