Which father?

[Meg&Tor1014]

:? Girls I am new to the web site but I have a huge question I need help with...I have 2 dads, a real dad and a step dad. I love them both dearly. but I am getting married in October 14, 2006 and I don't know which one I want to give me away? I want my step dad because, for one he is behind me and my FI not to mention he mostly raised me. My real dad walked out when I was 3 1/2 and I didn't see him till I was in 4th gread. I want my step dad to give me away but what should I tell my birth father who has a dream to give me away. Should I have them both give me away or should I go with my step dad? HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[WhiskeyGirl]

This is a tough question to answer and I think the answer you are looking for is in your heart! I don't think I could possibly tell you who should walk you down the aisle, I think you need to follow your heart. The only way I can see this situation being resolved is by talking to your mom, what does she think about all of this? However, if it were me and I loved both dad's as much as you say you do, I would sit down and talk with both of them about this matter. First, one at a time, then with both of them at the same time. I am not in your situation, but I know that it will work and you will have a wonderful wedding day. Good Luck with your decision and follow your heart!

~CanadianBride~

[totalia]

Wow. Hard position to be in.

I'm in your same position.

I'd love to have my stepdad walk me down the aisle. I feel more his daughter than I ever was to my dad.

I solved the problem by walking down all by myself. That way no one is insulted or hurt by not being chosen.

[robindepaula]

I've photographed a wedding where one father walked the bride 1/2 way down the isle & the other father walked her the rest of the way.

Robin

[Am3na]

I have been to a wedding were both fathers walked the bride down the aisle.
But it really depends on your situation and feelings about your birth father.

In my case, I did not invite my birth father nor any of that side of my family. My parents got divorced about 20 years ago and since then he was nothing like a dad to me. In fact my grandma on that side was the only one that kept in contact with me all those years. So, my step dad walked me down the aisle. He has been a part of my family since I was about 6.

The only reason I did not invite my grandma to my wedding is because she would have surely ended up bringing my father, which would have felt really strange for my parents and me! (My mom has not see him since their divorce.)

[º°Ữţâ&]

Hi, Yes that is a very tough decision. I am getting married June of 2005 and I am having my brother walk me down the isle. Just because my Real father hasn't been in my life and My step father doesn't want to walk me down. So I asked my brother and he was more then delighted to be giving his little sister away.
But really to answer your question follow your heart you'll know which one or both you choose.

[ndsimm]

That is a hrad decision but based on what you said in your post, you seem to be leaning toward your stepdad. I also have photographed weddings where the bride walked alone, was escorted by both, had the father walk her in and then the stepdad took over half way. again, it is up to you but I think that if both men care for you, they will do what's best for you without pressuring you.

[rainbowtreat]

At my first wedding I was gonna have both dads walk me down the aisle. But seeing the aisle was not big enoug my real dad walked me half way then my ex-step dad ( who was still kinda a dad to me ) walked me the rest of theway. But my real dad followed behind and they both said they were the ones giving me away. But I am realy close to my mo so I am thinking about having her give me away this time. Not sure yet. It is a hard chose to make. Good luck in whatever you choose. But remember it is YOUR wedding so do what you want. NOt what is going to make every one else happy.

[usahgrad]

I agree...you could have both of them walk you down the aisle or go half and half. I know I had the problem that my brother thought he was giving me away but I chose my mother instead. If you don't choose one of them, I'm sure they'll understand.