PDA

View Full Version : Is he for real?


rainbowtreat
05-13-2006, 01:04 PM
OK let me explain a little so you understand who I am talking about.

My sister and I have different dads. I thoguht her dad was mine for a long time as a child. Well when him and my mom got divorced he still treated me as his daughter. Now that I live in NH he only treats me as his daughter when I am home for a visit. He dotes on his "real" daughter, my sister but I understand she is his. I had mentioned to my photographer that I have my real dad and my ex step dad and my moms husband now that I want a picture with the 3 of them.

Also this man ahs a son who will be 16 in Aug. This boy is no real relations to me but becasue of the situation we consider each other brother and sister. Well he is in the wedidng. Him and my brother from my mom. ( confusing I know lol )

Well I got an e-mail from Roman ( my es step dads son ) today and said that his sister and her boyfriend will be there and he and his dad will be only if he doesnt have a game that day.

EXCUSE ME????????? This is my wedding day. I know this is my second marriage but that shouldnt matter. If this was my sister he wouldnt have any problem missing his sons game. ONE **** GAME COME ON!!!!

I have not talked to him yet but I talked to my mom and I told her that if he is not there I will NOT forgive him for this. There will be other games and it isn't like Roman is in the majpr leagues or something. They can survive one **** game without him. I also e-mailed my sister. She will talk to him. She usualy takes his side on things but I guess lately she has been questioning what his problem is. So I should be hearing back from her soon.

I am hurt and mad. It seems people just keep dropping out of my wedding.

I understand if my GF cant be there because of the problems she is having that have put her on bed rest. And the other friend just has nothign to do with me any more. Thats fine I can deal with that, no biggy. But this is my family ( or is supposed to be ). If he is not there he can forget about ever having anything to do with me again. And I mean it. I will have to deal with him for things that my sister does that I am at but I wont be one of "his girls".

OK I am done rambling on and on. I shouldnt be so hurt becuase it is not like he has treated me lile a daughter in a while. He gave me away with my real dad at my first wedding. He should be there regardless. Even if I get married ten times he should be there.

WebLady
05-13-2006, 04:49 PM
... He gave me away with my real dad at my first wedding. He should be there regardless. Even if I get married ten times he should be there.
I am sorry you are going through this Gwen! I agree with you, if this man is a part of your life he should want to be there.

But as hard as it is, if he doesn't think your day is important then don't let it bother you. If he doesn't show then it is his lose. Move on and be happy in your own life and put more energy into the people that love and care for you and are there for you for one of the most important days of your life.

I had a similar issue with my mother (my blood) when DH and I got married. She was all like "I'll be there if I can" and "I don't know why this is so important to you, you've been married before ... plus you guys have been together for 6 yrs already" :realmad: there was more but I am gonna stop How dare she! I told her never mind, I didn't want her to be there if it wasn't important to her. Then my sister and my dad made her apologize, so I forgave her for the sake of my sanity and to keep the family peace. But I will never forget the things she said that day ... we have good days and bad days now. I move on and I have peace in the new life I have with my DH.

Sorry I didn't mean to make this about me. Best wishes to you :hug: