AWOL Bridesmaid

[cowboysbride]

Okay, here we go again...one of my bm's lives in South Carolina, the wedding is in Kentucky...when I called her to ask her she was all about doing it...her husband was fine with it and she just gushed and gushed and said she'd order her dress that weekend.

Now, I have confirmed all orders of bm dresses with everyone but her...I haven't talked to her in 3 weeks...she won't return my calls (home and cell) and her dad says she's fine, just keep trying...I am at the point where I have to print things up that will or won't have her name on it, make reservations for my bridal party's room accomodations and give the caterer a head count for the rehearsal dinner...

I do not know what to do...do I leave her out, find a replacement and send my MOH (my sister) on a mad internet dash to find a company with the same BM dress IN STOCK (yeah right)....AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH or just sit tight and hope she surfaces if not I'm going to have 5 bm's and 6 gm....the OCD side of me can't handle the un-uniformity of it.........Please help me...

[countrygirl]

Hey fellow country girl!!! I am having a somewhat similar problem. Good luck on that one!!!

[LaceyinPgh]

You just need to calla nd give her an ultimatuim, either she returns your call and gets things straightened out or if she doesn't you will assume that means that she isn't in the wedding. I had a bridesmaid quit on me in March. (It's a long story) I was lucky in the fact that another friend stepped in and took her place. Do you have anyone that you can ask to be a back up? That might be your only option.

[Kacie_bride]

I agree with Lacey. An ultimatduim is the best option. If she will not bother to call you back, then what makes you think she would even show up or order her dress? It's better to be safe than sorry. Even if you can't find a back up, who says you have to have an equal amount of groomesmen/bridesmaids?

[cowboysbride]

I agree with Lacey. An ultimatduim is the best option. If she will not bother to call you back, then what makes you think she would even show up or order her dress? It's better to be safe than sorry. Even if you can't find a back up, who says you have to have an equal amount of groomesmen/bridesmaids?

I emailed her today, with an ultimatum, and guess what? She emailed me back within 20 minutes! Ok, BULLSH*T do I believe her "excuse" and I won't get into it...but the long and short of it is she says she lost her cell phone and her home phone has been on the blink...hmmm email seems to be working just fine and I covered everyone of those bases...

anyway...my niece has stepped up to the plate, a dress has been placed on rush order and we are waiting confirmation and rush ship date...cross your fingers...I have put so much into this wedding I just want an equal number on each side and since I have already ordered 6 bridesmaids for the cake, 6 sets of jewelery, 6 charms to pull out of the cake and 6 tshirts for the rehearsal and dinner, 6 it will be :bbmrgreen: !

Thanks guys!