countrygirl
05-12-2006, 03:16 PM
I think I am going to have to “fire” my MOH.
We have been friends for about 16 years, which she has been known to brag about. When I asked her to be my MOH, she wanted to make all the decisions, and do everything. She started getting upset when I would tell her I wanted to do something a diff way that she suggested, or changed my mind on anything. She even got offended when I couldn’t find something for her mom to be in charge of.
Well, she met a guy about a month and a half ago, and suddenly, didn’t have any more free time. She really wanted to get together w us so we could get to know him. But she didn’t have time for any of it. They decided about 2 weeks ago to get married, it’s like mine doesn’t exist. And apparently neither do we. I cant talk to her about my wedding because it goes right to how much she has to do (FEB is her date) and how broke she is going to be. K, I am supposed to pay for three dresses, and three tuxes for her wedding. She doesn't have the time to talk about my wedding, and is starting to compete w me when I talk do say anything about mine.
I talked to her about the way she was making me feel, and she turned it on me, that she would have expected me of all people to understand how happy she is, and how everything changes when you start seeing someone new. She cried and said that she is trying to make everyone happy, and can't do it, and that she just can't spend all of her time w one person (which tends to be Chris).
Then we had a birthday party planned for Josh last weekend, and she was going to be there. Then, she told me that she wouldn’t be able to make it because there is a party for a friend of her boyfriends that she is invited to. She actually turned around and invited us to that party. I was like “Um, we are having our party for Josh that day, aren’t you coming?” She said she wasn’t sure what time it was at, so prob not. She did end up coming but reminded me the entire time that she needed to leave early for the other one. She spent most of the time at my house talking about HER wedding. That day was about Josh.
When we needed to get together for the BM dresses, I asked her to bring my WD w her, and she actually told me she forgot she even had it. It’s in the middle of her closet!!!!! She couldn’t ever make it, because she had something to do w Chris, or didn’t know if she could make it there by closing time, which was about 2 hours after she got off work, and it’s only about a 45 minute drive w traffic. When she did finally go, I tried to call her that night, since I couldn’t go the same time (kid’s game—got attitude for that one) she didn’t answer her phone, and said she had it on vibrate and never felt it. That girl is always on the phone, and ALWAYS knows when someone calls her.
I finally heard from her the next day and she complained about the price. She said the dress was $250 w alter. I told her the dress was about $150 on three prior occasions, but, told her again, and then told her that there shouldn’t been too many alter. needed since they took her measurements. Unless she gains 50 lbs in the next 5 months, there should be a big change. Also, we can take them anywhere for the alter’s. She said she didn’t know if she could afford the dress, but then told me about the new dress she bought for a wedding in Vegas (left yesterday for five days)that her boyfriend finally decided to inviter her to.
I have been trying to get ahold of her for over a day now to let her know that we are buying the dresses next weekend to get them done in time. But her mom says she is just so busy in Vegas, and prob won't be able to afford the dress. But she can afford 5 days in Vegas??
I don’t want to sound rude, or selfish, but being MOH means that you are going to have to spend some money, which was fine BEFORE she met her man. Now, she can’t afford anything because she is having a bigger wedding “can’t just cut guests” like ME. Whatever!!!! I guess that means she won’t have a party in the back party, or anything else either?? And it’s not about the money w me, it’s the principal of the matter.
We have been friends for about 16 years, which she has been known to brag about. When I asked her to be my MOH, she wanted to make all the decisions, and do everything. She started getting upset when I would tell her I wanted to do something a diff way that she suggested, or changed my mind on anything. She even got offended when I couldn’t find something for her mom to be in charge of.
Well, she met a guy about a month and a half ago, and suddenly, didn’t have any more free time. She really wanted to get together w us so we could get to know him. But she didn’t have time for any of it. They decided about 2 weeks ago to get married, it’s like mine doesn’t exist. And apparently neither do we. I cant talk to her about my wedding because it goes right to how much she has to do (FEB is her date) and how broke she is going to be. K, I am supposed to pay for three dresses, and three tuxes for her wedding. She doesn't have the time to talk about my wedding, and is starting to compete w me when I talk do say anything about mine.
I talked to her about the way she was making me feel, and she turned it on me, that she would have expected me of all people to understand how happy she is, and how everything changes when you start seeing someone new. She cried and said that she is trying to make everyone happy, and can't do it, and that she just can't spend all of her time w one person (which tends to be Chris).
Then we had a birthday party planned for Josh last weekend, and she was going to be there. Then, she told me that she wouldn’t be able to make it because there is a party for a friend of her boyfriends that she is invited to. She actually turned around and invited us to that party. I was like “Um, we are having our party for Josh that day, aren’t you coming?” She said she wasn’t sure what time it was at, so prob not. She did end up coming but reminded me the entire time that she needed to leave early for the other one. She spent most of the time at my house talking about HER wedding. That day was about Josh.
When we needed to get together for the BM dresses, I asked her to bring my WD w her, and she actually told me she forgot she even had it. It’s in the middle of her closet!!!!! She couldn’t ever make it, because she had something to do w Chris, or didn’t know if she could make it there by closing time, which was about 2 hours after she got off work, and it’s only about a 45 minute drive w traffic. When she did finally go, I tried to call her that night, since I couldn’t go the same time (kid’s game—got attitude for that one) she didn’t answer her phone, and said she had it on vibrate and never felt it. That girl is always on the phone, and ALWAYS knows when someone calls her.
I finally heard from her the next day and she complained about the price. She said the dress was $250 w alter. I told her the dress was about $150 on three prior occasions, but, told her again, and then told her that there shouldn’t been too many alter. needed since they took her measurements. Unless she gains 50 lbs in the next 5 months, there should be a big change. Also, we can take them anywhere for the alter’s. She said she didn’t know if she could afford the dress, but then told me about the new dress she bought for a wedding in Vegas (left yesterday for five days)that her boyfriend finally decided to inviter her to.
I have been trying to get ahold of her for over a day now to let her know that we are buying the dresses next weekend to get them done in time. But her mom says she is just so busy in Vegas, and prob won't be able to afford the dress. But she can afford 5 days in Vegas??
I don’t want to sound rude, or selfish, but being MOH means that you are going to have to spend some money, which was fine BEFORE she met her man. Now, she can’t afford anything because she is having a bigger wedding “can’t just cut guests” like ME. Whatever!!!! I guess that means she won’t have a party in the back party, or anything else either?? And it’s not about the money w me, it’s the principal of the matter.