working after marriage??

[Brizzit]

anyone here NOT working after they're married? my FH makes enough that i don't have to work if i don't want to. I'm trying to get some pro's and con's to working vs being at home.

[WebLady]

I have always worked, even after we got married. But then I quit my "regular" job and started a business of my own from home. I have since quit that and done a few other things since, but I still work from home.

I don't think I could ever not work at all, but I like working at home and hope I never have to go back to a regular job.

[SerendipityCrafts]

I am not sure I could handle 24/7 without working.

I would always run my own biz because I love doing that but, if money wasn't an issue, I would volunteer someplace so that I could get out and interact with the world. Or ........ I would go back to school - just for the sake of learning. :)

[caligal85]

That would be so wonderful but sooooooooo not an option. Plus, I really do love going to work. When I have children, I might take some time off, but I think I'll always be one of those working girls. :)

[neebelung]

Oh my gosh of COURSE I'm working.

Even if your husband makes enough for you both to live on, why on earth would you WANT to stop working? Unless you're planning on havig children right away, why not work? Even if you don't NEED to work, why not sock away that extra income to set up for when you have children, for their education, or for your own retirement (I know it's a long ways off, but it's never too early to prepare for it!)

Aside from that, to me, it's more personally rewarding to know I'm not sitting on my butt while my husband is working; I LIKE working... thankfully we've come a LONG way from the days of the man going off to work everyday, and the wife staying home and watching soaps (or whatever it is they did :rofl: ).

If you really don't want to work, then consider doing something else personally rewarding: continue your education, do volunteer work, do SOMETHING. Keep learning new things! My fear would be if you've BEEN working, and then just stopped, you'd miss the challenge, you'd miss the human interaction, so if you're going to stop working, at least try to fill some of that time with something to keep your brain challenged.

[Danielle9608]

I really like my job for the most part. I also spent a great deal of time in college preparing for my chosen profession. So I think if I had the option (which it really is not) I would still work. I like getting out of the house and talking with other people.

[SerendipityCrafts]

thankfully we've come a LONG way from the days of the man going off to work everyday, and the wife staying home and watching soaps (or whatever it is they did :rofl: ).

LOL I know that my Mom never watched the soaps. In fact, growing up, I don't ever remember her sitting still (crud, now I know where I get it from :rofl:)

She worked until she had kids but she said raising us 5 kids, taking care of the finances, the house and her family was the hardest job she ever had. After having only two kids, I believe her! :)

I don't know how she found the time to volunteer as well.

[sweetvenus]

I'll still be working. I currently make more than FH, but even if I didn't and I would be able to stay home, I wouldn't. I would get way too bored. Plus it's always nice to have the extra money come in, which even if you don't need, you can save to someday get a new house or new car or for an emergency. Also, if God forbid, something happened to FH, I wouldn't want to have a large gap in my employment history. I would rather make sure that I could always support myself and be getting experience in my field. I'm in computers, so if I were to stop working and then have to start again in 20 years, everything would be completely different, and there's no way I'd be able to make as much as I do now.

[neebelung]

LOL I know that my Mom never watched the soaps. In fact, growing up, I don't ever remember her sitting still (crud, now I know where I get it from :rofl:)

She worked until she had kids but she said raising us 5 kids, taking care of the finances, the house and her family was the hardest job she ever had. After having only two kids, I believe her! :)

I don't know how she found the time to volunteer as well.
:rofl: Oh I meant prior to children... God knows women home with children are certainly WORKING. I know I'll have a hard time keeping up with just one or two, but FIVE? Kudos to your Mom!!! She's a strong woman!!

[SerendipityCrafts]

:rofl: Oh I meant prior to children... God knows women home with children are certainly WORKING. I know I'll have a hard time keeping up with just one or two, but FIVE? Kudos to your Mom!!! She's a strong woman!!

LOL Didn't they also eat bon bons and make themselves purty for when their husband comes home?

Yeah five ........ Mom should have been a drill sergeant. She was always 10 steps ahead of us.

[EarlyBird]

I chose not to work last year for a while.. BAD IDEA!!!!!!!! i really was sooo bored, even doing things for the house and/or the wedding.

[BelhurstBride]

I like working as well. Since I didn't get a full time teaching position for the fall, I'm forced to substitute teach for the year. Technically I dont have to substitute teach, but if I didn't, it would really hurt my chances for a job. And let me tell you... I HATE substitute teaching. I hate that it's so random and unpredictable and I hate going into the classroom not knowing what the plans are until I get there. It drives me nuts.

Anyway, since it's still the beginning of the school year, there isn't much need for substitutes right now. It's sooo stressful, because we need the money, yet I can't control it. I can't get another job because I have no idea when subbing is going to pick up, and I never know until the morning of if I'm actually going in or not. I usually end up sitting home while FH is working 14 hour days. My family lives 2 hours away, and all of my friends from grad school moved away. It is sooo hard to be by myself at home all of the time. I want to work so badly, but I just have to wait it out. Some days I go crazy, but I'm trying to keep myself busy with lots of wedding stuff.

I plan on taking a little bit of time off when I have kids, but I'll definitely get right back into working when I can!

[flyerso6]

thats not an option for me. I make alot more than DH (not that it matters). I love my job I went to school for 4 years to get where I am, being married isn't going to change that. I couldn't imagine not working I would be bored out of my mind. Now when we have kids I would Love to take at least a year or two off but once again not an option. If anything DH would quit working and be a stay at home dad, you know depending on day care costs, gas cost etc it may be cheaper for him to quit his job than pay for day care.

But I dont see why you would want to quit working just because you got married, this isnt 1920. What would you do all day? I can see stop working when kids are in the picture.

[Jacobs_Girl]

I dont like my job, its something I could live without but I get paid pretty well hence the reason I am still here and have been for 7 years.

If my husband made enough for me to stay home I would but I would get bored so fast, but it would give me a good opportunity to open my own business or do something creative.

Take this opportunity to go back to school or something productive for you alls future.

Good Luck

[MrsDM]

Yup definitely working here. Although, I really am sick of my job and would love to find a job to work from home.

When we have kids, I'll probably stop working or work very part-time. There are too many things we want right now to stop!

[Brizzit]

I have a really great job and I like it, but I would LOVE to not have to work and just devote my time to serving other people.(if you all are wondering, I'm a executive of a small company) I could honestly sit at a children's hospital and read to kids all day and not complain. My FH and I both agree that when we have kids (which is going to be right away) that I'm going to quit my job and stay home. we have no debt, our cars are all paid off. we own our home. there's no reason for me to work.

[MrsDM]

I have a really great job and I like it, but I would LOVE to not have to work and just devote my time to serving other people.(if you all are wondering, I'm a executive of a small company) I could honestly sit at a children's hospital and read to kids all day and not complain. My FH and I both agree that when we have kids (which is going to be right away) that I'm going to quit my job and stay home. we have no debt, our cars are all paid off. we own our home. there's no reason for me to work.

Then yes, I would say go for it. You guys are very fortunate you are in that position! We only have our mortgage and my car, and that is enough to keep me working!!

[Tadswife]

and then there was me.....the worry wart! I hate my job more then words can describe, but currently in school to move on to a better career! But I worry about how we are going to be when were older, is money going to be ok, since were not having children, are we going to be able to pay for our nursing home ($4000 dollars or more a month to live in those places) what about doctor bills as we get older, property taxes on our house which are pretty expensive. keeping food on the table, i worry about all of it. So we both work. My dh makes more then enough for me to stay home, but has told me if I want nice things I have to work. I work very little now because of school. And dh plans to go part time when i'm done with school. ( he'll still make enough for us to live on) But we put every single cent we have extra into savings or cd's. Our house will be paid off in a little over 13 years, his car is paid off... mine is not, but payments are not high. Other wise were not a single penny in debt, rarelly ever use our credit cards. we pay for everything in cash. I would say were excellent right now, but I think of the long hall, I want to be ok when I retire and sit at home eating bon bons and watching my soaps not haveing to live pension to pension every month. So yes I work and will till I am no longer able to..:D

[Nekochanpurr]

Dude!! I would totally stop working if i had the chance! I know i wouldn't get bored.. My family would find things for me to do! LOL! And i actually wouldn't mind doing them, because i wouldn't have to deal with cr@ppy work environments anymore!

Alas.. That probably won't ever be an option. YAY being poor! lol

[Brizzit]

Dude!! I would totally stop working if i had the chance! I know i wouldn't get bored.. My family would find things for me to do! LOL! And i actually wouldn't mind doing them, because i wouldn't have to deal with cr@ppy work environments anymore!

Alas.. That probably won't ever be an option. YAY being poor! lol
lol my family would LOVE to have another person to bother during the day (almost all the married women in my family are stay at home moms [its a utah thing]) they all do things like scrap booking, their kids have play dates, they quilt, go out to lunch once a week, take yoga classes, etc. I would LOVE to be able to do all those things with my family. once we have kids, i refuse to put them in day care knowing that i can afford to stay home and be with them all the time.

[SerendipityCrafts]

once we have kids, i refuse to put them in day care knowing that i can afford to stay home and be with them all the time.

I did it too (not that we could afford it LOL). We cut corners so that I could stay home with the kids. After my son was born, I took some free classes in tole painting. Someone saw what I had made, asked me to make them something and that was the start of my biz. I took care of the kids by day and painted at night. My ex worked during the day and cut my wood pieces at night. We didn't have money for fancy cars (or even those that worked sometimes LOL) vacations or private schools for the kids but, they didn't go without either.

[Jacklynn]

I can't imagine not having to work :) Though I would probably get bored home all day alone with just the dog. I would end up gaining 50lbs and lazy. lol So I gotta keep working, not just for money reasons :)

[bichonlvr]

Have you already graduated from College?

I guess if you are going to have kids right away, but honestly, who doesn't work when they don't have kids?!?!?!

Have you seriously given thought to what you are going to do?

Have you traveled the world? Country?

I guess I want to work so I NEVER have to feel like I have to rely on another person, I am who I am!

[ger]

I didn't work when I was married the first time. But, we lived on a farm and my husband worked in town, so I helped my inlaws and my parents with the farming. (I guess I should say, I wasn't working for a paycheck, huh?)

I didn't actually go out into the working world (the kind where you bring home money) until Jeremy was about 4. I enjoyed being home with them...but by then we needed the extra income.

I would do anything to retire right now. I do love my job (s)...but I would love to stay at home and help with the farming stuff again. I also have so many "projects" to do that I don't think I would be bored for a good long time. Unfortunately, I'm the bread winner in the family. Sssssooooo, as long as there's bills to pay, I will be bringing home a paycheck!!

[ally20o7]

I intend to keep working until either I have my own business set up or have children. If I don't manage to start the business I'll probably stay home full time until they start elementary school and then go back to work part time.

However if FH manages to come into a job where he makes $50 an hour or $300,000 a year, I can't say I'll keep working for sure. I could definitely come up with stuff to keep myself occupied.

[Nekochanpurr]

lol my family would LOVE to have another person to bother during the day (almost all the married women in my family are stay at home moms [its a utah thing]) they all do things like scrap booking, their kids have play dates, they quilt, go out to lunch once a week, take yoga classes, etc. I would LOVE to be able to do all those things with my family. once we have kids, i refuse to put them in day care knowing that i can afford to stay home and be with them all the time.


HEH! By helping with my family, i mean more like helping babysit my cousins (mostly with grandma, so she can see them), help my grandma, aunt, and uncle go shopping and getting stuff for them... Stuff like that. I really wish i could take care of them all like they deserve! Like they took care of me when i was little. :(

[lalaland13]

OK, I don't mean to be a spoilsport, because that sounds like a good deal. But just make sure that you have options in case something happens to FH, or even if you split. I know neither seems likely, and they aren't. But give yourself some wiggle room. You may love staying home with the kids and not regret it for a minute. But you may long for non-baby interaction some days. There's nothing wrong with being a mom; it's the hardest and I imagine the best job in the world as well. But it's OK to want a break from kids. And it's OK if you eventually decide to put them in daycare. You don't have to be Supermom. You don't have to do it because everyone else does in Utah, or for any other reason.

I believe that you want to do it, but maybe you could look into part-time? Or just keep your connections open so if you do want to go back, you can? Just try to make it so that if you do want to go back to work, you can relatively easily. That's all. Maybe volunteer some and then work just part-time? Even 10 or 15 hours a week.

Of course, I'm like the other ladies here-I'd go crazy at home all day, with or without a kid. So sorry if I'm projecting too much. And I'd also want to make some of my own money, probably because my parents divorced and my mom barely made it on a teacher's salary and eventually had to file for bankruptcy. And she was a working woman, but it's still hard if you suddenly are on your own, for whatever reason.

[val24]

i am sure we could make it on one income but like another poster said there are many things we both want right now. I will probalby work part-time to get out of the house. I like my job and would continue to do what i do. I guess if we needed me to stay home we would make it work some how.

[acidcookie]

I can't imagine not working. I get antsy when I don't get to campus for a day. And frankly, I have not gone through 8 years of education after high school to stay home. Sure, when I have kids I will need time at home. But then I know I'll be dying for some structure outside of the house.

[vicky_vicky]

I would stay at home if it was an option. I know there is no way for me to stop working because we already have a morgage of 120.000 euros for our house and I have a steady income.

But I am so thankful that I am a teacher. I only hae to work 5 hours daily (with some big intervals occasionaly during the day), 2 months off in the summer, 15 days on Christmas, 15 days on Easter, I have weekends off and when I have a baby I will be on a maternity leave for 2 years. So no real reason for me to stop. I guess I will still be able to do my cooking, cleaning, gardening and yoga classes even when I am working.

[mitch]

One of the girls at work asked if i was leaving after i got Married. There's no way i could stay at home all day. I go stir-crazy being on holiday. And when i was off sick for a Month after surgery in July i was climbing the walls. :bbeek:

But when i do get a day off i tend to work on the house and garden until DH has to almost sit on Me to stop Me from overdoing things.

DH earns enough to keep both of us. My wage doesn't even cover the rent. But it does pay the utilities every week so that's something less for Him to worry about.

I take My hat off to DH's Ex-Wife for bringing up Four Daughters after He left. But i can't have Children so there's no worry about stretching a budget in the future for us.

So i will continue to work until retirement at 65. (It used to be 60 in the UK for Women but they changed the rules)

[WBandMe]

FH and I could afford for me to not work so the plan now is to live off his income and save every dime I make for a few years. I'm graduating school in December and I wouldn't be able to just not do anything now that I've made myself miserable here for four years. When we have kids though, I'm going to stop working. I know you do what you gotta do, but my parents divorced when I was a baby and mom worked second shift -- we'd come home from school and be at a babysitter's until nearly midnight, get dragged out of bed there and have to go back to bed at home. When I was 11 Mom started letting us stay home after school (my brother was fourteen) but we did that for maybe a month before she could finally switch to 1st shift. Fortunately, she only had to work part-time... but it was still enough to make me realize that I don't ever want my kids to have to come home to an empty house if FH and I can help it. I'm not trying to judge anyone here or be snobby by the way... I don't blame my mom for doing what she had to and if William and I each had to work 2 jobs to support our kids, that's what we'd do. But, unless something horrible happens to William or to his job in the next few years, we won't have to. Anyway, sorry for the novel: in a nutshell, I plan to work until kids. Fin :)

[BarceloMayaPalaceBride]

We are going to start "trying" for kiddos pretty soon after we're married, and we've agreed from the beginning that I would stay home and take care of them. (Which I'm completely happy with) I'm ready to be a mommy!!! hehe I also enjoy working, and will probably work in the home in the future as well.:)

[*Lisa*]

I'll definitely be working after we're married. FH is finishing up school for Graphic Design and the pay will be pretty good after a few years in the city. We'll both work to save up a lot of cash for probably the first 5 years or so and then provided his income is where it should be, I'd love to start my own photography business.

At this point our decision is no children, so I couldn't just stay at home and not doing anything.

[Whitewater]

I will still work after I get married. Absolutely! If not in theatre (still taking a major leave of absence from that world), then writing. Or both, perhaps.

I'm lucky because my work doesn't mean that I have to leave the house. I telecommute!

I can still cook, take care of the 2 dogs and cat, and keep the house looking decent (not spick-and-span, but clean enough for friends to drop by unannounced!).

Fiance makes enough to pay the major bills that we share, like the mortgage and the cable/internet and trash and so on. I have a monthly stipend but that's just barely enough to pay my own bills . . . so what I make from my very part-time job (with luck, within the next 4 months it will equal my stipend, which in total will then put me *just* over the poverty line!) pays for my prescription co-pays, my share of the groceries, my gas, my book addiction and my 'other' stuff. Presents, holiday decor, etc.

Oh -- and my job allows us to save for the wedding. After the wedding, it will allow me to add to the savings for the 'Holy Crud, A House Emergency!" Fund. I figure, I'll just keep on saving the same amount every month that I am now :)

I'm the only one saving in our household now, aside from Fiance's 401K. So after the wedding the bulk of my paycheck will go to our savings -- my personal savings (because sleeping in my car with 2 boxes of my belongings after my first divorce doesn't make me inclined to live without money of my own ever again), our joint savings (you can ALWAYS add to the retirement fund!) and our house emergency fund savings account.

He pays the bulk of the bills and I save for the future. Seems like a fair trade to me!

Luckily I love my writing job and they don't care when I write, so long as I make the deadline :) So I often write at 3am, because I'm nocturnal. Being able to set my own schedule is probably the best 'benefit' of my job.

When I wasn't working and looking for a job that would suit my very limited parameters because of my disability, I always kept busy but I was emotionally pretty beat-up because I wasn't working. I felt like I wasn't contributing anything, that I was always taking without giving anything back, that I was a drain on Fiance's resources, and that I was a 'kept woman', living off of Fiance's money.

I wanted to be able to contribute financially to our partnership, I wanted to be the one to buy groceries every once in a while, have a little extra to buy a book here and there without asking him, and pay for my own medicine.

Financial and economical independence is very important to me because of my past, and I need to work for my own sense of well-being.

So yeah, I'll be working after we get married. We just don't make enough money for me not to -- but even if we did, I would still work. You can never have too much money. Save it for retirement, pay off the house early (or put it towards a downpayment on your first house!), donate to charity or pay down a credit card; you can always find something to do with the money you make.


Whitewater

[ChibiAiChan]

i really wish we could afford it... all i have ever wanted to do was be a stay at home mom.

[LovingLife]

In my dreams I am a stay at home mom.


Reality....never going to happen. :bbcry: But, what can you do?
Dh goes to school full time and works about 12 hours a week.
I work 40 hours a week and go to school part time.
But we are doing this so we can provide a better life for our son, and ourselves.
I wont mind working...once I am doing something I love :D

[Scrwballsgrl]

I would love! to be a stay at home mom! I dont have any children now and neither does Fh but we hope to have some maybe a year or two after we're married and I would love to be able to stay home with them full time!
My mom worked as well as stayed home with us while we were growing up adn it is nice to know that someone is home for you if you need them.
I don't know if we'll be able to afford for me not to work as well, I jst got a promotion at work so I'll be making a little extra money and have a little more responsibility; I like my job (don't lOVE it) and I do think after a few days of joblessness I'd start going stir crazy. Plus I've found that when I'm off work with nothing to really "do" I tend to spend money....okay I'll admit I'm a compulsive shopper!:)

Hopefully one day I can not work or at least in 22 more years when I retire:)

[Katie-ryn]

I plan to keep working after getting married, and after having children. I will stay home with my babies for the alloted weeks that my job is secure, and after that go back to work. I'll get about 52 weeks of my job being secured, so I'll take those off.

We are not traditional. I'm not going to rely on FH to make all the money. Why should I get to stay home while he works his butt off to support us and our children, when we are both capable of working. If we both worked then neither of us would be overworked, whereas if only one did then the other would be constantly stressed, and expected to take overtime. No thanks. That's not what i want my future to look like.

Good thing is I'm a trained Graphic Designer, so if I was working for an agency and I wanted to a lot of my work could be done from home.

[tootsie]

I've worked since I was 16 years old. I really like working because I learn a lot, not only from my job, but from others. I think I'd get depressed and spend too much money if I didn't have a job. Hubby will be making six figures in about two years, while I'll be making half of that, but once I become a CPA, I'll probably be making more than him, who knows! He said he wants to be a house husband; I said "Nope!" Right now I'm supporting both of us. I can't wait for him to support me! Having a job makes me feel more independent and I know that I can support myself.

If we have kids, I'd like to stay home with them when they're babies, then go back to work.

[MrsKittyManes]

I would love to stay at home with my son but it's just not an option. If I didn't have my son however I'd want to work.

[sandy03]

I'm in a similar situation but we've decided that I need to work for a few years before we start a family. From the practical standpoint, we're going to "practice" living on one income just to evaluate how it will change when he's ACTUALLY supporting both of us and to see how much wiggle room we'll have for including a child in his income. We're going to just plan to put my income into savings and paying off a few things and save for a house. That way if something happens, we'll have the extra money. I'll also get my first few years of work experience under my belt and be eligible for my leave of absence when it comes time for me to take it!

[RosieAngel]

When I first moved in with DH, I didn't work a year, because he made (and still does) make more than enough I was having the time of my life planning menus with five-course meals, doing housework, visiting the elderly neighbors and helping them with various tasks... and then, out of nowhere, DH got fat and I got depressed (not because he got fat, mind you)!

I just got sick of it all. I felt like I was a leech on DH's resources and was wasting my life puttering around the house and the condo complex. I also HATED asking DH for money that I wanted to spend on myself, so my clothes got all ragged and I got lame haircuts from friends in exchange for food before I swallowed my pride and asked for some interview attire and haircut money.

Since going back to work, I've been happier and healthier!

[ChristineLS]

My fiance and I are both graduate students. We'll still be graduate students when we are married. After I get my PhD (God willing) I'm hoping to go into academics, my fiance will go into some sort of analyst position. But I couldn't imagine staying home. I need to keep my mind occupied on something, or I go crazy. I'm not saying children don't keep you occupied - they do, but I'd need the company of people my own age and something in the periphery to keep
meaning in my life.

My mother was a stay at home mother, and she's a brilliant, hard-working woman who did a fantastic job raising us. It was great for us while we were young, however she was never able to find a job that fully employed her skill level after being off of the job market for so long. There were a few years that she seemed so hopeless, and just so upset all of the time. She *hated* all of the jobs that she was able to find. She never came out and said it, but as I know my mother I think what she wanted was something else that was meaningful, as her children are grown. It broke my heart to see that, and still breaks my heart to see it.

I am a fresh college graduate and my peers have been nearly completely unable to find work. If you have any aspirations of employment in the future, it may be wise not to completely give up your career now.

[Nekochanpurr]

I'd also like to add.. Work might not be so bad if i didn't HAVE to do it.. lol

[RosieAngel]

I'd also like to add.. Work might not be so bad if i didn't HAVE to do it.. lol

Emphasis for truth. :ooh:

[RosieAngel]

My fiance and I are both graduate students. We'll still be graduate students when we are married. After I get my PhD (God willing) I'm hoping to go into academics, my fiance will go into some sort of analyst position. But I couldn't imagine staying home. I need to keep my mind occupied on something, or I go crazy. I'm not saying children don't keep you occupied - they do, but I'd need the company of people my own age and something in the periphery to keep
meaning in my life.

My mother was a stay at home mother, and she's a brilliant, hard-working woman who did a fantastic job raising us. It was great for us while we were young, however she was never able to find a job that fully employed her skill level after being off of the job market for so long. There were a few years that she seemed so hopeless, and just so upset all of the time. She *hated* all of the jobs that she was able to find. She never came out and said it, but as I know my mother I think what she wanted was something else that was meaningful, as her children are grown. It broke my heart to see that, and still breaks my heart to see it.

I am a fresh college graduate and my peers have been nearly completely unable to find work. If you have any aspirations of employment in the future, it may be wise not to completely give up your career now.

This happened to my mother, too. :(

I'm just glad that DH can work on contracts (granted, with no benefits) for a LOT of money. I'm more than happy to go to work and leave him with the baby. He likes kids more than I do, anyways.

[NurseLau84]

I don't work. My husband is an engineer and makes very good money. His salary is enough to pay the mortgage, car payments and all that other stuff. But, I am a full time student and I will be graduating with my Bachelor's in Nursing in 2010. Once I graduate I will definitely work. We don't have kids (and don't plan on having any for a long time or maybe never) so I couldn't just sit on my bum all day! :D
It's nice to know, though, that if we ever do want a baby that I could stay home.

[SarahPearl]

I don't work. My husband is an engineer and makes very good money. His salary is enough to pay the mortgage, car payments and all that other stuff. But, I am a full time student and I will be graduating with my Bachelor's in Nursing in 2010. Once I graduate I will definitely work. We don't have kids (and don't plan on having any for a long time or maybe never) so I couldn't just sit on my bum all day! :D
It's nice to know, though, that if we ever do want a baby that I could stay home.

I'm in a similar situation, but my FH is not that far into his career where he can "sufficiently" support both of us on his income. I'm also still in college full time and working full time, so working after we get married is a must. However, with both of our incomes combined we have plenty of money to where majority of my paycheck is going into savings, which is ALWAYS nice! Saving money is something both of us enjoy doing because it's always nice to have extra cash in the bank:whoohoo:

When we do have children it is both of our plan that I stay at home and take care of the baby, which I'm totally excited for. Both of our moms were stay at home moms, and we were also both homeschooled (doooon't know if we're gonna go that route :bbeek:)

I think you should work a few months..then take off a few months..and check out how it works out for you..Either way, do what makes you happy:grinhappy:

[NurseLau84]

We love to save too! We are planning to put away my first years worth of paychecks as a RN for another downpayment on a larger home. With this market, I doubt we'll make any money on our condo so I think saving a bunch of money will be a smart move.