countrygirl
05-09-2006, 01:14 PM
I know that I have complained a bit about my MOH. But now, I am not sure what to do. I always imagined my sister as my MOH. But she and Iwere having probs at the time I was engaged, and I asked my BF to stand up w me. Now, she is getting married next Feb, and it totally consumed w her new beau, that she hasn't had much time w me since they met. It's been a bear to even get her to go get measured for the BM dresses. She is suppoed to go tonight, for the third sched. time, and hopefully she can make it. Everytime I talk to her about the wedding, all I hear is about she totally understands because she is having to plan for her's too, and it's so much, and she's so busy. yadda yadda, he only officially asked her three days ago. She can't make any plans unless the finds out what her FH's sched is, bucause he has to work this, or do that. She contantly tells me that she wants to plan things w me, and she is still going to help me, but when the time for things come up, she keeps putting them off. I talked to her last week, and made her cry (didn't mean to) but told her, in short, that I am very happy for her, but I feel like I am on the backburner, and there are things that I HAVE to get done. She then made me feel guilty for even saying anything.
My sister and I have gotten really close (like we used to be) over the past few months, and I am feeling terrible for not asking her to be MOH. She makes little jokes about it, and I know that it hurts her, but she tells me not to worry about it. She is trying to be nice. I really want to ask her to step in, but w her now living in Utah, it will be diff. for her to help plan. And as it is, I am buying her BM dress for now, since they are tight on money. And I know that asking my sister to take over will hurt my present MOH, and may interfere w my being HER MOH, but honestly, if she is too busy to be involved in my wedding, what else can I do??
I really don't know what to do and really really need help on this.
My sister and I have gotten really close (like we used to be) over the past few months, and I am feeling terrible for not asking her to be MOH. She makes little jokes about it, and I know that it hurts her, but she tells me not to worry about it. She is trying to be nice. I really want to ask her to step in, but w her now living in Utah, it will be diff. for her to help plan. And as it is, I am buying her BM dress for now, since they are tight on money. And I know that asking my sister to take over will hurt my present MOH, and may interfere w my being HER MOH, but honestly, if she is too busy to be involved in my wedding, what else can I do??
I really don't know what to do and really really need help on this.