It Had To Happen

[MOMOFBRIDE]

Well, here I thought we made it to the wedding with no glitches.

Down to a couple of days and it came.

Maid of Honor, also family member is pregnant and has decided she'll be leaving the wedding early to get her rest.

She is the only attendant which means the whole female wedding party is gone except Bride.

This gal has no problem running the roads 24 - 7 and doing everything she wants to do for and with friends.

Trying to decide whether to keep mouth shut or tell her husband he may want to address this to prevent hurt feelings.

Help girls!

[SerendipityCrafts]

Maid of Honor, also family member is pregnant and has decided she'll be leaving the wedding early to get her rest.

I would keep mum about it but that's ridiculous. Especially if she is having a "normal" pregnancy. Pregnancy is not a disease after all.

How far along is she? How early does she want to leave?

If it was me, I would be looking forward to the day and not wanting to leave before I had to. If I was overcome with exhaustion, only then would I say my goodbyes and leave. I definitely wouldn't plan to leave early.

[MOMOFBRIDE]

Ten o'clock is leaving time planned. Only 5 months along. I've noticed a trend over the past year where she increasingly does not want to be bothered with her husband's side of the family. Her preference is her side and their friends.


I've kept quiet on several things throughout the wedding and some not so nice happenings for the bride revolve around this gal. She's always said and done what she wants and the family never says a word. It seems with our silence she dares more and more as time goes on.

[SerendipityCrafts]

I've noticed a trend over the past year where she increasingly does not want to be bothered with her husband's side of the family. Her preference is her side and their friends.

It almost sounds as if she is "distancing" herself from the family. Is her marriage on rocky ground?

[MOMOFBRIDE]

No, she has a great life. Her problem is she likes to be the centre of attention. Her parents and siblings bow to her and quite frankly she runs all of them. And what she says and wants she gets. Friends think she's amazing.

While we all love her, we also know her and she seems to have cotton on to that fact. So the show I think ended a year ago and the true self is shining through. On our side, the more you pout and act up when it's not all about yourself the more you get ignored. She would have been very unhappy if she was not chosen MOFH, but the flip side is she wanted to run the wedding and bride made it crystal clear she was in charge. I think there may also be a bit of jealousy going on, she's not been given by bride alot of info on what she's done for the wedding. She wants everyone to walk in and be amazed. Exclusion isn't something mofh likes, she likes to be in driver seat.

Mof H always says that all her wedding guests still talk about her wedding and how great it was. I think there also may be a bit of jealousy that little sister in law may pull off an equal or better wedding. There will be a nose out of joint if that happens, as she won't be able to make a claim that it was her ideas and input that made it so great. To be honest her wedding was amazing. I also believe that this wedding will be amazing also. But one cannot say one wedding is better then another, they are all unique and special on there own.


Now with the pregnancy, she can't think past herself and at this time everyone has remained focused on the wedding. Her time will come when it's over. But she has already moved on from the wedding and thinking only of herself. And of course, if you keep throwing things like leaving the wedding early the focus comes back to yourself.


I know the bride will be hurt, she's hurt her already with a few things she's said and lacked doing. But she has just held her head up and not said anything. I also know she would never ever do the same to her siblings or girlfriends.

[gwenshack]

Ah geesh. That stinks.

I've gotta say, I wouldn't speak up about it though, despite completely seeing your frustration with this. You know, my MOH will be 8 1/2 months pregnant when I get married - she'll have to DRIVE 9 hours with her husband and parents, since she'll be unable to fly, to Las Vegas, where it's a land of all things unfriendly to the pregnant, so that she can stand by my side. This girl can't stay through the reception?

That's just rude if you ask me.

[mitch]

One of Our guests is due anyday. Her Baby is due on the 13th. Our Wedding is the 11th. She said if "Junior" hasn't popped by the Wedding Day She will still be attending the whole day. Including a Three Hour Drive down the busiest road in the UK. For obvious reasons if "Junior" comes before or She goes into Labour that morning, She wont be there.

Her Husband jokes about not wanting "An Essex Born" Baby. This may have gone "Whoosh" over some of You. But Essex (Where I'm from) is infamous in the UK. :bbeek:

As for Your dilemma. I would be a bit more worried about Her not sharing details with the Bride. And not the fact She is going early. She said She wants "Everyone to walk in and be amazed". Well i would be amazed if the room was nothing like what i wanted. The Bride should find out exactly what is going on. And if this Lady wants to "Go Rest" then let Her. The Bride will still have a great day surrounded by other Family members.

Good Luck

[MOMOFBRIDE]

Thanks girls! I'm taking the advise you've given and running with it.
I 'm just going to forget what M of H has said and move forward and enjoy my daughter's day and keep the focus on her. I will not be saying a word, not even when she walks out the door that day.

ps. It is not the M of H who did the wedding, the bride did everything and is surprising husband and everyone else with what she did.