Invitations

[ChristineLS]

So, yesterday I received a phone call from a friend inviting me to her wedding. Her wedding is happening in less than a month, and while they have been engaged a while, the quick throw together was the result of some unfortunate life circumstances (it's not a shot-gun wedding though, other stuff).

So after having a nice conversation with her, it occurred to me that I preferred the phone call, and catching up than actually receiving an invitation. So, for my wedding, I was thinking... why not just call everyone to invite them? It's a small wedding, call to invite and then send some sort of simple save the date cards? My next thought was that there must be a reason people don't do this... is it tradition?

So, friendly ladies - what do you think of forgoing invitations for this sort of technique?

[BarceloMayaPalaceBride]

I think the main reason people don't do that is because people are so forgetful. (Myself included) hehe. I totally understand where you are coming from though. How many people were you thinking of inviting, and how formal will your wedding be? Now days, you can pretty much do whatever you want on your wedding day. I would just be worried about people forgetting. I personally have to write my entire life down or else I'll forget it. :)

[MrsDM]

The idea is sweet, but I agree. People are going to forget and plan something else.

You mentioned save the dates. What about just giving a call to those who you want to invite and do a "save the date" phone call? Just giving them a heads up/announcing your engagement, etc.

[EarlyBird]

i agree. I think that if you would rather do a simple "save the date" type card for people to keep and then a phone call to follow up and see if they are coming, that would be okay.

[ChristineLS]

Thank you for the feedback! Y'all make a good point about forgetfulness... of which, I had forgotten about... (to forget about forgetting? Trippy.)

[heluvshimsomeme]

Or, if it will be an intimate occasion and most of your guests have access to the internet, try an online invite if you are just trying to NOT print and mail invites.

[wannabeNurse2]

Calling people to invite them to the wedding is tacky. Some people even consider calling people to get their RSVP tacky. That's why people send invitations.

[ChristineLS]

Calling people to invite them to the wedding is tacky. Some people even consider calling people to get their RSVP tacky. That's why people send invitations.

I think people are going to consider most parts of my wedding tacky. Frankly, I do not care. I'm more concerned that 1) they figure out to get there, 2) remember. I think the reason people give invitations is because of the comments above, more than tackiness.

http://forums.onewed.com/showthread.php?t=19173 :)

[Moon.Dust.]

well said!!

I think the original idea is sweet. and seeing as how you're thinking about sending a save the date I don't see why it can't be done.

I have NO plans of sending out RSVP cards. Frankly it's a waste -of money, of paper, of time. It's not us. People will be able to RSVP either over the phone or through our website. And if people find that tacky, they really don't have to be there. My feelings won't be hurt.

[wannabeNurse2]

I think people are going to consider most parts of my wedding tacky. Frankly, I do not care. I'm more concerned that 1) they figure out to get there, 2) remember. I think the reason people give invitations is because of the comments above, more than tackiness.

http://forums.onewed.com/showthread.php?t=19173 :)

You asked why invitations are sent so I told you the general consensus when it comes to wedding etiquette. It's your wedding so do what you want to do. If other people don't like it they can just deal with it, or not come. EVERYONE has something that someone is going to say is tacky. As my last post on that thread you referenced says everyone's version of tacky is different.