rainbowtreat
05-06-2006, 02:44 PM
I had posted some where about the so called best friend I had/have that was pregnant by my ex boyfreind and who has not been invloved at all in the planning of this wedding. She hasnt not even been around in the last 6 months.
Well that last time we talked I let her know every thing that was bothering me and what bugged me about her e-mail she sent to me. She asked if it was ok that she call so we can get together to talkt hings over. I told her fine not a problem. Well I had not heard from her since then. I left it as the ball was in her court. Her and I have been freinds for almsot 7 years now. We met when she moved in next door to me just after I had my first child. We get along great even though there are things I dont agree with about her but as a friend her and I got along great. We were always able to make the other smile no matter what mood we were in. I have stood with her through every thing in her life in those 7 yrs.
Last night I dropped my kids off to go to their dads for the weekend. I had to drive past her place. ( she lives with her mom and step dad ) So I thought I would be the bigger person and stop in and let her know I have moved and give her my new number incase she wants to talk any time soon. I was not sure if I was going to see a baby or a very pregnant friend. Well this was Friday , she had the baby on Sunday. Never called any one from what I got from her mom. Her mom and I talked for short while. The guy who was forcign her to aboard the baby and then later give the baby up decided since she decided to keep the baby he want to be part of the baby's life. Which I guess is a good thing. But all he put her through he didnt like the name she picked out so she didnt name the baby it. And she gave the baby his last name. The name of the man who wnated to get rid of this baby for the full 9 months she was pregnant. I dont think he should have had a say in it. And from what I hear he has headed off to another state to go hunting. His daughter was just born and he goes off for a week. This girl will not speak up for herself in the least. And she will continue to let this man ( who i should add she never had a relationship with, just casual sex ) make all the decisions.
Well the whole time I was there she said about 10 words to me and that was it. I got to see her kids who I have missed and they seemed happy to see me. I held the baby who is half the size my kids were when they were born. She is so tiny. Her mother told me to give her my phoen number after I write it down so she would be sure to put it where it wont get lost.
I think I did my part in makign sure she knew I moved and she has my new number. Now I wait. The ball is in her court. If she wants to be in my life then she has to make the move. If she doenst then one day this guy she had a baby with will move on and leave her in the dust and then she will want to come back into my life. And it will be too late.
So I guess I can't do much more then what I have done. I will go on with my life and the wedding and all the stresses in my life without her. She has always been some one I oculd laugh with and have fun with. But over all I just dont need her drama in my life any more.
I am done with my vent. It is just sitting in me sturing , wondering what she was thinking. Wondering if she will ever call.
Well that last time we talked I let her know every thing that was bothering me and what bugged me about her e-mail she sent to me. She asked if it was ok that she call so we can get together to talkt hings over. I told her fine not a problem. Well I had not heard from her since then. I left it as the ball was in her court. Her and I have been freinds for almsot 7 years now. We met when she moved in next door to me just after I had my first child. We get along great even though there are things I dont agree with about her but as a friend her and I got along great. We were always able to make the other smile no matter what mood we were in. I have stood with her through every thing in her life in those 7 yrs.
Last night I dropped my kids off to go to their dads for the weekend. I had to drive past her place. ( she lives with her mom and step dad ) So I thought I would be the bigger person and stop in and let her know I have moved and give her my new number incase she wants to talk any time soon. I was not sure if I was going to see a baby or a very pregnant friend. Well this was Friday , she had the baby on Sunday. Never called any one from what I got from her mom. Her mom and I talked for short while. The guy who was forcign her to aboard the baby and then later give the baby up decided since she decided to keep the baby he want to be part of the baby's life. Which I guess is a good thing. But all he put her through he didnt like the name she picked out so she didnt name the baby it. And she gave the baby his last name. The name of the man who wnated to get rid of this baby for the full 9 months she was pregnant. I dont think he should have had a say in it. And from what I hear he has headed off to another state to go hunting. His daughter was just born and he goes off for a week. This girl will not speak up for herself in the least. And she will continue to let this man ( who i should add she never had a relationship with, just casual sex ) make all the decisions.
Well the whole time I was there she said about 10 words to me and that was it. I got to see her kids who I have missed and they seemed happy to see me. I held the baby who is half the size my kids were when they were born. She is so tiny. Her mother told me to give her my phoen number after I write it down so she would be sure to put it where it wont get lost.
I think I did my part in makign sure she knew I moved and she has my new number. Now I wait. The ball is in her court. If she wants to be in my life then she has to make the move. If she doenst then one day this guy she had a baby with will move on and leave her in the dust and then she will want to come back into my life. And it will be too late.
So I guess I can't do much more then what I have done. I will go on with my life and the wedding and all the stresses in my life without her. She has always been some one I oculd laugh with and have fun with. But over all I just dont need her drama in my life any more.
I am done with my vent. It is just sitting in me sturing , wondering what she was thinking. Wondering if she will ever call.