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tootsie
09-23-2008, 04:11 PM
Yesterday, I called one of our accounting employees about a problem we had and my boss asked me to put her on speaker. During the conversataion, my boss said, "I thought you said that she had the paperwork" After we hung up the phone, she said "You told me that she had the paperwork." But I never said that! Then, she said, "I know you told me twice." !!!!!!!! She is such a liar, maybe she is losing her memory or just being mean, I don't know.

She has been really rude and short with me today. First off, she asked me to insert 2 tabs (one named subproject, the other named notes) into one of our project's spreadsheets. Well, I noticed that I had already inserted the subprojects tab and I told her that I did. She said she didn't see it and she basically denied that I did do it. I told her again, I put the tab there a while ago (2 months ago at least) because I had invoices to put on there, and she said, "Well, when I reconciled the account, I didn't see it." Bull****! Then, a little while ago, I asked her what I should do about unreceded checks and she told me to get statements from the bank to see when the checks cleared. I called our accounting services person and put her on speaker so she could tell my boss what she told me. My boss made me look like an idiot and asked me, "What was the point of this conversation? We already discussed this," she said that while the lady was on speaker. I about died. I was about to scream; I really needed to. I hate holding my emotions inside.

She's been like this in the past month or two. She's getting out of hand now. I really don't want to be around her. It's good that we have our own offices, but she's always looking over my shoulder. I want to be the boss of me!

Now, I know that she is going through menopause and has a bigger work load than me, but I shouldn't be treated like that, nobody should be. I don't know how to approach her; she is always right, according to herself. She's a lot like my mom... Anyways, any advise would help me a lot.

tootsie
09-24-2008, 08:09 AM
I'm just going to keep my head up and keep working hard. She's all about work and I just have to refrain from being emotional when she gets crazy. She blaims her ugliness on menopause. I know there's more to it than menopause. She's a workaholic, lonely, and needs friends. Maybe I'll buy her some chocolates; she does love chocolate.

brendalin
09-24-2008, 08:49 AM
Wow! I am sorry to hear that you have to deal with that! My boss does that too sometimes so I know how you feel. Now when we have our meetings I write EVEYTHING down that she tells me and I correspond with her through e-mail as much as possible. So hopefully i can prove to her when she is wrong! I would buy her some chocolate! Maybe that will tame the wild beast!

ger
09-24-2008, 09:56 AM
Does she have a boss that you can talk to?? And I agree with the corresponding thru email. Then you have proof that you actually did and said what and when you did!

kgvettegirl
09-24-2008, 10:15 AM
I know that at one point when I was perimenopausal I thought I was loosing my mind. The idea of putting everything in writing is great. In fact take a steno book and put her name on it. Anytime you have a conversation with her put the date and time and then when she does the mrs hyde/dr Jeckle you have proof that you had the conversation and you can tell her exactly when. Chocolate helps but she needs to stay away from caffeine. It is not her friend and will make the symptoms worse.

tootsie
09-24-2008, 01:10 PM
She's at a doctor's appointment right now, so I'm getting a little break, wuhoo! She was okay today, except for when I asked her something, she gave me that "what the hell are you talking about look". I'm just doing the best I can with work and am not bothering her so much. Seems to help.

WebLady
09-24-2008, 02:32 PM
Sorry you have to deal with a boss like that. Not sure if there is much you can do about it though; unless she crosses that line then you can report her behavior to her boss. If it gets really bad you might could sue for her creating a hostile work environment for you.

I would try to just do your job well so she doesn't have anything to complain about. If she asks for something you've already done, just smile and nod and go on about your day ... and maybe kiss up a little, like with the chocolates. Good luck!

Nekochanpurr
09-25-2008, 01:42 AM
That really stinks! Not much advice here.. But good luck! :(