Flowers shmowers

[cowboysbride]

Oh for pete's sake, up until he slipped this ring on my finger she was the sweetest little thang, but NOW she (FMIL) keeps dropping these hints about the flowers and how SHE wants to make them, she volunteered and since we are trying to hold down the cost of this shindig I graciously accepted. UH OH, no sooner were the words out of my mouth than she was picking out the flowers and suggesting that how I was wanting them wasn't going to look right, my FH stepped in, told her that it was my wedding and that I knew what I wanted and she backed down. Now today for some reason while we were at the rehearsal dinner site she started telling her sister how SHE was going to fix the bouquets...OH MY GAWD, I want simple red rose clutches wrapped in white silk (my bridesmaid dresses are solid black with white buttons running down the back) this is a very elegant look and I DO NOT want to get carried away with huge bouqets...if she gets her way I'll be carrying a cascade bigger than my hair was in 1985! :bbeek:

[Jenn060306]

oooh no fun! I swear the word wedding makes everyone crazy!
Next time you have a chance to talk to her let her know that you really appreciate her help but you really want to keep things simple. The red roses will be very beautiful. Tell her exactly how many roses you want in each boquet. If she questions why so few, just tell her you are trying to keep the costs down and really like the simple look.
It is your wedding and things need to be done the way you want them too.
Good luck!

[Kacie_bride]

You do need to just tell her that you want the roses. Tell her that it is really nice of her to help and she still can, but you want roses. It is your decision.

[cowboysbride]

Well my sweetie came to get me for lunch (he works 2nds, so we do this once a week)...during the lunch I addressed my concerns over what I wanted for the wedding and what everyone else wants. I should really give him more credit than I do, he told me to tell his mom tonight when we go to look at another church exactly what I want and very nicely "nothing else". She's been going way overboard with arches, swags, lights, and flower ideas and it's just not what I have pictured, when I tell her that she just goes "MMMHMMM" and trucks right on! AAARGGGGGHHHHHHHHH:censored:

He assured me that he would back me up completely. "After all" he says, "It's YOUR wedding"! Then he takes his hands smacks them together loudly and exclaims..."I'll put the smackdown on anyone who makes my future wife unhappy"! I started laughing so hard I :bbcry: cried! LOL



....his sister and his mother both have been very difficult to deal with, his mom just wants to decorate HER way and his sis is elpreggo (her 3rd) and refused to order a maternity bm dress so I finally gave up and ordered her one like the other bm's...3 sizes bigger and hope to h*ll it can be altered to fit! He told her the other day that she could either get in a dress and smile or wear her Sunday best and hand out bubbles!:bbeek:

Why is one of the supposed to be happiest times of my life turning into such a headache????



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[CindySue]

Why is one of the supposed to be happiest times of my life turning into such a headache????

You figure that one out Sweetie and you make sure you let ME know!!! Ive been wondering the EXACT same thing!!!

[hummingbird521]

I agree with what everyone else has said. And like you I to would like to know why the heck this is turning into more of a nightmare than anything else. Let me know when you figure it out? haha.

I know, i shouldn't laugh. It sounds like you FH is backing you and this is great. Maybe you would feel better if the two of you sat down with your FMIL and talked with her together. She might better understand if your FH is with you on this. It is his wedding as well. And if he tells her this she will probably be more understanding. Especially if he is the one who does the insisting. This way she can't turn around and make it out like "you" are the one being so insistent. I hope this helps.