She's Been Served!!!

[countrygirl]

J's ex has not been a very responsible mother, and is not taking care of the kids. Thier clothes are in shambles when they go to school, they eat fast food several times a week, the don't take regualr showers/baths, doesn't make sure they do thier homework, doesn't wash thier clothes often, and she tells them that thier father makes her pay for everything, though she recieves over $700/mo in child support, works full time, and recieves help from the state. She claims that she can't afford to take care of them. She is now moving into her fourth (rented) house in a year and a half, when she and J split) and possibly moving in the her second boyfriend in the same amount of time.

We had her served at Peyton's bball game last night w papers that we filed to get custody of the kids. She acutally told her 5 an 6 year old daughters that he is trying to keep her away from the kids. He had to turn around and tell them that they will still see thier mom, but that she is having a hard time w money, and he just wants to make sure that they have everything they need and it will help her get back on her feet.

[WhiskeyGirl]

She doesn't sound stable at all! I am glad that you and Josh are going for custody of the children!! I hope it all works out for you!! Take care!! And good luck!

[CindySue]

I hope things go ok for yall.
I hate when the kids get mixed up in stuff like this. Even if being with J is the best possible thing for them, they are not going to come out of this without some damage. We can see that with what their moms already pulled. She seems like she will be the type to emotionally blackmail those poor babies. Heather things may get rough FOR YOU, especially if their mom blames you for this. She could try to fill their full of all kinds of BS. Be prepared for that!
Good Luck Girl!!!!

[countrygirl]

I hope things go ok for yall.
I hate when the kids get mixed up in stuff like this. Even if being with J is the best possible thing for them, they are not going to come out of this without some damage. We can see that with what their moms already pulled. She seems like she will be the type to emotionally blackmail those poor babies. Heather things may get rough FOR YOU, especially if their mom blames you for this. She could try to fill their full of all kinds of BS. Be prepared for that!
Good Luck Girl!!!!

You know, she has already tired to turn the kids against me. But the harder she pushed them, the closer the attach them selves to me.

I can see the middle one needing counseling very soon, if not already. She is the emotional one in the fam, and is hurt very easily. I have been that little girl, it's not fun, and I am so angry w what her mother is doing.

She has now clue how hard I can fight when it comes to kids.

[CindySue]

She has now clue how hard I can fight when it comes to kids.
Heather for their sake, I hope you never stop fighting.

[countrygirl]

Heather for their sake, I hope you never stop fighting.

Never, I fought long and hard for my son, and they are mine now too. I will never stop fighting for them.

[Kacie_bride]

Good luck with that Heather! I hope everything works out well for you.

[CarlosHoney]

LOL! I read it and thought "already?" because my Mom is being served papers and a court date by my dad for refusal to pay child support...

[countrygirl]

LOL! I read it and thought "already?" because my Mom is being served papers and a court date by my dad for refusal to pay child support...

It seems be becoming an epidemic w moms not paying child support either.

[CindySue]

It seems be becoming an epidemic w moms not paying child support either.
Brian pays his child support EVERY month and has never been late on a payment. They call him for anything and he provides it. He cant understand if he can pay his child support, why my ex cant pay his(mine even has a warrant out for him for not paying). He doesnt understand that hes the exception. A lot of non-custodial parents dont really give a flying :censored: .

ETA: Please note that I said "a lot" not all. I know there are a lot of good non-custodial parents out there, but there ARE way more bad ones than there are good ones!

[countrygirl]

Brian pays his child support EVERY month and has never been late on a payment. They call him for anything and he provides it. He cant understand if he can pay his child support, why my ex cant pay his(mine even has a warrant out for him for not paying). He doesnt understand that hes the exception. A lot of non-custodial parents dont really give a flying :censored: .

ETA: Please note that I said "a lot" not all. I know there are a lot of good non-custodial parents out there, but there ARE way more bad ones than there are good ones!

I agree Cindy!! J's ex had the support upped because she said she was in school full time, couldn't work, and needed more $$--the judge raised it, and she turned around and told J that she had a full time job lined up prior to the court date. Anyway, he has the money taken out of his acct every month, and the paperwork additional ammount hadn't gone thru for a few months. She threatened to go after his tax return because he hasn't paid her the addtional amount yet. What a :censored: . I am supposed to be getting over $500 a month, and haven't gotten anything in over a year, and she is on J's case for the extra $50. If she would stop eating fast food 2-3 times a week, maybe she wouldn't have a prob. But, then that would mean that she would be able to afford decent shoes for her son (the leather on the toe of his tennis shoes is gone, on both). But she sure has some nice new ones!!!!

[CindySue]

I agree Cindy!! J's ex had the support upped because she said she was in school full time, couldn't work, and needed more $$--the judge raised it, and she turned around and told J that she had a full time job lined up prior to the court date. Anyway, he has the money taken out of his acct every month, and the paperwork additional ammount hadn't gone thru for a few months. She threatened to go after his tax return because he hasn't paid her the addtional amount yet. What a :censored: . I am supposed to be getting over $500 a month, and haven't gotten anything in over a year, and she is on J's case for the extra $50. If she would stop eating fast food 2-3 times a week, maybe she wouldn't have a prob. But, then that would mean that she would be able to afford decent shoes for her son (the leather on the toe of his tennis shoes is gone, on both). But she sure has some nice new ones!!!!
Oh I understand how that is......Ive tried helping my ex out in court by writing off some of his arrears, but he tells everybody all I care about is the money. I think it bugs him that while I could use the child support, I dont really need it in order to take care of my children. Im perfectly able to do that on my own. In 2 years, he has made 1 payment. It bugs the :censored: out of him that last summer I flew me and the kids to California for a week and took them to Disneyland for vacation. Could I afford to do it? Not really. Do I regret it? Absolutely NOT!!!! Hes asks me the few times Ive talked to them, how I afforded to do that. I told him it wasnt any of his **** business, THEN he had the nerve to ask ME to borrow some money!

[countrygirl]

Oh I understand how that is......Ive tried helping my ex out in court by writing off some of his arrears, but he tells everybody all I care about is the money. I think it bugs him that while I could use the child support, I dont really need it in order to take care of my children. Im perfectly able to do that on my own. In 2 years, he has made 1 payment. It bugs the :censored: out of him that last summer I flew me and the kids to California for a week and took them to Disneyland for vacation. Could I afford to do it? Not really. Do I regret it? Absolutely NOT!!!! Hes asks me the few times Ive talked to them, how I afforded to do that. I told him it wasnt any of his **** business, THEN he had the nerve to ask ME to borrow some money!

OUCH!! What a moron!! Nico's dad never asked me to borrow any, but he has told me on several several occasions that he has something lined up. The last time I talked to him, I told him that if he isn't going to step up and take care of his son, then to stay away. He hasn't contacted since. Granted, it's only been a month and a half since then, but hey, it's a start!! Nico has since told me that he wants to change his name when J and I get married!!!

[CindySue]

OUCH!! What a moron!! Nico's dad never asked me to borrow any, but he has told me on several several occasions that he has something lined up. The last time I talked to him, I told him that if he isn't going to step up and take care of his son, then to stay away. He hasn't contacted since. Granted, it's only been a month and a half since then, but hey, it's a start!! Nico has since told me that he wants to change his name when J and I get married!!!
Thats sweet.....
My kids love Brian and cant wait for us to get married so he will be "dad". My 8 year old did point blank ask Brian if he was going to hang around or if he was going to do what his real dad did and disappear. Brian told him we had bought a house and was in the process of making that house "ours", he said that was our home (all of ours) and nobody was going anywhere.

[countrygirl]

Thats sweet.....
My kids love Brian and cant wait for us to get married so he will be "dad". My 8 year old did point blank ask Brian if he was going to hang around or if he was going to do what his real dad did and disappear. Brian told him we had bought a house and was in the process of making that house "ours", he said that was our home (all of ours) and nobody was going anywhere.

THat just gave me goosebumps and brought tears to my eyes. It's amazing how the kids pick up on things. Thier innocence is incredible!!! Nico told me last week that he wanted J and I to 'hurry up and get married tomorrow' so that he could have his step dad. Then that is when he asked if his name was changing when we get married, I told him we would have to talk to his dad first (legalities). HE asked if we could call him to tell him. I found a way to do it, so this summer, Nico is going to learn how to spell Murray, and next school year, will be registerd as Nicholas Orlando-Murray, but will simply go by murray.

[CindySue]

THat just gave me goosebumps and brought tears to my eyes. It's amazing how the kids pick up on things. Thier innocence is incredible!!! Nico told me last week that he wanted J and I to 'hurry up and get married tomorrow' so that he could have his step dad. Then that is when he asked if his name was changing when we get married, I told him we would have to talk to his dad first (legalities). HE asked if we could call him to tell him. I found a way to do it, so this summer, Nico is going to learn how to spell Murray, and next school year, will be registerd as Nicholas Orlando-Murray, but will simply go by murray.
My 5 year old wants us to hurry up too.....for the same reason. He wants to call Brian "dad" and Brian is perfectly ok with that.....I said we would discuss it after the wedding......well we have since found out that the little fart has been calling Brian dad when we arent around. Brian thinks its funny.
Funny little story......when Brian was doing the walkway, he was having to work on it at night sometimes. He had a light set up so that he could. Anyway one night Lance (the 5 year old) wanted to watch. He was standing in the light and Brian told him to move. Well Lance scooted over a little but started dancing around or something and was still in the light. Brian said "Lance, son, move....youre in my light and I cant see." Lance stepped away from the light, put his hands on his hips, looked at Brian and said "Im not your son, not till you marry my mommy" Brian couldnt help but laugh. He apologized to Lance and thats when Lance told him he needed to hurry up and marry me!

[countrygirl]

My 5 year old wants us to hurry up too.....for the same reason. He wants to call Brian "dad" and Brian is perfectly ok with that.....I said we would discuss it after the wedding......well we have since found out that the little fart has been calling Brian dad when we arent around. Brian thinks its funny.
Funny little story......when Brian was doing the walkway, he was having to work on it at night sometimes. He had a light set up so that he could. Anyway one night Lance (the 5 year old) wanted to watch. He was standing in the light and Brian told him to move. Well Lance scooted over a little but started dancing around or something and was still in the light. Brian said "Lance, son, move....youre in my light and I cant see." Lance stepped away from the light, put his hands on his hips, looked at Brian and said "Im not your son, not till you marry my mommy" Brian couldnt help but laugh. He apologized to Lance and thats when Lance told him he needed to hurry up and marry me!

That is just way too cute Cindy. It sounds like your fam is alot like ours. It's great, isn't it???

Josh told me along time ago that he was already telling people that he had four kids, not three.

[CindySue]

That is just way too cute Cindy. It sounds like your fam is alot like ours. It's great, isn't it???

Josh told me along time ago that he was already telling people that he had four kids, not three.
Yeah.....Brian says we have 5 (he has 1 and I have 4)

[countrygirl]

Yeah.....Brian says we have 5 (he has 1 and I have 4)

I think we hijacked yet another thread Cindy. We certainly have a nack for that, don't we????

[CindySue]

I think we hijacked yet another thread Cindy. We certainly have a nack for that, don't we????
It was your thread!!!! Does that still count?

[countrygirl]

It was your thread!!!! Does that still count?

Oh, yeah, I forgot!!!!!