RSVP's-Party of....

[AllyM1]

I am starting to get my return cards back for my wedding and I'm noticing somethings that are really bugging me. My friend, we'll call her Jane, sent hers back and in the spot that says, "Number attending," she put 3. I only put her name on the invite because only she is invited. Isn't it rude to invite other people to someone else's wedding? This is not the first I have gotten back like this, it's actually the THIRD. I'm getting very annoyed! How do I tell these people that due to family the amount of extra people is limited so there just isn't any room for anyone else... without sounding like a b#^%$?

I'm going to go nuts before this wedding even happens!

[LaceyinPgh]

You do what I did when my cousin RSVP'd for herself and her husband along with their two very small cildren to my formal adults only reception. You call and you say, "I couldn't help noticing that you RSVP'd for ______. I am really sorry but due to budget/space/formality/ect I really can't fit them in. I'm sorry but I am still looking forward to seeing you there." end of discussion. Just be prepared for any reaction that you get. Half of my entire family isn't coming to my wedding now because I didn't allow that cousin's kids to come. Life is tough, they will survive. And by the way, it is extremely rude to invite other people to an event your aren't hosting.

[WhiskeyGirl]

Lacey to the rescue as usual!! lol. She's right, what your "friend" did was extremely rude! And if she is your "friend" she will respect you and understand that she cannot bring extra people to your reception/wedding. Good luck and remember to be firm. Don't let these people take advantage of you!! :wink:

[Kacie_bride]

I agree with Lacey. It is very rude of them to invite other people like that, especially without calling and asking you about it first. You just need to do what Lacey said and call your friend and tell her that there is no room for more people. You have a budget and it does not allow extra room for people. If this person is truely your friend they should accept that.

[AllyM1]

Thanks girls. I just cannot get over that! I will take your advice and call her up. If she doesn't want to come then that is one less mouth I have to pay for!

Atleast my other friend asked me if she could bring someone. I would never do that to someone. Like you guys said, it's rude and it puts them in an awkward position.